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Thanks got reading a bit more info about me!
So I'm currently in a relationship, it's still young and fresh - but if I can be honest it has "legs"
I was in a relationship with a toad for 14 years (everyone thought he was a toad, my head thought he was a toad, my heart thought he was prince charming) anyway after kissing a lot of frogs I may just have found my prince charming - if there is such a thing!
For those who love horoscopes, I'm a Scorpio with a Libra moon a fabous combination in my opinion, but then I would say that!
Everything about people fascinates me, Im always the one people turn to in a crisis (sometimes draining) and for so long I was tight lipped about my thoughts and feelings this place I find great as I can share those inner most thoughts and feelings and I've encourage you to do the same!
Nothing really qualifies me to give advise just that during my 34 years I've been through a fair bit, so it's all based on personal experience and comes straight from the heart.
Thank you for reading, thank you for answering my questions and hopefully something I write might help someone
So good for me to say that was me three months ago thigs change.... Suddenly single again will go into more detail soon xx
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16 September 2011: So, I'm guessing articles should be a bit like a colum in a newspaper so here goes. I'm having a ME day soon, this involves no boyfriends, no girlfriends, no family, no work Just ME now I'm thinking everyone should have one of these once ...
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A. 15 September 2011: Hello
I don't think it's a problem, maybe as you both see it as one that it then feels like it's a bigger problem - sex should be fun and relaxed.
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Sounds like she feels bad about it although she didn't cheat as you were not together.
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A. 15 September 2011: Sorry but this is a massive warning sign...
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A. 15 September 2011: I don't think it's a delayed reaction to you masturbating the night before, with a bit more experimenting I'm sure you will reach orgasm whilst masturbating.
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A. 15 September 2011: Hi,
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Don't feel guilty about it, but do keep it to yourself and don't share it with the girl or friends.... (read in full...)
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It's great you have changed your ways, and that at the time you tried tl work through this with your then girlfriend, however from what you have written it seems that she... (read in full...)
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A. 14 September 2011: Hello Spendy,
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A. 14 September 2011: Hello,
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A. 14 September 2011: Hello,
It is incredibly hard to get back into the dating game after such a long time, so good for you getting back into it!
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