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I stumbled across this website. I am not sure how to be honest, but I am here now. I am still living life and if what I have lived through can help others I may be inclined to offer my two pennies.
I am an American Expat living in Europe. I would like to think of myself as a rational free thinker or Pearlist (Physical Evidence and Reasoned Logic) and happen not believe in any form of a god/goddess. I hope I can help and do good for this community as it seems a very good outlet for people.
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Do I tell my best friend her boyfriend slept with a prostitute?
Q. I have a small problem, I just found out my best friends boyfriend slept with a hooker. What should I do. If I tell my best friend, She will think I am trying to split them up (as I was not happy with getting together in the first place). If I don't ...
A. 13 October 2008: Even though she has a lot of tears to cry you may have saved her from a disease.
You are a true friend, no matter if she knows it yet or not.... (read in full...)
Age difference - I need your advice please!
Q. I'm 13, And I'm in love with a 21 year old guy. I know it sounds really stupid, but please hold off the lecture until what I'm writing is comepletely read. I KNOW the guy, He's been my best friend (We're gamer geeks) For two years, and just ...
A. 13 October 2008: Just a side note to Flynn, I met my husband through a MMORPG (Mass Media Online Role Play Game). Times have changed, places to meet have change, but the people haven't. I didn't anticipate I was going to marry a man who sold me Goblin armor, but ... (read in full...)
Age difference - I need your advice please!
Q. I'm 13, And I'm in love with a 21 year old guy. I know it sounds really stupid, but please hold off the lecture until what I'm writing is comepletely read. I KNOW the guy, He's been my best friend (We're gamer geeks) For two years, and just ...
A. 13 October 2008: Are you not 13? Yes. Does he not think you are 16? Yes. Then you have lied.
I think you need to realise you did lie to him. He thinks you are 16 not 13. Ok? so no matter if you have tried to tell him, you havent and you started a relation... (read in full...)
Age difference - I need your advice please!
Q. I'm 13, And I'm in love with a 21 year old guy. I know it sounds really stupid, but please hold off the lecture until what I'm writing is comepletely read. I KNOW the guy, He's been my best friend (We're gamer geeks) For two years, and just ...
A. 13 October 2008: OK I am going to spare you the lecture and just get down to the nitty gritty. If you ever at any point have sex with this man it is ILLEGAL!
You are 13 and he is 21. If you slept with this man, even though he may not know your true age, when he ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my best friend her boyfriend slept with a prostitute?
Q. I have a small problem, I just found out my best friends boyfriend slept with a hooker. What should I do. If I tell my best friend, She will think I am trying to split them up (as I was not happy with getting together in the first place). If I don't ...
A. 12 October 2008: Let me put it this way, If you dont tell her a thing and she catches a disease from her partner who is sleeping with a prostitue, how well would you be able to live with yourself?
Its not just how angery or not angry she will be with you, it is he... (read in full...)
Why does she keep picking my spots??
Q. I've been seeing this hot chick for a while and we love each other to bits. However, she keeps scratching my spots off and it really hurts. I keep asking her to stop but she won't. What's wrong with her?...
A. 12 October 2008: Ok, this is generally from a womans perspective, because I do this to my husband and he does it to me. For us its a very strong impulse to do it. We will do it on ourselves as well. People who pick their own spots will want to pick their partners ... (read in full...)
I have as great husband who trusted me with my coworker and "friend" - however we ended up having an affair which ended but we're tempted to restart it!...
Q. First I'll tell you about my husband - he is a wonderful husband and father. He goes above and beyond to ensure that our family is properly taken care of. He is trusting. He is not controlling, abusive or demanding. He absolutely loves me and ...
A. 11 October 2008: Sweety I think you need to work on your marriage. Both you and your husband have done the dirty. Try wiping the slate clean, talk to your husband, get counsling spend time with him to ignite passion back into your relationship so that no amount of ... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to be jealous?
Q. The other day my boyfriend of a year in a half, ask me to go to the movies with him and his two new female friends. I didnt really want to go because I already felt jealous and insecure that these girls were cool with my boyfriend (i know it sounds ...
