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I stumbled across this website. I am not sure how to be honest, but I am here now. I am still living life and if what I have lived through can help others I may be inclined to offer my two pennies.
I am an American Expat Atheist and do not believe in any form of a god/goddess. I hope I can help and do good for this community as it seems a very good outlet for people.
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I got married after a LDR, but she is not the way I thought she was...
Q. i just got married after long distance relationship, but as i went back to marry now my wife i just discovered that i had no feeling for her.She is no longer beautiful as i thought and nobody else has told me that she is beutiful.after our wedding I ...
A. 14 October 2008: This does seem like a very bad problem. One thing that struck e though is, why do you need other people to tell you how beautiful she was at the wedding? Surely it shouldn' matter what someone looks like as long as it is someone you love.
Now I... (read in full...)
Love quadrilateral, advice needed.
Q. my 'boyfriend' has two other girlfriends and we all know about each other. well ,two of us know exactly what's going on but his real,legitimate girlfriend doesn't. the thing is his real girlfriend 'T' really likes me even though i try to...
A. 14 October 2008: You know the beauty of not really being with him is that you can walk away without a reason. I'll be honest when I say he is a real ass. He is cheating on his girlfriend with not one, but two women and actually has the balls to say to you he isn't ... (read in full...)
If you had sex with a girl that has chlamydia, what could happen?
Q. If you had sex with a girl that has chlamydia what could happen?...
A. 14 October 2008: Here is a link.
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/diseases/facts/chlamydia.htm
Read up on it and become educated! :)
... (read in full...)
Not sure where we should be as a couple, whether I should be starting to think to settle down, or whether I am being unfair to both of us by continuing the relationship?
Q. I am confused. I have the perfect man, willing to give me everything, and has been for the past 3 years. For some reason however, the feeling of going out and dancing, joining clubs, hanging out with friends, going to parties etc appeals so much ...
A. 14 October 2008: Why does marriage have to be the end of fun an for some people? I am 23 married and still go out clubbing, partying with my friends, out and stuff. Being "settled" is realy about a state of being where you have had your general fill of it and dont ... (read in full...)
Are guys ever nice to girls they arent attracted to?
Q. There is this guy who I sit next to in class and he is super sweet to me. We dont really know each other that well but we do talk a lot, he always asks me what i did/what im going to do. Today, he offered to give me a ride to my house. I know he is ...
A. 14 October 2008: Define "attraction."
Basically what I am trying to say is that men and women are attracted to people for different reasons. Some are romantic and some are based on personality or humor or whatever. My answer to your question is yes a guy can be n... (read in full...)
I fell in love with a man.. but he's really a woman... and now I'm so confused. Please help me.
Q. Not sure where to begin and not sure of what kind of advice I'm looking for either. I met a wonderful 'man' online 8 years ago. He was the most caring, thoughtful, sweet and honest person I have ever met. We had a history... a love that was just ...
A. 14 October 2008: You fell inlove with a personality which is actually really beautiful, but I dont think you can change your sexuality. I mean can you see yourself with a woman?
If "he" is still a woman you have to ask yourself if you are anywhere near remotely... (read in full...)
I don't see how I can compete with a friend who's known her for so long and is there for her when I'm not moving back until next year.
Q. Ten months ago I met this girl who was just amazing. The only problem was that we had both just gotten out of serious relationships with people whom we thought we were going to marry. However we got along so great we ended up together and the sex ...
A. 13 October 2008: Ok, what she is doing is called keeping all her options open. She is having her cake and eating it. She has your emotional side that keeps her feeling good as well as the tactile and physical presence of another guy. Two guys showing her lots of ... (read in full...)
Keep or wait to have this baby? We may not be financially stable to properly care for another being that needs us. Your thoughts?
Q. I am 20 and my boyfriend is 21. We are planning on getting married but have been putting it off so that we can save for a big wedding. We both want children one day but my issue is, I just found out that I am pregnant...right now. So, I'm ...
