I'm 22 and hopeless with girls!
Q. I'm 22, I am hopeless with girls. I have never been with one and now I am too scared to even try. I am a male model (physique, underwear etc) so objectively I am pretty good looking at the very least, very hot at the most... which almost compounds ...
A. 10 April 2013: Have you tried speed dating? This would be a good way to practise.
If that's too scary then you could try dating websites. Your good looks will attract women.... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and hopeless with girls!
Q. I'm 22, I am hopeless with girls. I have never been with one and now I am too scared to even try. I am a male model (physique, underwear etc) so objectively I am pretty good looking at the very least, very hot at the most... which almost compounds ...
A. 9 April 2013: OP, do you have any hobbies? You might want to take a look for girls elsewhere.... (read in full...)
I don't think I want a boyfriend anymore, I just want to be alone for awhile. How can I tell my boyfriend this?
Q. my dad has just passed out recently and my boyfriend has been supportive and all that but I just feel like I d0nt need him in my life anymore.i wanna be alone not being involve with anyone is the way I feel normal or not coz I have been moody around ...
A. 6 April 2013: Simple question: do you love him?... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and hopeless with girls!
Q. I'm 22, I am hopeless with girls. I have never been with one and now I am too scared to even try. I am a male model (physique, underwear etc) so objectively I am pretty good looking at the very least, very hot at the most... which almost compounds ...
A. 5 April 2013: Girls who makes it a problem that you're inexperienced aren't worth it really.
The girls you are referring to are they models too?
Maybe you should take a look at less demanding girls?
My general experience in life is that there are always peo... (read in full...)
Do I ask her out? What do I do?
Q. There is this girl that I have been friends with since the beginning of the school year. I really like her but she is towered the higher end of popularity. I want to ask her out because she is funny, very sweet and cute. Yet, I feel too intimidated ...
A. 4 April 2013: If you'd like to talk a lot with her then I'd go bowling instead of going to a movie.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a guy not to come everytime?
Q. My bf and I lost our virginity together, he never came the first time. After a year he still doesn't occasionally. And it seems like it takes lots of effort to come. He admitted an addiction to porn halfway into our relationship, and he's let that ...
A. 1 April 2013: Well, an addiction to porn certainly can have an effect on how fast he comes. If there isn't that much sperm when he comes then that's another sign he's, well, kind of empty most of the time.
You might want to have a serious talk with him.... (read in full...)
I don't want kids and I'm concerned I'll end up alone
Q. Feel like I am going to be permanently single. Been single 5 years. I don't want kids, so my dating pool is much smaller and even on online dating sites there are so few women who don't want or don't already have kids. Have lots of friends but i...
A. 1 April 2013: Search for 'The No-Baby Boom'. You are far from alone.
Keep on trying to find your match. My experience as a childfree person has been that you should not give up because you will be rewarded sooner or later.
If people ask why you don't childr... (read in full...)
I think I set my standards too high for girls
Q. Hi Guys, I feel like I have a very odd problem. Now, I've never been great with girls, the only time I've ever slept with people is when it pretty much falls right into my lap, like I've never done a huge graft for it, so I feel like I lack co...
A. 31 March 2013: It sounds to me you actually have got some dignity.
You also talk more mature than most of your peers.
You seem to value love higly which is good.
So I'm not sure you actually got a problem. You will find a woman who will appreciate you.... (read in full...)
I know there's plenty of fish in the sea but I want this cold fish!
Q. So there's a (busy) guy, we met at university; we're in student council and other organizations. I know him for 5 months, and after 3 months, I got feelings for him. I told him I liked him (which he already knew as we flirt). He told me he had...
A. 31 March 2013: He does not want a relationship, because you know each other for only 5 months? Sounds like a bad excuse really.
You may want to have a talk with him. Ask him what he *really* feels for you.
Do you have any indication he's seeing someone else?... (read in full...)
I'm shy and have a big crush on a guy at the store. What can I do?
Q. I have a big crush on this guy at the store I want to ask him to lunch but I'm so shy I told him he was really funny after never spoke to him again and ever since he stares at me when I walk by I turn so red and he talks t everyone but me I'm lost...
A. 31 March 2013: I would try to find out first if he has a gf.
Are there any co-workers there you could ask?... (read in full...)
Does eye contact mean anything?
Q. What does it mean when a guy gives you eye contact when he walks past you? Does it generally mean that he finds you attractive (Do guys normally give girls eye contact when they find a girl attractive)?...
A. 31 March 2013: As a single guy I will tell you this: I will probably always try to have some (quick) eye contact with an attractive woman when walking by. Even with other people simply because around here in the country most people greet each other. So there's ... (read in full...)
Who makes the move? How do I know when is the right time to kiss my boyfriend?