A. 11 October 2008: I have to agree with Fade.
I dont believe you at all had the right to be jealous. He is trying to make friends and introduce you to them so you guys can all hang out together. Be social and have a grea time out and show his new friends what a w... (read in full...)
Can my boyfriend have lots of female friends without it being something more?
Q. Can men and women really be friends only? My boyfriend has a lot of close female friends. I am always suspicious when he hangs out with them alone. These one-on-one dates between him and his female friends take place at least once or sometimes twice ...
A. 10 October 2008: Yes, Men can have female friends who are purely platonic. It doesn't mater if you think they are beautiful because they might not be what your boyfriend considers girlfriend material. You on the other hand obviously are.
Is all he is doing go... (read in full...)
Why do I regret NOT sleeping with this guy after knowing him and his friends for 10 seconds?
Q. Well I know this might seem daft but I went out on Sunday with a friend, call her *T* and we went out as we do, met up with some other people, walked into town, hung out for a bit and stuff, had a good night, and then we walked back up to T's and I ...
A. 8 October 2008: Count yourself lucky this was not a sob story. It had all the hallmarks of a really terrible end. You were alone, got into a car with not one, not two, but three men you didn't know who handed you a beverage. On top of that your friend had walke... (read in full...)
If my ex is not the real father, is it wrong to have a relationship with him?
Q. i was with my ex boyfriend for a year and 7 months. i broke up with him because my mom doesnt approove of his age, since he is 24 and im only 17. i immediatly got into another relationship, and accidently got pregnent. i am now 4 months pregnent...
A. 14 September 2008: Nope. As long as he knows he is not the father and you were honest with him and he still wants to be there with you there is no problem.
But you guys being in the US shouldn't be having sex as you are still 17. However his actions may show to ... (read in full...)
What is so sexy or unique about anal sex? The idea disgusts me! Should I try it?
Q. Hi uncles and aunts. Lets cut to the chase... I wanna know what is so sexy or unique about anal sex! More than just once, my bf has been moving to my back site before i could lead him to the correct one. Lol! Sometimes i think he'd be doing that ...
A. 11 September 2008: If you are ot comfortable with it you do not have to do it. It can be very pleasurable for a woman, contrast to what eyeswideopen has said, I also speak for myself. There are more nerve endings in the anus and if I am realxed enough it feels very ... (read in full...)
His sister moved in with us and strained our relationship. Can it be saved?
Q. My boyfriend of almost 2 years and I bought a house together 4 months ago. Things were going really well for us when we decided to do it. We are both in our early 30's and we have both been married and are now divorced. The problem started when ...
A. 13 August 2008: Love is not always peaches an cream with rose picnics. Everyone has sides to their partner they dont care for. Its whether or not you can still love your partner dispite the flaws.
If in your heart you are already half gone this is a tell tale sig... (read in full...)
Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.
Q. Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...
A. 13 August 2008: congrats on the baby!... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken and a doormat when it comes to my ex. What can I do?
Q. I dont really know where to start, im just heartbroken and I need to talk to someone...so here goes Me and my ex have been on and off for about 10 years (im 28 hes 31), we have had about 4 breakups in that time, mainly because he wants to be sing...
A. 3 August 2008: Please find some self worth. I know that sounds very harsh but you are worth more then you are giving yourself. This man is preying on you low self esteem and very large heart. Dont let him and find someone that will apprecaite you for having so ... (read in full...)
Why won't by boyfriend tell his ex about us? He got her pregnant!
Q. my boyfriend got his ex girlfriend pregnant while we were together i forgave him his son is now 6 months old and he goes to her house to see him..he says he doesnt want to tell his ex-girlfriend about us because she hates me and wont let him see his ...
A. 3 August 2008: Without knowing who you boyfriend is there are two possibilities and this cold be a potentially delicate issue.
1. Your parenter could be in total fear that his ex could try and keep his child away from him and is one of the reasons he is keeping ... (read in full...)
She is a bit of a shy person and supports sex after marriage! I am exactly the opposite!
Q. I am in a confused state of my mind regarding my girlfriend.. We were friends from college but chose different universities in different cities to stay in...so we have always been in a long distance relationship..but v hve been together for 4 years ...
