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Thanks got reading a bit more info about me!
So I'm currently in a relationship, it's still young and fresh - but if I can be honest it has "legs"
I was in a relationship with a toad for 14 years (everyone thought he was a toad, my head thought he was a toad, my heart thought he was prince charming) anyway after kissing a lot of frogs I may just have found my prince charming - if there is such a thing!
For those who love horoscopes, I'm a Scorpio with a Libra moon a fabous combination in my opinion, but then I would say that!
Everything about people fascinates me, Im always the one people turn to in a crisis (sometimes draining) and for so long I was tight lipped about my thoughts and feelings this place I find great as I can share those inner most thoughts and feelings and I've encourage you to do the same!
Nothing really qualifies me to give advise just that during my 34 years I've been through a fair bit, so it's all based on personal experience and comes straight from the heart.
Thank you for reading, thank you for answering my questions and hopefully something I write might help someone
So good for me to say that was me three months ago thigs change.... Suddenly single again will go into more detail soon xx
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16 September 2011: So, I'm guessing articles should be a bit like a colum in a newspaper so here goes. I'm having a ME day soon, this involves no boyfriends, no girlfriends, no family, no work Just ME now I'm thinking everyone should have one of these once ...
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Does my G/f want more from our relationship? Not saying full out sex, but maybe a bit more touchy feely?
Q. Me and my gal have been going out for 2 months today. She is my sisters friend, I am her first boyfriend, she is very innocent, and a virgin. We have neither talked about or been intimate. It stops at light kissing. What I am asking is ...
A. 26 October 2011: I'm so glad things worked out for you, you sound like a lovely young man your lady is lucky to have you!
Wishing you all the best in your relationship!... (read in full...)
I'm worried my husband is embarrassed of me!
Q. Okay, what do you think. My husband is pretty popular on social networking. A while back I posted my picture on my social sites that are linked to his (like twitter.) He quickly told me to take down all pictures of me because people would tak...
A. 22 October 2011: I think you have posted something similar before, due to this "charming" mans attitude towards you. I know you are married, but is this really the right marriage for you? When I'm with my man, I want him to be just that - I want him to look after... (read in full...)
How sexy should I encourage my wife to dress for Halloween?
Q. OK, so we are going to a Halloween party. Same party we went to last year. Last year there were a few (like 3) fairly sexy costumes. Needless to say, these women got a lot of attention, and I am sure were the topic of conversation among many couples ...
A. 21 October 2011: Agree with Tisha - putting everything on show.... Well it becomes slutty not attractive or sexy and I think most men would agree, that imagination of what's beyond a pair of tight trousers or short skirt is much more tantalising than showing your ... (read in full...)
Am I experiencing normal side effects of the morning after pill?
Q. Hey, wow this is awkward even though it's online, lol. But here it goes long story short, a condom split on me and my partner about two/three weeks ago, I have the coil inserted but to be certain I didn't conceive a child, I went to my local cl...
A. 21 October 2011: Similar thing happened to me too, spot bleeding then what seemed like a period, took a while to get back on track then promptly went back on the pill.
Pop in to see your GP if your concerned.... (read in full...)
My Friends with benefits relationship has gone wrong because now he has feelings for me. Should I break up with him?.
Q. Hi everyone! For a while now I've been sleeping with a guy who I'm friendly with. We both agreed it would be a no strings attached relationship, which I'm completely happy with. You see my life is pretty chaotic I'm up in college during the w...
A. 21 October 2011: You need to end it.
As soon as a FWB develops feelings, it's the responsibility of the one who doesn't want it to develop to end it. Male or female.
I'm sure you don't want to hurt this person, continuing to have sex with him will hurt him. I... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my FWB about my feelings for him?
Q. Hi everyone here is my problem me and this man are fwb, I wanted more and I told him but he didn't say anything back. he treats me quite badly, we arrange for me to stay at his and then he forgets all about it. we arrange a night out then when the ...
A. 21 October 2011: Honey, get out of this toxic situation - what I'm going to say isn't pretty to hear, but you need to hear it.
Your nothing but sex to him, I know that may seem incredibly hurtful but that is what a FWB is - sex, no emotional connection just sex... (read in full...)
Was he just really enjoying it or should I go easy on him next time?
