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writes:Women, if you were at the house of a guy you liked and peeked in his bedroom, what would make a better impression on you: if it looked as though he entertained females there occasionally (candles, incense sticks, queen-size bed, tiny bottle of massage oil nearby, etc.) OR if it looked as though he was completely single (smaller bed, masculine colours, neat clean room but no evidence of anything ever going on there)?Please answer honestly. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, peeptoe  +, writes (17 November 2010):
All good comments above. Bigger bed definitely. Besides being more comfortable, should someone choose to share it, it shows that you are a "big boy". Little twin beds are for kids and dorm rooms/hospitals/monastaeries. Double or queen is a good size. Most guys I have dated are over 6 feet so they all had bigger beds--just more comfortable for them. Nice linens--masculine but not austere. Power colors are nice--navy, gray, off white, beige or some combination. Definitely pillows but not too many. Clean but not neat-freakish.
Objects of interest are good but no over-cluttering. Books, trophies, photos and put the "entertaining the women" items out of sight (or buy new after the breakup). It's a nice ice breaker to have books and music (CDs) around, so a visitor can browse and see what your tastes in books.music are and explore new titles/songs or shared interests.
Good luck!
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reader, happy24birthday +, writes (17 November 2010):
 The size of the bed says nothing about the relationship status of the individual. A large bed with many pillows is just more comforting and inviting than something that looks like it belongs in an institution.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (17 November 2010):
 More pillows, you can never have too many pillows on a bed. One pillow on a queen size bed looks odd.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies. To clarify, I didn't mean that the first room would be like the Lady's Man's love shack. Nothing that tacky! It would be tasteful and understated.
But it sounds like the larger bed is recommended. Wouldn't a big bed with 2 sets of pillows make it seem like the guy wasn't necessarily single? Or is it more to give the impression that he is open to possibilities and has room for another person in his life?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 November 2010):
 A female reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 November 2010):
Definitely not the playpen, clean would impress me.
I totally agree.
NO, I do NOT want to see lubes and oils you used on other women or that you intend on using on me.. Total turn of.. So not sexy. It's screaming:" I'm too sexy for.." *gag*
Nice clean linen is always a nice way to impress a woman.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (16 November 2010):
 Yeah, I do not want to go over to the "Ladie's Man"s house. Ick ick ick! Like "anon" says, don't just pull out old stuff! Ask her what she likes and then get new ones just for her.
As for design, go for simple with character - and the character featured is YOU. I love the idea of some framed pictures of family, some paraphernalia from your team, or pictures on your fridge. Get a couple of books. Because I LOVE when a fella has books on the shelf. It suggests intelligence, depth and gives you more interest. Of course, if you were with me I would probably ask you about them, so make sure that you actually read them (or at least a summary).
Pick out some things to make your place uniquely YOURS. And yes, excellent bedding making a big difference. Get a mattress pad... oh God, those things are dreamy. Definitely get a bigger bed. No question. Make sure your place is tidy, but it can look lived in. It does not need to look too sterile. Try and make it comfortable.
Interest, interest, interest! Good luck, and good question!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (16 November 2010):
No woman wants to peek in and see massage oils, candles a leopard print bed spread, and Marvin Gaye playing on your stereo. That would say you're nothing but a womanizer, you don't want to give off the wrong impression. I say make it your own, women like to see personal items such as family and friend pictures, high school trophies and awards..keep it clean, no one wants to see dirty socks peeking out from under the bed or trip over dirty laundry. Tidy, yet personal and lived in that way it's more comfortable and inviting to the females.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): I would chose the plain masculine room. I wouldnt want to see the evidence that things had 'gone on there '. That would turn me right off! If it reaches the stage where candles and oils are required. Consult the lady as to her tastes in candle scents and oils. And buy new. Dont just whip out the old bits from the cupboard under the sink. She wont be impressed. All the best.
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reader, happy24birthday +, writes (16 November 2010):
Neat clean room with masculine colors but I would prefer to see a larger bed, a big cozy one with lots of pillows and thick covers
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (16 November 2010):
 MUSTs
1) queen size bed . NO SINGLES.
2) two pillows on the bed :)
3) Little lamp by the bed - girls often put stuff next to the bed so its good to have some light there.
Now,do not have any candles there - she'll think you are a "secuder". Provide candles only if you're going to make love to HER. Make it a special arrangement.
You can have pictures of you,of your dog,or your relatives. No ex gf material.
Have a neat wardrobe (she'll love you for this) Keep your socks in boxes,same goes with ties.
For color,I suggest you paint the room using 2 basic colors and one "in the middle". Lets say Grey & Navy Blue and a little greyish/whitish.
Don't forget to add a rug or a small carpet.
For the walls,you can get frames from IKEA,they're very cheap.
Something that creates a "sophisticated" look is a shelf with books on the wall :)
Good luck :)
And Congratulations for the question. Its nice to see a man who does care about making his bedroom a nice,unique place!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 November 2010):
 Definitely not the playpen, clean would impress me.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (16 November 2010):
 The whole "entertaining females" thing would turn me off with the candles and massage oil.
It wouldn't bother me if it were a simple single man's room. I personally think that practicality is a good trait!
My favorite type is a room that reflects a man's interest. Musical instruments, sports equipment, photography, the outdoors, those types of things.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 Well I would say neither option would make a better impression on me!
Definitely not the female orientated version, as this would make me think either you are quite effeminate or that you were giving massages to a whole variety of women which is not a good thing!
As for the single man room - that completely lacks personality and I would think he is a bit dull.
So what would be best is a place that YOU enjoy being in, somewhere that reflects your personality and looks like you have made a bit of effort to create a nice environment. This could be the way you decorate, furniture, little personal items like photos etc....you get the point. Us girls would be VERY impressed if a man's bedroom actually had a bit of thought put into it, where you have spent time decorating it and made it your own. So many men's bedrooms are either white or blue, and have nothing in them apart from a bed and wardrobe. It is boring and says to me that you dont really care about design, you are not bothered about how a room 'feels' and only how it functions. So if you put a bit of thought into the design and decoration of it that would be impressive!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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