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Thanks got reading a bit more info about me!
So I'm currently in a relationship, it's still young and fresh - but if I can be honest it has "legs"
I was in a relationship with a toad for 14 years (everyone thought he was a toad, my head thought he was a toad, my heart thought he was prince charming) anyway after kissing a lot of frogs I may just have found my prince charming - if there is such a thing!
For those who love horoscopes, I'm a Scorpio with a Libra moon a fabous combination in my opinion, but then I would say that!
Everything about people fascinates me, Im always the one people turn to in a crisis (sometimes draining) and for so long I was tight lipped about my thoughts and feelings this place I find great as I can share those inner most thoughts and feelings and I've encourage you to do the same!
Nothing really qualifies me to give advise just that during my 34 years I've been through a fair bit, so it's all based on personal experience and comes straight from the heart.
Thank you for reading, thank you for answering my questions and hopefully something I write might help someone
So good for me to say that was me three months ago thigs change.... Suddenly single again will go into more detail soon xx
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16 September 2011: So, I'm guessing articles should be a bit like a colum in a newspaper so here goes. I'm having a ME day soon, this involves no boyfriends, no girlfriends, no family, no work Just ME now I'm thinking everyone should have one of these once ...
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Trust issues with an otherwise perfect boyfriend... help
Q. Ok so i i've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year.. before we started dating i said i didn't want to get into a relationship because i've dated a porn addict in the past and been cheated on several times (not to sound like the victim here! ...
A. 16 November 2011: Ok, This is a hard one to answer. Be ause there are two issues here the porn and the lying. I'd be way more concerned about the lying (the lying about un-porn related things) To deal with the porn, some men fund the idea of madturbating over th... (read in full...)
She said to me during sex "would you just finish" after only 10 minutes! I always thought lasting longer was better....
Q. hi their. I have confidance issues when it comes to how long i last during sex. I always please my partner though oral and hands before sex as she doesnt orgasm through intercourse. Once she had cum we moved on to the sex. I was prolonging cumming ...
A. 16 November 2011: I think that is pretty mean of her if she just used the words "finish already" my man is very attentive, and does last for ages and sometimes I do feel a bit exhausted, but I'd never say that! I just spin into a position that I know will help him ... (read in full...)
Questions about contraception....
Q. I am going away with my boyfriend next month and I am really excited! :D I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months officially now and it is going great! We never argue and it's well... perfect :D Recently I went on the pill, we are both virgins...
A. 16 November 2011: Hi there,
I would suggest just stick with the pill, when taken correctly its one of the best forms of contraception. I've used it for 16 years and never had a pregnancy scare I take it regular as clockwork, if I miss a pill refrain/use an alternat... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gets a girls number at the bar and lied before, deal breaker?
Q. So I have a major decision to make. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and I just found out he's quite the liar. Back in January, he went out with his friends and told me they were going one place but I found out they went to a b...
A. 16 November 2011: I think you know the answer, yes he may have been the for you through some important times but this person is starting to explore other relationship avenues.
He's lying to you, he's asking for girls numbers, he's going in dates.
That sick fee... (read in full...)
Do you think this might be a sign that we'll get back together?
Q. dear cupid, soo, this is going to be kind of long, buuut hopefully there's somebody here who can help me. it's been three weeks since my boyfriend (we'll just call him craig) and i split. he's the one who broke up with me, and even though he's...
A. 16 November 2011: Hello annon,
I'm afraid as much as you want your ex back in your life, he's not coming back to you.
He more than likely cares about you, it takes a while after a relationship for the final feelIings to disappear but they do and for a while and ... (read in full...)
You'll have to trust me on this. I feel I'm ugly. Can I have some reassurance and support please?
Q. So, my problem is that I'm ugly. No, I'm not one of those plain but actually pretty girls that complain about their looks. I was born with a disorder, and while I won't go into a bunch of complicated details, I look really different, and ugly...
A. 5 November 2011: Great advise from Honesty. The more you love yourself and your life the more your shine and people will be more attracted to you! And please forget those horrible people who laughed at you, quite frankly that's what I find ugly!!... (read in full...)
Did I handle the conversation badly?