Q. While recently giving a blow job to this guy, I felt he started to tremble and shiver vigorously. After he came in my mouth and we were done, he did exclaim that he could hardly stand then and sat down. Wanted to know if it is because he is ...
A. 20 October 2011: Blooming heck sounds like you rocked his world! You should be giving tips!!
Lucky man I say!!... (read in full...)
Can it really be so weird for a guy to sleep with his pregnant woman?
Q. I am currently 26 weeks pregnant. I have not gained any weight but my belly has grown seeing how there is a baby in there lol. I've been with my boy friend who is the father for two years. Over the past couple weeks I've noticed our sex life is ...
A. 20 October 2011: I've never been pregnant, but I have heard this from friends of mine who have been, and their husbands have been terrified of having sex, in case they hurt the baby or psychologically they just feel it's wrong to have sex with a little person inside ... (read in full...)
B/f says I'm not his rebound, but I worry about it
Q. Hi. Well this is a strange question, I guess what I’m asking is if my relationship seems normal and that I’m not being used as a rebound. Firstly, we have been together ten months, nearly eleven. I met him four months nearly five months after he had ...
A. 18 October 2011: Your way over thinking things.
Let his past be his past, accept he is with you and enjoy your time together
It really is as simple as that :)... (read in full...)
B/f wants to give me oral sex but I feel insecure about it
Q. Hi :) So just wanted to talk about a problem im having and hope you guys can offer some reassurance.. Iv been dating a guy for about 3 months now and its all going great. we've been sleeping together for about a month now and really care about ...
A. 18 October 2011: You're in a trusting relationship, you are bound to be nervous at first. Have a nice shower, and use scented cream on your legs, eat lots of fruit for a while (stay away from fish, it can have an affect - it affects guys, actually if men drink a l... (read in full...)
Pubic hair, rashes and embarassing moles!
Q. [Mod Note: 3 questions merged into one] Quite a personal question... but here we go, pubic hair is so annoying. I do my bikini line and trim, but it still feels like there is too much. How can you trim "neatly"? Sometimes I feel like being complete...
A. 17 October 2011: Invest in a bikini trimmer, it doesn't cause a rash, keeps the look of barely their hair - i tried the all gone look once and felt incredibly un-sexy. Asda sell one for £5 "how low you go" is up to you! Personsly I prefer a well trimmed looked, as ... (read in full...)
How long should I date her without a sexual relationship?
Q. I am a male with a high-sex drive in my mid twenties. I have had a lot of partners and dated even more women, but only one previous lover. I met this new girl who I am absolutely attracted to in multiple dynamics and hope her to be my next love....
A. 17 October 2011: We all have different sex drives, mine as a woman is incredibly high and I would be in the same situation as you if a partner wasn't ready to have sex after a month, I'd be questioning "where is this going" You need to ask yourself are you... (read in full...)
I don't feel loved anymore
Q. Are these signs he doesn't love me... maybe hates me, actually... or is abusive perhaps? He lets his friends make sexually explicit jokes about me in front of other people, not defending me. When I say it hurts my feelings he says that's beca...
A. 17 October 2011: I've read your post and additional comment. I was in a very very similar situation. Ask yourself this. Why do you love someone, who makes fun of you, hurts you, calls you stupid, calls you slow, makes sexually explicit jokes about you, who yo... (read in full...)
I told him about my past, he went silent and now wont speak to me until he has 'forgiven me'!
Q. I need some help. When I was 12, i was quite badly raped and beaten to within an inch of my life (I was in ICU for the following 2/3 months afterwards.) I did not open up to anyway and I still remain that way (like, i will jump if anyone touches me, ...
A. 17 October 2011: Your post fills me with sadness.
Please don't think for a second you need to be forgiven, because you don't - this was a horrible situation that was completely out of your control.
You were so very brave to tell your partner, I cannot even try ... (read in full...)
I cant stop worrying about my past and what people think of me, will this ever fade?
Q. Hello everyone Well I would just like some opinions views from people, maybe if anyone has been in the same boat as me? I am 27 years old and for the past few years I turned into quite a party animal and I'd say maybe went off the rails a bit. I d...
A. 17 October 2011: I went off the rails after the end if a very bad relationship, and cringe - only person I was hurting was myself.
Occasionally the monster does appear, but you know it's not the real you.
