We got back together 2 months ago after he cheated, but now it's really bothering me!
Q. My boyfriend and I had been dating for a year when he unexpectially cheated on me. Our relationship was going very well and we didn't have any problems. I'm 15 and a sophomore in high school, he just turned 18 and started college. The first week of ...
A. 14 September 2009: ok first of all I seriously doubt he put it in once and didn't go in again. See here is why. He used the drunk excuse to say why he done it which means he says he didn't have control. Putting it in once and pulling out saying its a bad idea tells ... (read in full...)
really like this guy, but is he just using me for a bit of fun?
Q. Well i like this guy, we have been out as a couple a few times and we just starting seeing each other more again but not in a relationship kinda way - just as mates. We have been kissing and cuddling (NOTHING ELSE) as well but then i just found ou...
A. 14 September 2009: my suggestion is build your standards. You will be better off finding out about a guys situation before letting yourself get too "into" him. Find out his situation then start finding out about him then if that makes you fall for him then go for ... (read in full...)
He called me a hoe -- does that mean he wants us back?
Q. im 19 years old and my boyfriend of 3 years is 29. yes thats 10 years difference. what could we possibly have in common right? well he spent 10 years in prison and his state of mind is truly that of a 20 year old at this point if you ask me so we ...
A. 13 September 2009: hell to the no on this one. Find yourself a real man. gosh don't be foolish ... (read in full...)
Was he just keeping me warm, or does he like me?
Q. had a sleepover at my friend's house (lots of girls + guys sleeping in a big tent in her garden) her twin bro was there im good friends with him but nothing more but i was sleeping next to him + was shivering and he was SO nice like got me loads of ...
A. 13 September 2009: Yes he does like you. Here is my advice though so you don't get heart broken over him though. Girls and guys your age tend to play games and at your age girls are more mature emotionally then boys. My best advice is to try to play your cool a ... (read in full...)
He says he wants a break. Does that mean I should move on?
Q. Hi ..I am so confused right now.What does a break mean? I have been dating my boyfriend for 10 mons now.We have spent every weekend together since.he is very active in my kids life.Past 2 weeks we have been a bit distant.So I did a little snooping ...
A. 13 September 2009: yes taking a break is just a seguay to a break up. hes just beating around the bush. move on girl... (read in full...)
Why do women have checklists for potential boyfriends? Is it all about box ticking?
Q. Ok so this is really a question for men who have been through the same thing and women who have told a guy this and what it really meant for them. I'm in love with this girl for quite some time now. She is my best friend. So much so that I d...
A. 13 September 2009: Ok first important fact. She lives half way accross the country from me. I met her online and we have met in person once. We talk, txt everyday all day. We can talk to each other about anything and everything. Since I can't see her all the time ... (read in full...)
Each time my boyfriend goes away on a business trip I find condoms in his bag, and we don't even use them!
Q. My boyfriend of 6 years went on a business trip last weekend. When he came back, I found a receipt for condoms. We don't use condoms. He says he was the one responsible for till slips for the team. but, why would someone try and claim condoms from ...
A. 12 September 2009: either hes cheating or hes really a product testerfor trojan... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for thinking he will leave his long term girlfriend and get back with me?
Q. My ex boyfriend and i have only been together for about 5 months... then about 4 months ago we broke up and he started dating his ex girlfriend he was with for about 3 years before me...even though he did not admit it to me until i found out from ...
A. 12 September 2009: no your not stupid at all but you might be waiting a while... (read in full...)
How do you give a blowjob and a handjob?
Q. ok so i want to give my boyfriend head but im really nervous like what if i bite him by accident and what if he dont like it and also i want to give him a hand job nut i have no ideal will someone please tell me how to give a bj and hj ?? please...
A. 12 September 2009: in this country it is a felony to give head b4 the age of 18. dont risk it honey... (read in full...)
It appears to be over, but I have no closure...
Q. Okay, so a beautiful relationship I was in ended badly. We were together for a little over two months, but I poured my heart and soul into the realationship during that time. After she did many hurtful things to me in the last few weeks, she call...
A. 11 September 2009: its over man move on.... (read in full...)
He cheated on me. He doesn't know I cheated on him too. Should I tell him?
Q. My boyfriend has cheated on me twice and I've forgiven him both times because he came out and told me I didnt have to find out or any other immature things involved. While he was cheating on me I kinda felt that something was going on so I cheated ...
A. 11 September 2009: Sounds like yall should break up to me. i mean he cheated twice and that was your excuse to cheat once. doesn't sound like yall really want to be together. Find someone that you wont feel like cheating on... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said that if I loved him I would have sex with him! Why cant he respect my wishes and wait?
