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writes:I recently started talking to one of my ex boyfriends from when I was younger. Having sex with him always hurt a little, because his penis is very large. It had been a long time since I had sex, I would say about a year, and we had sex yesterday. It was very intense and a little more rough than I was expecting. It sort of hurt the whole time, and because it hurt I was tense and couldn't really relax so because I was so tense, it seemed to hurt more. When we were done, we just went to sleep. I woke up this morning with the most horrible pain I have ever felt down there. It feels like my vagina is swollen and I can sort of feel my heartbeat down there, like everytime blood pumps through. It hurts to sit down, and it slightly burns when I pee. I seem to have more discharge than what would be considered normal, but it doesn't have a strong smell. I have had a yeast infection once before and it doesn't feel like that, so i doubt its a yeast infection. What is going with my body? Could it be that I hadn't had sex in such a long time and then had really rough sex with a very large penis? Could his penis have created small rippings in my vagina? What should I do???
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reader, Gypsii +, writes (28 November 2008):
The female vagina is only about 6 inches deep so anything that penetrates beyond that is forcing the vagina walls to expand. The guy probably had no idea that you were uncomfortable and often men with large penises who aren't as experienced are oblivious to the fact that some women aren't able to handle large ones. There are of course some women who can only be satisfied with larger men but usually they are accustomed to large penises and themselves have vaginas that are larger and deeper.The vagina can be bruised so more than likely you're bruised. You should take a long soak in a tub, add epsom salts and be sure that the area between the vagina and anus isn't torn. If there's no actually bleeding, you're probably ok...just need some time for the bruising to heal. If you're going to deal with men who have large penises (trust me...they can be wonderful) be sure that they are experienced in how to satisfy a woman. Large men can be absolutely fantastic in bed so don't let this one guy shy you away from them.To health and healing!
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reader, katatonik +, writes (25 November 2008):
 Yes, it could have. His size is probably all it is, in fact...but since you mention unusual discharge you should probably go get it checked out just to be sure.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (25 November 2008):
 Sure, a forceful banging can bruise your privates - and perhaps you are correct that infrequency plays a part. You say that he was "more rough" than you expected. Could it be that this fellow is unconcerned with your well-being as long as he gets his thrills? There are much better men than that available.
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reader, Desired23 +, writes (25 November 2008):
 It could be a combination of a couple different things, you may not have been well lubricated, especially if you were all tensed up. It may have been too much for you too soon. Also I would get a check up and be sure you don't have a yeast infection again or anything that would complicate things further. Hope all goes well for you. :-)
~Des
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (25 November 2008):
 Yes. Sometimes a guy is just too big for you. Bigger is not always better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): As far as you hurting, yes this is normal. You hve not had sex in so long your vagina tightened up a bit and then when you tense up it makes it a little difficult has well. The feeling you felt was your vagina throbbing. Since yo have not done it in a long time along with him having a big penis, you guys probably shouldn't have done it so rough. Hurts to sit down, burns when you pee, vagina throbbing all normal. I'm not too sure about the discharge though but if it is no smell which would be an infection I wouldn't worry about it dear :)
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