Too early in the game to ask him to start experimenting in bed?
Q. I have just started dating this guy and things are off to a great start. We've started getting intimate pretty early on in getting to know each other but I've been crossing an idea recently and wonder how he would take it . Even though we a...
A. 11 July 2012: I don't know if it's too early or not, but if you're concerned about that... maybe you could test the water a little bit? Drop a few hints here and there, maybe ask him what some of his fantasies are.
Or while you're in the midst of having s... (read in full...)
My husband gravitates toward the young single women at his work, and I'm not supposed to ask any questions. I need some advice!
Q. I don't how to change the way I feel! My husband works in a large field office with both males and females. Many of the women he works with are just average, married, middle-aged etc. But he gravitates toward the women half his age and those are the ...
A. 11 July 2012: Pepper's right, you do need to turn this around. He almost seems to be enjoying it, doesn't he? But like she said, once you're out enjoying your life and your time, he'll be the one asking the questions. Do treat him the same way as he's been ... (read in full...)
What was he trying to tell me?
Q. Hi, So my boyfriend and I were laying on the couch watching a movie and he got a boner. Before I said anything he put my hand on his shorts to "tell me" he had one. Why did he do that? Just curious as of why, what was he trying to tell me? How B...
A. 11 July 2012: He's trying to get laid. If you're not into that right now, tell him so and ask him to not do that again until you're ready. ... (read in full...)
The guy I broke up with is threatening to harm himself if I don't give him a second chance. What can I do?
Q. I broke up with a guy who didn't treat me right. But when I refused I give him a second chance, he threatened to commit suicide. This is worrying me. I told him we could be friends but he did not want to. And he just went from blaming himself and ...
A. 11 July 2012: Like YouWish said, call his bluff.
I highly doubt he's in the small percentage of people who'd actually take their own life because someone broke up with them. It's far more likely he's simply trying to manipulate you into giving him another ... (read in full...)
I cant get my ex out of my life, what should I do?
Q. hello i split with my boyfriend due to him controlling me and i was no longer happy. i dont live with him and was only together six months. i live with parents and sister. he keeps saying that i ended it cause i wont grow up and leave home and ...
A. 11 July 2012: Like Aunty BimBim said, block his number. Delete it, block it, light it on fire ! Okay, no don't do that... we don't want to waste a perfectly good cell phone. But you get the picture.
Guys like this are notoriously hard to get rid of. It's lik... (read in full...)
Is he just being jealous and protective, or should I be worried?
Q. My boyfriend gets kinda weird when i text other guy friends. It doesn't bother me when he texts his friends that are girls. Is he just being jealous and protective or should I be worried? Thanks!...
A. 11 July 2012: Unless he starts throwing full out tantrums because you're texting your friends, I don't think you need to worry.
A little jealousy is normal, and harmless. As long as he lets it go and gets on with his day and allows you to interact with you... (read in full...)
What can I do to help our relationship get past this?
Q. Me and my husband have been fighting. We have 2 kids and have been married for almost 6 months; but have been together for 2 years. The other day we got into a big fight and it quickly escalated to us yelling, he accidentally pushed me down when he ...
A. 11 July 2012: Look, I've never been in a physically abusive relationship myself, but you have, and you said yourself this is how it starts.
I can't help but wonder if this happens again, will you make the same excuses for him? Because the truth is, there is... (read in full...)
My parent's disapproval has really put a damper on my engagement
Q. Hello All! I am having some difficulties with my parents not approving of my engagement. My fiance and I have been together for 2 years, I am 20, he is 23. We live in our own home, pay our own bills, we are both in college, and are both working ...
A. 11 July 2012: You are young, and your parents probably want you to experience more of life before you settle down. That's what my mom has said to me in the past, anyway.
I'm not one to judge, and honestly, if you feel you are ready to be married now, then go ... (read in full...)
I don't have much self confidence and as I get older its getting worse!