Q. Hi do I wanna know if it is the right time that I should kiss my boyfriend. So me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for a year and I want to finnaly kiss him. I am afraid that he'll tell someone cuz he usually tells people a lot of crap ...
A. 30 March 2013: I'm surprised you guys haven't kissed after already a year together.
Why don't you whisper in his ear that you would like him to kiss you? And maybe tease him a bit and tell him if he's not going to do it, you're going to. :-)... (read in full...)
Sexually not satisfied by my inexperienced BF
Q. Hello mates, I'm 20 years old and I'm not a virgin. (Active since age 15) I recently met a wonderful man who is 23. I took his virginity a few months ago and we have been having sex since. He's such an amazing fellow! Truly! I also didnt care...
A. 25 March 2013: Well, does he also masturbate regurarly in between the sex?
That would probably help him to last longer. Works very good for me. :-)... (read in full...)
I can't wait till sex is over!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Our sex life is great.. Maybe a little too great. We have sex everyday. Sometines more than once. T first it was great but now sometimes I can't wait till it's over. We've even stopped doing it so often ...
A. 20 March 2013: I'm surprised he's not eager to try any position you want with you. At least he's horny enough to bang you every day is he.
Why don't you explicitly ask him to try new positions. Maybe he wants you to the take the initiative at first.
It doesn'... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didn't rush to defend me when some men made comments about me!
Q. Dear cupids, my 10 month boyfriend and i have passed over all the porblems you may imagine and all thanks to the power of true deep long long conversations and in ten month i have never faced such a situastion as the one we passed today and his re...
A. 15 March 2013: Well, do you want him to get into a fight with these men? Because that's what might happen.
Would he be fysically capable of beating them up at all?... (read in full...)
Is this age difference too much?
Q. What is the biggest age gap relationship you have known of? I am 26 years old and massively attracted to a 45 year old man. I can't help it it's getting me down, my family wouldn't approve....
A. 15 March 2013: Who cares about your family? It's your happiness which counts.
The age difference doesn't have to be a problem.
Do you have any indication he's attracted to you too? And not just because of your looks?... (read in full...)
How is it meant to feel when you are in the early stages of a relationship with someone?
Q. Hi, Im would like to hear how poeple felt in the early stages of a relationship with someone that lasted a while or long term. Me and my friend know each other years and i know he always had feelings for me, i didnt look at him like that til ...
A. 14 March 2013: It's very positive he has had feelings for you for years assuming that is really the case.
You go for it girl just don't overdo it. Don't forget to take time for other things.
... (read in full...)
I have a girlfriend but I have gay desires but don't want to hurt anyone.
Q. Hi I'm a 20 year old guy who has been in a serious relationship with a girl for 3 years. We don't get to see each other much because i'm at university. I have been having gay thoughts and desires since I first started puberty and watch mostly...
A. 13 March 2013: Well, you should probably ask yourself if you still love your girl and still get turned on by her. You could actually have become bi-sexual.... (read in full...)
How do I stop myself from looking for reasons why a girl might be playing games with me when we start to like each other? I'm ruining all of my potential relationships!
Q. I need some help with my annoying and ongoing problem, so here it is... Whenever me and a girl are getting close in person or online, I have a habit of pushing her away before things can develop any further and I could potentially get ...
A. 13 March 2013: I'd say that playing games or teasing you is not the same as when she explicitly tells you that her feelings are growing for you, at least as long as you're not at a bar.
So you probably are a bit paranoia. It's positive you recognized it your... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend that I feel rejected by her sudden change of future plans?
Q. One of my closest friends and I met when I was 16. We bonded over our love of anime and Japanese music and Japanese culture. Since creating this friendship with her, up until about a month ago we have talked a about living in Japan together for a ...
A. 7 March 2013: Do your do due diligence before moving to another country.
How would you pay for living there for a year?
You think you will easily get a job? Very unlikely.... (read in full...)
I'm meeting my LDR girlfriend for the second time and I'm afraid I'll run out of things to say!
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship for almost five months now. We have been chatting for close to a year, and I spent an amazing week with her recently - it went far better than I expected it to go, and my girlfriend just couldn't be any ...
A. 7 March 2013: As a 13 yr old kid I also had this fear, what can I say to my crush?
Later in life I learned, that's the wrong approach.
I should have wondered, what can I ask her?
Let her do most of the talking. If she's bubbly then that won't be a problem.
So... (read in full...)
How can I control my jealousy? He flirts with other girls.
Q. ok ill try to summarize my problem, i fell in love with my high school classmate he was kind of shy person and i had a complete trust in him but when high school was finished and we went to college every thing changed one day he took me to a very ...
A. 7 March 2013: You just gave many reasons to dump him really. Move on. You deserve better.... (read in full...)
Forced into a marriage and a year later I still don't love the man! What can I do to save the marriage?