Q. My bf said if I loved him, if I cared about him and if I wanted to make him happy, then I would have sex with him. Why would he say this? It really hurts for him to say this to me because I DO care, and I do love him and I so badly want to ma...
A. 11 September 2009: The choice is simple to me. Dump him on grounds this is just the tip of the ice berg for him... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said that if I loved him I would have sex with him! Why cant he respect my wishes and wait?
Q. My bf said if I loved him, if I cared about him and if I wanted to make him happy, then I would have sex with him. Why would he say this? It really hurts for him to say this to me because I DO care, and I do love him and I so badly want to ma...
A. 11 September 2009: I agree whole heartedly with the first guy. he loves you? he will respect ur wishes. its not like ur saying u strictly want to wait till marriage just till yall have been together for awhile. I had a gf years ago said that to me. without ... (read in full...)
Does he love me after what he said?
Q. I have a boyfriend who is almost 20 and I'm 18. we've been dating for 16 months and he says I'm the best thing ever in his life and that he'd die for me. so we watched city of angels on the couch the other day and we were talking about pregnancy and ...
A. 10 September 2009: No he doesn't. You should leave right now before you get in too deep and actually get pregnant by him.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has just disappeared! It's been a week now, how long should I wait before moving on?
Q. My girlfriend has dropped off the map for a week now and i have sent online messages, texts, and left voice messages, but she did not respond to any of them what so ever. I did however get a response from her cousin that said that she had left the...
A. 9 September 2009: I'd say if she dsnt contact u in the nxt five minutes find urself a new woman... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to believe my boyfriend when he says he is not interested in any other women...
Q. I'll try to make this as short and clear as possible. The thing is, i am insecure (as i have mentioned in my previous post) and probably will never overcome this character trait. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We are happy...well i ...
A. 9 September 2009: ok if he isn't cheating and he dsnt flirt with other girls after 2 and a half years and he is with you all the time so maybe there not much opportunity for him to have time to cheat. I dnt see wut the problem is. if ur gonna get into the business ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to break it off?
Q. Hi. I posted a question earlier but did not recieve any replies so I'm going to try again and make it more concise I'll start by saying that I'm 31 yrs old and basically in my first "real" relationship. I should also mention that I suffer from ext...
A. 8 September 2009: I will qoute a line from a song I like. "Somebodies got to be first to say they are falling in love". If you or him don't want to be the first to take that emotional leap with the other then nothing will happen and this relationship will just ... (read in full...)
Was she really not able to talk or just brushing me off?
Q. I have a phone numer of this girl [She's an exchange student from Italy]. My friend gave me her number and she never see me before. I called her today and she said she's busy and can't talk right now. Does it mean she doesn't want to talk to ...
A. 6 September 2009: So she never seen you before? Then she probably doesn't really know who you are. You are going about this all wrong. In the future if you want a girls number just ask her yourself. If you get it through a friend your a stalker to her. If you ... (read in full...)
Does masturbating have side affects?
Q. hi does masturbating have any side effects?...
A. 6 September 2009: Yea it makes you wish it wasn't your hand and a womans vagina instead!!!!!!!... (read in full...)
Why didn't sex hurt the first time?
Q. Okay im new to this but i really do neeed advice. My boyfriend we were both virgins when we met.and of course where not anymore.and yuh know the stories i hear about how when you lose your virginity its suppose to hurt! right? well mine didnt.it...
A. 6 September 2009: Ok well before you go digging yourself into a whole over his size or possible lack thereof there are a couple of possible reasons. First of all you have been penetrated apparently even if just by his fingers. Second if you are a woman who can get ... (read in full...)
Taking a shine to a female tutor, should I proceed cautiously?
Q. I have just started at college and i have taken a shine to a female tutor. It is distracting me from my work. She is fantastic, with a great smile and personality. I even stay behind to talk to her. She touches my arm alot and rubs it. when she ...
A. 6 September 2009: Well if you see her do it to others than there is nothing particularly special about her doing it to you. If you want you can take a risk and express your feelings but if you think it is too risky than leave it alone. She could be a very caring ... (read in full...)
She's expecting more than just friendship
Q. About one month ago I met a really nice woman online. We hit it off and have been writing several e-mails daily. I lead her to believe I also wanted to eventually become more than just her friend. Now she insists on getting together but I now feel ...
A. 6 September 2009: Look man if you like her stop with the whole "you like being single" routine. Your over 40 years old. If you have feelings for her go for it. You could end up having the time of your life. If you find her to be a beautiful woman than your case ... (read in full...)
