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writes:Ok, I dated this Girl back in highschool. And of course highschool being what it is in todays world i was cheated on. Well life goes on and here i am.We dated and once she graduated She moved Down state to me. We got engaged, Once she got back in town all her guy "friends" Started talking to her. Mostly exes, Hell even the guy she cheated on me with. I Told her to drop these friends, because they didnt give a damn about her. They are all single and they dont talk to her when they have Gf's or Even when she moved with her dad for the last 2.5 years. AFter about a week of fighting She relized they didnt want shit to do with her when she didnt give them ass.Well About a year goes by. Im in college doing my major and she has been waiting for the Airforce to transfer her paperwork from desk one to desk two for almost a year. She moved in with me cuz her mom fucked her over and what not. SHe has another group of friends and because shes a "tom boy" She says she is one of the guys. And heres where the prob begins.First of all shes ALOT better looking then all of her guy friends "Gfs". Shes constantly texting them and talking to them. If we are at the mall shes on the phone with her guy friend. Going to bed at night when i have an exam the next day they call after 12am and she goes into the other room to talk to them. In the morning if i wake her up she bitches at me but is all nice when her friends call int he morn at 7am or even textes them back right away.She never turns the phone off. Im the only man in my family with a chick who is constantly talking to guy "friends". Hell we went out to lunch and a movie and the only time she wasnt texting was between bites, and When i was paying for shit. I've gotten to the point that i want to kick her out and let them take care of her when in fact that wouldnt because they all live with mommy still. I cant enjoy one day without her texting. or one good night kiss without her texting for 30 more mins before she goes to bed.Right now she is more concerned in whats going on in every friends life to give a shit about hers. What can I do?
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 being in a relationship you have to learn to trust her and you need to give her the freedom to be friends with both sexes whether that be more male friends or more female friends.you should tell her that you dont mind her having guy friends but she has to understand that you dont appreciate how much they contact her as it doesnt give you the time you need with her
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 March 2010):
Let's be fair, she did get rid of all those ex's first time around. Now she has new male friends. You can't expect her to get rid of her friends. However, that said, you do need to talk to her, because she does seem to be rather more bothered about all those friends than you. Also, are you sure she loves you, or does she just need a place to stay because she was thrown out by her mother. You don't want to be used.
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reader, Flyguymyeye +, writes (14 March 2010):
Seems you have addressed this and she still continues, you can't stop her having friends, but exes are not friends IMO.
Talk to her again, give one more chance and if it continues get rid.
Or...
Get some girl friends and do the same, nothing like a taste of ones own medicine!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): she doesn't love you. leave her. plane and simple.
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