Q. I'm 24 and I come from a very conservative christian family,and my parents forced me into marriage with this guy from the same community! I told my parents not to,they dint listen and I eventually gave up and thought may be I could love this person ...
A. 7 March 2013: I'm shocked you were forced to marry in a civilized country like Australia!
In some European countries forced marriage is actually a crime.
Your family should be deeply ashamed of themselves.
Can you life on your own? Do you have a job? If y... (read in full...)
How do I impress a man who is 10 years older than I am?
Q. Dear cupid, I need some advice. I'm 21 years old, law student, and mature for my age, I've always been. Like a few years ago, a young litigator move into house next to mine and since then, I've got a huge crush on him. He works with my fathe...
A. 5 March 2013: Well, you're not yet another random young chick but actually a well educated one.
Since you guys are in the same line of field I'd figure it would not be hard to strike up a conversation with him. Have you already talked to him?... (read in full...)
If my girlfriend was fooling around with another girl should I forgive her?
Q. Hey, really don't know what to do, so for the first time in my life am asking a message board for answers. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 and half years of bliss! I really couldn't have asked for a kinder sweeter girl, especially...
A. 4 March 2013: You know what, if it were my gf and she had a 'little experience' with a woman, I wouldn't mind. My motto is: life is short, enjoy it while you still can.
This shows you that we all have different opinions and acceptable limits.
You shouldn't as... (read in full...)
On average, will a guy 55 or older find it harder to ejaculate a second time, during the same session?
Q. I'm curious to know whether on average, an older guy, 55 years or so, will find it a lot more difficult to ejaculate again, after he's come once? He does get hard very quickly again, but he says there's not much feeling, so even with stimulat...
A. 3 March 2013: Perfectly normal even when a lot younger.... (read in full...)
My fiance masturbates every morning and I just found out. What should I do?
Q. we don't have sex alot, and i would like to but he always says no. but this morning i walked in on him masturbating and saw he does it every morning. He says he loves it when we have sex, but yet he still does this every morning... im really hurt ...
A. 3 March 2013: Why would you be hurt? Masturbation is perfectly acceptable during a relationship. Some even do it together.
You do have to ask him why he wants little sex with you.
You might want to ask him whether he's still attracted to you.... (read in full...)
How can I control my jealousy? He flirts with other girls.
Q. ok ill try to summarize my problem, i fell in love with my high school classmate he was kind of shy person and i had a complete trust in him but when high school was finished and we went to college every thing changed one day he took me to a very ...
A. 3 March 2013: This guy is obviously very shallow and the comparisons he made about you and the other girls is really outrageous.
What makes him so special that you love him?... (read in full...)
I can't keep up with the beauty regime and am afraid no one will like the real me.
Q. This is going to sound ridiculous but basically, I can't keep a boyfriend because I'm too fake, because I'm so insecure. I've never had a long term partner, no one for more than about 4 months. People often call me attractive and everyone says i ...
A. 3 March 2013: Do you realise that many men will love your red hair? Really. When did you start the fakery? Have you even tried to be yourself?... (read in full...)
New to university and trying to read girls' signals
Q. am a guy of 22 who just in to the university. Enntering my department in the university 90% of them are girls. Some girls who never knew me but have bein seeing me during my registration welcomed me and started taking photograghs of me in class i ...
A. 2 March 2013: Sounds like you entered heaven. :-)
You can be picky. Make a list of (realistic) requirements your potential love should meet and stick with that.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is he bored with me? I caught him yanking off in bed next to me!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man who was married for over 20 years. The last 7 years it was a sexless marriage. We happen to have sex very often but there are times where I find porn on his phone and have caught him a few times masturbati...
A. 26 February 2013: You state you guys already have sex very often so I highly doubt you are doing something wrong. If he feels like masturbating in addition then just let him. There's nothing wrong with masturbation in a relationship but you could ask him to be a ... (read in full...)
Is it a communication problem? Guys do ask me out, but whenever I date it never leads to much more than the first date.
Q. I am 23 years old, Whenever I'v liked or been attracted to someone,that person has always asked me out.. I'm an attractive girl and these men compliment me a lot,but I don't know why it never leads to relationships! Its just a date and then I f...
A. 26 February 2013: Do you have any hobbies? Hobbies you are enthusiastic about?
This would be something you can talk about.
It surely helps if you meet someone who has the same hobby.
This can quickly lead to a very nice conversation. That's how I met a girl once ... (read in full...)
He's too independent, but I don't want to suffocate him. How do I handle his rejections?
Q. Hello everyone.. I´ve been with my bf almost two years. We´ve had some problems as every couple..but we love each other..At least I think so..He´s very kind to me,says he loves me all the time,he´s gentle, he surprises me, i have so much fun with...
