Confused and Troubled: She's my best friend
Q. Dear Cupid, im really confused and troubled as to what to do right now. I have feelings for this girl who I am best friends with. I want us to become closer and get into a relationship. We have talked about it somewhat and we are both somewhat ...
A. 20 July 2009: My best advice is this. Understand that you already know each other and that if you do decide to date that you don't have to go through the "getting to know each other" stage. Also remember to keep your focus on what you enjoy about each other as ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is being unfair! I find it hard to orgasm with him...so he has stopped trying!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been going out for a couple of months now. We have been having some problems sexually as we have been finding it hard to make me cum, i can when im masturbating but not with him. Because of this my boyfriend has given up ...
A. 17 July 2009: I agree that talking is the best way. he can't be giving up though. your his girl and satisfying you should be of great interest to him. don't know if he gives you oral sex but if he does tell him to do with his tounge what you do with you ... (read in full...)
I like guys who look more feminine. Is this normal?
Q. Is it normal for a girl like me to be attracted to androgynous guys? (Like Johnny Depp or David Bowie) I'm 100% straight, but I just have this fetish for guys that are kind of feminine. Is that normal for a woman?...
A. 17 July 2009: well you said a woman like you problem is we have no idea what type of woman you are. I can assure though that you are not the only woman out there attracted to feminine looking men. to each their own. it doesn't make you the least bit gay. its ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with a man who is always trying to catch another womans eye!
Q. I would like to knoow what to do about my husband flirting with other women. Getting upset and arguing doesn't help. Trying to tell him that it hurts me doesn't help. I am about to give up on the marriage. I don't want to be with a man who is ...
A. 16 July 2009: Your right and depending on how long you have been married and wether or not you have kids it sounds like getting out while you don't have any material attachment might be the right thing to do. If he is always trying to catch attention of others ... (read in full...)
Big trust issues here! What should I do?
Q. i will try to keep it short thanks to anyone that replies. i was seeing a girl for a few months and she was texting this guy all the time and going out on saturday nights etc with this guy as a part of a group. anyway he told her he liked her and...
A. 15 July 2009: My advise on this will be short which is wierd cause I am usually long winded. LET HER BURN..............Take the time to get her out of your system and move on to a more loyal GF... (read in full...)
What should I do about my girlfriend? She won't tell me what's wrong!
Q. My GF had on and off mood swings which I can not figure out, sometime when I'm with her shes really hyper and happy and that but when I'm at work and she is at home I call her on the phone and she just goes quiet and doesn't really talk. I sa...
A. 15 July 2009: I agree with samill. As a guy I can concur that a womans period is not always to blame. In fact I would say while her period will make her cranky if she is really happy otherwise with you and all a little cranky is as far as it goes usually. This ... (read in full...)
He won't go near me now - what can I do about it?
Q. hey i work with this guy he is younger than me the moment i seen him i fell in love we got to be great friends told each other everything he was with sum1 and so was i but we didnt care and took our friendship to the next level, we were with each ...
A. 14 July 2009: when two people are involved but are in commited relationships themselves its hardly ever a good situation. he expressed a desire to commit to u at once and your response probably made him feel as though he really was better off staying with her. ... (read in full...)
He won't go near me now - what can I do about it?
Q. hey i work with this guy he is younger than me the moment i seen him i fell in love we got to be great friends told each other everything he was with sum1 and so was i but we didnt care and took our friendship to the next level, we were with each ...
A. 14 July 2009: when two people are involved but are in committed relationships themselves its hardly ever a good situation. he expressed a desire to commit to u at once and your response probably made him feel as though he really was better off staying with her. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave him, I really don't, so how else can I sort this out?!
Q. Hello everyone! Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half, and his attitude is getting to the point where I don't know what to do. He has a childish way of dealing with things when hes upset, he never wants to talk about it, he'l...
A. 12 July 2009: I don't think you are at all wrong for your feelings. I am sorry that it seems as though the heartful feelings are a one way street right now. If you are not happy with the way things are I would try your best to not let the feelings of love stop ... (read in full...)
Is it true that players don't like to be dumped?