Q. When I was 18, I thought that I was too young for many things. Now that I'm 21, I start to feel that my age is catching up. Soon, I'll be 25, which is quite old to be an air-stewardess. I only have a few years, really. I'm not good-looking and ...
A. 11 July 2012: Confidence, unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on how you look at it) doesn't come from looking good on the outside. And even then, that's subjective to another person's taste. Youth and beauty both fade, so what you're feeling awful about ... (read in full...)
Why do my husband's "friends" always ignore me?
Q. Can someone please explain to me if I'm over reacting here. I have been cool with my husbands female friends and just recently I've had enough. When he talks about them he said they were cool, two of them she said they were "one of the guys cool". ...
A. 11 July 2012: It's strange to me that you two are married with kids and you've never met these friends. Strange indeed.
If they're calling your home and hanging up when you answer, they're immature. They've never met you, and they can't muster up the guts to ... (read in full...)
When drunk my boyfriend constantly checks out other girls. It makes me feel quite insecure
Q. I need help in over coming insecurities. My boyfriend...well sober he is awesome. Drunk he is a complete ass. Im 5'1, I have long wavy red hair, blue eyes and Im overweight (a UK size 22). My boyfriend is 6'1, a brunette and slim, he is ...
A. 11 July 2012: Yes you do need help overcoming your insecurities, and though they do contribute to this problem you are having with your boyfriend... they aren't the cause.
Let me tell you, I am nowhere near perfect looking but I'm relatively secure. We all l... (read in full...)
How do I forget about her past?
Q. Hey guys, So I have been dating this wonderful girl for 3 months and we've talked about our pasts. I lost my virginity to her, but she had sex with 6 guys before me. We're both 16 and I just keep thinking about it. I am going to keep her but I don't ...
A. 11 July 2012: You're going to "keep" her? Is she one to be kept?
Well, you have 2 options.
1) Let it go. This isn't something either of you can change, and you should appreciate that she was honest with you. Believe me, a lot of people in her position wou... (read in full...)
I want to spend time with my girlfriend minus her friends. How do I tell her?
Q. Hey everyone i really need your help. How do i go about tellin my girlfriend that i want to spend some time alone with her? Everytime we talk or try and spend some time together her friends always have to tag along even when we do not invite them. ...
A. 11 July 2012: Tell her you'd like to spend time alone with her, without her friends there. Just like that. It's not unreasonable that you'd like to... I mean, she is your girlfriend after all !
I'm sure she'll understand and wont be offended, and the same goe... (read in full...)
When should the topic of sex be brought up in a relationship?
Q. Hi, Im a guy and I have a question for both genders. Im a bit inexperience with relationships. When is the topic of sex brought up in a relationship?How long should a relationship be? 3 months? Any ideas?...
A. 11 July 2012: I think it differs between couples. I usually bring it up relatively early, because I'm not one for waiting and if either one of us has any issues/questions for the other person, I like to get those out of the way.
Mind you, talking about se... (read in full...)
What's a good birthday gift to give when in a new relationship?
Q. I just started dating this wonderful woman last fall. She is British, but in the USA for graduate school. Our relationship was just starting to get a little bit serious (though no "L" word yet) when the school year ended and she went back to Engla...
A. 11 July 2012: I think flowers and a card are your best bet.
You're right... lingerie would be too forward at this point, and it's too soon for jewelery.
Just get in contact with a florist where she lives and have them delivered. It's a nice, sweet gest... (read in full...)
Would you stay if your b/f cheated and said he wanted to change?
Q. If your boyfriend cheated on you. Said he was sorry and wanted to get help becasue he felt so bad hurting you. And he started going to coucneling to talk about these issues and solve them. would you stay? would you believe he wanted to change? would ...
A. 11 July 2012: I do believe people can be genuinely sorry, and make an honest effort to change. People make mistakes, and while some are worse than others, if they know what they've done is wrong and work hard to make up for it... I think it's possible to come ... (read in full...)