A. 26 February 2013: Well, you guys should have spoken about this right from the start.
I'm exactly like him. I need my own time and lots of it.
When there's a potential gf in the picture then I'll try to have a tactical conservation asap about kids (I don't want t... (read in full...)
Why won't my amazing, lovely wife have sex with me with the lights on?
Q. My wife is amazing in bed,even after 20+ years together,3 kids I still think she has a fantastic figure,the only problem is she still won't have sex with light on,let me me see her naked or have sex in daytime,I keep telling she's got a lovely ...
A. 26 February 2013: Ask her to meet in the middle. I'd go with the candles suggestion. Just a little bit of light. That's a start.... (read in full...)
Are we Platonic or not? While telling me he's a "Player", now he wants me to meet his sister.Why?
Q. If your guy friend wants you to meet his sister(after 9 months) is my relationship with my guy friend platonic or not? Why am I confused? It's because he has been saying that she wants to meet me, and now he's actually putting something to...
A. 25 February 2013: Well, do you have any hobbies or interests which might be the reason the sister would like to meet you? Or maybe she's just a very social person who likes to meet people. Why don't you just ask your guy friend *why* she wants to meet you.... (read in full...)
Do I move on to a great job? Or to a guy I love, but who isn't right for me?
Q. Hi all! I have a dilemma guys, Basically I have the option of moving down south of my country to a really good job or I have the opportunity to move up north of my country to an ok job but the guy I like lives there. That guy and I dated f...
A. 23 February 2013: He couldn't cope with it. Big chance he missed the sex.
Did he actually love you? Any signs he cared for you at all?
Be honest to yourself about these questions. You may love him but that's not enough. It must be mutual.... (read in full...)
I'm feeling isolated, lonely and I'm going stir crazy. What can I do?
Q. I moved from a big city to a very small town to be with my fiance. In my fiances line of work, he can't talk about anyone or his work because of privacy laws, so there is never any work talk from him. Due to his position he can't really become fr...
A. 22 February 2013: You will have to reserve some time for local activities and friends. You don't have much of a choice really.
What about communicating with your friends in that other state? That should help.... (read in full...)
Do I move on to a great job? Or to a guy I love, but who isn't right for me?
Q. Hi all! I have a dilemma guys, Basically I have the option of moving down south of my country to a really good job or I have the opportunity to move up north of my country to an ok job but the guy I like lives there. That guy and I dated f...
A. 22 February 2013: You know he's not right for you. I kind of stopped reading there.
Why on earth would you choose someone who is not right for you? He already dumped you and you suspect he was messing around. What makes you think he won't do that again?
In these ... (read in full...)
The missionary position caused me pain and I couldn't thrust. What could be the problem?
Q. I had sex with my wife in the missionary style..and in the process i could not thrust well and i was feeling pains as well. What could be my problem?...
A. 4 February 2013: Is this a persistent problem? Then you might want to see a doctor.... (read in full...)
What should I do if my boyfriend asks for sex?
Q. Dear cupid, am 16 and a virgin i love my b/f very much but what should i do if he ask for sex?...
A. 4 February 2013: Nothing wrong with sex at 16 per se but often it´s a bit too soon. First ask yourself if you feel ready for it. If you have any doubts then wait and tell him you're not ready. He should respect that. This is actually a very good test to find o... (read in full...)
Where did I go wrong?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for quite a while, I'd say 3 years now. I've never done anything wrong to him I do everything and anything. I've gone out of my way sometimes to do things for him because I love him so much. I just recently found out ...
A. 14 October 2012: Looks like he has a chronic problem of not being honest with you. Is that really acceptable to you? What makes you love him? Take a critical look at him and then decide.
Many girls would have dumped him by now.... (read in full...)
I'm twenty-nine years old and depressed about being a virgin.
Q. Here's my situation, I'm 29 going on 30 and I'm still a virgin, I haven't even been kissed yet, mainly I can attribute my situation to rock bottom self esteem due to being teased about my weight my entire life, basically I was raised to believe that ...
A. 18 August 2012: If you haven't already done so, then start a hobby which gets you out there. You will meet new people and possibly a potential love.
If people often give you positive comments then assume they are right. You are basicly a great catch.
Get yours... (read in full...)
He's a good man but he's also very sulk and argumentive!
Q. Dear Cupid, I live with a man who I love to bits, but sometimes he can be the most difficult person in the world. He's never violent and doesn't generally shout, but will "sulk" (talk in a monotone, refuse to kiss me, etc.) when I don't do s...
A. 29 July 2012: There are a few issues here:
1) you guys are not accepting each other for who you are
2) he will 'punish' you when you don't do something he wants
3) he doesn't care about your sexual desires
I'd say each point is worse than the other. The ... (read in full...)
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