A. 31 July 2008: She has her reasons and that is simply that. This is completely her decision and you should respect she does not have the same view as you. If you care about her and truely love her you will not try and push her. Whether you do or do not understand ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy and sick for thinking my boyfriend is getting off with my kid's underwear?
Q. Hello I am very disturbed right now and need to get some feed back. Maybe I am crazy. I have been dating this guy for almost three years. Certain times I get the feeling that he has a sick sexual side. Besides the fact that we have major issues a...
A. 29 July 2008: I am really happy for you and so happy you didn't wait either. You are very strong and this will only ever lead you to greater happiness in the future.
I am so happy that you found this site too. This is why i think this site is such a great ou... (read in full...)
How can I get over the effects of prior sexual abuse?
Q. Hi. I have just found out that a guy who i met on holiday sexually abused (unwanted touching, comments etc.) i didnt know it was abuse until a recent event. since then my flashblacks have occured more often, and my reaction is much higher ...
A. 28 July 2008: Hello Tasha, This is absolutely awful what has happened to you. The best thing to help you overcome what has happened to you is to talk to someone either your mother, father, or if you dont want them to know, abuse helpline like childline (0800 ... (read in full...)
How can I do exercises to make myself tighter?
Q. i just have a question i was just wondering how can i do a kegel exercise you know to tighten my vagina muscles and can i become tighter inside my lips in my vagina on the inside you know the vagina part there isa lot of skin sagging i guess you ...
A. 27 July 2008: Ok there isn't much you can do about that skin except maybe plastic surgery(female circumcision) to remove or trim that area. As for tightening yourself the best method is to imagine if you were peeing and just use the muscles you would use to... (read in full...)
How can I gain weight in a healthy way?
Q. Hi I need help. I'm underweight according to BMI calculations (i'm 5'7'' and 102 lbs.) I'm skinny, but not to the point where you can see any bones, and I'm filled out in all the right places, so I don't get how I'm underweight. I have tried ...
A. 25 July 2008: The best way to gain weight, or even to lose it, s to count your calories. Your normal intake is about 2000 calories to run all your bodies functions. Now from the sounds of it you have a high matabolism which is a good thing.
Now all you have to ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy and sick for thinking my boyfriend is getting off with my kid's underwear?
Q. Hello I am very disturbed right now and need to get some feed back. Maybe I am crazy. I have been dating this guy for almost three years. Certain times I get the feeling that he has a sick sexual side. Besides the fact that we have major issues a...
A. 25 July 2008: Run away from this now. If you even suspect your partner is doing something odd like this you have to let him go even without outright proof. You must protect your children at all costs even at the expense of your own happiness, because I tell you ... (read in full...)
Separated from my wife; she's recently met an old boyfriend and told me it's over, I'm in turmoil!
Q. My wife and I spilt up last october. but i sort professional help for my problems and i became a changed man. for the last 9 months we bonded back again still separated but loving each other very much. bonded too with our 2 children. her parents ...
A. 24 July 2008: Hello Kel,
Iam very impressed by your decision to try and work through the issues with your wife and looked for proffesional help to salvage a marriage, but the truth of the matter is she does have every right to think of herself in this situatio... (read in full...)
My ex husband hangs around a lot lately and his habit to interrupt others while they are talking has only accentuated!
Q. Hi there. I have just a simple question. My ex-husband hangs around a lot still and lately, I can't have a conversatin AT ALL without him interrupting me. Anything I talk about and even when I'm on the phone with somebody, he interrupts me to ...
A. 24 July 2008: Um. I hate to sound intrusive but why exactly is your ex hanging around? Do you have children or are you just now civil people who can be friends?
He may just be asserting his comfort level out on you that you aren't comfortable with. At some poi... (read in full...)
Could this have made me pregnant?
Q. im 15 years old and recently did some things with my boyfreind basically he gave himself pleasure then imdiatly afterwards put the same fingers inside of me.since then iv been feeling very peculiar, unusally bloated (fat) and tender nipples. it is ...
A. 24 July 2008: You can get pregnant by this method. This has happened to a family member before so you may want to take a test.
We know she hadn't had sex either because when the doctor examined her, her hymen was still intact. That then had to be broken u... (read in full...)
