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Hello,

I stumbled across this website. I am not sure how to be honest, but I am here now. I am still living life and if what I have lived through can help others I may be inclined to offer my two pennies.

I am an American Expat living in Europe. I would like to think of myself as a rational free thinker or Pearlist (Physical Evidence and Reasoned Logic) and happen not believe in any form of a god/goddess. I hope I can help and do good for this community as it seems a very good outlet for people.

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Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.

Q.   Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...

A.   13 August 2008: congrats on the baby!... (read in full...)

Should I stick to my plans to save myself for marriage?

Q.   For the past few days, I have had a pretty high/medium sex drive. Currently, I am 17, and I've only had one boyfriend - When I was 14. I'm still a virgin, but I find myself wanting sex. My plans are to save myself for marriage, but lately, I've...

A.   11 July 2008: It is nothing to be ashamed of for the desire to have sex. It is perfectly natural to have these feeling with all your hormones and you blossoming into a lovely woman. I had the same idea when I was about your age that I wanted to save myself for ... (read in full...)

Married for a year and I don't understand why I am so miserable.

Q.   I am 22 years old and been married a year. My husband is a great man, the type or man that i am beyond lucky to have. i don't understand why im miserable then. I moved away from my home town, and met this man 6 months after i moved. i do love him...

A.   9 July 2008: Hello hun, I think you are suffering from an issue of low self esteem and maybe just a pinch of furstration. I think you do realize what it is you have and I seriously think you will regret leaving such a relatonship 5 years down the line. ... (read in full...)

My husband caught me cheating for the third time. I can't help it. Would I be better "swinging" or with an open relationship?

Q.   my husband has caught me cheating for the third time. i really love my husband but i cheat regularly. often an attractive man hits on me and i just can't resist and i am in bed with him. i explained this to my husband and i told him that i ...

A.   8 July 2008: OK I am going to put this very bluntly. You are using your husbands understanding to continue a very destructive behaviour. You stated for 10 years you were able to sleep with whom ever you chosed, but the fact of the matter is you sign away those ... (read in full...)

I want my ex back, but she says I 'scare' her!

Q.   Its been a year and a half since i split up with my ex who im still in love with. I realised i couldnt be without her and tried to get her back but she was very confused and possibly shocked at my revelation. she text me the next morning to reveal t...

A.   7 July 2008: It really depends how you word the letter. If you keep it friendly and sincerely apologetic without any instigation for her to get in touch wit you, meaning she wont feel pressured and doesn't feel like this is a beg, then shewill receive it quiet ... (read in full...)

I want to get my nose pierced. Could anyone advise me where to go?

Q.   hi eveyone ,i know this site is about relationships but i was wondering if i could ask a question about nose piercings.im 15 and i want to get my nose pierced,i live in thornton heath and i was wondering whether anyone knows a good nose piercing ...

A.   7 July 2008: Hey there. Um I think the best place to look up for any type of piercings or body are is a tattoo parlour. Just open up your phone book and look for tattoo parlours and ring them up and ask if they do body art like nose piercings and how much it ... (read in full...)

I feel like I can't get out of this abusive relationship! Help!

Q.   I'm in a situation that I feel like I can not get out of. I'm living with my boyfriend of five years and we have two young babies together. I don't want to be with him anymore because he drinks, and when he drinks he becomes very voilent. He beat ...

A.   7 July 2008: I am very sorry to hear about your situation. I know that when it comes to children its only a matter of time before the affect of the violence can be seen in them. I am glad you see this as an unhealthy relationship that you need to eject you and ... (read in full...)

My ex and I are talking again and still have feelings for each other, but he still talks to other girls...

Q.   my ex and I are talking again we've been dating 4yrs now and we recently started talking again we've had alot of arguments and rough times i'm 20 and he's 28 right now we're trying to work at things but he's still talking to other girls aswell as i ...

A.   7 July 2008: I think he does care and pretty clear. I think that is a very big sign that he wants you around him and is trying to get into your good graces. Question is... Do you want him? Or are you more content as friends? In the end you are going to just ha... (read in full...)

