What relatives are my boyfriend and I on the family tree?
Q. if my grandmother and my boyfriends grandmother are first cousins, what relation are we?...
A. 12 March 2010: 3rd cousins... (read in full...)
Do I let my ex see my son after all the chances I've given him???
Q. I've been apart from my ex for 1 year now we have a 2 and a half year old son together and my ex has cared more about partying and drinking instead of seeing his son even when we were together.iv given him plenty of chances to see his son and he ...
A. 9 March 2010: Let the dad see his son. Supervised visits sound good. Is it possible for the 3 of you to go out to eat and/or to a park or playground? That way Dad gets to see his son, and your son still gets to go out if Dad doesn't show up.... (read in full...)
Dumped and don't know what to do...
Q. Six months ago, an old classmate from high school contacted me on facebook. We never talked in high school, but knew who each other were. So we messaged each other back and forth for about three months, then decided to go out. Our first date was ...
A. 3 March 2010: Do nothing. Yes, he misses you, but guys handle that a whole lot differently than girls do. He probably will not realize the error of his ways and try to fix anything as he doesn't think he's done anything wrong. Yes, there's hope if you want to ... (read in full...)
I've not heard anything... am I being paranoid?
Q. I recently took a great woman out on a date on Sunday and had an amazing time. We both fell into easy conversation and tentatively planned on going out swing dancing the following Friday night. I waited until Tuesday night to give her a call about ...
A. 24 February 2010: It's hard to get in touch with someone by phone alone these days. Did you leave a message when you called? Call her again right now and again later in the evening if she doesn't answer. Try her one more time Thursday and make sure you leave a ... (read in full...)
If she tests me like this, is it a sign she's not the best match for me?
Q. Before a relationship starts, sometimes a girl will test me by giving me a negative vibe, like she doesn't like me (even though she does). Is this a sign that she isn't the best match for me? I mean, if she were really into me, why would she risk ...
A. 30 January 2010: It's not a sign that she's not right for you; it's a sign that she wants you to chase her. Girls do this to command your attention. We love attention and want you to give it to us without us having to beg for it.... (read in full...)
Am I a fool to believe his promises that he won't cheat again? I want this to work!
Q. I know everyone is different but do you believe in those sayings 'a leopard never changes its spots' and 'once a cheat always a cheat'? Having read these sort of replies on here many times its now happened to me. My partner has cheated on me an...
A. 30 January 2010: You said you want to move on and regain the trust. Do that and try not to think or worry about what others think. YOU are the one who is dealing with this and making choices that YOU will have to live with. You're not a fool any more than any other ... (read in full...)
How important is having hair to being attractive to women?
Q. After all these years of having sex I finally got to where penis size is not an issue. It's actually very funny to me now. Now I have a whole new body image issue. I'm losing my hair. I'm getting the sex I just dreamed of when I was 18 because ...
A. 28 January 2010: If she's attracted to you now, which it sounds like she is, then the loss of your hair won't impact that at all. What will impact her attraction is how you treat her. Having hair in and of itself has little to do with women finding you attractive.... (read in full...)
How should I proceed, following our blind date?
Q. I went on a blind date this weekend. Prior to the date we spoke, emailed, and texted quite often for a week. When we met, I liked her immediately. We spent 5 hours together and had a great time... I think, hahaha. We got cozy with each other... a ...
A. 25 January 2010: Call her back now if it was yesterday when you left the message. Three days is too long in woman time, and if she likes you she will be distraught - yes, distraught - if you wait 3 days to call again. Call her now then again tomorrow if you don't ... (read in full...)
My husband of 32 years said he doesn't love me anymore, I feel so lost and confused
Q. I don't know what to do am scared and confused. My husband of 32 years told me he doesn't love me anymore and wants me to move out. We split several times I left him. Funny thing I left him cause he had said before that he thought he didn't love me. ...
A. 19 January 2010: If he doesn't love you anymore, then maybe HE should move out. I can't imagine how awful this must feel for you. I agree with Roadster73 who suggested getting involved in church. She also compared this to a death, which I also agree with. Losing ... (read in full...)
Questions for the girls: Is my height and my scar a turn-off?
Q. hi to the girls: whats the lower limit of height of the guys ud date? how bad is 5 10? i also have this big scar under my penis starts from right under the head to the balls is that a huge turn off for girls?...
A. 19 January 2010: I'm a tall girl, and 5'10" is not a bad height for a man. The scar on your penis is not a turn off at all.... (read in full...)
How come I never heard back from her?
Q. I'm basically here in need of a friend after a bad break up about 1 mo ago. I have been feeling so bad about things and I'm hurting really bad. I broke it off with someone I cared for deeply b/c I felt she just wasn't committing to the relationship ...