Q. Hello, I really need an external opinion about this situation and if i handle it badly. I met this guy one month ago and i really like him. We went to a party and we finished in bed. But i left leaving him surprised. I knew he was asking ...
A. 5 November 2011: Be warned he may very well be in touch again when he wants a repeat performance! Bottom line I'd he wanted to contact you and take you out on a date he would have contacted you already. Don't text him !!... (read in full...)
Did I handle the conversation badly?
Q. Hello, I really need an external opinion about this situation and if i handle it badly. I met this guy one month ago and i really like him. We went to a party and we finished in bed. But i left leaving him surprised. I knew he was asking ...
A. 5 November 2011: Be warmed he may very well be in touch again when he wants a repeat performance!
Bottom line I'd he wanted to contact you and take you out on a date he would have contacted you already.
Don't text him !!... (read in full...)
How can I get my study partner in the sack?
Q. Here is the situation there is this girl, she is my classmate and she lives not far at my place, she asked me to study with her for exams just like we did last semester, but the thing is I'm attracted to her, and I told her couple of times how I ...
A. 5 November 2011: She has a boyfriend, end of story until they split up.
Perusing her when she is basically saying no to you, because she's in a relationship will only achieve her getting very annoyed with you. One of my work collegues who I liked as a friend (... (read in full...)
Sexual Fantasies: Just How Open Should You Be In A Relationship?
Q. Some time ago I was watching T.V. and I couldn't find anything that interesting on. As I bypassed many channels, I contemplated whether or not I should just turn the darn thing off. Then I came across the Tyra Banks show. The episode was about ...
A. 4 November 2011: I love your thought provoking articles! I think many people feel so worried about the reaction of their partners that they don’t share in their fantasies! i think it would be good to see some direction on how people should share their fantasies ... (read in full...)
He's been extremely annoying with his continual requests for anal sex!
Q. Hey everyone, I have a fantastic boyfriend who I love very much. BUT (isn't there always a but?) he keeps pressuring me to have anal sex with him. I'm happy to do it once a week or so, but every day is too much and it hurts. Also, he doesn't like ...
A. 4 November 2011: i saw your question a few hours ago and ive been toying with how to respond, because i was very angry to hear the way this man is treating you - ok im still cross he has no right to demand this of you, the very fact you let him do it to you when y... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has orgasm when soft and when he urinates?
Q. Dear cupid, Ive been with my boyfriend for several months now, i know i turn him on because he cant keep his hands off me, well lately he has started something with me and it was really surprising to me. he cant keep a hard on for very long and he ...
A. 4 November 2011: ive never heard of this, it must be a very embarssing situation for him, and difficult for you unless after his first orgasam he them goes on to satisfy you - i would suggest some reaearch on the inernet or confiding in your own doctor... (read in full...)
Is it okay to set a mood for my first time?
Q. I'm planning to lose my virginity to my boyfriend in the not-too-distant future, but while I'm excited about the prospect I know I'm going to be pretty nervous too! I'd like to create an atmosphere in the bedroom (nothing too extravagent - maybe ...
A. 4 November 2011: Such an exciting time for you :) YOu have a met a lovely boy that you are ready to make love too, he wont mind one bit! Can i suggest, spraying your sheets with your perfume, belive me he will love you have made the effort, the whole matcho thi... (read in full...)
He said that if I don't find a way to enjoy giving him head that our marriage will be over!
Q. I have been with my husband for almost four years. When we had been dating for a month I told him that I hated giving head. We have been married for a little over a year now and he is telling me that if I don't find a way to enjoy giving him head ...
A. 4 November 2011: Your husband will leave you after four years of marriage because you won't give him a BJ? What a horrible thing to say to you! Does he go down on you regularly? I personally find the BJ a very hard thing to tackle, I love the idea of it, I... (read in full...)
How do I tell my lesbian girlfriend to take it easy on me during sex without telling her I was a virgin before her?
Q. Girlfriend is on a quest to sexually open me up. She doesn't like to use lube although she can be real rough during sex. I really really love her and she says she loves me....we've been together two years n being intimate for a yr and a half. We ...
A. 4 November 2011: Hi, Sounds to me like she is being a little forceful for your liking and that actually if she wasn't you'd have a more loving and sexual relationship so whilst I'm in a heterosexual relationship, and don't understand a female and female relations... (read in full...)