I'm not very fond of my aunt and I don't know if it's wrong to feel this way!

Q.   Have any of you ever felt like so far away from a family member,like emotionally? Well,a couple of days ago,my grandma told my mom that her aunt(my great aunt),had asked about her. My mom's not exactly fond of her. My mom told me in the car yest...

A.   7 July 2008: Its not wrong for you to feel this way. To be honest anything in regards to your aunt seem to be in the negative save from your mothers once good term relationship. Plus you have never had an opportunity, nor want an opportunity, to know who your ... (read in full...)

I want my ex back, but she says I 'scare' her!

Q.   Its been a year and a half since i split up with my ex who im still in love with. I realised i couldnt be without her and tried to get her back but she was very confused and possibly shocked at my revelation. she text me the next morning to reveal t...

A.   7 July 2008: You know when a girl says "you scare me" its not always due to the fact that she thinks you are crazy or phsycopathic. It may just be do to the fact that when it comes to the idea of you she feels scared emotionally of getting back together and ... (read in full...)

My ex and I are talking again and still have feelings for each other, but he still talks to other girls...

Q.   my ex and I are talking again we've been dating 4yrs now and we recently started talking again we've had alot of arguments and rough times i'm 20 and he's 28 right now we're trying to work at things but he's still talking to other girls aswell as i ...

A.   7 July 2008: OK. Everyone has a right to both male and female friends. There is absolutely nothing wrong with him talking to other girls especially if you guys are not an item. Even if you were I think you would still have a problem with him talking to other ... (read in full...)

I have equal feelings for the both of them at this point. Who should I be with?

Q.   Dear Cupid, Here is my story. I just recently broke up with my ex of 2 years. He mistreated me so I started to talk to this other guy at work. This other man just had a kid, maybe not even 2 months ago. When we first started talking he had t...

A.   7 July 2008: Your emotions are running very high at the minute and to be honest yu do have every right to feel the way you do about both your ex and your new partner. I think you should give your new partner the benefit of the doubt that he truely has sincerel... (read in full...)

I was sleeping with my boss, we broke up, I miss him, but my friends will disown me if I get back with him

Q.   I have a slight issue in that recently I have been sleeping with my ex-boss who I used to work with. Doesn't sound too bad yet, however he is eleven years older than me (I'm 18), many of the people at work hated him, my best friend basically ignored ...

A.   7 July 2008: When it comes to "friends" who are dissaproving I know how difficult it can be to deal with them. It isn't fair to let them run your life. Friends and family can be a part of your life, but ultimately all of them cannot run your life and in the end ... (read in full...)

After I worked so hard to keep our relationship together-he tells me he wants to break up!

Q.   I've been in relationship with my boyfriend for now 2years.. I'm 17 and he is 18, everything was perfect till the last 6 months when we started to row and things like that..he said it is because he didn't know if he loved me anymore, because i ...

A.   6 July 2008: Atleast he was honest with you. Its very sad to see that he isn't willing to commite the same way you are, but the truth of the matter is he feels too young to be tied down. He very bluntly said what he wants and you cannot stop him from doing what ... (read in full...)

How do porn stars last so long?

Q.   I watch porn and I was wondering.. how do they last that long? They can't all use Viagra can they? What's there secret?...

A.   4 July 2008: practice... (read in full...)

Why hasn't he called for three days!

Q.   I know this is a sily question, especially for a woman over 30, but I have been seeing a man for two weeks now, we get on really well and have been out four times. On Friday, which is the last time we went out as he has been away for work since ...

A.   3 July 2008: I dont think there is a speed limit on relationships. Some are too fast for some peoples tastes some are too slow for some peoples taste, but that is all subject to opinion and everyone is different. As for him not texting you or not calling ... (read in full...)

Have any of you met your soulmate whilst with someone else...but can't be with them...how did you deal with it?

Q.   Have any of you out there met someone, who's not the person you're with at the moment, who you thought was your soulmate and you his/hers, but for reasons beyond your control, can't be with that person right now. How did you deal with it? ...