We all do things that we regret, but those things do ... (read in full...)
She used to be a dancer, but I proposed anyway
Q. Recently, my girlfriend told me that she used to be Striptease Dancer gour years back. She remained in that professional for one year before dumped it once she fell in love with me. We are together since July 2008. Even before she told me, two ...
A. 17 October 2011: Yes yes yes you made the right decision! She gave it up because she loved you!
My friend is a very successful lawyer, she had no financial support to get her through university and so she "danced" her way through it, she still worries about it... (read in full...)
Am I completely in the wrong and deserve this? Or is he overreacting?
Q. I met a guy on a dating website 2 months ago, we met after a week and kept seeing each other every weekend. At first it was a but bumpy and he wouldn't text for days, he works away in the week n so we would only see each other on weekends. He calls ...
A. 17 October 2011: It's a tricky one... I met my new BF on line, things moved very quickly in that we had sex on the first date, but were still together and things are great. We had the discussion, after he had spent the night and wanted to see me the next day. W... (read in full...)
How many men think sex isn't good unless a BJ in involved?
Q. How many of men consider that sex is not good without blowjob? Is intercourse alone not enough to satisfy a man? How many women would perform oral sex on a stable partner vs a casual sexual encounter?...
A. 17 October 2011: Casual encounter, not liking the BJ idea - certain amount of trust needs to be involved as a guy coming in your mouth for me - yuck.
In a relationship, I can deal with it once in a while or on me, but prefer it by a long shot not to touch my... (read in full...)
Personality vs looks?
Q. Hi, So I was wondering... Is personality or physical attraction more important? Any thoughts would be appreciated!...
A. 17 October 2011: Good advise above :) I think it also varies slightly if your male or female. Men I think need to have that initial attraction, something needs to stir inside them. That could be a quirky smile, your eyes, a pretty face but I'm guessing mor... (read in full...)
How to tell him I am falling in love?
Q. what is the best way to tell a guy im falling in love with him??????...
A. 17 October 2011: I think it's best to let them tell you first :) ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to see a red flag -- is it really there?
Q. I wanted your guys or girls opinion on something? I met this realy nice lady, we are about the same age we hit it off great and actually still are, though we have been going out exclusively with eachother for only 6 weeks. Now this woman has neve...
A. 13 October 2011: Can you explain more about the bruise??? That seems weird to me, that she brought that up then talks about a man she spoke too... (read in full...)
My parents have refused my girlfriend who has been on wheelchair since birth, now I want to marry her without their assent, don’t you guys think I have taken the correct decision ?
Q. My girlfriend has been on wheelchair since birth but she's well educated and doing teaching . I think she's so pretty that one can easily compare her with Fairy. She's 5 years younger than me and I am her first boyfriend . We are in a relationship ...
A. 13 October 2011: Sweetheart you love this girl, you sound like you adore her, she I am guessing makes you happy and she is your princess. In turn I am sure she feels the sane way about you, you wouldn't have been together for do long otherwise. So what if she is f... (read in full...)
Is getting turned on by his expressions normal?
Q. Heloo :) Just a short question, i was on web cam with a boy ive been dating for a while didnt like him at first but he had grown on me. When i was on web cam i got turned on just because he was raising his eyes at me and licking his lips. Is that ...
A. 13 October 2011: Gosh yes!!!
Licking of lips is very seductive, when I do that my BF goes nuts!
He has this thing he does with his eyes, I can't even describe it but makes me go weak at the knees!
The face is the key to the soul I think, shows emotions an... (read in full...)
Why does it make me feel lonelier?
Q. I'm a teenage boy and like most teenage boys, I masturbate. For fun, for relaxing, for stress relief. Recently I noticed that for some reason, I feel a bit lonelier than when I started. Basically, I long for that type of connection with someone ...
A. 13 October 2011: Hello, I guess because your longing for something more intimate, and it will happen but try not to put too much emphasis on the "sex" thing right now. I think another poster suggested thinking about more intimate situations, perhaps ima... (read in full...)
Should I tell my GF I ended up having sex with my ex?
Q. So here is the question. To tell or not to tell? Before everyone jumps to answer this the second they read it, take a moment to chew on it. So I met this girl, we had been going out for about 2-3 weeks before I went back to school. I...