My wife made out with another woman when I was not there. Should I be mad? Worried? Turned on?
Q. My wife made out with another woman at a Halloween party. Should I be jealous, mad? We have talked about fantasies involving a 3 some from time to time over the years. A few times, during sex, we have even talked about her doing something with ...
A. 3 November 2011: You need to talk toyour wife, you obviously see this as cheating which in my opinion it is.
Fantasy is very different from reality, and as your wife if you hadn't consented to it I'd consider it to be cheating, I don't think many people would co... (read in full...)
Is it normal to need to pee after sex?
Q. After I have sex or any other sexual things, I have an urge to pee. I was just wondering, is this normal or common for women to do?...
A. 3 November 2011: Actually not only is it normal but it's a good practise to have to avoid infections such as cystitis, as it helps clear any bacteria - a quick wipe with a wet flannel or sponge is also a good idea.
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Do guys eventually give up if the girl wont have sex with them?
Q. do players get turned off by girls who don't want to have sex with them straightaway? surely at some point they lose interest and give up on a girl who won't give them what they want?...
A. 3 November 2011: If he is a "player" then that means usually he's just looking for a bit of action, and if your not wanting too thens hes going to be off - until he decides he wants to settle down
A guy worth your time will wait :)... (read in full...)
Is it worth the time to occasionally masturbate?
Q. Is it worth the time to occasionally masturbate? In sex ed, I did hear about it, but I'm not quite sure on how enjoyable it could be. I mean, is it worth the effort? I haven't been able to ask any other people about it, so I'm pretty stumped on ...
A. 1 November 2011: Your at the time in your life where your learning more and more about your body every day. Masturbation is nothing to feel embarrassed about, it allows you to find out about yourself (it also feels very nice) For boys, they have a little m... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend that I want an abortion? Or just go ahead and do it anyway?
Q. Well... I am 28 years old and have been with the same guy for 10 years... Yes, 10 years. We're not technically married, but do plan to stay together for the long hall. And, I just found out I was pregnant. Obviously we've been being careful over the ...
A. 31 October 2011: Im pro-choice, and ultimately I believe it's your choice. But, i think you should chose to tell him. Having an abortion is going to be very hard for you, your going to need a lot of support, you will need your partner - even if you decide that'... (read in full...)
My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything ...
A. 31 October 2011: I think forget the psychics follow your head in this one. He flirted with a girl in a bar and be ame FB friends with her. He then paid for an plane ticket He then presumably took her out in a date Then paid for a hotel room At what po... (read in full...)
Is it true that A Man can't win? Why does it seem that women are ALWAYS right? Feels like that to a guy !
Q. We've all heard the saying that a man can't ever win. But no-one ever explains why! So, quite simply, here it is. Women make the rules. And even if the man makes the rules, Women enforce them. For example, Have you ever had a situation that spa...
A. 28 October 2011: I'm sorry but your under 17, you have no idea what you are talking about - in a relationship you should respect each others feelings.
You have a LOT to learn about women and yourself
If in every relationship, everyone gives a little more than... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a timing plan set out for when we should have sex but I'm worried I wont be ready by then!
Q. I am worried my boyfriend is going to get tired of waiting to have sex. We are both 16. Both capricorns ;) . I love him n he says he loves me but i know how fast feelings can change so far we have been together for 2 months but we have known ...
A. 28 October 2011: Good advice from chi-girl I will just add, that you have sex when YOU'RE ready, don't give him false expectations, just tell him honestly how you feel and that maybe in a year your be ready to think and consider it (although you may be ready soo... (read in full...)
Tired of dreaming about my ex boyfriend.
Q. My boyfriend and I stopped seeing each other two weeks ago. We were seeing each other for several months. I will admit that it killed me, but in hindsight I have come to terms that our lifestyles weren't compatible and that this would have happened ...
A. 27 October 2011: I think your doing all the right things, you will miss him or the idea of him it's only been a few weeks, I agree with another poster allow yourself time! It does get easier, and talking to people really helps as does watching movies you know he ... (read in full...)
Is it right for my husband to leave me despite having a high risk pregnancy to go on holiday?