Poll question for women: do you like oral and would you like your partner more for it?
Q. Do girls like when a guy goes down on them? And would you like your boyfriend more if he did that?...
A. 24 July 2008: yep and no. i love m husband unconditionally!!... (read in full...)
I've had sex several times and still no pleasant sensations, why?
Q. what is wrong with me? i've had sex about 7 times and i still haven't felt anything good. my boyfriend is on top and i just lay there. we also tried me on top and him behind me but it hurt for some reason. my cherry is popped so that can't have ...
A. 24 July 2008: It may be that you're body may not be ready for this kind of thing. It is not uncommon for girls to NOT experience sex pleasently until thier late teens.
It can also mean that your partner is just not very skilled and is thrusting too deeply w... (read in full...)
What is "talking dirty"?
Q. I have a rather odd question... When people say "talk dirty" (during sex), what does that really entail? Dirty as in gross? Could I get some examples? One of my exes once asked me to, but I had no idea what to say!...
A. 24 July 2008: I agree with Tremor, but it is also about knowing what turns your partner on. If there is something you know will turn your partner on you can easily make that dirty talk to drive him/her.
For example I know my husband loves my breats, so I tend t... (read in full...)
Is it less likely to get pregnant while you're on your period?
Q. ok so me any my boyfriend have been ready for sex. we've done it a few times. i know we're ready so don't even say i'm too young. but anyways, we had sex when i was on my period. he used a ultra thin condom so guess what? it broke. and i don't know ...
A. 24 July 2008: Hello, Now I know you are going to moan at this, but you are too young to be having sex if you can not get every form of birth control to prevent unwanted pregnancy and if you can not deal with the consiquences of pregnancy or are capable of t... (read in full...)
Is our age gap really such a big deal if I'm 23 and she's 16?
Q. Hi, I'm a 23yo male who has just started dating a 16yo female. We both really like each other and she isn't bothered about the age gap so is it ok???...
A. 22 July 2008: 16 is the age of consent here in the UK so it isn't illegal if you slept with her. Relationship wise there is nothing wrong with this at all. If you get on with her and have things in common than nothing should stop you two having a decent ... (read in full...)
Is it a bad idea to get a tattoo of his name? He wants to get one of mine.
Q. my boyfriend and i been 2gether for 3 years and we been living 2gether for 1 of those 3 years. Anyways, we want 2 get married but dont have alot of money and have been saving for the perfect wedding but my boyfriend wants to get my name tattoed on ...
A. 21 July 2008: Tattoos with peoples names on thm should be reserved for children and I 3 MOM. hehe
Seriously names are a bad idea unless the person is 100% always going to a part of your life no matter what. I generally, if I were you, wait till I was married.... (read in full...)
Bush wants to redefine birth control as "abortion", what do you think?
Q. This site seems to have a good cross section of folks from different walks of life, so I wanted to see what people out there think about this. The Bush administration is proposing a redefining of the term "abortion" to include birth control. The ...
A. 21 July 2008: Dear PoliticalyLawful, My name is actually on the screen so I dont know how you can misspell it. On the issue of politics I dont know how serious you are about it and neither do you about me. So there is again another assumption you need to s... (read in full...)
I get criticism for dating a white guy! Will marriage be an issue?
Q. I am an african american female. i am currently dating a white guy who i really seem to like but i get a lot of criticism from friends and family, not really bad things just teasing. His family all love me and they are the coolest people. He makes ...
A. 21 July 2008: Gald to hear it got sorted :)... (read in full...)
People were worried about me. Now I'm geting worried myself. Do I need a psychiatrist?
Q. This is going to sound wierd, but people are concerned about my mental health and to be honest, so am I. I am VERY paranoid, if something happens I DO take it the wrong way every time, so that it ends up like things are against me.I panic easily, ...
A. 20 July 2008: Hello hun, All people go through bouts of low self esteem and become very selfconscience and that is normal, but it shouldn't encompas your life. It is very good that you are even listening to the people around you and are heading their concer... (read in full...)
Bush wants to redefine birth control as "abortion", what do you think?
