Should I cheat on him?
Q. Ok ok I can do this _ SO! This is my first question on a site like this so... If this question is dumb please be gentle.. Sooo I have a boyfriend I love him a lot! The thing is it's long distance and things get a bit... lonely.. He's a total video ...
A. 5 June 2012: Yes, it would be horrible. I don't understand how you can say you love him, but want to cheat on him in the same sentence. I understand people have needs, but people have feelings, too.
Whether or not he would find out is irrelevant. Have you... (read in full...)
He fell in love with my friend's picture, and didn't like the real me!
Q. I have been in a Long Distance Relationship.. for about 2 years now. It's a strange relationship because, I lied..when it began (we met online) I only talked to him to kill boredom. I thought I could shrug him off. Which I did, but he kept coming ...
A. 4 June 2012: He may have fallen in love with your personality, but you lied to him for a long time about something that is VERY important when it comes to online dating. It's important to have a sense of the person you're talking to, and yes, that includes their ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend texts and calls random women, but denies it and gets defensive when caught!
Q. A few months ago, while using my boyfriends phone to make a call I noticed an unregistered, unfamiliar area code number dialed late at night. Later, when I asked my boyfriend about it he said he didn't know what I was talking about and denied it. ...
A. 4 June 2012: You know the truth, so there's no sense in waiting around for him to admit it. Either you're cool with him cheating, or you're not. I'm guessing you're the latter. Just leave... he's not even close to worth your time. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont kiss me, hug me or compliment me, what's wrong?
Q. My boyfriend won't kiss me, hug me, or even touch me. He never compliments me or says anything sweet. I'm really starting to think he's not attracted to me. He tells me a lot how "hot" his celebrity crushes are so i know he doesn't have a problem ...
A. 4 June 2012: It seems to me he just doesn't care one way or the other how you feel. That's no boyfriend, and it's definitely not someone you want to be your boyfriend.
My suggestion is to end the relationship, and move on. He clearly doesn't value you, so ... (read in full...)
I think my husband may be cheating on me again. What should I do?
Q. What do you think of this one? My spouse and I have been having trouble the past 2 years. I found out he cheated on me, a very long time ago with a so called friend. She was passive aggressive with me over the years and when I found out why (aka ...
A. 4 June 2012: What I think is that this man has no respect for you. He cheated on you with a friend, then refused to stop talking to her because she and her husband are "too interconnected to our entire social circle" ???
I'm pretty sure when you've cheated ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps cheating on me, but I can't stop loving him. What should I do?
Q. I have been dating a man for a year and a half. We are together usually every night, I sleep over his place, his family loves me and we say I love you but in Feb I caught him with a girl over his house. One night stand type of thing, we split and ...
A. 4 June 2012: Are commitment and monogamy things you want from a relationship? If so, you're not going to get either from this man. If he was someone you could trust, this wouldn't be an ongoing problem.
He's sorry he got caught, and you've forgiven him befo... (read in full...)
My ex is married, but I'm still interested in him. What should I do?
Q. I dated a guy for short period but lost all contact until recently. he contacted me and tells me he's married (not his decision), but can't forget me. he wants to connect again. we were very good together and i know i'll be just as bad as he is if ...
A. 4 June 2012: He's married. That alone should be enough of a deterrent for you, but it's not. I understand that you have feelings for him, and that he's saying he has feelings for you, but I think what you're contemplating doing is wrong. It may be fun at first ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my fwb, who I'm sure doesn't feel the same. What should I do?
Q. Iv had sex with this girl who was a sort of friend 3 times now. It was only supposed to be no strings sex and it still is for her. problem is i'm falling for her and not sure what i should do. she said at the start that she didn't want a relation...
A. 4 June 2012: I think the best thing for you to do, would be to end your arrangement. Whether or not you tell her why, though, is up to you.
If you continue to see her, and hide your feelings, it is almost inevitable that you will get hurt.
Maybe she fee... (read in full...)
She's a terrible travel partner, how can I avoid spending time with her?