Q. i have been married for a few months. i am 34 weeks pregnant, with a history of heart disease, and classified high risk pregancy. my husband lobied for a paid for 2 months vacation out of the country with his employers and really excited about it. i ...
A. 27 October 2011: My goodness your about to give birth to your and his baby any day and he's going off on a jolly!!!
My heart feels so heavy for you, this is shocking behaviour on his part he should be there loving, caring and looking after you.
Words fail me... (read in full...)
I asked her to dress sexy and she laughed at me and now I feel embarrassed!
Q. I am in a relationship with this pretty girl for the last 2 years and we are having great loving and sexual relationship . Recently, I asked her to wear very tight pent and jeans in home so that her big tits and butt become obvious for me . She re...
A. 27 October 2011: Maybe the way you phrased it :)
Most women need to feel wooed most of the time, so "tits and arse" in a general conversation whilst not feeling remotely sexy might have made her feel a bit embarrassed or like she is just boobs and a bum to you. ... (read in full...)
Online dating - no-one replies to my messages! How do I make girls interested in me?
Q. I have been using dating sites for quite some time now but no one seems to be interested replying me. I might not have look of Tom Cruise but I am not that bad either. So What I need to do to make girls interested in me and finally get a ...
A. 27 October 2011: So very confused has written pretty much the same response I would have!
My OH and I met on line, he was one of the few who read my profile, talked about my profile, and from his profile it was obvious that he wasn't just looking for sex.
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My past is coming back to haunt me.....
Q. I have a very big problem about my past and I'm not sure how to handle it. My husband I are married almost 10 years, and together over 10 years. My husband thinks that I was not only a virgin when we started dating, but he also thinks that I was CO...
A. 27 October 2011: If he never asked and you never told him you werent completely honest, but you never lied. It's a difficult one but you need to decide if you should tell your husband, I'm sure you will feel relieved once you do, he may find it hard at first bu... (read in full...)
My SOS (someone special) has a girlfriend!! Move on, or wait it out?
Q. So, I am very attracted to this guy that works for my Dad. Five weeks ago, we started talking. I think he is absolutely amazing. He is everything I think I want in a man. He is absolutely adorable, charming, and very sweet. He is just as attracted ...
A. 27 October 2011: Ok harsh time
You only have his say-so..
Please trust me, some guys are very willing to point out all the problems, give examples that's "shes" cheated on him - most women dont cheat until their partners do, maybe it's different this t... (read in full...)
Husband cannot have sex and its very difficult for me living like this!
Q. What would you do, if your husband would never want sex with you for years, and you don't know why. My husband stopped looking at me, and touching me. He also wont get an erection, when we tried sex, what was not for a long time. Doctor says he...
A. 26 October 2011: I really feel for you, I can't answer your question because there must be so much more your not saying, I was in a relationship with a man (14 yrs) who even asked me to marry me, that night he wanted pizza (I laugh now) rather than have sex with me. ... (read in full...)
Why the sudden change in my wife with sex?
Q. My wife made me beg her for sex for 13 years. I went out of town a couple of weeks ago for the weekend and ever since I got back that's all she wants to do now...
A. 26 October 2011: You need to explain more about your situation, this doesn't give people much to comment on... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I shaved off my pubic hair?
Q. Ok, so about a week ago, I was shaving my bikini line, but I angled the razor wrong, and shaved off a patch of pubic hair that made my area, which is usually neat, trimmed, and proper looking, look stupid, so in an effort to try and fix it, I ended ...
A. 26 October 2011: I did a similar thing about a month ago - I'm usually very "low" on the hair length, so doesn't take long to grow back a light covering shall we say, I had left a very small amount there (I find the bald look rather uncomfortable for me) - he loved ... (read in full...)
Does my G/f want more from our relationship? Not saying full out sex, but maybe a bit more touchy feely?
Q. Me and my gal have been going out for 2 months today. She is my sisters friend, I am her first boyfriend, she is very innocent, and a virgin. We have neither talked about or been intimate. It stops at light kissing. What I am asking is ...
A. 26 October 2011: I'm so glad things worked out for you, you sound like a lovely young man your lady is lucky to have you!
Wishing you all the best in your relationship!... (read in full...)
I need tips on gaining weight!
