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I stumbled across this website. I am not sure how to be honest, but I am here now. I am still living life and if what I have lived through can help others I may be inclined to offer my two pennies.
I am an American Expat living in Europe. I would like to think of myself as a rational free thinker or Pearlist (Physical Evidence and Reasoned Logic) and happen not believe in any form of a god/goddess. I hope I can help and do good for this community as it seems a very good outlet for people.
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Married woman about to cheat with another woman, hubby doesn't know
Q. I have always been bi-sexual, but preferred men. I met my husband 6 years ago and it has been truly great, however he started a new career and is very involved in it, I am so happy for this new step in his life, although he does come home everyday ...
A. 12 November 2009: "eatin aint cheatin"? What looney tune gave you that motto?
Would you like it if you husband just ate out a girl or even in your position, lets say he was buy, and just gave head to guys. I am guessing by the way you phrase "(I have to fend off... (read in full...)
I can't have children due to PCOS. Please advise!
Q. Hi, I'm a 21 year old married female that can't have kids due to pcos... I have looked into adoption agencies but they are all so expensive. I really wanted to have children and now I am really beginning to become depressed because I can't have ...
A. 12 November 2009: If you yourself cannot have children, usually the line to go down is either adoption or seragacy. Both of which will cost money.
Seragacy is attractive to many people because the child has the opportunity to be blood related to the parents ... (read in full...)
Does a man NEED sex to be healthy?
Q. Want to know if a man can do without sex and be healthy?...
A. 11 November 2009: Physically, yes, but Some studies suggest that they also live shorter lives. It could be at higher risk for things like stress, stomach ulsers and prostate cancer believe it or not.
Mentally, yes, but it has to be something they utterly desire. ... (read in full...)
We fell in love on the internet and want to meet. Any advice?
Q. i've known this guy for 3/4 months and we are in love with each other and would do anything for each other. But there is only one problem. we met on the internet and we live so far away. were in the same country but about 10 hours away from ...
A. 11 November 2009: Well like I said, get the parents talking. When two pairs of over protective parents talk, they tend to chill out when they find out the other person have caring parents who also just want the best. My first date with a guy was supervised by my ... (read in full...)
HOw can I control my urge to have a baby?
Q. Im 16 years old and i want a baby! i have previously been pregnant two times and miscarried both, which left me very emotional. i have always wanted to have kids but over the past 6months i have wanted one more and more and it can get emotiona...
A. 10 November 2009: Female biology is strong and the urge to breed is the most basic in our behaviour. In your case it is even worse because the chemicals released leave your body on "care mode." And with nothing to care you become confused, angry, depressed and ... (read in full...)
We fell in love on the internet and want to meet. Any advice?
Q. i've known this guy for 3/4 months and we are in love with each other and would do anything for each other. But there is only one problem. we met on the internet and we live so far away. were in the same country but about 10 hours away from ...
A. 10 November 2009: Ok, what exactly would you have to lose by letting your parents know? I am assuming that even if the relationship were to progress he would have to meet your parents at some stage. Are you worried they will dissapprove because of how you two met and ... (read in full...)
We fell in love on the internet and want to meet. Any advice?
Q. i've known this guy for 3/4 months and we are in love with each other and would do anything for each other. But there is only one problem. we met on the internet and we live so far away. were in the same country but about 10 hours away from ...
A. 10 November 2009: I have a question you neglected to post up. How old is he? Personally, I am not about to knock you for feeling as though you have fallen in love on the internet because I know I did. And I am not about to knock you by saying what you are feeling ... (read in full...)
Is this an online romance or am I over-reacting?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 7 years, but been together since we were teens. Only been with each other. She is very conservative and not at all into cheating ever. Very honest and pure. A Christian. Recently, she started playing an onli...
A. 10 November 2009: Well from what you have wrote I would be inclined to say you have to trust her to "do the right thing." This involves how you feel. You can either be comfortable with her having her fun or you can ask her to stop to make you feel better. Either one ... (read in full...)
Will we be able to last?
Q. heres the scenario.. we are both 16, in highschool, met when we were 14, have been dating for almost two years, i switched to a different highschool and we've been fine. I believe we are in love, we never have the stupid problems all of our f...
A. 8 November 2009: YOu sound very smart for your age. You have hopes, but you are also realistic and not overtly blinded by it and are looking for something, anything, for anyone to tell you it will be alright. That your worries are for nothing. I am sorry sweety. No ... (read in full...)
My wife is not able to conceive and is under huge pressure...
Q. I love my wife a lot .. its been 5 years since we are married tried every option possible right up to IVF...but its not working.. The worst part is my wife is now getting very disturbed by the fact that she is yet to conceive. all our commo...
