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Thanks got reading a bit more info about me!
So I'm currently in a relationship, it's still young and fresh - but if I can be honest it has "legs"
I was in a relationship with a toad for 14 years (everyone thought he was a toad, my head thought he was a toad, my heart thought he was prince charming) anyway after kissing a lot of frogs I may just have found my prince charming - if there is such a thing!
For those who love horoscopes, I'm a Scorpio with a Libra moon a fabous combination in my opinion, but then I would say that!
Everything about people fascinates me, Im always the one people turn to in a crisis (sometimes draining) and for so long I was tight lipped about my thoughts and feelings this place I find great as I can share those inner most thoughts and feelings and I've encourage you to do the same!
Nothing really qualifies me to give advise just that during my 34 years I've been through a fair bit, so it's all based on personal experience and comes straight from the heart.
Thank you for reading, thank you for answering my questions and hopefully something I write might help someone
So good for me to say that was me three months ago thigs change.... Suddenly single again will go into more detail soon xx
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16 September 2011: So, I'm guessing articles should be a bit like a colum in a newspaper so here goes. I'm having a ME day soon, this involves no boyfriends, no girlfriends, no family, no work Just ME now I'm thinking everyone should have one of these once ...
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Would a very very jealous boyfriend go so far as to try and make you fall out with your friends?
Q. Hi please could somebody give me some advice? Would a very very jealous boyfriend go so far as to try and make you fall out with your friends. what i mean is that my boyfriend who is extremeley jealous of anyone i speak to has told me that my sons ...
A. 20 September 2011: You poor thing, the other poster is completely right it's based on insecurity.
My ex used to make up lies about things my friends said, eventually I was completely isolated - after he left I made contact with some of my old friends, they were sho... (read in full...)
Ex is making me upset, do I tell the new boyfriend?
Q. This is a really difficult one for me. My ex who was horrible to me (read my previous question to understand) is causing me to feel upset - not because I miss him, care about him or anything like that. But because yet again, I've asked him to col...
A. 19 September 2011: So over him just a nice person who does not feel it is right to just dump someone's memories... (read in full...)
Never reached orgasm through penetrative sex!
Q. Hi everyone, I've slept with 3 men in my life. My current partner is 30 next month. I'm 22 years old and have always had a very active and healthy sex life. The problem is, I've never been able to orgasm through penetrative sex. I've tried all d...
A. 19 September 2011: I'm fast approaching 34 and my current boyfriend is the first man to make me reach orgasam through penetrative sex. Lovely, it's rare for a lady to reach the big-O through penetrative sex alone, to be fair when it happened with my boyfriend I was ... (read in full...)
Ex is making me upset, do I tell the new boyfriend?
Q. This is a really difficult one for me. My ex who was horrible to me (read my previous question to understand) is causing me to feel upset - not because I miss him, care about him or anything like that. But because yet again, I've asked him to col...
A. 19 September 2011: Ps - I'm not communicating other than in a very legal formal capacity. 14 years, it's very very formal.
Told him now to go through lawyers... (read in full...)
Ex is making me upset, do I tell the new boyfriend?
Q. This is a really difficult one for me. My ex who was horrible to me (read my previous question to understand) is causing me to feel upset - not because I miss him, care about him or anything like that. But because yet again, I've asked him to col...
A. 19 September 2011: Wise words ladies x
My ex is now telling me because he brought my kitten he has rights to him too
Honestly I am so thankful to have this idiot out of my life.
I will tell my new boyfriend, I don't want to keep anything from him - I re... (read in full...)
Can a man still find sex enjoyable if he doesn't cum?
Q. Hello People, So I know the response from most - wow what a lucky lady! So I have a great relationship with my new fella, going well. I wanted to ask tour opinions on a sex matter. He lasts for ages, and I mean ages (totally rocks my worl...
A. 19 September 2011: Thanks to both for responding it helps sometimes just to get it out on paper, this really is a great site
I had a chat with him after it happened again, whilst still in bed. He was just so lovely, caring and reassuring!
I really am a very... (read in full...)
Should I worry? I can't stop thinking that my boyfriend still talks with his ex.
Q. I've never been to a long term relationship like the one i'm having right now. I was always insecure that the guys are cheaters and they will hurt me, so casual sex was pretty much what i was doing. When i men the guy i'm seeing right now i felt v...