Q. A guy I love only contacts me when he wants to. He asked me if I have a boyfriend and I replied no. When he did not contact me I wrote to him "Hi, How is it going?". He did not answer me so the same day I broke up with him telling him that "you are ...
A. 12 July 2009: It seems that your message to him was out of angst. I understand your resentment towards him and I can see why you feel played. However honestly saying how you feel is what I believe make people respect you. I wouldn't have told him that you ... (read in full...)
Is he playing with my head or is he really taking time to think?
Q. Hello :D Okay, so I have liked my closest guy friend for a few months now. I told another friend, and he told him that I liked him. I was okay with that, I was actually really relieved and happy. So me and him were talking about it, I offered ...
A. 12 July 2009: Well your situation is personal to me as I am in love with my best girl friend. She knows exactly how I feel. There is nothing left in the dark when it comes to her and there is nothing about the way I feel that I am afraid to tell her. If you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't want to live with me anymore
Q. Ok so im 19 and my bf is 20. We've been dating for a year and a half and for the past 6 months we've been living together. Now he's bought his own place and doesn't want me to move in with him he's told me to find my own place but we can still be ...
A. 12 July 2009: Its very hard to move backwards in a realtionship. Good relationships I believe have a forward motion. If he doesn't want to live with you I agree that sounds like a step to me. I would confront him and tell him you aren't happy. As your BF he ... (read in full...)
Why is my friend never available for me unless it suits her?
Q. Hi, This isn't a romantic question, just a general one that I'd like opinions on. It was my birthday on Friday, and as part of my birthday present to myself I had bought very expensive tickets to a show which I would never get another chance t...
A. 12 July 2009: I do agree with samantha. Though sometimes I believe it is appropriate for people to be a little selfish with thier feelings in a situation. Maybe even force the issue just a little. If it were me I would be like "Look I really wanted you to go ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to go on dates with people that you don't fancy?
Q. is it wrong to go on dates with people that you don't fancy? Recently, i have been building my confidence and i find that going on dates with guys i know i'm not attracted to really gives me a boost as its getting me more comfortable arou...
A. 12 July 2009: Well I can say that in the case where the guy really fell for you it would not be a good idea to keep consenting to dates with him. If you can see that it really is just mutually a good time for the both of you than there is nothing wrong with it. ... (read in full...)
She asked for a photo of my penis, I sent it and then find out she was humiliating me in front of her friends!
Q. I started online dating a couple of weeks ago. I have never done anything like this before - and found it really fun. I started it because I wanted to find a nice girl to date. Anyway, I started talking to this 24 year old girl. We were going to go ...
A. 12 July 2009: Well as someone who has done quite a bit of online dating myself I can tell you that the more picky you are about the women you associate with online the better. You can meet a nice quality girl online as you can anywhere else but one who asks for ... (read in full...)
Life is overwhelming, this lady's got the blues...
Q. Hey Cupids, I'm finally turning to you for advice, or maybe I'm just looking for some warmth and tips from those who have been in the same position. I'm 22 (nearly 23) and I'm bumming. It's been a really hard summer. My Grandma (who I'm very...
A. 12 July 2009: As a guy I am not in any way shape or form trying to come on to a married woman but I would like to say that you seem very charming, very selfless, and also like you are enduring yourself very well. You don't seem to be complaining at all. Just ... (read in full...)
I love her and want to help her emotionally and financially
Q. I really need some advice. I have been dating a wonderful woman for the last 6 months and things were progressing wonderfully between us until recently. She is a divorced single mom with young children and has recently lost her job and could ...
A. 12 July 2009: My honest advise. If you are in a position to help her finacially I would step up go see her tell her you love her and that you have no intentions on abandoning her. Man to man I can tell you to be the man here. I dont know you so I can determine ... (read in full...)
Boys look at me but say nothing, is it because I am fat?
Q. I feel really fat and like no one wants to go out with me. I weigh 150 but I am 5'8" and all of my friends say I am not fat and it's just muscle. I play a lot of sports but I still feel like I am fat and ugly. i have a lot of guy friends but I want ...