A.   3 July 2008: Hello, Whilst I didn't meet my husband while I was my partner, I had just left a relationship of 4 years and still living with him until he found his own place. So in a sense I was still slightly stuck so in a way I understand how you feel. ... (read in full...)

I have not been asked out and I don't believe in this idea that women should take the initiative! Thus?

Q.   I seem to be having a very strange time finding a man. Well, obviously you are everywhere, but its one that is attracted to me. I'm a pretty, confident girl, yet no man has ever looked twice at me. If they are they don't approach me. I don't believe ...

A.   23 June 2008: Is it that you dont believe in taking the first step because you think thats a mans role or is it that you really are frightened of the concept of rejection so much you wont even try. I hate to tell you this, but this isn't the Victorian era and ... (read in full...)

I find myself panicking about being in a long-term relationship...

Q.   My bf and I had our first anniversary about a week ago, and now we've been together for a year I find myself freaking out about being in a long-term relationship. I feel guilty every time he touches me and I can't look him in the eye. What's going ...

A.   18 June 2008: There may be very many reasons why you are feeling this way and without any background knowledge into your personality or your previous relationships, I could never accurately pinpoint why it is you feel the way you do. All you can really do is take ... (read in full...)

They make fun of me because I don't share their vice... is this not childish?

Q.   everyone makes fun of me because i dont smoke weed,do you think thats childish?...

A.   6 June 2008: I admire you and wish there were more people like you. It is very childish of them making fun of you. They are on the end of "It wont hurt, cant hurt, isn't hurting cause i am having fun" and are probably annoyed that you can have fun without it. ... (read in full...)

Do I cheat on my wife now that she cant have sex for medical reasons?

Q.   DEAR CUPID I AM MARRIED FOR 15 YEARS MY WIFE HAD AN OPERATION ON HER BACK AND NOW SHE DOES NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX SHE HAS LOST HER DRIVE BUT I AM STILL VERY RANDY. DO I SLEEP AROUND ON HER AND NOT SAY ANYTHING.SHE DOES NOT WANT ANY SEX ANYMORE PLEASE ...

A.   31 May 2008: Are you actually serious? You actually want to sleep around on her? What kind of husband would you be honestly if you did that? Have you tried maybe finding ways to bring back her drive? Talk to her about it. I doubt having surgery on her back and... (read in full...)

Inflamed lip on vagina, what could this be?

Q.   Anyone please help, I've noticed that I have an immflammed right flap on my vagina. I've had unprotected sex with my boyfriend because I'm on the pill but he is clean I think. What could this be? Please help I'm really worried.!! Thanks....

A.   30 May 2008: This is thrush. You will need to go to the doctor to receive antibiotics for it. Try not to scratch it even though you may have the urge too.... (read in full...)

I met my GF 6 years ago and to this day she is unaware of my real age!

Q.   alright i have been with my girlfriend for 6 years,problem is when we met she was 20 and i was 14 but i told her i was 16 it was still young but not as bad i knew if told her my real age she wouldn't take a second look at me.im now 18 and she's ...

A.   30 May 2008: Heh you sound like my friend Julies boyfriend. Same age and everything. From what heppened with them he finally came clean to her and even though she got mad she got over it. Just tell her the truth. :) be prepared for her to get mad though!... (read in full...)

Why does my girlfriend role play?

Q.   This may seem like an odd question but it deals with the relationship I am in. My question is, why do people Role play? More specifically online role playing with other people. My girlfriend does it like routine every night and she always seems...

A.   29 May 2008: I play role play games. I met my husband through and MMORPG actually. There was a big society(clan) meet up in London and we met each other person to person the first time like that but the first time we ever talked was through the game. Hones... (read in full...)

22 years later: is it the love or the pain?

Q.   i am haunted by a ex i had 22 years ago. i still feel hurt when i think about her and how it went down. she was the 2nd girl i ever slept with (i was 18 at the time, she was 16) and the first real regular sexual relationship i ever had. i was in a ...