He says he isn't cheating, and I want to believe him, but I don't. What do you think?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years, we have always been happy until recently... i discovered a text on his phone from a girl saying "hey are you missing me, it was good with drinks the other night, u wanna meet wednesday, wat you doin...
A. 6 July 2012: The fact that he was so quick to delete the message and the number speaks volumes. If it were a joke his co-worker played on him, or a message from a person he really didn't know... why would he do that?
He is giving you a lot of excuses.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I want to adopt, but friends and family are against gays' raising children. Advise please?
Q. Hi Im a gay woman who is in a very healthy relationship of 3 years and recently I have became really broody and would like to adopt in the near future with my girlfriend, we have discussed children before and she also would like to have them one...
A. 6 July 2012: You are an adult. If you want children with your partner, and you're emotionally and financially ready and able to adopt, why on earth wouldn't you? If your friends and family are against you having a family of your own... well... that says a lot ... (read in full...)
I'm very jealous of girls around my boyfriend
Q. Hello all, I'm in a bit of a pickle. I have a problem with getting unnecessarily jealous of girls around my boyfriend. The girls I worry about most ARE ones who he has had feelings for in the past, or ones who have actively made efforts to break ...
A. 5 July 2012: First of all, stop putting yourself down like that! What makes you think you're not good enough for him?
Your insecurity will drive him away unless you deal with it. That is a reality. We all have insecure moments, some more than others, and it's... (read in full...)
Boyfriend mentally abusive because he cannot forget my escort past
Q. This situation is extremely complicated, but here goes. I am currently teetering on the verge of insanity due to an extremely psychologically, and emotionally abusive relationship with a man who cannot forget my past as an escort. I met this man...
A. 5 July 2012: Look, you did what you had to do. You are a single parent, and you had to provide for your child. You'll get no judgement from me. Nor do I believe you should be getting it from someone else, especially a boyfriend who you made a point of being ... (read in full...)
The man of my dreams has turned into a monster! Why do I always end up with abusive men?
Q. My partner of two years is moulding me to nothing. Where do i start.. The 1st year things were great i got sweet phone calls and txts and when he would come home he would tell me just how perfect i was he was perfect i had a constant smile on my ...
A. 5 July 2012: Sinful nailed it. It is absolutely the way you carry yourself, and what you'll let them get away with.
Some people see a nice person, or an insecure person, and they jump on it! You've been taken advantage of, and you have become his doormat.... (read in full...)
Should I Reconcile With My Emotionally Abusive EX?
Q. I really need advice as I've backed myself into a corner. I recently broke up with my boyfriend after I realized he'd been emotionally abusing me, lying to me, cheated (via email and asking for a girls number at a bar) and one time pushing me ...
A. 5 July 2012: There's a reason he's being super nice to you, and it's not a genuine one. What has gone on between you two was too far, and you made the right decision to get out. Your friends are understandably angry - I imagine they were there for you throughout ... (read in full...)
Is is it ok to ask a guy out while he's still dating someone else?
Q. Hi there. Okay, I've been texting this guy my friend is setting me up with, but the guy already has a girlfriend. I do really like him, and my question is is it ok to ask a guy out while he's still dating someone else. Their relationship is rocky ac...
A. 5 July 2012: No, it's not okay. I think you already know that, though, and that's why you're here asking us.
It doesn't matter if they have the best or worst relationship in the world, he's still taken and what's going on here isn't right. If that doesn't ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to this, or are my feelings atleast a little justified?
Q. My boyfriend of three years has recently downloaded pictures of naked women to his phone. We live together and have a child together so privacy is not the issue here, and I was not intentionally snooping on his phone. He had taken a picture of our s...
A. 5 July 2012: It's one thing for a guy to look at porn, and I guess in a way that's what he's doing here, but does he really need pictures on his phone? It would bother me too. That seems a little more "personal" than looking at porn on a computer.
You s... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is below average, so - does size really matter?
Q. Here's the deal. My boyfriend (whom I love very much and plan on spending my life with) is on the small size. And by small size...I mean a good deal below average (both in length and girth). And I realize that this probably shouldn't bother me, but ...