A. 7 November 2009: If IVF has not worked and after five years of trying, its time the both of you test your goods. Meaning both of you need to go to the doctor to test your sperm and her womb. It could be you are shooting blanks or they are not moving and it could be ... (read in full...)
Could my two friends be having a secret affair?
Q. I'm not sure why I'm writing this but here goes. At college, I know this girl and to me it looks like this girl likes other girls. I know this sounds stupid but I'm not sure if it's in my head or if it's true. This girl (the main one-lets call her ...
A. 5 November 2009: I second Quiet echo. Nothin here shows anything difinitive and even if they were having a sexual affair, its their business and none of yours. Its a case of Person A having a conversation with B so C your way out of it.... (read in full...)
Could my two friends be having a secret affair?
Q. I'm not sure why I'm writing this but here goes. At college, I know this girl and to me it looks like this girl likes other girls. I know this sounds stupid but I'm not sure if it's in my head or if it's true. This girl (the main one-lets call her ...
A. 4 November 2009: They might and they might not. Um, why should it matter to you? You would be thrid party to whatever is going on between them.... (read in full...)
Is this incest?
Q. Ok, Im 19.. I have a 21 year old sister who has a boyfriend at the age of 35.. He has a nephew at the same age as me! We have been talking for a while and my sister found out and her and her boyfriend tried to set us up... My sister an her bo...
A. 2 November 2009: No. This is not even close to the definition of incest. Incest generally has to be an actual blood relative or first law marriage relative(like a step brother or sister).
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To cheat or not to cheat? Can mongamy really exist?
Q. Monogamy - can it REALLY exist - or is it natural to struggle with this? I'm asking this question because it seems like everyone cheats. On a marriage, in a relationship, etc. And if they don't it's usually because they "don't want to hurt" th...
A. 2 November 2009: Do you consider a hug cheating? You only feel like you cheated because you were sexually attracted. However all you did was hug. You resisted for the sake of your boyfriend. I personally dont think you need to tell him. It will just make him feel ... (read in full...)
I'll keep it short:
Q. will i ever be loved...
A. 2 November 2009: Maybe.
How long is a piece of string?
You ask a question without giving us a definition of it. Do you mean romantic love or loved in general by family and friends?(If family and friends then yes)
I am leaning to romantic love in which c... (read in full...)
I'll keep it short:
Q. will i ever be loved...
A. 2 November 2009: Maybe.
How long is a piece of string?
You ask a question without giving us a definition of it. Do you mean romantic love or loved in general by family and friends?(If family and friends then yes)
I am leaning to romantic love in which c... (read in full...)
What has happened to the world?
Q. What has happened to the world...children having sex at the age of 14? They can't be emotionally prepared for all the stuff they will go through....
A. 2 November 2009: I Have to partially agree and disagree with the anon poster. Yes, kids were incouraged to grow up and grow up fast because of different factors like, life expectancy and family income. If you were a large family supported just by the father, you ... (read in full...)
How can I resist the urge to cheat again?
Q. I really need some help Im a married wowman and have cheated even had an affair. It is not my personality to mess around. I have to admit I do miss the rush I used to get. It was always exciting to me to meet someone new. I feel guilty for feeling ...
A. 2 November 2009: I think that was a little harsh of an answer.
No it wasn't to be honest. It was rather a disection of your behavior and covering of corner for you to ask yourself and things for you to digest. If it struck a nerve with you that would be your issu... (read in full...)
What has happened to the world?
Q. What has happened to the world...children having sex at the age of 14? They can't be emotionally prepared for all the stuff they will go through....
A. 1 November 2009: Um, through out human history 14 year olds have been having sex. There are african tribes and even arabic people to modern Romanian Gipsies who marry their daughters off to men and boys. Sometimes of the same age.
Remember Romeo and Juliet? ... (read in full...)
How can I resist the urge to cheat again?
Q. I really need some help Im a married wowman and have cheated even had an affair. It is not my personality to mess around. I have to admit I do miss the rush I used to get. It was always exciting to me to meet someone new. I feel guilty for feeling ...
A. 1 November 2009: Oh boy, this is a very big problem indeed. You no longer feel loved and desired by your husband and you miss the rush and excitment of "new" relationships. Scientists studying this would suggest your behaviour is a prime example of how people are ... (read in full...)
We live together and I have no place to go...how do I end it?
Q. How do I break up with someone that I live with? My boyfriend and I have been together for thwo years now. I think he's a great person but I no longer want to be with him. I know I should just go, but as we live together, and I don't have anywh...
A. 1 November 2009: Slowly. I would start to tell your partner about your feelings. Firstly you would want to move out of the bedroom, maybe onto the sofa so that you dont have to pretend to be his girlfriend any more.
After the move from the bedroom, try and keep... (read in full...)