A.   29 May 2008: She is the one that got away. Plain and simple. ... (read in full...)

I'm 15, he's 25, is it illegal if I am with him?

Q.   hello i just wonderd if u could giv me some advice really i lyk this boy and hes older than me well hes older than 25 and im 15 i jst wonderd is it illegal if i am with him?? and do u think its right?? wb x ...

A.   29 May 2008: Thats not a boy thats a man and yes its very illegal to have a sexual relationship with him. He can go to jail in America for rape. To have a non-sexual relationship it is not illegal, but you will have alot of bad attention from people around y... (read in full...)

I cheated… Now what???

Q.   I cheated on my boyfriend last weekend, I was completely drunk out of my mind, not that that is an excuse. Needless to say the guy I cheated on my boyfriend of a year is our friend and was over for dinner the night before we had a party. I ended up ...

A.   29 May 2008: He is hurting. He is hurt and wants you to feel hurt as much as he does. He wants to make you feel horrible for the hurt you caused him, but deep inside he really doesn't want to be doing it. Its a childish thing to do if you supposidly have ... (read in full...)

Am I throwing away a friendship to prove a lie?

Q.   I dont know what to do ! im feeling pretty low right now. I feel like im about to lose something i could of had, because of my friends. me and my friend wre talking in a conversation on msn. She thought i liked this boy that i have been talking ...

A.   29 May 2008: Hun its a bit silly to to not talk to a guy just cause you told your friend you wouldn't. Even if you did lie about it it shouldn't matter. If you do talk to this boy again and your friend confronts you just say to her.. So? I didn't want to admit... (read in full...)

Commitment? What is it really?

Q.   We are often advised to commit ourselves 100% to any activity or relationship we undertake so that we can get as much out of it as possible and have no regrets. Some people also say commitment doesn't necessarily mean forever. So what does this ...

A.   29 May 2008: I really like your question. It honestly makes me think about the choices I made in my life to try and help you and frankly I cant give you a 100% definition of what commitment is because in this lifetime we have the option of going through infinate ... (read in full...)

I never have an orgasm. Is he really having one?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have now been having sex for about two months. Each time he cums but i never have an orgasm. Is there anyways to help this, as i enjoy it but i want to orgasm. does it help the guy if i orgasm? Also is cuming a guys orgasm a...

A.   29 May 2008: Some men dont make noises when they climax as do some women. I know myself when I reach climax I dont make a sound I just breath very deeply and then it becomes shallow. Generally thats my husbands cue that I am done and he can now climax when he ... (read in full...)

"Yipee my son is going to be a womaniser". Why do they talk like that?

Q.   Why is it i constantly hear women with young male children, speaking to another woman. OOOH he's a proper lad he's going to be a bit of a one with the women, then a beaming smile. Like whats this all about? Yipee my son is going to be a womaniser?...

A.   29 May 2008: They are just proud to have an attractive son. I dont think they would actually aprove of them sleeping around.... (read in full...)

Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.

Q.   Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...

A.   29 May 2008: Hello, There is a very good reason why polyandry and polygyny dont work out so well and this is because we as humans are greedy by nature. You are expressing your greed by having two partners while your husband is expressing his greed by wanting... (read in full...)

In my case, I hope curiosity doesn't kill my pussy......cat.

Q.   Just out of curiosity, please tell me if what I'm feeling is normal. I'm 51, by the way. This past year I've been feeling so very horny, I mean, I want sex all the time!! The slightest thing seems to turn me on. It could be triggered by som...

A.   29 May 2008: I dont personally thinks its unusual. I generally am more sexually charged than my Husband, but when He isn't there i generally do masturbate to relieve myself. I actually thought I was a nympho until my doctor told me nymphomania arent people w... (read in full...)

What are your opinions or funny stories about 69ing?

Q.   i would like to hear your opinions about 69ing with somebody. like if you like it or not? or if you have any funny or interesting stories about it!!! please write them if you have any!!!...