Update: Do you think I've blown my chances because I didn't turn up?
Q. Hi guys. If you've read my previous question, you'll know about this guy who I met for coffee and we ended up kissing. I've "known" him for about a year 1/2 and my perception of him is he is shy and a bit of a loner. He's quite nice looking (to ...
A. 6 September 2009: One you like the guy, two he obviosly likes you. Stop trying to over think everything and just come out and tell him. Don't wait for some cinderella story make your desires obvios. be patient and honest and don't be too afraid to get hurt or take ... (read in full...)
If I don't like him as more than a friend, then why do I miss not hanging out with him as much?
Q. I've known my male friend for 3 years. During these 3 years we've been hanging out alone together, going to eat, cinema etc. I know that he used to like me (more than a friend) but I was never interested in having a relationship with him (as i'm not ...
A. 6 September 2009: I always tell my friends and people I am close to that the chance to meet, fall in love, and possibly marry your "Best friend" is one of the best things in the world in the romance department. If I was dating a girl that the person she considered ... (read in full...)
Was I rude to not check, or right to not lead her on?
Q. Hi there, I recently attended Reading festival (and had an amazing time!) and i was approached by a girl who couldn't find her friends on the first night and was lost. I lent her my phone to call her friends but she couldn't contact them so ...
A. 3 September 2009: yea man leave it alone. you don't know this girl your not gonna see her again. If you love your GF leave the freak alone... (read in full...)
Help breaking up with a boyfriend
Q. I need help on breaking up with my boyfriend.. It has been about a year and a month since I have been with my boyfriend. He is one of the kindest people I know..he cares about me a lot..always asks if I'm ok..but..the problem is..he is a path...
A. 2 September 2009: excommunication. cease all contact with him. build a support group of friends (not guys). I say not guys because there is liable to be a guy willing to take advantage of you being vulnerable. you can't be friends with him at this point. You ... (read in full...)
How do I punish my son for what he did?
Q. Our 3 year old is very intelligent. He can write his name, sing the alphabet and ride a bike without training wheels. He is an excellent talker and even uses big words to describe things in detail. HOWEVER, he is mean to our dog. I keep ...
A. 1 September 2009: this made me sad to read as I am an animal lover. everytime I have a pet I treat them as a human being. And I really don't care what people have to say about that. I know it is not reasonable to punish him as if he had done that to a human but ... (read in full...)
In love with my best male friend. Should I wait or just give up on him?
Q. Hi. Im in a bit of a situation. I am in love with a very old friend of mine. I have known him since we were at school, and we are very good friends, who can talk to each other about anything. We chat nearly every day, even tho he has a girlfriend...
A. 28 August 2009: I say simply go for it but not untill after he breaks it off with his current GF. Make sure you make it clear to yourself and to him that you want it to be a forward motion if you are to take your friendship further. Too often best friends feel ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband about this hug? I worry this guy's attracted to me!
Q. So, I am totally thrown for a loop! A friend of my husband just came by to pick up my husband. I was taking out the trash and he waved from the car, I waved back. I went in to let me husband know he was here and when I opened the door to take the ...
A. 17 August 2009: So he told you you looked good. Yes is attracted to you. If all it was is a hug and your not attracted to him I would say there is no reason at this point to tell your husband anything. Now if it goes further or he starts making advances than yes ... (read in full...)
Deep French kissing and dry humping: did he get satisfied?
Q. Dear Aunts What do you think the norm is to this question? I belive I have the answer but would like you input. 24 year old guy deep french kissing and dry humping (with clothes on) for a couple hours. do you think he got satisfied? thank...
A. 17 August 2009: Well you have to ask him. Ask him if he simply had an orgasm. Its a lot easier to tell for a guy than it is for a girl obviosly.... (read in full...)
Advice for meeting a girl I met online
Q. Hi I came across this girl a while ago on a dating site. A long while back. No, sorry that's wrong, she discovered my profile. We've been in contact intermittently since, and I know I want to meet her. I just worry that she might be put off...
A. 17 August 2009: I agree. You have to approach with a more non chalant spirit. if you make it seem like you are really insecure about that will make her think she should have a problem with it. If you act like it is simply just something you are trying to address ... (read in full...)
We can't afford to be together!
Q. I have been with the most amazing man for two years. I love him more than I have loved anyone and I can't imagine my life without him. The problem is I am having a hard time seeing a future with him. We are both single parents and have separate ...