A. 13 October 2008: Write out a lists of pros and cons of having the child. Take into consideration how you will feel after the abortion. I mean you are potentially getting rid of a child you will never again have a chance to meet.
Personally I wouldn't have an ... (read in full...)
Why is sex causing my boyfriend discomfort?
Q. When I have sex with my boyfriend I rub him raw... I know I'm small in that area and he's larger than I'm used to, is that the problem or is it because we are doing it too long and I'm not wet enough?...
A. 13 October 2008: Its probably a combination of all three. If you are small and he large, its gonna be what you call a tight fit.
If he is not circumsized it may even be worse for him because its stretching skin further back than what it would be normally comforta... (read in full...)
I don't know what words to use to tell my parents I am gay.
Q. Hey everyone, I am 15, gay and proud to be. I am "out" to my friends but not my parents. I am nervous to tell them. Not because I think they will react badly. It is because I just don't know how to phrase it. When I came out to my friends I put it ...
A. 13 October 2008: If I were you I would get their attention and have them sit down with you to talk to them. Tell them you have somethng very serious to tell them.
"Mom, Dad. I know that you love me and will always love me. I know you guys will always accept m... (read in full...)
Do I tell my best friend her boyfriend slept with a prostitute?
Q. I have a small problem, I just found out my best friends boyfriend slept with a hooker. What should I do. If I tell my best friend, She will think I am trying to split them up (as I was not happy with getting together in the first place). If I don't ...
A. 13 October 2008: Even though she has a lot of tears to cry you may have saved her from a disease.
You are a true friend, no matter if she knows it yet or not.... (read in full...)
Age difference - I need your advice please!
Q. I'm 13, And I'm in love with a 21 year old guy. I know it sounds really stupid, but please hold off the lecture until what I'm writing is comepletely read. I KNOW the guy, He's been my best friend (We're gamer geeks) For two years, and just ...
A. 13 October 2008: Just a side note to Flynn, I met my husband through a MMORPG (Mass Media Online Role Play Game). Times have changed, places to meet have change, but the people haven't. I didn't anticipate I was going to marry a man who sold me Goblin armor, but ... (read in full...)
Age difference - I need your advice please!
Q. I'm 13, And I'm in love with a 21 year old guy. I know it sounds really stupid, but please hold off the lecture until what I'm writing is comepletely read. I KNOW the guy, He's been my best friend (We're gamer geeks) For two years, and just ...
A. 13 October 2008: Are you not 13? Yes. Does he not think you are 16? Yes. Then you have lied.
I think you need to realise you did lie to him. He thinks you are 16 not 13. Ok? so no matter if you have tried to tell him, you havent and you started a relation... (read in full...)
Age difference - I need your advice please!
Q. I'm 13, And I'm in love with a 21 year old guy. I know it sounds really stupid, but please hold off the lecture until what I'm writing is comepletely read. I KNOW the guy, He's been my best friend (We're gamer geeks) For two years, and just ...
A. 13 October 2008: OK I am going to spare you the lecture and just get down to the nitty gritty. If you ever at any point have sex with this man it is ILLEGAL!
You are 13 and he is 21. If you slept with this man, even though he may not know your true age, when he ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my best friend her boyfriend slept with a prostitute?
Q. I have a small problem, I just found out my best friends boyfriend slept with a hooker. What should I do. If I tell my best friend, She will think I am trying to split them up (as I was not happy with getting together in the first place). If I don't ...
A. 12 October 2008: Let me put it this way, If you dont tell her a thing and she catches a disease from her partner who is sleeping with a prostitue, how well would you be able to live with yourself?
Its not just how angery or not angry she will be with you, it is he... (read in full...)
Why does she keep picking my spots??
Q. I've been seeing this hot chick for a while and we love each other to bits. However, she keeps scratching my spots off and it really hurts. I keep asking her to stop but she won't. What's wrong with her?...
