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anonymous
writes:I have a small problem, I just found out my best friends boyfriend slept with a hooker. What should I do. If I tell my best friend, She will think I am trying to split them up (as I was not happy with getting together in the first place). If I don't tell her and she finds out I know, Will she hate me for not saying anything.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (13 October 2008):
 I agree, she may have been saved from a disease. This is unquestionable.
Question: What if the two of them agree to give it another try?
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (13 October 2008):
 Even though she has a lot of tears to cry you may have saved her from a disease.
You are a true friend, no matter if she knows it yet or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk thank you all for your input, I told her today, lots of tears. Not sure how our friendship will hold up but now she knows.
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reader, HonningKanin +, writes (12 October 2008):
Let me put it this way, If you dont tell her a thing and she catches a disease from her partner who is sleeping with a prostitue, how well would you be able to live with yourself?
Its not just how angery or not angry she will be with you, it is her very life that is at risk. Something her boyfriend obviously has no respect or interest in. Do you though?
If you do you need to tell her. She needs to get tested if she has slept with him. Its not simply about not telling her to spare her feelings. Her physical health is at risk with her partners behavior and I think that should be the bigger issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): I know if it was me, I want to be told if my b/f was getting it off with a hooker. But like another poster said, she may already know and may just be sweeping it under the carpet. If I was you, I still go and ahead and tell her
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (12 October 2008):
 If you're positive that he actually did, then tell her. If she doesn't believe you and is willing to put him first, she's not worth having as a friend.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (12 October 2008):
Good question. Your friend can get upset whether you tell her or not, and you don't know what the best course of action can be. In these kind of situations, I have found that most of the time the people prefer NOT to be told. It's not that they don't appreciate the information, but they very much resent the fact that someone else knows things they would rather keep very private.
In the real world, quite often people are unaware of their partners straying, but sometimes they do know that happens and your revealing it makes them uncomfortable because they can no longer sweep the problem under the rug.
I think it's best if you don't say a word.
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