Q. Last year I went on vacation with one of my best friends. It was a nightmare. I already knew she can be a bit self centered and runs on an ego-trip. I don't know why I thought going away would her could ever be a good idea. I bit my tongue during...
A. 23 May 2012: Tell her the truth about why you're no longer interested in traveling with her. If she knows how you feel, that gives her the opportunity to become less impatient and more pleasant to be around.
That being said, I wouldn't travel with her agai... (read in full...)
I love him, but not attracted to b/f anymore
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 years now. Last year we split up for about six months, as I was having serious doubts about our relationship and also - and this is not something I'm proud of - I had a brief fling with a guy I knew, which I ...
A. 23 May 2012: I think this is a classic case of "I love him, but I'm not IN love with him." You've spent 9 years with this man, that's quite a big chunk of your life. He has become a regular part of it, someone you're used to having around as company, a lover, a ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to his wife? Or just break with him? He has lied all the way
Q. I am in a relationship with a married man who is 20 years older to me. We met at work. He got transferred to our office from another branch. Initially we never really spoke much to each other, probably just say a good morning when we would pass by...
A. 23 May 2012: You were used by this man, just as those other 3 women were used by him, and the next women will be used by him. His wife probably has her suspicions, but otherwise is in the dark. He's not going to leave her, and I highly doubt they were ever ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be stuck with somebody?
Q. is it possible to be stuck with somebody? is my question to you guys. ive been with a guy for 5 yrs and we are going no where in life. im getting my life together on my own i just recently got my GED and im 3 classes shy away from getting my a...
A. 23 May 2012: Stuck? No. Hard to leave? Absolutely.
I was with my ex for years. I considered his family my family. He was an alcoholic and I'd put up with it for a long time because I didn't want to leave the family. In the end, I had to do what was best for... (read in full...)
My friends and family believe that this guy is bad news but he makes me happy. What do I do?
Q. I'm pretty sure there is no other position like mine anywhere else in the world. It's so confusing. Me and this guy have been on and off for a while. We were friends with benefits at first but I began to fall in love with him and he did too. We ...
A. 23 May 2012: You should listen to your friends and your family. If they're all saying the same thing, they're seeing something you're not.
My advice is to stop putting out for him, and see how he reacts. If he stops coming around, you have your answer. ... (read in full...)
He's basically said that when I leave in 3 months, our relationship is over. I'm heartbroken!
Q. I met a guy 7months ago whilst on a gap year. He's 8 years older than me and we live near each other back home (about 500km)... We started dating straight away and moved together after 3 months (hasty I know but as we're both here temporar...
A. 23 May 2012: You need to talk to him. From what you wrote, I get the sense that you two haven't talked about continuing your relationship past this period when you're in the same place together. He may feel the same way as you, but isn't sure how you feel. The ... (read in full...)
She cheated twice but I still love her, help!
Q. Hey guys, i need some advice. My girlfriend and i have been together for roughly 2 and half years. We live in the same home town but go to school 5 hours apart. We wanted to make the long distance relationship work. At the beginning of the year it ...
A. 23 May 2012: She's young, she's at college, and she wants to experiment a bit. This is normal, and is the reason many couples decide to break up before leaving for school. If I were you, I wouldn't take her back as she has shown you nothing but disrespect. If ... (read in full...)
Why are girls wearing clothes you can see their butts in?
Q. It is starting to get warm out now and why do a lot of the girls wear their shorts so short? I have seen sport shorts and cutoffs and they all seem to be extemely short, to the point that their cheeks are hanging out. I have also seen dresses that ...
A. 6 May 2012: I too have noticed these extremely short shorts, and really, the only time it has ever bothered me is when the girls wearing them are clearly VERY young... like 13-15 years old, young. Otherwise, I don't much care either way. It's not something I'd ... (read in full...)
Fiance has lost her trust in me because I sext other women
Q. I need some advice, Me and my fiance have been together for nearly 2 years and we have been fine. However, there have been times where for some reason I would sext other women. I can't say for sure why I did it, I just did. When she found out ab...