A. 19 January 2010: Your non-mushy letter that laid things out so plainly it was taken seriously. What was there to respond to? I know what it's like to have a broken heart and not to understand someone's inaction.... (read in full...)
Wait for her text?
Q. Hey, Quick question, I got a date with a girl on Sunday, for the past couple of days we have texted quite alot, generally with me starting conversation one day, her the next. She said she'd text me this morning before work, however, she has...
A. 13 January 2010: Even tho you say you've made up your mind to give it till maybe even tomorrow, I say txt her now or any other time she hasn't txtd you. Sometimes we girls want you to txt us so that WE don't look clingy. I would want you to txt me first every time.... (read in full...)
(Contains list of emails and some bad language) Do these emails mean we're getting back together?
Q. my Girl friend wrot me thisand I was wondering if we are getting back together? these emails are in the order they were received. Dear Johnny, First of all by you just admitting to all this without rationalizations, excuses or div...
A. 2 November 2009: She misses you because she can't find anyone else she clicks with as well as she does with you. She's lonely. My first thought is NOT that she wants to get back together; however, there's still hope since she's still talking to you.... (read in full...)
How can I resist the urge to cheat again?
Q. I really need some help Im a married wowman and have cheated even had an affair. It is not my personality to mess around. I have to admit I do miss the rush I used to get. It was always exciting to me to meet someone new. I feel guilty for feeling ...
A. 2 November 2009: It's going to be hard to overcome since you've already crossed that line. The only thing I can think of is for you to devote and divert your energy to your husband. Whatever you would do to attract someone else (if there is something), do it for ... (read in full...)
Where can I talk openly about sex?
Q. Ok, this is probably not the best place to ask this, but since my question is where I should ask this question, here goes. Back story: I'm a geek and have always been one. I managed to get through middle school single (not for lack of trying),...
A. 30 October 2009: I'm sure there probably are forums out there where you can talk about sex openly. Until you find the right one, or one at all, you could contact someone on this website privately. SD has already promised to help you. Please feel free to conact me ... (read in full...)
I need a female's opinion here!
Q. Ok, i've been seeing this girl on and off for about 2 months now. I haven't gotten any clear signals that she wants to date, although she can get frisky when we're out drinking. Last weekend we went out and ended up hooking up and I stayed over at ...
A. 26 September 2009: I think she may be my twin! You could be just what she needs to overcome some of that self conscious problem she has. I would say she probably also thinks that guys like you do NOT exist in the world. She definitely is interested in being more than ... (read in full...)
I need a female's opinion here!
Q. Ok, i've been seeing this girl on and off for about 2 months now. I haven't gotten any clear signals that she wants to date, although she can get frisky when we're out drinking. Last weekend we went out and ended up hooking up and I stayed over at ...
A. 25 September 2009: We girls like attention and tend to get a bit upset when we don't get it, like when you weren't responding to her messages right away. I still think she's just trying to protect herself from getting hurt. The whole thing about her talking a lot ... (read in full...)
I need a female's opinion here!
Q. Ok, i've been seeing this girl on and off for about 2 months now. I haven't gotten any clear signals that she wants to date, although she can get frisky when we're out drinking. Last weekend we went out and ended up hooking up and I stayed over at ...
A. 23 September 2009: You should keep pursuing. She's been tyring to figure you out, too. Those questions she asked in the online conversation you posted have been on her mind. Girls usually like to know straight up if they are liked by people they like and generally ... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this trap of a marriage and keep custody of my children?
Q. Dear All, I'm married to a British man(I'm Indian) and we have 2 children under 4yrs of age. We have lots of arguements atleast one every day. Just one for example: I have bought water/liquid absorbing doormat(light green,one of those JML magic ca...
A. 15 July 2009: I don't know anything about how things work over there, so I can't help you out with the custody issue. As far as your employment status goes, you need to get all that straightened out before you leave. Have a plan and make sure you're going to be ... (read in full...)
This marriage is not right for me and I cheated
Q. I have been married 4 16 years and I have cheated several times and just can't stop.I'm not sexually attracted to my h and so I find it outside of the marriage.My h is always wanting it and I turn him away n which it causes problems of course.He has ...
A. 6 July 2009: You're not alone. I'm going thru a very similar time in my life right now as well. It sounds like you're missing fun and excitment in your life and enjoy the attention of men. IDK the particulars of your marriage, but from what you've said, it ... (read in full...)
Is this an affair that should go further or is it over?
Q. So i had an affair. lots of reasons, no point getting into it, but rest assured there were reasons. First/last time I'll do it. But i realized i waited for as (held out) long as i did, because i wasnt really looking for an affair but to move on (...
