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writes:I'm 17 years old and in a fwb relationship with my ex, who has now become one of my best friends. he calls me almost every night and we see each other as often as we can, and most of the time its just to hang out and talk, not to have sex. in the past he has hurt me many times, but i feel like after all this time he has changed. He said he didnt realise what an asshole he had become and he spoke to a psychiatrist for a while and i saw his attitude towards me and everyone else to slowly change.my friends have recently found out about the fwb scenario, and most of them are just saying that hes using me, doesnt really care about me and that im rather slutty for doing this. from my outlook, i dont see fwb as such a bad thing and i dont see it as him using me, as arent i just doing the same thing with him? i dont want to have a serious relationship because my previous one was with this ex, and it was just an emotional roller coaster ride that i wasnt ready for. recently this guy has asked me to be with him again in a relationship. i feel like if i say yes it will be different this time but im still so confused with what to do because i dont want to get hurt again, and at the same time im worried that my friends may be right in saying that hes just using me to be with someone, and if i stay being fwb with him, they'll think less of me. advice please?
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reader, jay12toes  +, writes (24 January 2009):
 Can you trust him? do you really believe hes changed? do you really want to be in a seriouse relationship with him? you need to think about these things. just completely forget about what your friends might think and decide if its really what you want.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (24 January 2009):
This is make or break for you and your ex.
You can't stay FWB if he wants more as it's not fair on him. You can't be his best mate for the same reason. he will want more and you have to let him go away and get over you.
You have to decide whether to give him another go... or to let him go altogether and be single.
If you see him every day and are having sex with him then you are basically his girlfriend anyway. You just haven't labelled it. What would change if you agreed to be his girlfriend again?
But then if you are only 17 then why tie yourself into a serious relationship that you already have doubts about?
Good Luck!! xx
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