A. 12 July 2009: ok well I can say if we are going by numbers 150 and 5'8" is not fat at all. Don't let the guys get to you hun. Guys are immature and like to look and play games. I know it is hard to do this sometimes but I can tell you honestly that the best ... (read in full...)
He never answered my question, then sent me a crazy message, should I ask for an explanation?
Q. My boyfriend and I were texting at a normal rate. After a text I sent him asking if I can call him, he never replied. It was around one thirty in the morning. I thought about it some more, he probably didn't want me to call him so I wouldn't find ...
A. 12 July 2009: Well I don't know how long you have been going with him but let me tell you. I believe people should define for themselves what thier idea of an honest relationship is. Texting and not getting an answer is one thing but I kind of think he should ... (read in full...)
I a desperately in love with a 42 year old woman, I am 15, how do I get over this condition?
Q. Hello Basic stuff yeah? I'm in love, its not a crush, I don't want to bang her. She's very important to me. No abuse please. Some open minded and nice answers Since I was.. 11 I've been deeply in love with a female teacher at my schoo...
A. 12 July 2009: I know how you feel my friend. Well I can't say I ever had a thing for a woman that much older than me but I can say that you do seem very mature about the situation so I will give you a mature answer. I do believe it would be wise to steer clear ... (read in full...)
This is beyond crazy! I have developed a twitch. I have thrown up multiple times at work from the loads of anxiety! HELP!
Q. It was a coworkers last day today and our boss took us all out to lunch. I had to make sure that I sat next to all women because my boyfriend would otherwise be angry. I was on gchat with my blackberry the whole time in case he needed to check on ...
A. 10 July 2009: Well I think the biggest and most important step is one you have already taken which is to realize that this situation is crazy. I really like the fact that in that whole scenario you do not stand up for him. This is about you and you know that. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't hit me but he spits in my face. What to do?
Q. ok ive been married 16 yrs i realy feel my husband is honest, maybe it me ,anyway he has 2 single friends and i mean very single. every day he gets off work he stops in a bar. its a slum bar, i mean. i go sometimes with him but the bartenders wera ...
A. 10 July 2009: I feel for you. Look he does't deserve your defense. Spitting in your face as his wife is sooooooo disrespectful its not even funny. I can't believe what I read. I mean after 16 years it would be dumb to just say dump him but I can assure that ... (read in full...)
How do I make him forget about the lovers in my past?
Q. when me and my boyfriend started going out he asked me how many people id had sex with before him and i lied and said it was only 4 when its really 9. (he was a virgin before me) recently he found out the truth and said he still loves me but he ...
A. 10 July 2009: the main thing is to remember that making him forget about all the other guys you been with is not the task at hand. Rather to make him feel comfortable in his own sexual abilities. Compliments, compliments, compliments. Does he feel comfortable ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for a 26 year old to fall for someone who is 16?
Q. I'm a 26 year old female and I am falling for a 16 year old male. I don't know if this is ok or not. I feel so lost and torn. I want to tell him that I love him and I think about him all the time, but I'm afraid to. I don't want him to feel like I'm ...
A. 7 July 2009: yes I say ignore the people calling u sick or wutever. I am a 31 year old guy in love with a 21 year woman. she has been my best friend for going on 3 years. she know how I feel but at least for the time being doesn't feel the same way. there ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for a 26 year old to fall for someone who is 16?
Q. I'm a 26 year old female and I am falling for a 16 year old male. I don't know if this is ok or not. I feel so lost and torn. I want to tell him that I love him and I think about him all the time, but I'm afraid to. I don't want him to feel like I'm ...
A. 6 July 2009: I say the feelings are mutual. I don't know what the laws are in canada but if the age difference doesn't break any laws I say follow your heart. love doesn't go by age. The age difference can present some problems as far as maturity goes but ... (read in full...)
How can I keep him interested in me?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and he recently told me he wanted to break up a little less than a month ago. He said it was because of our fighting. I didn't think it was that bad compared to other couples fighting(and they are still ...
A. 5 July 2009: This is always an interesting scenario for me to hear about. While I have never tried to continue a sexual relationship with a girl after breaking up with her I can understand why some couples especially long term relationship ones continue sex ... (read in full...)
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