A. 28 June 2012: So, you've never had sex with him before... but your being less aroused is a problem for you? I don't get it!
Pills don't work, and suggesting he take some would be extremely hurtful. Let's cross that off the list.
Buy a sex toy? Well, if yo... (read in full...)
How do I find a boyfriend who doesn't use porn?
Q. Hi everyone, I am deadset on finding a boyfriend who doesn't use porn when in a relationship, my problem is how will I know? In what way could i find this information out? If i tell them i dont like it they will hide it from me or tell me they don't ...
A. 28 June 2012: I'm sure there are some men out there who don't watch porn, but realistically speaking... you have a better chance of being lied to about it than actually being with someone who doesn't watch it.
Why is it such an issue for you? Is it jealousy... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too sensitive, and I'm tired of being so cautious around him !
Q. This is a very weird question...and I've been trying to write this properly since ages but I just can't seem to find the right words. So please bear with me! My boyfriend lives abroad and works in shifts. He can only call me when he's on a break,...
A. 28 June 2012: Oops! That was me. I apologize! I will see if I can find a way to fix this.... (read in full...)
I discovered my boyfriend cheating on me!
Q. Hi everyone... I want to know your opinion about my situation. I've had a boyfriend for 4 years. He has always been loving and sensitive, but since last year he has had a strange behaviour, he is more emotionally detached and I've began to think he ...
A. 28 June 2012: You have a right to know what's been going on, and what his reasons are for it. If you want to know, and want to try to fix your relationship and move forward, together, you two should have a talk.
There's a chance he may not be honest with you... (read in full...)
If I am resigned to a lousy love life but otherwise a good relationship is that worth hanging onto?
Q. Dear Aunts, I am more in love with my current girlfriend of 5 years than I have been with any other woman, but she is a sexual dead fish. She does not enjoy sex with me and she won't work with me to improve it. Quite frankly, I think she i...
A. 28 June 2012: You're only resigned to a lousy love life if you decide sexual compatibility isn't important to you, and that you would gladly live your life with very little sex in it.
If that's what you decide, then yes! You are resigned to it.
I am on... (read in full...)
Should we break up?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 5 months, and we are in a committed relationship. I have always believed in him and trusted him, But, my trust in him is disintegrating. He asked me a question through text, whether I have thought about bre...
A. 19 June 2012: I'm all for honesty in a relationship, but some things you just don't need to hear or know. No matter how gorgeous you are, there is always going to be someone who is better looking. Or smarter. Or funnier, etc. That's something we already know, but ... (read in full...)
Should I just forget about this guy, and move on?
Q. I have been with this guy for 7 years, i bought a house for us to live in which went great for the first 3 years, then his parents bought him a house which he eventually moved into his kids never speak to me , he spends all holidays with his family ...
A. 19 June 2012: Well, that depends.
Are you happy to spend your days going back and forth with this man? Can you live (happily) with your suspicions, and finding him on dating sites? Is it okay with you that his children never speak to you?
Personally, I... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is stressed and acting like he wants nothing to do with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 10 months. 4 have been long distance because he got a real good job out of state and moved, and I stayed where I am for now. The last week and a half he has been real distant. He is trying to buy a house and ...
A. 19 June 2012: I don't think how he's acting has anything to do with you. When my boyfriend switched jobs, he hated the new one at first. He was withdrawn and miserable, and not really very affectionate at all. It drove me NUTS, and after I talked to him, he let ... (read in full...)
Is this considered cheating? Help!
Q. Hi, Need help. Is this considered cheating? My fiance and I are 3 months away from the BIG day. I'm 29 and he's 38. Never married and no kids. We're having a coed bechalor/bechalorette party in Las Vegas. We're best friends so we figured i...
A. 19 June 2012: It is absolutely considered cheating, so don't doubt it for a second. His logic makes no sense whatsoever. I really don't think you could ask for a bigger red flag than the one you're getting right now!