A. 8 June 2009: From my own experience I would say she's trying to break away from you because she truly doesn't want to be your "girlfriend" or for you two to be anything more than what you are now. She loves your attention and affection and doesn't want to lose ... (read in full...)
Friends with "potential" benefits?
Q. Hi, I'm presently in a difficult situation. I go out in a large crowd to gigs and one night one of my friends brought along a pal to see the band. Well it was like someone had put Rohypnol in our drinks, this guy and I couldn't stop looking at...
A. 20 March 2009: Six months is more than fair, especially for him. The longer you're in it the harder it is to get out. Think about that and maybe reduce the time limit. Was that your only question? You seem to have a grasp on how all this is working otherwise.... (read in full...)
I'm curious about this after watching it
Q. Hey well i'm a gay male, and i watch a lot of porn where guys eat the cum. So i was just wondering, what's it like? I mean how is it? uz lately i've been thinking abot it after i jack-off, then i think about it for too long, and end up not eat...
A. 21 February 2009: It's kind of salty and a little acidic, like it leaves a film on your teeth. I don't roll it around in my mouth or anything, tho, just try to swallow it as soon as it bursts out.... (read in full...)
Can a normally good and genuine person become a cheat?
Q. Is it possible to be a good person who loves a man with all her heart to become a nasty cheat after a lot of hurt, but is it possible for the same person to be loving and faithful to the same man when they both realize they messed up? I know what ...
A. 18 February 2009: I am a good and genuine person who became a cheat. I don't plan on doing it again; actually never planned this time, yet it happened. You are worth whatever it is you want and can be faithful and loving.... (read in full...)
G/f cheated while I was deployed, now I struggle with trust issues!
Q. I want to first start by saying sorry if my typing grammar may not flow well. As you can tell I am in the military (air force) and have been for 12 years now. I am 30 years old and my area in work in the military is under special operations through ...
A. 17 February 2009: It's a good sign that she told you. She at least has enough respect for you and your relationship to do that. You would never have know otherwise. She feels bad for betraying you. I used to think that cheaters are awful and should all be shot at d... (read in full...)
I still love him very much with all the mess he has done. Is this crazy?
Q. I met my husband 9 years ago and we will soon be having our 8th anniversary and I am have a hard time deciding if I should stay in this relationship. For the 1st year things was wonderful but, soon after our daughter was born he begin to cheat, ...
A. 11 February 2009: You are def just crazy in love. If at all possible for you mentally, leave him as soon as possible. I have been thru just about everything you talked about, including the prison thing, and am now into 14 years of misery in my marriage. Most of my ... (read in full...)
He does not want to talk about us and has become verbally abusive. What should I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. It has had it's challenges as he has not always been truthful. Whenever I confronted him he would always pin the blame on me. The relationship had escalated to verbal abuse in the past ...
A. 10 February 2009: Your question is what should you do - let him leave and hope you never see him again. Easy for me to say, I know, but that's the simple answer to your question.... (read in full...)
Do other women ever feel a little aroused during their period?
Q. do anyother women experience feeling a little horny during your period? i don't think i could ever have sex during a period, but sometimes i feel a little up for it. must be to do with hormones of something? i guess i'm lucky, as i never have hea...
A. 10 February 2009: Yes, always want it more during my period.... (read in full...)
Is this the silent treatment? What can I do?
Q. i am dating man for a few months now this is the same man that i have posted other questions on here.i i have had problems trusting him he has never done anything to betray me it is mainly my insecurites,.we had a fall out recently because he ...
A. 10 February 2009: I think it's both. IDK how long it's been since the fallout and the txts you sent, but you need to let it go for a time. Been there, so I know how hard it is. I also have insecurities that make me not trust. Try your very very best not to contact ... (read in full...)
Do women realise this about guys? Is it not true?
Q. To many women think we are playing mind games with them so guys I'm gona have to spill the beans and tell them what we are realy doing. When a guy has a great conversation with you wherever it may be and then all of a sudden seems to ignore you for ...
A. 7 February 2009: IDK what happened to my first response but here goes again. I seriously hope you're not pulling my chain with this one. Do you have any idea how many girls have posted this question only to get the response "kick him to the curb!" I am going thru ... (read in full...)
Do women realise this about guys? Is it not true?
Q. To many women think we are playing mind games with them so guys I'm gona have to spill the beans and tell them what we are realy doing. When a guy has a great conversation with you wherever it may be and then all of a sudden seems to ignore you for ...
A. 7 February 2009: So you're saying I should contact him soon and not wait for him? That actually hasn't worked for me. Please oh please contact me privately cuz you're one of very few guys I think I can actually learn from. I'm in an awful mess right now with a guy ... (read in full...)
Do women realise this about guys? Is it not true?
