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writes:Hello every one ,I have some problems with my husband, he doesn't want to come home anymore .We had a big fight, and he left me alone in the house for 2 days and didn't give any phone calls.After that fight, he make me a ticket ,and he want me to go back in my country.He told me that it is his house and I dont have any rights here in USA ,because we were married just for 2 years.He makes me angry , and after that provoc me to beat him,so he can have prove when we get divorce that I am bad and that he is a good person.I don't have anyone here ,just my husband that begin to manipulate me.What I should in this case ,I don't have any proves that he is not a good husband to me and that he make me suffer .I should just live him ,like he want me too?I don't know what to do anymore.Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (14 March 2010):
Go to http://www.uscis.gov. This is the official US government website. Go to the bottom under the heading 'Humanitarian'. Click on 'battered spouses'. That link will give you contact numbers of what to do if you are a foreigner married to a US citizen but you are being abused. The Violence Against Women Act allows an abused foreign spouse to remain in the US on their own petition. So call the helpline numbers listed there and explain your situation for help. You are not the only one so get help. But if you are the one being violent then you can be deported if you were married less than 2 years. If you were being violent and he has never been violent then if you want to remain in the US I suggest you swallow your pride and apologize for your violent behavior then try and fix your marriage.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 if you love him and want to work things out then try and talk to him and tell him that this is not what you want and you want to be in a happy relationship with him.however to me it sounds like he has made up his mind that the marriage is over so maybe you should just move on if you feel he is minipulating you into beating him
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 A person who immigrates to the United States based on a marriage that is less than two years old at the time of his/her admission will receive conditional permanent residence.
If the marriage is still intact at the second anniversary, then the immigrant spouse will receive a full permanent residence.
Meanwhile, if the marriage ends in divorce, then the immigrant spouse will lose his/her immigrant status and become deportable.
Since your marriage is in the second year, even if he divorces you , you don't have to leave the country. He is also liable for your maintenance.
Visit a lawyer to find out your rights.
Being a foreign spouse, one is at the mercy of the husband.
You could try reconciliation or compromise with him . Things are in sixes and sevens now and let the situation cool down first.
http://www.divorcesource.com/NJ/ARTICLES/sliwinski32.html
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 March 2010):
Yes, your husband is trying to manipulate you. So go to a lawyer, find out your rights and take him to court. I think you'll find you do have rights since you are married to him.
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