A. 17 August 2009: Ok so he has his own place and you have your own place is that what you are saying? If you each have your own bills and seem to be making it happen individually than I really don't see why you couldn't make it happen finacially together. I ... (read in full...)
Is he like only using me?
Q. Well again, There is this dude I fancy. He is in a local band in my area, and i found out he likes me! But alot of people say hes a player, and I totally agree with them, he does get around haha. But its little things he does that makes me think t...
A. 17 August 2009: Well lets start with this. How can you be his gf if he hasn't asked you to be and you accepted. He is a player if he says it but never actually made the investment to ask you and give you a chance to deny or accept. Girls need to do more to make ... (read in full...)
Does his sexual request reflect his level of respect for me?
Q. My new bf and I are having a long distance thing, we see each other every other wkend. We mainly communicate through daily txts. Naturally sometimes our txts turn abit dirty : ) We have told each other our sexual requests for nxt time we meet up....
A. 4 August 2009: this is a little bit personal for me as I do believe that a mans sexual requests from the woman he says he loves does reflect his level of respect for her. Here is what I can say. He gets that idea from things he hears about or possibly sees in a ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so disappointed and whose fault is this?
Q. Why do I feel so disappointed right now and who is at fault? I was supposed to see my bf today, he is in another state at a sports summer camp but came home (a 6 hour drive) today to spend some time with me. We are both teenagers, so we both live ...
A. 25 July 2009: I think your making way too much of it. Don't let the lack of getting to physically intimate with him as dissapointing. It jus didn't happen this time. There will be much much bigger issues to deal with down the line. You do seem mature as you ... (read in full...)
Should I meet this guy, who I don't think I'll be attracted to?
Q. Hiya!! I have been sending messages to a man on a dating site for about 6 weeks now - he gave me his phone number and said he would like to meet me in person, The thing is he is'nt really the type of man I would go for as he seems to be a bit ...
A. 25 July 2009: Well I can tell you right now. A man can always lose weight. It is not as devastating for a man to hear you want him to lose some weight as it is for a woman to hear it. If that is the only problem you have with him give the guy a dang chance. ... (read in full...)
We weren't in a relationship, so why say he needs to move on?
Q. I really need some advice. Have been seeing this guy casually for about 5 months. We always met up once a week to hang out and sleep together as we were friends with benefits and we both did not want a relationship. He used to text me around 3 times ...
A. 25 July 2009: Well contrary to popular belief strictly sexual relationships don't usually lasting power for guys or girls. Usually one or the other will end up wanting more. He may be looking for more and feels that just having sex is not fullfilling anymore. ... (read in full...)
If I get pregnant, he says he'll do a runner! What should I do?
Q. i'm 16 and my boyfriend keeps telling me he thinks i'm pregnant. first time was when i felt sick, he said i was pregnant. second was when i started my period a day before, he went mental saying i'm pregnant etc, and loads more sh*t like that. ...
A. 23 July 2009: Ok I have a very long piece of advice for you. DUMP HIM. Any man young or old who tells you he will run if you get pregnant with his kid OMG!!!!! Not worth your time.... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him? If so, where, when and how?
Q. I'm going out with a boy from the year above who really likes me and I kinda like him. He kept asking me out for months and has liked me for a year I think. The only problem is he gets jelous easily, but tries to hide it, coz I have lots of guy...
A. 23 July 2009: It sounds like it will hurt him but you still owe him the truth. He may even be a little upset but nothing can replace the truth. Yes you should break up with him. Be stern with your stance but still compassionate to his feelings. Do not stay ... (read in full...)
The guy I had an affair with has been cheating on his current girlfriend, so I sent an anonymous email. Do you think he might finally have learned his lesson?
Q. Hi I had an affair with a guy that works with me.We were friends for 2 years,then we started to have sex for 1 year then we stopped. Now we are friends again for 2 years. His last girlfriend left him because he cheated on her. Then he cheated ...
A. 23 July 2009: Just cut it out. If you like it this way then stay in by all means. But you have no room to complain or wonder if he complained if your allowing him to cheat on anyone with you. To answer your question though. No he hasn't learned his lesson ... (read in full...)
Confused and Troubled: She's my best friend
Q. Dear Cupid, im really confused and troubled as to what to do right now. I have feelings for this girl who I am best friends with. I want us to become closer and get into a relationship. We have talked about it somewhat and we are both somewhat ...
A. 20 July 2009: My best advice is this. Understand that you already know each other and that if you do decide to date that you don't have to go through the "getting to know each other" stage. Also remember to keep your focus on what you enjoy about each other as ... (read in full...)
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