And the fact that he actually argued w... (read in full...)
Why do his comments about my friend give me a pang of jealousy?
Q. Hi, not sure if i,m reading too much into my boyfriends comments and could do with other peoples opinions. We have been with each other for 2 years very happy and in love. He is always complimenting me and telling me he loves me. A few times now, in ...
A. 19 June 2012: Well, I think if it bothers you it is worth talking to him about it. I believe I'd feel a bit jealous as well if my boyfriend were saying these things about a friend of mine, even if it were a joke. I feel it's inappropriate, but that is just my ... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex for 2 years and then I had sex with an ugly girl, why would I do this?
Q. So I'm in my 20s and I haven't had sex in 2 years. Then this girl I haven't talked to in awhile wants to have sex with me. She's fat, smelly and has an ugly face and yet I still had sex with her. I did not enjoy it, I just sat there letting her do ...
A. 18 June 2012: I'm not sure if this is someone trolling or not, but if it isn't... I'd say she was the unlucky one in this situation, not you! ... (read in full...)
My mom hates my boyfriend, and I'm not sure how to deal with it!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for four months now. After dating for one month, we planned a weekend trip. However it didn't work out because my mom was furious when she found out we were going on a trip alone. For that reason she still hates ...
A. 18 June 2012: You're legally an adult, and are fully capable of making your own decisions. If your boyfriend treats you well, and you're happy, then you're in a good spot. It seems fair for me to assume he's not the problem here, so I'll go ahead and do that.
... (read in full...)
My bf and I argue all the time now, and I am feeling more attracted to his best friend! What should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years but I feel so far apart from him, he goes to college halfway across the country so is only back for summer and the odd weekends. When ever we are together we just argue, disagree and spe...
A. 18 June 2012: I think the main issue here is your unhappiness with your boyfriend. That needs to be addressed before anything else. You said yourself that you're only 18, and I will leave it up to you whether or not you agree that he'd be the best you could ever ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife that I cheated on her once?
Q. I need advice on an age old question. To tell or not to tell. I cheated on my wife one time. After 1 year of marriage. I felt horrible and vowed to never do it again. Promised myself I'd make up for it by being an amazing husband. And I have been....
A. 18 June 2012: Your cheating isn't excused by the fact that you think she may have cheated. Why you brought that up in the first place is beyond me.
Anyway, yes you should tell her. She has a right to know, and the right to decide whether or not you're the kind... (read in full...)
I finally managed to get out of an unhappy relationship, so why am I missing him so much? Should I call him?
Q. Yesterday, I broke up with my boyfriend. After 2.5 years I just had enough. He never kissed, hugged me, asked about my day. He never made an effort to talk to me. I had fallen out of love. I admit for the first 2 years I did everything he asked ...
A. 6 June 2012: You did the right thing. You're hurting and missing him because you've been with him for so long. He became a part of your life, and now you're missing his presence. His PRESENCE, not him. He treated you horribly and was incredibly disrespectful. I ... (read in full...)
I feel attracted to other women!
Q. Hi, I am a 24 year old male and been in a relationship for 3 years and 6 months now already with the same woman and I have never cheated on her before. She has cheated on me a twice before so I have this feeling she will always do it again, and on...
A. 6 June 2012: It's normal to be attracted to other people. You're not doing anything wrong by being attracted to them. In fact, I'd go as far as to say you can't help it. That being said, it's not normal (or nice) to act on it when you're in a relationship. You ... (read in full...)
Should I cheat on him?
Q. Ok ok I can do this _ SO! This is my first question on a site like this so... If this question is dumb please be gentle.. Sooo I have a boyfriend I love him a lot! The thing is it's long distance and things get a bit... lonely.. He's a total video ...
A. 5 June 2012: Yes, it would be horrible. I don't understand how you can say you love him, but want to cheat on him in the same sentence. I understand people have needs, but people have feelings, too.
Whether or not he would find out is irrelevant. Have you... (read in full...)
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