A. 12 October 2008: Ok, this is generally from a womans perspective, because I do this to my husband and he does it to me. For us its a very strong impulse to do it. We will do it on ourselves as well. People who pick their own spots will want to pick their partners ... (read in full...)
I have as great husband who trusted me with my coworker and "friend" - however we ended up having an affair which ended but we're tempted to restart it!...
Q. First I'll tell you about my husband - he is a wonderful husband and father. He goes above and beyond to ensure that our family is properly taken care of. He is trusting. He is not controlling, abusive or demanding. He absolutely loves me and ...
A. 11 October 2008: Sweety I think you need to work on your marriage. Both you and your husband have done the dirty. Try wiping the slate clean, talk to your husband, get counsling spend time with him to ignite passion back into your relationship so that no amount of ... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to be jealous?
Q. The other day my boyfriend of a year in a half, ask me to go to the movies with him and his two new female friends. I didnt really want to go because I already felt jealous and insecure that these girls were cool with my boyfriend (i know it sounds ...
A. 11 October 2008: I have to agree with Fade.
I dont believe you at all had the right to be jealous. He is trying to make friends and introduce you to them so you guys can all hang out together. Be social and have a grea time out and show his new friends what a w... (read in full...)
Can my boyfriend have lots of female friends without it being something more?
Q. Can men and women really be friends only? My boyfriend has a lot of close female friends. I am always suspicious when he hangs out with them alone. These one-on-one dates between him and his female friends take place at least once or sometimes twice ...
A. 10 October 2008: Yes, Men can have female friends who are purely platonic. It doesn't mater if you think they are beautiful because they might not be what your boyfriend considers girlfriend material. You on the other hand obviously are.
Is all he is doing go... (read in full...)
Why do I regret NOT sleeping with this guy after knowing him and his friends for 10 seconds?
Q. Well I know this might seem daft but I went out on Sunday with a friend, call her *T* and we went out as we do, met up with some other people, walked into town, hung out for a bit and stuff, had a good night, and then we walked back up to T's and I ...
A. 8 October 2008: Count yourself lucky this was not a sob story. It had all the hallmarks of a really terrible end. You were alone, got into a car with not one, not two, but three men you didn't know who handed you a beverage. On top of that your friend had walke... (read in full...)
If my ex is not the real father, is it wrong to have a relationship with him?
Q. i was with my ex boyfriend for a year and 7 months. i broke up with him because my mom doesnt approove of his age, since he is 24 and im only 17. i immediatly got into another relationship, and accidently got pregnent. i am now 4 months pregnent...
A. 14 September 2008: Nope. As long as he knows he is not the father and you were honest with him and he still wants to be there with you there is no problem.
But you guys being in the US shouldn't be having sex as you are still 17. However his actions may show to ... (read in full...)
What is so sexy or unique about anal sex? The idea disgusts me! Should I try it?
Q. Hi uncles and aunts. Lets cut to the chase... I wanna know what is so sexy or unique about anal sex! More than just once, my bf has been moving to my back site before i could lead him to the correct one. Lol! Sometimes i think he'd be doing that ...
A. 11 September 2008: If you are ot comfortable with it you do not have to do it. It can be very pleasurable for a woman, contrast to what eyeswideopen has said, I also speak for myself. There are more nerve endings in the anus and if I am realxed enough it feels very ... (read in full...)
His sister moved in with us and strained our relationship. Can it be saved?
Q. My boyfriend of almost 2 years and I bought a house together 4 months ago. Things were going really well for us when we decided to do it. We are both in our early 30's and we have both been married and are now divorced. The problem started when ...
A. 13 August 2008: Love is not always peaches an cream with rose picnics. Everyone has sides to their partner they dont care for. Its whether or not you can still love your partner dispite the flaws.
If in your heart you are already half gone this is a tell tale sig... (read in full...)
Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.
Q. Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...
A. 13 August 2008: congrats on the baby!... (read in full...)
Sometimes my step dad hits me just for coming home late or not doing what he wants. Help!