A. 16 April 2012: You're "sexting" these women because you want to. You're young, and you aren't ready to be in a committed, monogamous relationship.
Your question shouldn't be will she take you back, but SHOULD she? It's clear she is looking for someone who will... (read in full...)
My boyfriend smacks other girls butts and lies about it!
Q. Okay my boyfriend is really sweet but he keeps smacking other girls butts and he lies everytime i bring it up what should i do? I have been going out with him for 5 months and i don't want to lose him. Please answer this...
A. 13 April 2012: You might not want to lose him, but you should!
If my boyfriend was going around groping other women, I would drop-kick him to the curb. There's some things you just don't do, and he's doing them. Respect yourself enough to realize you deserve ... (read in full...)
Why is he starting to act like this when we have been broken up for 4 weeks?
Q. my boyfriend and i of 17 months broke up march 15th we have a 8 month old daughter.... he has been saying he is dating someone we stopped talking and stopped seeing each other i had begged him over and over and over for 3 days i texted him none stop ...
A. 13 April 2012: He's playing you for a fool, and you're letting him do it. First thing you need to do is get this guy out of your house. He's not your boyfriend, he's not your responsibility. Allowing him to sleep with you, to kiss you, to have sex with you... ... (read in full...)
I arranged to go away with husband but now he is hedging about me going!
Q. Several months ago my husband invited me to attend an out of town meeting with him, in another city for a week. He has invited me lots of times because it's like a mini-vacation. I enjoy the hotel gym, the pool, and go shopping while he's in ...
A. 13 April 2012: If he can't be trusted around certain people, I'm pretty sure he can't be trusted at all.
He doesn't want you to go because he wants to be free to do as he pleases, probably with this other woman. You know this, we know this. Don't make excuses ... (read in full...)
Is the "instant spark" that important when first dating?
Q. Hi there:) I've been single for almost a year after coming out of a long relationship, so I thought I'd give online dating a try. I started talking to a nice guy for a few weeks,and we met up for the first time yesterday. I was extremely nervous ...
A. 13 April 2012: I used to think that spark you're talking about was necessary to date someone, and when I stopped feeling it with guys, I got concerned. I'd pass them over for other people, who in turn treated me like garbage, and almost sort of gave up on dating ... (read in full...)
Are there any men they do not use pornography in a relationship?
Q. Are there any men here who don't use pornography in a relationship? I would absolutely love knowing they weren't looking at anyone else. I don't even know why they still do it and thinks it's normal to still look when they are getting sex. Men want ...
A. 12 April 2012: For the most part, people watch porn to get off. No more, no less. It says nothing about their relationship, their feelings towards their partner, or their enjoyment of the sex they have with said partner.
I watch porn, relatively regularl... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I'm turned on by my girlfriend's sex toys?
Q. Hi everyone, I’m just wanting to get a bit of perspective on something, it's not an issue per say, I just wanna make sure I’m not weird in my behaviour. Ok so basically my girlfriend and me have just started living together and she has brought ...
A. 12 April 2012: It's not weird at all! So don't you worry!
You're turned on by your girlfriend's pleasure, what could possibly be wrong with that? I think that's fantastic. Some people like toys, some people don't. Count yourself as someone that does, and keep... (read in full...)
Any thoughts about what's up with her, with us?
Q. In dating this lady for last 8 months that turned romantic after starting two years ago. Lived with her, her invitation with her and her young daughter. Things were going well, but seemed odd to be asked to keep any pda's away from her daughter ...
A. 12 April 2012: I have never seen my father be affectionate with his girlfriend in front of me, on the rare times I've seen her, and I am glad he's happy and has moved on. I'm 25 years old and more than equipped emotionally to deal with it. He's a private person, I ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's daughter is trying to come between us
Q. Hi, I'm 31yrs and I'm dating a man who is 50yrs. We have a great relationship between us but he has 2 daughter one is my age and the other is 2 years younger than me. the older one has no problem with us being together. But the younger one is always ...