A. 13 October 2011: It's a very difficult situation, if you are 100% certain it was a mistake and it will NEVER happen again and you love your current girlfriend then no don't tell her.
I do think you were wrong, it shouldn't have happened - at the end of the day ... (read in full...)
Miscarried, should I tell the dad?
Q. I want some advice as its a very sensitive issue. I recently had a affair with a married man which I posted about on here and after getting advice I ended the affair however I have since miscarried our baby and I just don't know if I should tell him ...
A. 13 October 2011: Firstly I am so sorry to here you miscarried it's such a very difficult time for anyone, and I'm sure your emotions are all over the place right now.
So I suggest, talk to your girlfriends, mum, smaratians heal yourself and then make a decision... (read in full...)
She had sex before we met, now I can't trust her.
Q. Hi everyone. I need some advise on what I should do. I have been with this girl for the last 5 years. The problem is that I cant resepct her or do anything nice for her. She has a past, she lost her virginity when she was 15 years old and stayed in ...
A. 13 October 2011: You need to explain more - where you the father of her baby? I'm assuming you were, and honestly I am disgusted at your attitude towards this girl. So please explain why you think it is acceptable to call her such nasty manes because she sle... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a need to always comment on attractive women he sees!
Q. I have an otherwise great relationship with my boyfriend of two years. We have a lot of fun and have lots of things in common. My family and friends think he is a great guy too. However there is one thing that really bugs me. Whenever we are ...
A. 13 October 2011: Tell him how it makes you feel, make him understand it upsets you.
That said, sounds like he is making what he sees as funny comments.... It's not that he is comparing them to you or saying "wow look at the boobs on that" he's making comments... (read in full...)
Do I open Pandora's box to ease my mind?
Q. My boyfriend has been fairly open and up front with me about the women in his life. He has talked about one at work that apparently all the guys ogle, and another that has befriended him (I think she has a crush on him). We're friends on Facebook ...
A. 13 October 2011: I think look at the positive.
He spends nearly all his spare time with you, he's changed his stairs to in a relationship.
He's told you about this woman the guys ogle, I think they sometimes come out with this just to make us feel better, by ... (read in full...)
Does my G/f want more from our relationship? Not saying full out sex, but maybe a bit more touchy feely?
Q. Me and my gal have been going out for 2 months today. She is my sisters friend, I am her first boyfriend, she is very innocent, and a virgin. We have neither talked about or been intimate. It stops at light kissing. What I am asking is ...
A. 13 October 2011: This a lovely post, very sincere and honest.
From what you have written I think she is very subtle trying to guide you into being a little more hands on.
Bending over in a seductive way, moving so your hand is suddenly closer to her breast, m... (read in full...)
Sex has fallen off of the map for way too long. How do we bring it back into our lives?
Q. My wife and I have not made love in quite some time. Between the two kids, job stress, general tiredness, various health issues etc., it has just fallen off of the map for way too long. Now the question of how to bring it back - I think things ...
A. 13 October 2011: I suggest a date night, at least once a week.
Hire a baby sitter, or even better can your kids stay with someone?
Take her out, give her notice so she can have time to plan (she will appreciate this, she will like to spend time getting ready, t... (read in full...)
B/f wants a foursome--3 guys and me! I kind of want it too!
Q. I've had the biggest crush on this guy for like a year now. He's super adorable. We flirt all the time. He and I have been "talking" for like two months now. I love when people give me attention and he gives me the most. Last month, we were at his ...
A. 13 October 2011: Not a good idea especially at such a young age.
Fantasy and reality are two very different things! In your head I imagine your seeing it as a wonderfully liberating experience with three men all fighting for your attention.
Reality is th... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is not virgin! How do I forgive her?
Q. i have a relation with a girl since march 2011. after 2 months when she come to know that i love her, she told me that she is not virgin. she cried the whole night and told me that she was force by her ex-boyfriend when she was having a severe ...
A. 13 October 2011: If your girlfriend was indeed raped, which is what you describe she doesn't need to be forgiven! She needs love, support, empathy and help from you and a proffesional.
If, she chose to have sex and later regretted it - again why does she need for... (read in full...)
Don't want mum to know I'm on the pill - how can I fake a period?
