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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (12 September 2009):
either hes cheating or hes really a product testerfor trojan
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reader, lovingshook +, writes (10 September 2009):
I don't think it's unfair for him to come back finding all his belongings on the step with a nice gift box full of condoms in plain view so he's not confused.
Do you really need to question how out of line you're being when you know he's been screwing around on you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): About two minutes! No need for talking now. This guy is probably a bullshit artist so make the decision and chuck him out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): You want an honest answer? I'd say no more than ten minutes from the minute you next set eyes on him, and his clothes and other effects should be in black bin liners on your doorstep - or better, in the street - by that time. You will also have had the locks changed by that time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, I'm glad I made the right decision.I own the apartment. He helps with other expenses like groceries, lights bill etc. How long should I give him to move out?
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reader, L*  +, writes (8 September 2009):
Have a chat with him and confront him. Ask him outright if he's seeing someone. Tell him that you don't believe his excuses about the condoms and that you need to know the truth.
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reader, Blanket +, writes (8 September 2009):
You are doing the right thing. He is not being honest with you.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 Would you rather he didn't use them?
He doesn't seem fully up to speed. Every guy who cheats whilst away on business knows that you ditch the condoms as part of the process of checking out of your room: check you have your passport, your wallet, room key, confirm that you've ditched the condoms ....
You are not being paranoid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): Did you rent the property in your name or both his and your name? If it is only in your name, tell him to get out asap!! Since has has had no problem with finding women to sleep with, he can now find another woman to live with!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): not unfair at all.
He is not welcome there anymore. Tell him to get lost and not to come back.
If hes paying you rent you may have a problem, but if it were me Id change the locks put his stuff in plastic sacks and invite your girlfriens around for moral support, this guy aint worth it.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 you need to confront him and get rid cause if he aint gonna be the man you need then he should go no excuse can make cheating look good. you will unfortunatly have to t alk about him moving out as their can be legal issues with renting if your the sole renter then you can chuck him out now if you wish but if your both renters then you may have to look for a new property. hope this helps aphex
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 He's lying. Surprised he didn't make a greater effort to cover up, must mean something??
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): Mmmm... lots of excuses... Sorry Sweetie, but he is not being honest with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): Sorry but you know you arent being paranoid. Hes playing away from home.
Time to confront him, or dump him or both.
Im willing to bet hes got a lame excuse, like what happens away stays away. Not good enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): Well at least you can trust him to be careful!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe live together at my apartment. how long should I give him to move out? i wish it could be today, is that unfair?
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (8 September 2009):
very unlikely excuses if you ask me ! if their is no trust then their is no relationship. otherwise your gonna kick yourself about this and its not worth it. if he wants to play around let him! go off and find someone who truly deserves your love and attention. sorry it has happened this way but its life and its lessons we must learn! good luck hun all the best for the future aphex xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): Well, he certainly seems to have a lot of uses and excuses for condoms doesn't he? Looking on the bright side, it's unlikely he'll have brought any nasty diseases home to you.
Paranoid? No, I don't think so.
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