Q. im a 14 year old girl, lately i lied to my parents about going to a sleepover, instead i went to my bfs house. i understand that what i did was wrong, but my dad snapped, when i came home he was trying to hit me with a bat, my mom stopped him ...
A. 3 August 2008: I have a step father and I have had him since I was 11. I am 23 now and I do love him even thugh at the time when I was younger and receiving my punishments I wasn't exqactly over the moon.
My step father was verbally abusive and very unstable... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken and a doormat when it comes to my ex. What can I do?
Q. I dont really know where to start, im just heartbroken and I need to talk to someone...so here goes Me and my ex have been on and off for about 10 years (im 28 hes 31), we have had about 4 breakups in that time, mainly because he wants to be sing...
A. 3 August 2008: Please find some self worth. I know that sounds very harsh but you are worth more then you are giving yourself. This man is preying on you low self esteem and very large heart. Dont let him and find someone that will apprecaite you for having so ... (read in full...)
Why won't by boyfriend tell his ex about us? He got her pregnant!
Q. my boyfriend got his ex girlfriend pregnant while we were together i forgave him his son is now 6 months old and he goes to her house to see him..he says he doesnt want to tell his ex-girlfriend about us because she hates me and wont let him see his ...
A. 3 August 2008: Without knowing who you boyfriend is there are two possibilities and this cold be a potentially delicate issue.
1. Your parenter could be in total fear that his ex could try and keep his child away from him and is one of the reasons he is keeping ... (read in full...)
She is a bit of a shy person and supports sex after marriage! I am exactly the opposite!
Q. I am in a confused state of my mind regarding my girlfriend.. We were friends from college but chose different universities in different cities to stay in...so we have always been in a long distance relationship..but v hve been together for 4 years ...
A. 31 July 2008: She has her reasons and that is simply that. This is completely her decision and you should respect she does not have the same view as you. If you care about her and truely love her you will not try and push her. Whether you do or do not understand ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy and sick for thinking my boyfriend is getting off with my kid's underwear?
Q. Hello I am very disturbed right now and need to get some feed back. Maybe I am crazy. I have been dating this guy for almost three years. Certain times I get the feeling that he has a sick sexual side. Besides the fact that we have major issues a...
A. 29 July 2008: I am really happy for you and so happy you didn't wait either. You are very strong and this will only ever lead you to greater happiness in the future.
I am so happy that you found this site too. This is why i think this site is such a great ou... (read in full...)
How can I get over the effects of prior sexual abuse?
Q. Hi. I have just found out that a guy who i met on holiday sexually abused (unwanted touching, comments etc.) i didnt know it was abuse until a recent event. since then my flashblacks have occured more often, and my reaction is much higher ...
A. 28 July 2008: Hello Tasha, This is absolutely awful what has happened to you. The best thing to help you overcome what has happened to you is to talk to someone either your mother, father, or if you dont want them to know, abuse helpline like childline (0800 ... (read in full...)
How can I do exercises to make myself tighter?
Q. i just have a question i was just wondering how can i do a kegel exercise you know to tighten my vagina muscles and can i become tighter inside my lips in my vagina on the inside you know the vagina part there isa lot of skin sagging i guess you ...
A. 27 July 2008: Ok there isn't much you can do about that skin except maybe plastic surgery(female circumcision) to remove or trim that area. As for tightening yourself the best method is to imagine if you were peeing and just use the muscles you would use to... (read in full...)
How can I gain weight in a healthy way?
Q. Hi I need help. I'm underweight according to BMI calculations (i'm 5'7'' and 102 lbs.) I'm skinny, but not to the point where you can see any bones, and I'm filled out in all the right places, so I don't get how I'm underweight. I have tried ...
A. 25 July 2008: The best way to gain weight, or even to lose it, s to count your calories. Your normal intake is about 2000 calories to run all your bodies functions. Now from the sounds of it you have a high matabolism which is a good thing.