Q. This site seems to have a good cross section of folks from different walks of life, so I wanted to see what people out there think about this. The Bush administration is proposing a redefining of the term "abortion" to include birth control. The ...
A. 20 July 2008: I am also glad this is a child who stated that and agree that he has still alot of things left to learn.
Dear PoliticalyLawful,
The "Terrorist fist jab" was covered by FOX and if you had read my post I stated I dont only watch CNN as my source... (read in full...)
Bush wants to redefine birth control as "abortion", what do you think?
Q. This site seems to have a good cross section of folks from different walks of life, so I wanted to see what people out there think about this. The Bush administration is proposing a redefining of the term "abortion" to include birth control. The ...
A. 20 July 2008: Dear PoliticalyLawful,
This just shows you how much you actually know and are just making assumptions. Believe it or not I am actually an American Expate and live in Northern Ireland(Northern Ireland falling under the United Kingdom hence the Unio... (read in full...)
I get criticism for dating a white guy! Will marriage be an issue?
Q. I am an african american female. i am currently dating a white guy who i really seem to like but i get a lot of criticism from friends and family, not really bad things just teasing. His family all love me and they are the coolest people. He makes ...
A. 20 July 2008: Sometimes people tease other people about the things they chose or who they chose to be with without actually taking into consideration how it actually makes the person feel. They don't always mean to hurt the person.
It doesn't matter who you ... (read in full...)
Bush wants to redefine birth control as "abortion", what do you think?
Q. This site seems to have a good cross section of folks from different walks of life, so I wanted to see what people out there think about this. The Bush administration is proposing a redefining of the term "abortion" to include birth control. The ...
A. 20 July 2008: The Bush administration are completely retarded.. I am not sorry at all... when it comes to issues like these. I dont understand why they are making their opinions on abortion and birth control legislation. Its ludicrus. Never mind the whole g... (read in full...)
Sex.. is it all right to turn him down during that one week of the month?
Q. im sorry if this is innapropriate but am i right in this? ive been with my boyfriend for just over 8 months now, we started going out in december and we lost our virginities to each other in march. we both felt we were ready and it was the right ...
A. 11 July 2008: If you are not in the mood, your not in the mood. Its as simple as that. There are woman who still want sex on their periods, but they are in the mood. If you are then you aren't and thats all you have to say to your boyfriend. Explain to him w... (read in full...)
Is anybody NOT cheating?
Q. Does anyone know TRUTHFULLY of any couples who have never cheated on their partners of say over 5 years in a relationship. I despair all my friends are saying their partners are cheating not jsut the men women too. Is anyone faithful these days ...
A. 11 July 2008: loads of people arent cheating :)
My mother and father(step) are 100% happy and they have been together for donkeys. Got married 4 weeks after knowing eachother :) My mother and biological father were together for over 6 years before he passed a... (read in full...)
Can there be love BEFORE sex?
Q. Whilst sex is an important part of life can a man fall in love with you before he has had sex or vice versa. I think ive fallen in "love" with a man but we havent had sex-is it possible I havent known him long but I do have these feelings B...
A. 11 July 2008: Very simple answer.. Yes
Infact it is very important, I think, if the two people in question already love and respect eachother because then the sex has meaning. I have spoken to some friend who far prefer sex with a loving partner than with som... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant the first time you have sex?
Q. can females get pregnant when they have sex for the first time? ...
A. 11 July 2008: yes... (read in full...)
Should I stick to my plans to save myself for marriage?
Q. For the past few days, I have had a pretty high/medium sex drive. Currently, I am 17, and I've only had one boyfriend - When I was 14. I'm still a virgin, but I find myself wanting sex. My plans are to save myself for marriage, but lately, I've...
A. 11 July 2008: It is nothing to be ashamed of for the desire to have sex. It is perfectly natural to have these feeling with all your hormones and you blossoming into a lovely woman. I had the same idea when I was about your age that I wanted to save myself for ... (read in full...)
Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.
Q. Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...
A. 29 May 2008: Hello, There is a very good reason why polyandry and polygyny dont work out so well and this is because we as humans are greedy by nature. You are expressing your greed by having two partners while your husband is expressing his greed by wanting... (read in full...)
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