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writes:okay. i have been with this guy for a little more then a year now, and i have wanted to break up with him for a while now. i havent liked him for months, but i can't break up with him for some strange reason.now i have asked some of my friends about this and have gotten two main answers for this: one is that we are just meant to be together (which i don't believe at all), the other is because he was my first time (which i dont see the reasoning behind)my question is if it is really possible to not break up with him for that reason, and if so, how can i get past the block and break up? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): I think it could be likely that the reason you feel you can[t bring yourself to break up with this guy could subconciously be because he was your first. If you're both really close, perhaps you don't want to lose that?Could it be because you don't want anyone else to have him? This has prevented me from breaking up with people many a time.Hurting someone when you dont want to takes a lot of guts, maybe it would be easier through a letter? I don't think that's as socially unacceptable as a text or email. It's also not cowardly, much easier to get how you really feel across.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (31 July 2009):
 maybe you just dont want to hurt him or that you feel in some sense that if you do break it off with him yourl regret it.however if you arent happy break it to your bf and explain you need some time to think and go on a break just do it before you leave it too long and talk yourself out of it the weight will be lifted off your shoulders when you get it over and done with
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