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*amu
writes:Who do I choose, between father of my child who I had helped become rich and turned around and started an affair with other woman he just comes from another town or a man that I met on line and had similar problems and just hit it off but he also comes with nothing the same way I met the father of my child. The man says he loves me but I fear him because of his bad temper, though he is ok in other things like helping with chores, and will not take money from me. But the father of my child borrows and does not return. At one time he borrowed only to go and buy his girl friend an air ticket to go back to her country.He also has other kids from his 1st wife, he now uses his kids to come closer to me because I love his kids so much like they were my own. When he goes to work out off town he tells his kids, won't leave my house till he comes back. Yes I do love him but am just afraid that he might do the same thing to me. On the other hand, I feel like I do not know much about the guy I met online. He is not so open and does not say much about his divorce with his wife. I don't know what to do now as they are both talking about wanting to marry me.
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reader, namu +, writes (22 May 2010):
namu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your honest responses to my question. I will try and keep a distance and just concentrate on my children.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 It seems like your destiny is linked to the father of your child.Make the best of what you have got .
Good luck to you .
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reader, laetitia  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 I agree with QuirkLady. Do not choose either. In this situation, you are probably better off by yourself. Focus on you and on your child. Avoid them both.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 Don't choose either. It sounds like they both have baggage. Your child's father sounds like he is selfish and useless, and the other guy scares you. Walk away from both and concentrate on making your life better for yourself and your children.
Good luck.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (22 May 2010):
 You should say no to both. Anyone that has the propentecy to get violent, is an instant deal breaker. I don't care how much he does around the house, how much money he makes, or how good he is in the sack. This guy is bad news IMHO.
The cheater is no better. So cast them both off.
Before a person gets married, they should be on thier best behavior. All of thier flaws should be hidden so that they have a better chance at inticing their opposite desire (to either marry you are carry on a relationship of some sort). If the guy is violent, cheats, or takes your money before the wedding, what do you think he is going to be like after you say "I do"?
I wish you the best of Luck!
Jeff
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