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writes:I have a boyfriend who is almost 20 and I'm 18. we've been dating for 16 months and he says I'm the best thing ever in his life and that he'd die for me. so we watched city of angels on the couch the other day and we were talking about pregnancy and although were not ready I said baby if I ever became pregnant before we were ready i couldnt find it in myself to get rid of it and I smiled and out of no where he gets so mad and full of rage and says then I'm not f#$%*n goin out with you! If you ever became pregnant I'd move to california and leave your ass. I'm not messin my life up if you ever have a kid before were ready. So does he love me then? Reply to this Question
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reader, LoveIsRough +, writes (12 September 2009):
 Yes, but what you implied was that you wanted to purposely get pregnant. Talk to him about it, and ask him if he really does love you. He thinks you want to pregnant, and until you clear this issue up it'll be the 'elephant' in your relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): No if hes being like that he doesnt and doesnt see a life with u either he just wants in ur pants
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): If that is your situation then don't bring up the subject again. It's maybe too much to ask for but you should try to work on being independent, you obviously don't have any fall back in case you two should break up. Similarly, he has every right to not want kids as well. I wouldn't joke about it next time if I were you. It's a serious discussion and until you are both ready, try to use the proper protection. I don't think the issue is love here, just that you are both not ready mentally or financially for a child. Good luck
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reader, littlepig +, writes (10 September 2009):
Wear a condom and leave this jerk!
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reader, Jenny Junkie +, writes (10 September 2009):
Jenny Junkie is verified as being by the original poster of the question im scared to leave him.. i could never see him with another girl. it would kill me. im scared to find someone else... i dont kno if i have what it takes for me to moe on ... or be in a long relationship like one... i live with him and my parents wont let me live with them so if we broke up i would have to live in my car..
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): He doesn't love you.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (10 September 2009):
No he doesn't. You should leave right now before you get in too deep and actually get pregnant by him.
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reader, LauraWindy  +, writes (10 September 2009):
If he really spoke like you say he did, then things are a bit complicated here. Would he really abandon you if you got pregnant and wanted to keep the baby? Would he really "leave your ass" and stop supporting you? That's honestly not a nice thing to say, actually it's really hurtful. If he's really against you keeping the baby if something like that happened, then he could at least tell you in a different way. His way of snapping out at you like that is just not right. Sometimes we do snap out at people we actually love, but I don't know what to make out of this. You should confront him and ask him why he snapped out at you like that. Tell him that it made you feel really bad and as if he doesn't really care for you. I wouldn't take that lightly though. You shouldn't let him talk to you that way...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): no. he may have some feelings of love for you, but they are definitly based on conditions. First if he truly loved you, he wouldnt talk to you like that. If you want unconditional love, move on. I am a believer in the old saying...actions speak louder than words...and his didnt say 'i love you' in my opinion. Good luck!
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