Mistreated sexually in a shop! What should I have done?
Q. I went to a shop the other week somewhere in Northwest England (not saying where), was looking at buying some new electronics for my husband, and asked a saleswoman for advice. She then asked me to come over to her desk, to discuss it, which I did, ...
A. 1 November 2009: After getting over the shock of her stirpping down to her undergarments I would have rated her out of a 10 point system and put a fiver in her bra.
Joking aside this seems rather odd for a sales person to do. I can only imagine it could have bee... (read in full...)
To cheat or not to cheat? Can mongamy really exist?
Q. Monogamy - can it REALLY exist - or is it natural to struggle with this? I'm asking this question because it seems like everyone cheats. On a marriage, in a relationship, etc. And if they don't it's usually because they "don't want to hurt" th...
A. 1 November 2009: Your questions
1) an "open marriage/relationship" (99 percent certain that my current BF won't agree to that).
Like I said. You have to figure out what works for you and what you want the most. We are highly social creatures and have the cap... (read in full...)
Should I tell my best friend I cheated with her boyfriend?
Q. I am 20 years old the other night my bestfriends boyfiend Matt called me wanted to know if i wanted to come over to his and my bestfriend Dawns apartment. He told me she would be home in about 15 to 20 mins. so i agreed. well to make a long story ...
A. 1 November 2009: I really dont know how people make their lives so complicated to be quite honest.
Ok, you have been with your bestfriends boyfriend. I realise you said you have liked him for 8 years so I am sure the temptation factor was huge.
You have 2 op... (read in full...)
At 16 I'm Pregnant with my teacher's child
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster is in a vulnerable situation, aunts DO NOT give nasty or negative advice PLEASE!!! Oh my God!Even me myself don't know what to do. I'm 16 years old.For the past year,since I started high school(it's the way in Macedonia-from 15...
A. 31 October 2009: Ok. The first thing I went to look up was the age of consent in Macedonia. It is 16. Legally he will not be marked as a pedophile. However he will, as you already know, most likely be fired from his job and marked to not work with children ever ... (read in full...)
Should privacy still be allowed even although you're married?
Q. My spouse and I are at odd ends! I want to know if it is wrong of me to not give my spouse my email password. I have been told time and again that when you are married your not allowed to have personal email's or anything that is not disclosed. My ...
A. 31 October 2009: I did not know this before until after my answer, but this is her question
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/am-i-unreasonable-to-ask-to-see-his.html
Apparently he has had affairs.
My post is more relevent to people who haven't had an affai... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable to ask to see his email.
Q. My spouse has in the recent past had an affair. He hides his income He tells me that it is none of my business. i have no access to, or knowledge of his income. He tells me that it is not my business who he knows or what he does, and that i just ...
A. 31 October 2009: Peppie you have an email.... (read in full...)
Should privacy still be allowed even although you're married?
Q. My spouse and I are at odd ends! I want to know if it is wrong of me to not give my spouse my email password. I have been told time and again that when you are married your not allowed to have personal email's or anything that is not disclosed. My ...
A. 31 October 2009: I agree with Gerta that this will leave a bitter taste in your wifes mouth and possibly feel there is somethng you are hidding rather than desire for personal privacy.
You and your wife clearly need to work out boundries. She may feel that she... (read in full...)
How do females get labeled?
Q. hey ok question most girls seem to think because your not having sex guys wouldnt call u a slut...or any sexual preference of any kind... is there anythi ng else females can do that they can get labeles as a slut?...
A. 30 October 2009: You know when I was in school I loved the power of turning the tables. It was pretty easy and far to hard to wiggle out of since the other person was using such an easy tactic to downgrade.
If I ever was called a slut by a guy, especially when he ... (read in full...)
On the second date would you rather be asked before he kissed you, or just kissed?
Q. Hi, this question's to the ladies. Imagine you were out on your second date and the guy wanted to kiss u. Would u prefer it if he looked into your eyes and asked "would u mind if i kissed u?" and kissed u only if u said 'yes' or would u prefer it if ...
A. 30 October 2009: Actually I just remembered of a funny story my friend told me when she was dating a classmate of ours. They had been flirting for weeks and at the end of official date number three, when she was saying good-bye to him and had already stepped foot on ... (read in full...)
Why wont he make love to me?
Q. why wont he make love to me? my partner of 3 months wont or cant make love to me. he is 36, im 23 and without sounding pig headed im a good looking slim girl. I never turn him away. when we first met it was every night and day, now when i try to ...
A. 30 October 2009: Well, He has told you exactly whats up. Either you take what he says to heart or you think he is lieing.
I can tell you though that if he is not lieing, he may have commitment intamacy issues that have not been resolved from his last relation... (read in full...)