Q. please help me... i am a 19 year old female who is five feet tall and weighs 100 lbs, i recently had a son and i thought i would have gotten fatter but i didn't. people often times say that i look like around 15-16 and it makes me sad as i went thr...
A. 25 October 2011: I would check your BMI as long as your in a healthy range it's nothing to worry about, but if your unhappy in yourself and want to gain weight eat lots of carbs and healthy filling foods Look to all the positives, were all made in different shapes... (read in full...)
Boyfriend not employed, doesn't help out with costs and I'm getting fed up
Q. I am in a relationship with a guy who has been struggling to become employed for about half a year now. I work almost full time hours and have a car. We both currently live with our parents but would like to gain our independence soon. At the ...
A. 25 October 2011: I was with a man for 14 years who rarely worked, took and took from me - his money was always his money - he paid for nothing, he expected me to pay for everything - it was extremely hard, frustrating and even when he left he still wanted anything ... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong? Why do guys only want to sleep with me and not have a relationship?
Q. hey, i am 21 and know people say im still young should be enjoying myself not worried about realtionships but (and please dont judge me) iv slept with 53 boys and only 3 if had a realtionship with. it isnt that i dont what a reationship beca...
A. 25 October 2011: I'm not going to judge you, who you have slept with in your past is/was your choice. I just hope you have been safe whilst doing so, if you haven't please have a full screen for STD's - for your own peace of mind, also if you do end up meeting a ... (read in full...)
Do I have to explain everything to my girlfriend?
Q. Do I have to explain everything to my girlfriend with whom I have been for last two years? I am a sports teacher here and who gets free from work around 2pm. In the evening,on the beach, I jog for three miles and at the end go for sprint when 100 ...
A. 25 October 2011: Is the problem that your concerned your girlfriend will think differently of you because you enjoy watching the sunset?
Everyone relaxes/unwinds in different ways, I like absolute peace and quiet, a nice glass of wine or cup of tea in a certain ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to still have sleepovers at 19?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but is it normal or ok to still have sleepovers at 19? My friend and I always stay in each others place and have a few drinks is it normal that we still have sleepovers?...
A. 22 October 2011: I'm 33 and me and my girlfriends have "girl" night and they all stay, it's blooming good fun!!! Pizza, chocolate, ice cream, girl movies and wine. Some even have husbands - that's possibly why they get on so well as the girls all get a chance to do ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend never sees me should I call it a day
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 9 months we get on so well but part of me thinks thats because we have a texting relationship. Every time i ask him to come round he always makes some kind of excuse, I know he works some weekends as ...
A. 22 October 2011: When you do see him do you just have sex, as everything your saying sounds like he sees you as a FWB Move on, I'm sorry but he is just not into you. If he doesn't call If he doesn't introduce you to his parents/friends If he doesn't invite yo... (read in full...)
I am in a slump and sick of being single. Where should I look to find a woman I want to share my life with?
Q. I'm sick of being single. I'm 33, I have no children, I have a job I hate, I have a home that still needs several grand in work to finish it. I've taken an almost 1 year sebatical from dating. I've learned that I went after women that needed take...
A. 22 October 2011: Thought there was no hope for me either, then I realised what I needed to do - so here is what I think you need to do. You need to love yourself first, before you can love anyone else You need to accept yourself, be yourself and know and un... (read in full...)
I'm worried my husband is embarrassed of me!
Q. Okay, what do you think. My husband is pretty popular on social networking. A while back I posted my picture on my social sites that are linked to his (like twitter.) He quickly told me to take down all pictures of me because people would tak...
A. 22 October 2011: I think you have posted something similar before, due to this "charming" mans attitude towards you. I know you are married, but is this really the right marriage for you? When I'm with my man, I want him to be just that - I want him to look after... (read in full...)
Does my G/f want more from our relationship? Not saying full out sex, but maybe a bit more touchy feely?
Q. Me and my gal have been going out for 2 months today. She is my sisters friend, I am her first boyfriend, she is very innocent, and a virgin. We have neither talked about or been intimate. It stops at light kissing. What I am asking is ...
A. 13 October 2011: This a lovely post, very sincere and honest.
From what you have written I think she is very subtle trying to guide you into being a little more hands on.
Bending over in a seductive way, moving so your hand is suddenly closer to her breast, m... (read in full...)
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