A.   29 May 2008: :) i really enjoy 69ing The only thing i would say was possibly funny was this one time with my husban. I had these old pair of jeans and they just were beat. Had holes in them ect, but very very comfortable. One day weekend when I went roun... (read in full...)

How do you get over being used and abused?

Q.   How do you get over being used and abused? Ive had two serious relationships and both were abusive- mentally/emotionally, verbally, sexually and on the way to physical abuse, but they both ended before the physical abuse got too bad. I feel so ...

A.   27 May 2008: I think you need some time to discover your self to love yourself again because I am getting a good degree of low self-esteem from you. You may want to take some therepy classes to vent out your anger and talk to someone who can talk to you and help ... (read in full...)

I'm terrified of dogs, and this is causing a problem with my sister and me!

Q.   My sister is a dog lover. I am terrified of dogs. She adopts large dogs and has several at a time. She recently moved from across the country to a few miles away from me and my family. She has become pregnant for the first time. I can't stand ...

A.   27 May 2008: Dog, even though I dont really like them, are pack animals. Especially if they are well trained, they will see the children as above them in the family hierarchy after a while. Well trained dogs also will not bite if a hand goes near a dish bowl. ... (read in full...)

How else besides lab tests can a pregnancy be determined?

Q.   IF a woman is suspected to be pregnant, what other means of test aside from lab tests can it be proven. like what color her vaginal secretions are? are they sticky or what?...

A.   27 May 2008: I would note the large bump that would be growing on her stomach. There is absolutely no other way apart from pregnancy tests to determine a womans pregnancy. Any other "signs" as you describe do not exist. There are however symptoms of preg... (read in full...)

3 days after losing my virginity I am sore, is this normal?

Q.   i lost my virginity the other day, the guy i did it with didn't use a condom. now 3 days after sex my vagina has an odour and is sore. i also bled straighy after sex. is this normal? ...

A.   27 May 2008: Bleeding after your first time is norma. What has happened is you have broken your Hymen(your cherry). This is just a fold of membrane covers the vaginal opening and breaking that can leave you sore for a while. The odour you are smelling is actua... (read in full...)

I met this guy on the internet...should I see him again and can I trust him?

Q.   I am 15 year old female. I recently met up with this guy i had been talking to on the internet. I know it sounds stupid and that I shouldn't trust someone off the internet, but I really like this guy and I was wondering whether I should see him ...

A.   27 May 2008: I met my husband through the internet. Infact we lived so far away at one point it was the only way to have ever met him and I am very happy for it. I would however express extreme caution when it come to meeting people through the internet... (read in full...)

I care a lot for this boy but he doesn't seem to feel the same way!!

Q.   I care so much for this boy. But i dont think he feels the same . Sometimes he treats me with respect, but other times , even if a say the littlest thing he flips. Does he have split personality? hurtagen xx...

A.   26 May 2008: He may have a personality disorder, it could be a bad home life, it could be insecurities and is projecting, but more than likely he is just being a boy. Still in transistion from child to adult and his personality is just trying to cope with the ... (read in full...)

I am dating a younger guy but worried,,, please help!

Q.   Hi i am a 21 yr old women who loves my 17yr old friend. He said he feels the same way and has for 1 year now but i have only got really strong feelings for him over last few months. I am although concerned about his age and what my family and ...

A.   26 May 2008: You can only but follow your heart. A friend of mine is actually 22 and she is dating a boy of 17. She went out with him when he was 14, dated for about 2 years and they broke up because he became possessive. It showed he still had alot of growing ... (read in full...)

Could I be pregnant from sperm on his fingers?

Q.   Ok I gave my 1st blow job yesterday and my boyfriend went down on me, My question is, even though after he came, he wiped it all off his hands b4 fingering me, could I still get pregnant? My friends think im paranoid because its my 1st time, but if ...

A.   26 May 2008: Yes you can. It happened to my cousin so I know for definate this can happen. Woman dont even need full penetration to become pregnant and alot of girls get pregnant just by heavy petting. Get the morning after pill.... (read in full...)

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