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anonymous
writes:Okay, so to start out... i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. last year, i sent a revealing photo to one of our friends. the picture was really dark and you couldn't really see anything.. thank god. after i sent it i felt extremely bad and i even texted the guy i sent it to and said just delete it and forget we ever did this. after that night, we forgot it happened and just dropped it. for some reason, it's now eating me alive. i mean, is this really considered cheating? the mutual friend kind of begged for one and i just did it out of impulse. but it was really dark, i told him to just delete it as soon as he got it and we just forgot about it. i haven't told my boyfriend... but i'm feeling rather guilty. on the other hand, i feel like i should just keep quiet because the friend couldn't see the picture and i know what i did was wrong. i haven't done anything like that since. i just meed some advice i guess... do i have the right to feel guilty? should i tell him or is it not really worth losing someone i care so much for? thanks..
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reader, jinxx  +, writes (5 January 2012):
 That depends. Would you be upset if he sent a revealing picture to a friend of his who just so happened to be a girl? My guess is you would. I don't understand why people don't use that reasoning to make decisions while in a relationship.
You did something wrong, and you know that it was wrong. You should feel guilty. Whether or not you tell him is up to you. I'm the sort of person that would, but if the picture never gets out and the guy you sent it to never comes clean to your bf... that would be that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2012): Yes, it is emotional cheating. You know this, and you feel guilty.
To tell, or not to tell. Secrets kill relationships. You can't control what the other party does with that picture.
Honesty is always the best policy, even if the relationship ends because of it, because lying and hiding and sneaking and being afraid are not good for anyone.
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