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writes:I am having trouble forgetting about my boyfriends past?. well its kinda long story we went out 3 years ago, and he had a girl pregnant but I didn't kno till like days later, but he kept telling me that they weren't going out so we were still together. I fell in love with him and he cheated on me a couple of times, and would always lie about things but I was still by his side. so at the end of our relationship I found out that him and his baby mama were still together and I got into a lot of problems so we just broke up even though it hurt me to let him go cuz I was in love with him and got used to his ways and then him and his baby mama officially broke up like 4 months later. and now 2 yrs later we started talking again but just as friends so one day he tells me we should go out like to the movies or something and I agreed and thn that same night he asked me back out but I didn't want to cuz I felt that he was just going to hurt me again, but at the end I said yess. and now we have 10 months together but im having trouble trusting him and it hurts me to see that he has a kid with another girl, I think having my first baby should be his first too. it just hurts me cuz I kno he will never forget about her, but he has changed hes nicer, sweet and shows me that he cares he even got my name tattooed on him. but I just wanna forget about his baby mama but can't. please help me someone I need help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): noo he dosent see his child. the baby mama dosent let him see the child cuz she found out about me & him going out. & nope she dosent call him at all jux when they have to go to court cuz he wants custody of the kid. like I have no problem with the kid & I love my boyfriend. its jux her that I really dislike. & I do trust at times but its hard I guess cuz of wat happend back then. sometimes he acts like an ass for no reason. & I get the feeling that he's not the one for me at time but then I also get the feeling that I can't live without him.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (21 August 2009):
 i know its hard but he cheated on you thats just disrespectfull and not only once either his a liar and a cheater and they never change so id have my guards up if i were you. it will be alot harder knowing that he has a child by another girl as she could cause some problems for you its quite a sticky situation but its either the case of moving on from your boyfriend or sticking by him and trying to put the baby mum and baby to the back of your mind.does he see the child?or does the baby mum call him causing problems?.id be really careful if i was you this seems like a big issue for you he was with someone whilst with you and had a baby by her and was lying and cheating on you at the same time they say once and cheat always a cheat and i believe that and if you dont have trust you have nothing and i believe as soon as you cheat on someone the trust disappears and as much as you try to work through it, it never works out in the long run cos you cant gain that trust back.i think you deserve better
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