Q. To many women think we are playing mind games with them so guys I'm gona have to spill the beans and tell them what we are realy doing. When a guy has a great conversation with you wherever it may be and then all of a sudden seems to ignore you for ...
A. 7 February 2009: I am printing this out and reading it everyday. This no contact period makes me totally nuts - TOTALLY. I think that he's talking with someone else or that he doesn't want to meet again, etc. I hope you're not jerking my chain, cuz I and others have ... (read in full...)
His back and forth attitude really hurt me, what am I to believe now??
Q. Hello: First I want to say that I'm writting for advice NOT to be slandered for my scenerio. I work with a guy who yes is married, however our odd hours and found interest in eachother's abilities, art and such..have created a mutual bond be...
A. 7 February 2009: Don't have any advice or explanation for you as I am experiencing the exact thing myself. My guy seems to be on a 2-week schedule - we meet and have a good time, then pretty much no contact for 2 weeks until he's ready to meet again. I don't get to ... (read in full...)
Is he playing games, or does he no longer care for me?
Q. Would a 60 year old guy who thinks he's a high roller play games with me just to get his you-know-what sucked if he has a steady girlfriend? (Yeah, I'm stupid - denounce me if you want to get your rocks off that way, but I really just need...
A. 6 February 2009: Please contact me privately. We have a lot in common, but I don't feel like getting blasted on this website again. You're not alone and my shoulder holds teasrs well.... (read in full...)
My married man has disappeared, what's his story?
Q. i am a 36 year old woman and i have been in a new job for 12 months. I absolutely love it after being at home for 6 years with my children. I have been with my partner for 17 years, reasonably happy. I have met a 54 year old married man at work ...
A. 4 February 2009: I can't tell you what his story is cuz I know several men who act the same way and I don't know why. One is doing it to me. Your other question of what do you do - run as far from him as you can. It's hard but you will be so much better off for it. ... (read in full...)
Is it worth the risk to fall in love again?
Q. I have a real dilemma on my hands. I reconnected with someone I knew in high school. Didn't date him then, but I ran into him recently at an event. We talked and I was very attracted to him. So, I emailed him and we've been talking over the ...
A. 3 February 2009: It's a wonderful thing to have been married 23 years and not to have ever cheated. I used to pride myself on that, but I am currently drowning in my unchartered waters. If for nothing else, I wish I could take back my cheating and be able to say ... (read in full...)
Men making noise during sex
Q. To all the ladies out there, what do you think about men making noice during sex? Turn on or a turn off?...
A. 2 February 2009: Some noise to show her you really like what she's doing, but mostly groaning or "oh, yeah" are turn ons. A bunch of loud stuff is a turn off, as it is just funny. Couple the little bit of groaning with a little bit of squeezing and you've got a ... (read in full...)
Should I write her a message telling her she's beautiful?
Q. Back in August this gorgeous girl came into my job and I was too nervous to talk to her, but another guy who works there got her number. For months I've been wallowing in regret thinking of all the things I should have said but didn't have the nerve ...
A. 9 January 2009: Evoke further correspondence. I love that. You said she came into your job - is there something about that you could talk about? Try to get the gorgeous part out of your head and think about what you would talk to a friend or neighbor about. Maybe ... (read in full...)
Should I write her a message telling her she's beautiful?
Q. Back in August this gorgeous girl came into my job and I was too nervous to talk to her, but another guy who works there got her number. For months I've been wallowing in regret thinking of all the things I should have said but didn't have the nerve ...
A. 9 January 2009: Chat with her on facebook. Do not go overboard with the compliments, telling her how beautiful she is, etc. Don't mention the wrong number thing, either. Try your best just to get to know her a little bit and maybe you can get a better feel about if ... (read in full...)
My husband has an addiction to strippers & lap dances.
Q. My husband has spent over $90K on lap dances in the past 4 - 5 years, exhausting any savings we might have had. Since getting caught, he's quit, but I can't believe the addiction isn't still there. Stay or divorce? ...
A. 2 January 2009: To simply answer your question... divorce. If leaving is that easy for you to do, then I advise to do it. I'm not talking about it being easy for you emotionally, but if he's not going to be mean about it or give you much trouble about leaving, then ... (read in full...)
Can you truly fall out of love with someone?
Q. my wife has left me.... she told me that she loves me but is no longer in love with me. she said that it feels odd when she kisses me and cant give me what i want. i have so many questions that i want answers to but she says she cant give me th...
A. 21 December 2008: I would say your wife is unhappy, and there's nothing you can do or say as her husband to fix it. She has lost passion, and now it's like loving a friend. Although she seems to have her mind made up, maybe counseling will change that. I do think ... (read in full...)
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