On the second date would you rather be asked before he kissed you, or just kissed?
Q. Hi, this question's to the ladies. Imagine you were out on your second date and the guy wanted to kiss u. Would u prefer it if he looked into your eyes and asked "would u mind if i kissed u?" and kissed u only if u said 'yes' or would u prefer it if ...
A. 30 October 2009: Oh that is wholely up to preference. There is no right answer and you have to be comfortable lol. Things that also add to that sort of decision is whether or not you are really into the guy, if the mood was right and location, location, location.
... (read in full...)
My 17 year old daughter hasn't had her period. Any advice?
Q. I have a 17 year old daughter that has not started her period. I have taken her to several doctors. Does anyone have advice or information on this subject?...
A. 30 October 2009: There needs to be more information here because otherwise we are just making blind stabs in the dark.
What have the doctors said?
As for reasons why a girl can have a delayed period could be genetics, she could have been born without ovaries ... (read in full...)
B/f thinks its weak to say he misses me
Q. dear cupid me n my bf have been seeing each other for almost 9months. he seems cold to me, we dont talk to each other every day, not even a text! he told me once that he thinks it is weak to tell me he misses me! i am a flight attendant, he as...
A. 30 October 2009: Well if you have told him and made your intentions clear, if he is ignoring you that would be his answer of rejection of you desire for him to open up.
It is then your decision now if you can accept his cold postirior or not. Possibly you telling ... (read in full...)
B/f thinks its weak to say he misses me
Q. dear cupid me n my bf have been seeing each other for almost 9months. he seems cold to me, we dont talk to each other every day, not even a text! he told me once that he thinks it is weak to tell me he misses me! i am a flight attendant, he as...
A. 29 October 2009: Well I have to say it can be due to his upbringing. I know that in some cultures it is not masculine to indulge in emotions. Emotions would be seen as the domain of the woman and it does make it hard for women to read men. However its not to say he ... (read in full...)
To cheat or not to cheat? Can mongamy really exist?
Q. Monogamy - can it REALLY exist - or is it natural to struggle with this? I'm asking this question because it seems like everyone cheats. On a marriage, in a relationship, etc. And if they don't it's usually because they "don't want to hurt" th...
A. 29 October 2009: Well, my husband and I have pretty much had this conversation as well. Not that I have strayed and I have full trust he hasn't. I have no proof he hasn't, so thats what the trust is there for and I am not going to worry about it unless there is ... (read in full...)
Why won't she give me head? She doesn't realise we guys need these things!
Q. So my girlfriend and I started out having sex all the time. Lately we have stopped doing it, like once every 2 months. She said she's scared and i respect that. She used to give me head also, but now she completely hates it. I do everything for ...
A. 28 October 2009: I am going to ask you to read what you have just wrote to us. There are a few things in there that I find rather disturbing and for different reasons.
Lets start with the first thing I found rather odd. "She used to give me head also, but now she ... (read in full...)
How often do girls fantasize about their boyfriends?
Q. Ok this is a serious question. Im just curious here...... I, being a guy can honestly say I fantisize sexualy about my girl friend every day. I am not a sex pig. I am very considerate and a caring bf. I am just curious.... how often do you girls ...
A. 28 October 2009: I am married and believe it or not I fantasizes about him pretty much all the time. When he is not with me I fantasize and when he is with me I still fantasize, but my fantasies have more chances of becoming reality :D
My sex drive is super hi... (read in full...)
Can online romance be real?
Q. Hi everybody. I just want to ask you guys question. Do you guys believe in online love? I met this guy who have same birthday,same satuition about pass relationship and almost everything are same.We chat on the internet for couple times. Yesterday ...
A. 28 October 2009: I married my online love. I met him through a computer game and before anyone asks "Was it WoW?" Lol no it wasn't, but it was a MMORPG.
I fell inlove with him online, and Yos puts it, I rationalised it probably was the image in my head I was inlo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends make fun of me for my beliefs and he always takes their side!
Q. My bf's friends put me down for my Christian values and beliefs. They always make fun of me and put me down. My bf doesnt say anything to them. He lets them get away with it. In fact, he basically defends them and takes their side!!! He says ...
A. 27 October 2009: Why are you with him?
Even as an atheist, his behaviour stinks. He should be able to take into consideration your feelings and if you are having difficulty with his friends then he should step up to the plate to bat for you. That is just how it w... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I are 14, we want to have a baby, any opinions?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are deeply in love and want to have a baby. Were 14...
A. 27 October 2009: Yeah, bad idea. I am 24 and I am still not ready to have a baby. At 14 you are still in school, still alot to see and learn. A baby will stop you from doing alot of things you wish to do. You will always be financially strapped to the little one and ... (read in full...)
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