A. 19 September 2011: I think in his way he is trying to protect your feelings, but also hoping this girl just gets the message (without actually telling her) that he doesn't want to hear from her anymore. I would suggest try not to worry, he's deleted her number, he's... (read in full...)
Should I trust my partner? Found photos of his ex locked up
Q. Hi, i'v been with my boyfriend for 8 years now and have 4 children together. When we moved house my 4 year old at the time pulled an envelope out and inside were pictures of his ex. I questioned him he said he didn't now he still had them and he ...
A. 18 September 2011: Hello,
Understand it's upsetting, but as soon as you confronted him he threw the originals away.
To be fair I still have pictures of my ex, somewhere I just have been so rubbish at getting rid of them sorting them out - but I have no feelings... (read in full...)
Clarity versus accuracy on a resume?
Q. I got a job i really want and they want to call my boss after i give notice to probably verify a few things. I am really though about some details. The duties on my resume are well written with adjectives expressing what i do and it mentions ever...
A. 18 September 2011: Firstly don't panic - quite common for people to have a little poetic license on their titles - in my opinion it's not the title but the experience (I'm a sales director, and this would be the last thing that bothered me should your CV cross my ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend linked me to a site with hentai on it?
Q. My boyfriend linked me to a website the other day for a clip of a painter we both like doing a tutorial. The first thing I noticed on opening the web page was all the "hottie women" galleries on the side, and links to hentai, sexy women, and many ...
A. 18 September 2011: These images sometimes pop up in the weirdest of places, sounds like he was sending you a link to something he thought you would be interested in. Ask him if it upsets you that much but all seems fairly harmless to me... (read in full...)
Sex equals love?
Q. If a boyfriend has sex with his gf, does that means that he actually loves her a lot? They have sex only after one year in their relationship....
A. 17 September 2011: Hi
To answer in a bit more detail - have you been together for a year before having sex?
Is that due to religious beliefs or just that you waited for it to feel right for you both
The above questions make a big difference to the answer... (read in full...)
Will it be difficult for me to get a boyfriend?
Q. hi im a 15 Teen boy i would like to have a boyfriend but i am a very introvent boy for instants i dont talk much with people and i have mostly girls as friends a few boys as friends and my vocal cords are paralised i talk like a girl so i would like ...
A. 17 September 2011: Hello,
To state the obvious I'm obviously not a teen or a boy, but I was a nerdy nerdy teenage girl at one point.
The best advise I can give you, is embrase yourself, learn to love yourself someone in time will love you.
I truly believe... (read in full...)
Why do my friends do this to guys?
Q. Why do my friends do this? i think is so wrong what they do.? Most of my friends go out dinner, shopping with guys they don't even like. They go cos they like the attention and free stuff. and talks about the guy really badly. When I ...
A. 17 September 2011: Unfortunately some people are just like that, some grow out if it some dont
You sound like a nice girl, stick with your morals and values - look at how and what you know about how your friends treat guys and watch for the same signs with guys you... (read in full...)
He was talking bad to me, I slapped him. How do I set things straight and talk to him about his drinking?
Q. Good day everyone I would like to ask for advice, please Background I am a divorced mother of 2 wonderful young children. When I met my fiance, he was known for drinking a lot. He stopped drinking during our relationship, part because I ...
A. 17 September 2011: Firstly it's good you have accepted that lashing out was unacceptable and it is, if he hit you I'd like to think you would be running for the hills. But I understand your feelings and how being in a relationship as you describe is very painful. ... (read in full...)
How to get over a affair as 'the other woman'
Q. I have decided to end my long-term affair. He is married and I am in a 10 year long term relationship. We have three children between us. I don't want to go into all the details (my last question described much of it) but I've decided I've had ...
A. 17 September 2011: Sadly all the time your living in a long term relationship where you view him as just a friend - your missing out on your chance of a truly for-filling relationship.
You will survive finacially, it will be very difficult but your make it and your... (read in full...)
I want to make my boyfriend say "Wow" after sex!
Q. im 19 and my boyfriend is 20. i've been dating the most amazing person for the last 4 months, even though it seems like much much longer to us. I lost my virginity to him, he has had a few sexual partners before myself however. The thing is, i ...
A. 17 September 2011: Firstly I have to agree with spanner, some good honest opinions there. But I also think it's incredibly in sensitive of your partner to "confirm" she was better, but he has tried to reasure you by saying he only wants to have sex with you and tha... (read in full...)