A. 12 April 2012: Be honest with him. Tell him what this is doing to you. This isn't you coming between him and his daughter, or him and his grandkids. This is his daughter interfering in your relationship, and using her children against her father. I wont even get ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to get this guy more comitted to dating?
Q. I started talking to a guy back in december from the an online dating site. He is actually a pretty nice guy and the type i would want to date. We went out once in january and it was a pretty good date..we met for a drink and grabbed a bite t...
A. 12 April 2012: I'll be honest, no matter how busy he is... if he was interested, you wouldn't be here.
Short of dropping off the face of the planet, into an alternate dimension with no reception... there's no reason the guy couldn't take a minute out of his d... (read in full...)
How can I ever trust him again after he lied, he even swore on our kids lives!
Q. So I need some advice on if I can ever trust my Fiance again. To start we were having some problems back in October and we decided that we would be together but I went to stay with a friend for a week because I needed some time to sort things out. ...
A. 13 March 2012: I think the question isn't whether or not you can trust him again, but if you should. Sure, you love him, and he's the father of your children. Is that enough for you? Enough to live through the suspicion and the insecurities? Maybe he truly m... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my boyfriend so he can experience the life he wants?
Q. I am 27 and my boyfriend is 22. We've been together a year and a half. Recently we have been arguing because he's starting to feel like he's been missing out on his youth. I've had more partners than him and got to party and enjoy my 20s and he says ...
A. 13 March 2012: I think you should let him go. While you should appreciate his honesty, it's not very respectful of him to say or believe he wouldn't be able to hold himself back with other girls. I think that speaks volumes, and I think you think so as well.
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My current boyfriend wants me to delete FB pictures of my ex and I! Should I do this or not?
Q. My boyfriend feels uncomfortable seeing videos and just a handful of pics on my Facebook page of my ex boyfriend, it's vids and pictures of him and a few if my friends hanging out and normal pictures of me and him.. He's asked me previous times to ...
A. 13 March 2012: It's a reasonable request. It makes your new partner uncomfortable, and rightly so, to see pictures of your ex around... especially with you two as a couple.
If they're something you feel you absolutely NEED to keep, save them and delete them fro... (read in full...)
Would you go back to an ex who cheated on you with your friends?
Q. This question is for the guys out there. Why would you leave someone who treated you right for an ex who has slept with all of your friends and cheated on you? Is it possible that this cheater will change?...
A. 13 March 2012: I do believe people can change. That being said, I think once a person has cheated on you, it's unlikely (but not impossible) that continuing a relationship with them, or coming back together in the future will be something they'll have much success ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mom about my boyfriend?
Q. Ok, well, Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 months. I'm 16 and he is 19. The only time I ever get to see him is when I am with my friend. I've had a bad past with guys and he knows this. But I am scared to tell my mom about having a ...
A. 13 March 2012: My suggestion is to be honest with your mom, and tell her about your boyfriend and the length of time you've been together. Also tell her you were afraid to tell her, and why.
I know you're probably imagining all sorts of horrible reaction... (read in full...)
Why does my friend let her bf harass me?
Q. I have no idea why but ever since I have enrolled in my new school my so-called friend's boyfriend has been extremely rude to me and she lets it happen. He's always trying to get my attention, he takes my books from me, draws ugly pictures of m...
A. 10 March 2012: She's clearly not a friend, and definitely not a good one. What you should do is stop hanging around them. There's no need for a confrontation; she obviously doesn't care much for your friendship, and he obviously doesn't have much respect for her ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has become a possessive maniac!
Q. Dear Cupid,I'm starting to think my boyfriend of 3 years is very possessive.He has just started the same college as me this semester and I thought it would be fun but instead its been hell! First thing, he started getting upset that my female ...
A. 10 March 2012: Good lord, no. That is not even close to normal. Like the poster below me said, get out NOW! He is controlling to a degree that I have never even heard of before this. It is unhealthy, and he has SERIOUS issues that should be looked into. Please, ... (read in full...)