Q. This sounds like a stupid question, but there is a reason behind it. I'm 16, so please don't lecture me on legality. Myself and my boyfriend are planning on taking our relationship 'to the next level' soon, and decided to take some precautions- nei...
A. 13 October 2011: Your being sensible I don't know why any one would lecture you, your also 16 so it is legal for you to have sex with your boyfriend, and good for you for being sensible enough to use condoms and the pill.
Can't imagine your mum going through ... (read in full...)
No condom for anal sex? Is it safe?
Q. My boyfriend is my second boyfriend.. I am still virgin... and he is too. At this time, He wish something for his birthday. He wants anal sex :| at first I really do not agree about it but I love him I want to make him happy. I am a little bit ...
A. 12 October 2011: This is not a good idea on so many levels. Unprotected sex is something to take very seriously. Unprotected anal sex is actually more risky than unprotected vaginal sex. I've read about lots of girls especially in the US who think anal sex wil... (read in full...)
What can I do besides kegels to stop this?
Q. omg. . .agony friends i need help. .its embarrasing though but you helped me before here.lately when i had sex my vagina farts when he pulls it out. It has never happened before.what can i do besides kegels?...
A. 12 October 2011: Happens to a lot of women, especially in doggy style as the air gets pushed in - thing to do is before he enters you try to push out!
First time it happened with my new partner I was so embarrassed but found it hilarious - que fits of giggles!... (read in full...)
We live with an older friend of my husband's and while she has been very helpful to us, she refers to him as her husband!
Q. i really need help please. my husband and i have been married for almost a year now. we have been living with a friend of his who is older and is like a mom to him since we can't afford a place of our own yet and she helps us out with finances. ...
A. 12 October 2011: I suggest you tell your husband how much this bothers you, and ask him to confront this other lady. Explain to him how it makes you feel, don't blame him but use "I feel... Angry/hurt/upset/frustrated etc. I suggest you write this all down first, ... (read in full...)
Does Size Make The Man?
Q. I’d like to first thank Tennisstar88 for giving me the idea to write this article. Even though this is a sensitive topic to most men, my hope is someone will benefit from reading it. Enjoy! ------...
A. 11 October 2011: Firstly I like your articles and it makes me feel I should write more on the emotions that women actually feel! I also like the fact you comment on your posts I hope people who write in check up on them! Size doesn't really matter too most women, ... (read in full...)
How can a person just up and walk away and not care?
Q. my husband of 7 1/2 yrs told me he was confussed and nobody in the house is happy, he deserves to be happy and left. the week he left he took off his wedding ring. after a month he filed for divorce. he says there is noone else. he is my true love, ...
A. 11 October 2011: You should feel comfortable to say everything here and I feel your holding back on things.
Be honest open your heart and soul give all the details - I know that's very very hard even here
If you have been 100% honest your husband hasn't b... (read in full...)
It was nothing serious and he blew it out of proportion
Q. My partner caught me flirting on line. He had warned me several times to stop. I did for a while. He called round unexpectedly while i was in some erotic conversation. He has been a good father figure to my two teenage sons. After getting abusive he ...
A. 11 October 2011: I'm sorry but he is NOT being a cry baby, you have totally abused his trust.
You might not like it but your behaviour is disgraceful
He told you / asked you to stop - you obviously do not have any respect for your partner.
Sorry lady but ... (read in full...)
I'm in an open relationship. my friend's brother and I had sex. So why did'nt he reply after our great night?
Q. My husband and i agreed to an open relationship not too long ago after being married for 6 years. I met my friends brother at a club few days back. He was flirting with me, buying me drinks, dancing with me etc. I told him about my relation...
A. 11 October 2011: An open relationship would never be for me, I just couldn't handle the fact my OH was sleeping with people, let alone being emotional with other people - but I always considered an open relationship to be where you just had "sex" with someone else, ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for sex to feel different with/without a condom?
Q. dear cupid, soo, the first few times that i had sex, the guy used a condom. buuut there were a few times after that when he DIDN'T use a condom. please don't start lecturing me about how this is risky behavior and that i could wind up getting ...
A. 11 October 2011: I love the analogy from YouWish - I hate them too, but only don't use them when in a loving committed relationship, whilst on the pill and he's been fully tested!
Risking any form of STI or STD is not worth doing it without wellies on as my mothe... (read in full...)
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