My sexting friend has made it clear he's going to have sex with other girls until we meet up!
Q. I recently started talking to a guy i used to go to school with and we been flirting and sex-txting back and forth. He says he really likes me but however he lives quite a bit away. We have talked about meeting up again and seeing how we get on but ...
A. 17 September 2011: I think you can do without someone like this in your life, you sounds like someone looking for a relationship - this guy isn't ready isn't looking for a relationship. He's been honest - good thing, as now you know the fact that to meet him, would ... (read in full...)
It's all about ME
Q. So, I'm guessing articles should be a bit like a colum in a newspaper so here goes. I'm having a ME day soon, this involves no boyfriends, no girlfriends, no family, no work Just ME now I'm thinking everyone should have one of these once ...
A. 17 September 2011: That's good to hear Fate - I have a ton of chores to do, but I can see my Saturday turning into a ME day already....
But a little voice is saying - get that butt in that kitchen and clean it up it's a tip!! Also hoping it might inspire my BF to pi... (read in full...)
Whenever we hug boyfriend gets hard!
Q. Ok, so here's the deal. When me and my boyfriend hug, he gets a boner. I find it hilarious, but I never acknowledge it properly. More often than not, I'll just rest my hip against it and move slightly. Just wondering if there's anything els...
A. 16 September 2011: Hi there,
Well he is obviously attracted to you!
It's lovely he does, even being an older lady when my boyfriend sometimes hugs/greets me he gets one - I don't find it hilarious but I do giggle to myself and think - yep he's mine!
If your... (read in full...)
Husband's temper out of control! Things are fine as long as they go HIS way
Q. I have a question to anyone who can help my situation. I am 38, I have 3 beautiful daughters. I am no longer married to there dad. About 2 years ago I got back with my highschool sweetheart,we were engaged in highschool, but his parents thought he ...
A. 16 September 2011: My dear dear lady,
I'm usually wordy with my responses, but get out now.
This is not right, it will soon turn into violence please seek immediate counciling for yourself and remove yourself from this very volatile situation - good men do not ... (read in full...)
34 and single: Did I miss my chance to marry?
Q. I feel like I've missed the marriage boat and I'm starting to panic. I'm going to be 34 years old tomorrow. Objectively, I am good looking; better than average, smart, successful, have a good career, own my own apartment, etc. All my best fri...
A. 16 September 2011: My dear dear lady! A big NO you have not missed the boat!! I am 33, 34 is fast approaching - I was in a 14 year painful relationship. I had the same thoughts as you, I'm doomed, it's over, my biological clock ticking, my heart sinking... ... (read in full...)
I don't have friends and don't want any. Is that wrong?
Q. I am 38 years old and I don't have any friends other than my wife. I have one friend from high school I see once in a great while. He always wants to meet up and do something, but I have no interest. I get along with my colleagues at work, but work...
A. 16 September 2011: Hello, I dint think there is anything wrong with wanting to be, by yourself I love absolutley love my space am quote content spending hours on my own, but am also very sociable - I have a very few close friends that I love to catch up with an... (read in full...)
When should two people start having sex in a relationship?
Q. Hey all, simple question. So I have been broken up with my ex for over a year now and I'm reflecting back on past mistakes. I'm wondering maybe one of the mistakes was that we had sex too early. We talked about sex maybe 3 weeks into our ...
A. 16 September 2011: Hello,
Everyone is different and every relationship is different.
I think it also depends on how much you see of that person during the early stages.
In my experience, sex just happens when your both ready and you can't put an exact time ... (read in full...)
She says u can build a relationship early on(2wks in) by having sex. Is she just using me for sex? Or is that true?
Q. I'm lesbian and I recently met a bisexual woman and we connected instantly. We started hanging out, texting n calling each other. The weird thing is we went to sex store this week and she was telling me which strap on and vibrator she'll use on me. ...
A. 16 September 2011: My ex-boyfriend was the same, I wish I'd seen the red flag sooner. I ended up paying for everything, being controlled and it totally destroyed me in the end. I got out after 14 years - which was a good 12 years to late.
Unfortunately, there ar... (read in full...)
Can a man still find sex enjoyable if he doesn't cum?