I want to leave abusive spouse but don't want to end up in a shelter!
Q. Hi agony aunts, I'm in need of some help. I am married with three children and I am living with a physically and emotionally abusive spouse. He has cheated on me in the past several times and he said he would change but he has not. I want to leave ...
A. 9 March 2012: What you need to do is figure out what your options are. Staying with him should not be one of them. As much as you don't want your children to experience life in a shelter, do you want them to experience abuse at the hands of their father? It could ... (read in full...)
Do you stay and fight for love? Or if love has gone, should you leave?
Q. I feel like I'm falling out of love with my bf and, as this has never happened to me before, I need advice: do you stay and fight for love? Or if love has gone, should you leave? For background: we've been together 18 months, don't live toget...
A. 9 March 2012: No you do not wait until this feeling passes. I sincerely hope for your sake that it doesn't pass. This man has been unfaithful to you emotionally, and, let's be honest, probably physically. Nothing he has done shows me that he really cares about or ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong because on our 1st official date I turned down giving oral sex?
Q. Dear Cupid, So i've been seeing this guy but not for that long. We've hung out briefly and last night he took me out on an official date. After dinner we left and went to a park to check out the view and went back to the car. He kept asking if I...
A. 9 March 2012: Yuck. Sorry about your luck, girlfriend!
No, you are definitely not wrong for being that way. You are not some object to be used for pleasure by whichever guy has taken you out that night. That is actually really disgusting that he would ask for ... (read in full...)
My bf attacks me about my past, how can I stop him?
Q. Hello all. I've seen a lot of questions here from men who cannot deal with their girlfriend's past, but I'm in at the opposite end of the problem and I need help. I'm sorry this is so long. I have a lot more sexual experience than my boyfriend. I ...
A. 9 March 2012: From your post I get the feeling that you feel the need to justify your actions to us, as well as your boyfriend. I'm here to tell you that not only do you NOT need to do that, you shouldn't do that. At 25, I have quite a number of partners unde... (read in full...)
Is there any way to make sure you fall in love and stay in love?
Q. My on-again-off-again boyfriend is coming over this weekend. We've been "off" for a little less than two months now. My concern is that every time we get together after a few weeks apart, the passion we have for each other is intense. But then over ...
A. 9 March 2012: Short answer - no. There's no way to make sure you fall in love and stay in love. That sort of thing just tends to happen on its own. Now, maintaining the excitement and passion in your relationship is something that you CAN make happen. Relation... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with my currently platonic best friend.
Q. Let me just start by saying how horrible at the dating game I am. I'm a high school senior girl, and I have yet to have a single official relationship or even kiss a boy. I've had plenty of guys like me over the years, and the farthest I've gone is ...
A. 9 March 2012: The first thing I want to say is don't put down the girl he likes. I know you might not see anything special about her, but he does, and she's a human being just like you who deserves respect. Especially because she's such a nice person. The ... (read in full...)
My ex and I kissed and were flirting and we are both with others!
Q. Hello I am very confused at the moment, my ex broke up with me a year ago, and a couple of months ago i found out through FB (he wasn't very careful with his privacy) that he was dating this other girl (much younger) and apparently he wa...
A. 5 January 2012: Would you forgive your boyfriend if he had done the same? Be fair to the poor guy. Tell him the truth and give him the chance to decide for himself whether or not being with you is what he wants, and what's best for him. You said you are, or thought ... (read in full...)
Worried about revealing photo I sent to my friend, I never told my b/f about it
Q. Okay, so to start out... i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. last year, i sent a revealing photo to one of our friends. the picture was really dark and you couldn't really see anything.. thank god. after i sent it i felt extremely bad and i ...
A. 5 January 2012: That depends. Would you be upset if he sent a revealing picture to a friend of his who just so happened to be a girl? My guess is you would. I don't understand why people don't use that reasoning to make decisions while in a relationship.
You d... (read in full...)
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