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writes:im 15 and a girl who said she was my bestfriend going out with da boy i personally tole her myself i like; nd my dad is in jail; my b/f nd I are on and off, but we know we love each other. my other suppose to be bestfriend spreaded a rumor a/b me. nd i have so many friends and i find it sad that i cant call one of them and just tlk to. either i cant rust them or they just dont understand wat im going through. i just want to be pregnant so when my days go bad nd im feeling down il have my baby right by my side. what should i really do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): your friend probably does not know whats going on in your life right now.so tell him/her.they will stop what ever they are doing to bug you
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): In the future, never tell any of your friends who you like or would want to date, or any ambitions you have in life, that you may be able to keep secret from them, because I've had many, many, many friends, but barely a handful I can truely say I could trust that wouldn't be jealous of me or try to copy or steal what I had. They'll take credit for anything you do, as well, save but a few friends that I could actually trust. Wait and study how each friend interacts and treats other friends and strangers before you get too close, and you'll get really good at knowing by that what the odds will be that they'll mistreat you in certain ways. Have you ever heard of the saying, "Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer"? Well..sometimes you can get really good at spotting who some of your future enemies could be before you give them too much information, and then keep watching out for them, like that saying tells you to, once you've read how they really are. Don't get me wrong..it's really healthy to try to keep some friends around you, but it's even healthier not to feed them information they don't need to know about yourself. With your dad being in jail, try not to judge him, as the justice system has already done so, and try to be there for him, possibly visiting him or sending him letters. I know it's hard to deal with, but at the same time, family can make a positive impact on people and how they feel and act. As far as your bf goes, just try to love each other as best you can, and if you think positively and try to stay together, you won't keep breaking up..but if you start to lose interest or feel he is not right for you, then split for good and don't worry, because there are alot of guys out there who will treat you right and there's always more than one 'right' person for you...the world's full of great people who are perfectly compatible to your interests. Don't sweat the friend thing. You're young yet, and there will be alot better friends for you in the future. It sounds like you're getting alot of the meanest ones first, so it will only get better.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 Getting pregnant and having a baby will only add more troubles to your current state of affairs. It is ill advised to have babies at this time of your life.
You are still young and you need to go out with your friends to have fun.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (14 March 2010):
I am sorry that your dad is in jail and you are going through a difficult time in your life.
Focus on God and keep your hopes and faiths in Him.Pray daily for His strength and grace to help you overcome those obstacles and live one day at a time.
Join a church and get involved with the youth activities.
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (14 March 2010):
 One thing for certain, getting pregnant is going to add a lot more stress to your life. Adolescence can be a time of stress and storm. You are in a transitional period of your life. Changes socially, physically, hormonally, emotionally, even spiritually. all can add to that stress. You and your friends are practicing to be adults. You are going to make some mistakes along the way. Hopefully you will learn from them, and be better people for the experience.
What should you really do? Join a service club like Key Club. Two reasons: First, nothing makes you problems seem smaller than working on someone else' problems. Second You will get to know a better class of teenager. People who volunteer to help others are less selfish and egotistical.
Keep your chin up.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 a baby wont solve your problems will probably make them worse because you wouldnt see your friends as much anyway plus it wouldnt stop people talking.you cant help that your dad is in jail also why is it such a big deal that your friend is going out with someone you like when you have a boyfriend anyway?you just need to accept the fact that people wont consider your feelings and move on dont hold a grudge against your friends otherwise yourl be left with none.also the friend that is making up rumours confront her about them and ask her why she is doing it and try and resolve it by talking to her if that doesnt work then shes a friend not worth having
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (14 March 2010):
 Oh honey! You are all over the place! What is your real question? Is this about your best friend, the guy you like or your dad being in jail? What is the rumor that is being spread by a so called other best friend? If you have people in your life that you can't trust or you can't call - they are not your friends. Your statement "i just want to be pregnant....." is very concerning to me. You are very mixed up about how things work in life. How do you supposed a baby will make your situation any better. In fact it will make it a whole lot worse. Get back to me. We need to talk. I'll listen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): babies add to stress - not take away from it - trust me as a mother of one and one on the way.
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