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writes:I just learnt that my Father age @65 and my Wife age @31 Years have been having a sexual relationship for the last one year.Both are doing regularly and chatting with us.We are live in joint Gujarati hindu family with my mother and two childrens.I have seen proof through photos of this sexual relationship.How could they do this to me? What should i do? Please help- without them i cannot really live because i have my mother and two children that i'd have to care for.Should I say nothing or expose them? They have given me an almost mental breakdown, and I was a healthy man! Why would my wife do this rubbish? Reply to this Question
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reader, laetitia  +, writes (25 May 2010):
 I am not convinced from your line of evidence that this is actually true. You might be overreacting. You have to make sure that you have solid evidence before you start throwing accusations from this magnitude, because if you do, your family will likely fall apart. Where did you get these photos? What other evidence do you have?
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (25 May 2010):
 Find a quiet time when the children, your father and your wife are not at home. Then have a private talk with your mother. Tell her what you have discovered and show her the evidence you have.
She may feel differently than you and want to forgive her husband and stay with him. In which case you wont be left to look after her. You need to talk to your mother before you do anything.
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reader, straight to the truth +, writes (25 May 2010):
Firstly I would suggest you speak with your wife and find out what is going on exactly, secondly I would suggest you leave them and expose them. If your mother stands by your father then he is there to look after her but your children should be with you so take them with you. It will not be healthy to leave your children in the environment if your father and wife carry on.
You will not get better until you have confronted this.
and your fathers betrayal is sickening.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 May 2010):
Yes, you should leave and expose them. That's exactly what you should do. You must not be second best, ever. It'll be hard for you, but it's better than living with a wife and father who are betraying you.
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reader, chaarzx +, writes (25 May 2010):
well, if that was me, i would totally!!!!!! confrunt them infront! of my mother :) good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2010): This is a very hard situation since you obviously love your family very much. I think you should expose them. They shouldnt have the power to make you feel so bad, if they cared about you they would have never put themselves in a situation to ever have any kind of sexual relationship. I have been cheated on before and that is the most awful feeling, and you feel alomost worhtless like you did something wrong. Which I found out isnt the case. Please dont let these two get away with this. getting it out in the open will make you feel better and make them feel like dirt.
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