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writes:My girlfriend of four years has dumped me, i hurt bsadly and have spent 8 weeks either crying or fighting back tears. My question is does the first love always hurt this much or do you miss that great loving feeling forever? I loved her like i've never loved before and i am not a young kid. Do we love again? is it different with someone else? Am i heart broken just because this is my one and only lesbian relationship after being straight for 36 years?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): We do love again! It's like a candy store out there. It will take you 18 months or more, and you will start getting over him. Just don't get bitter.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (19 February 2009):
 I'm sorry that you're suffering so much.
I went through something similar, and I didn't think I would ever love again.
This lady at my church (who is a friend of mine) says that you can love someone else just as intensely, but it will be a different experience... I can't see it objectively but that's what friends are for.
I hope you feel better.
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reader, jay12toes  +, writes (19 February 2009):
 i will never forget my first love, and how torn up i was when she left me, but i found someone that loves me and that i love more then i ever loved my first. apart of me will always love them both, which shows that there is always room to love again and to love more deeply then you ever thought possible.
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reader, eocalla +, writes (19 February 2009):
These sort of feelings are unbearably painful and seem VERY hopeless but you have to just hang on and push through. Life is ever changing and when it does so in a manner that makes us feel like our whole world has been torn apart it can be agonizing.
In these situations I tell myself that I need to accept the things I can not change, have courage to change the things I can, and have the wisdom to know the difference between the two.
Have faith that you will find the person you belong with and remember to take baby steps.
Just hang on one day at a time. One day at a time. If you can focus and get through just today instead of worrying about the rest of your life, the burden is lightened.
I hope that you can get through this.
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