Q. Hello People, So I know the response from most - wow what a lucky lady! So I have a great relationship with my new fella, going well. I wanted to ask tour opinions on a sex matter. He lasts for ages, and I mean ages (totally rocks my worl...
A. 16 September 2011: Thanks for the response, it's good to hear from a guy that it doesn't necessarily have to be an issue.
One thing I didn't add to my first post is that we actually do have a lot of sex, so this may be part of the problem but also why perhas h... (read in full...)
How to keep a cheating husband interested
Q. hello and im so happy to meet you my name is blondie im 48 years old im a mother and a grandmother i have 11 grand children now iv been in my marrige now for ten years but from the word get go i've always known there was something very wrong bu...
A. 15 September 2011: Throughly agree with Sami's post I wish you luck in your decision... (read in full...)
I cum too fast and its hurting my relationship!
Q. i use to be able to go 4 are 5 mins now all i hav to do is just puyt it in my girlfriend and i cum,use to not b like this ,what can i do its starting to hurt our relationship...
A. 15 September 2011: Hi, It must be difficult for you, but a loving girlfriend will work with you. I'm not sure if you use condoms but maybe you could try a "thicker" version which will help you to last longer, also perhaps try sex a second time (depending on your... (read in full...)
I seem incapable of having an orgasm
Q. I'm in need of some serious help. I think I'm incapable of having an orgasm. When I have sex it feels good of course, but seems like no matter what is done I just can't orgasm. Even when I masturbate I can't seem to orgasm. I've tried toys of all ...
A. 15 September 2011: You need to relax, I think fir most women until you get there on your own you won't experience with a partner. As a woman in my mid thirties ive completed a lot of solo missions and only now find I can reach the big O through penetrative sex ... (read in full...)
I feel bad that he's doing all the work
Q. Whenever me and my partner have sex it is always him doing the work. I always feel bad about it even though he has never mentioned it. I do try to take control but I have pain in my knees which makes going on top very unpleasant and painful for me. ...
A. 15 September 2011: A really good place to look for positions is the us cosmopolitian website, there's an article where a girl and her fella work through something like 75 positions - I certainly picked up a few "things" to add to my "to do list" I would suggest ta... (read in full...)
New Love - finally falling in love after an abusive relationship
Q. Hello, I came out of a very nasty relationship just over a year ago, I spent six years being emotionally abused, nothing and I mean nothing was ever good enough about me or what I did. The abuse was constant resulting in me being a complete mess,...
A. 15 September 2011: Thank you for the replies, I gad a bit of a dreadful day yesterday (I was attacked a while ago - not nice cometrly out the blue) and hadto drag it all up again with another police officer
He came to mine, he knew something was wrong - I hadn't c... (read in full...)
I'm worried about history repeating itself. Should I tell my partner I feel insecure?
Q. My ex left me when we were at our prime time in the relationship (marriage). We were buying a house, we both got new jobs, we'd just bought a new car and he threw all that away to go with someone he met at the new job. I've been with my current ...
A. 15 September 2011: Hello,
I think you have to tell your partner when your feeling insecure, they need to look after you in your time of need.
When you try to talk to him, he may think (I know your not) that your blamming him in someway for how you feel. So use... (read in full...)
Things are more serious between me and my bf, but he wants sex less, and wants to talk more. why?
Q. Dear all, I have been seeing my bf for around five months now. We used to have sex everytime we saw each other, but now things have got 'serious' between us, he comes over sometimes , and we just talk and he leaves without having sex with me. We ...
A. 15 September 2011: Have you tried talking to him ?
I don't thinkits strange it's slowed down, it does happen to some couples after a few months - in my current relationship I can't ever see it slowing down but I'm sure it will eventually!
Is it possible he may ... (read in full...)
Lonely and need help trying to get a date
Q. Well i need help im about to be 19 height of 5'10 and weight 226 ive been lonely for a long time so i want to date badly but i have trouble doing that because im a big fat guy and i cant stop thinking that i will never find someone to like me for ...
A. 15 September 2011: Hi There,
Everyone has something amazing about them, start looking in the mirror everyday and tell your image something nice about what you see. Don't focus on the negative, if something negative comes into your head push it out find somethin... (read in full...)
How to keep a cheating husband interested
Q. hello and im so happy to meet you my name is blondie im 48 years old im a mother and a grandmother i have 11 grand children now iv been in my marrige now for ten years but from the word get go i've always known there was something very wrong bu...