Now all you have to ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy and sick for thinking my boyfriend is getting off with my kid's underwear?
Q. Hello I am very disturbed right now and need to get some feed back. Maybe I am crazy. I have been dating this guy for almost three years. Certain times I get the feeling that he has a sick sexual side. Besides the fact that we have major issues a...
A. 25 July 2008: Run away from this now. If you even suspect your partner is doing something odd like this you have to let him go even without outright proof. You must protect your children at all costs even at the expense of your own happiness, because I tell you ... (read in full...)
Separated from my wife; she's recently met an old boyfriend and told me it's over, I'm in turmoil!
Q. My wife and I spilt up last october. but i sort professional help for my problems and i became a changed man. for the last 9 months we bonded back again still separated but loving each other very much. bonded too with our 2 children. her parents ...
A. 24 July 2008: Hello Kel,
Iam very impressed by your decision to try and work through the issues with your wife and looked for proffesional help to salvage a marriage, but the truth of the matter is she does have every right to think of herself in this situatio... (read in full...)
My ex husband hangs around a lot lately and his habit to interrupt others while they are talking has only accentuated!
Q. Hi there. I have just a simple question. My ex-husband hangs around a lot still and lately, I can't have a conversatin AT ALL without him interrupting me. Anything I talk about and even when I'm on the phone with somebody, he interrupts me to ...
A. 24 July 2008: Um. I hate to sound intrusive but why exactly is your ex hanging around? Do you have children or are you just now civil people who can be friends?
He may just be asserting his comfort level out on you that you aren't comfortable with. At some poi... (read in full...)
Could this have made me pregnant?
Q. im 15 years old and recently did some things with my boyfreind basically he gave himself pleasure then imdiatly afterwards put the same fingers inside of me.since then iv been feeling very peculiar, unusally bloated (fat) and tender nipples. it is ...
A. 24 July 2008: You can get pregnant by this method. This has happened to a family member before so you may want to take a test.
We know she hadn't had sex either because when the doctor examined her, her hymen was still intact. That then had to be broken u... (read in full...)
Poll question for women: do you like oral and would you like your partner more for it?
Q. Do girls like when a guy goes down on them? And would you like your boyfriend more if he did that?...
A. 24 July 2008: yep and no. i love m husband unconditionally!!... (read in full...)
I've had sex several times and still no pleasant sensations, why?
Q. what is wrong with me? i've had sex about 7 times and i still haven't felt anything good. my boyfriend is on top and i just lay there. we also tried me on top and him behind me but it hurt for some reason. my cherry is popped so that can't have ...
A. 24 July 2008: It may be that you're body may not be ready for this kind of thing. It is not uncommon for girls to NOT experience sex pleasently until thier late teens.
It can also mean that your partner is just not very skilled and is thrusting too deeply w... (read in full...)
How do I keep her from not doing anything with another guy if she loves me?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for three days. We met online, and she lives in Canada, while I live in the United States, she lives about nine hours away. I'm the kind of person that starts to love someone faster than you should, which al...
A. 24 July 2008: Hi,
There is absolutely nothing you can do to keep someone from cheating on you. They ether do or dont to many peoples dispair.
Now if you trust her, leave it at that. If you trust her you have no reason to worry about her cheating because... (read in full...)
What is "talking dirty"?
Q. I have a rather odd question... When people say "talk dirty" (during sex), what does that really entail? Dirty as in gross? Could I get some examples? One of my exes once asked me to, but I had no idea what to say!...
A. 24 July 2008: I agree with Tremor, but it is also about knowing what turns your partner on. If there is something you know will turn your partner on you can easily make that dirty talk to drive him/her.
For example I know my husband loves my breats, so I tend t... (read in full...)
Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.
Q. Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...
A. 29 May 2008: Hello, There is a very good reason why polyandry and polygyny dont work out so well and this is because we as humans are greedy by nature. You are expressing your greed by having two partners while your husband is expressing his greed by wanting... (read in full...)
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