A. 15 September 2011: Its very sad to read this, you deserve better.
Not all men cheat, it's just not true. Marriage is hard, relationships are hard but not all men go about having their cake and eating it! Some do not all of them though.
I agree with the other w... (read in full...)
Girfriend acting distant
Q. Hello, My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year. Everything has been fine pretty much the whole time. But she has been acting a little weird/distant for the past week. This is the third time she has been this way in the past 4 months. ...
A. 15 September 2011: Blokes do this to women all the time, they withdraw to centre themselves and then come back.
It's not common for women to do the sake but some of us do - I have an exceptionally high powered career, I get very stressed, very tired and sometime... (read in full...)
She's still with her boyfriend, but why does she come around me unless I'm filling a void?
Q. Hi guys. Really need some good mature opinion here. I am completely crazy about this girl I have met several times now and we feel the strongest natural chemistry ever (I am not lying if I say I have never felt like this before). However she has a ...
A. 15 September 2011: Strongly advise for your own sake that you do not get invved with this girl until she has walked away from the boyfriend.
Dating a married/coupled up person is the most horrible, hard and upsetting thing for the "third party" your always second b... (read in full...)
Last minute acceptance left no room for me?
Q. My boyfriend was invited to a female friends birthday party he forgot to send the rsvp back in time. However he called her and she stated she did not have anymore space however she will make space only for him. Should I be mad that he is going ...
A. 15 September 2011: My OH wouldn't go if I wasn't invited - seems very mean to me.
it's just a party why isn't there space for you?? Any decent friend would make space.
If I was in your shoes I'd encourage him to go, but honestly it does seem odd!... (read in full...)
I am worried about telling a man I had a boob job in case he is repulsed. How do men feel about breast implants?
Q. Hi, I am going to re-send this question as I have only had one answer and the answer that I did get only gave one - very strong - personal bias. Does anyone feel differently about this issue please? If the woman in question was otherwise a perfect ...
A. 15 September 2011: It's your body, so as long as you feel comfortable and happy then your partner should be happy too.
I don't have any friends who have had cosmetic surgery (that I'm aware of anyway!) but of the men that I know, honestly the good ones just want the... (read in full...)
Would u have sex with someone if they promised a job?
Q. would u have sex with someone if they promised you a job or if theyd support you but you were a virgin...
A. 15 September 2011: No no no - do not do it, your regret it, your have no sense of pride in your job and your have to see the person during your working life.
Not worth it!... (read in full...)
Did he give me HIV? How do I stop worryng about this?
Q. Hi I know I have been incredibley stupid and I'm the first to admit that. About a year ago,I got a little involved with a married man (horrible I know) anyway we met up three times, on the last ocassion he didn't use a condom and he ejaculated ...
A. 15 September 2011: I couldn't actually see anywhere where it said you knew the man you slept with had HIV?
It's a three month wait before your be 100% sure, many experts put the risk as low as 1:1,000 for heterosexual vaginal intercourse, obviously it only takes on... (read in full...)
My binge drinking days are done...but will friends always think of me as a party animal?
Q. Hello I wonder If anyone has been in the same situation as me ... I have realised that I am not a nice person when I am drunk, for the last few years I suppose I have gone off the rails, drinking far too much when going out, doing things I regret, ...
A. 15 September 2011: Not a single person on this planet has a part of their life they regret a little bit!
I've had my wild days, not proud of moments but it made me who I am today!
Don't beat yourself up for you past mistakes and enjoy finding the "new" you it's e... (read in full...)
New Love - finally falling in love after an abusive relationship
Q. Hello, I came out of a very nasty relationship just over a year ago, I spent six years being emotionally abused, nothing and I mean nothing was ever good enough about me or what I did. The abuse was constant resulting in me being a complete mess,...
A. 14 September 2011: Anonmous please sign up letter me would love to hear your story x
Maybe we can help each other!... (read in full...)
New Love - finally falling in love after an abusive relationship
Q. Hello, I came out of a very nasty relationship just over a year ago, I spent six years being emotionally abused, nothing and I mean nothing was ever good enough about me or what I did. The abuse was constant resulting in me being a complete mess,...
A. 14 September 2011: Thank you my dears, I really think I need to stop looking for problems xx maybe I just kissed a frog and found a prince ... (read in full...)
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