He's a good man but he's also very sulk and argumentive!
Q. Dear Cupid, I live with a man who I love to bits, but sometimes he can be the most difficult person in the world. He's never violent and doesn't generally shout, but will "sulk" (talk in a monotone, refuse to kiss me, etc.) when I don't do s...
A. 29 July 2012: There are a few issues here:
1) you guys are not accepting each other for who you are
2) he will 'punish' you when you don't do something he wants
3) he doesn't care about your sexual desires
I'd say each point is worse than the other. The ... (read in full...)
Don't want to cheat. She doesn't want sex and I love her. So how can I get rid of this desire on my part for intimacy and also affection?.
Q. o.k. here is the jist of my situation. I will be married for 20 years come next year to the same woman. And I love my wife so much but intimacy has never been the same. now a days, since the kids are older she likes to go out with her girlfriends ...
A. 29 July 2012: You really don't want to get rid of your desire for affection and intimacy, as long as it's not just sex!
I think many women wish they had someone like you.
You say you are possessive. Well at least some kudos to you for actually acknowledgin... (read in full...)
He's not expressive about his love for me. And I have health issues. How can I encourage him to stop pressuring me for sex?
Q. Hello, I need some advice please... I am a 31 year old woman and I have been with my partner for 2 years. He is 39. The problem I have is that although we live together and get on well most of the time, he only tells me he loves me once in a blue ...
A. 29 July 2012: Your sex frequency was weekly. Did he suddenly 'change' it to daily? You might want to ask him why and tell him you're not comfortable with it. Perhaps you guys can meet in the middle?... (read in full...)
Religious differences. Parental interference. I love him so much and I know he loves me too. What do I do!?
Q. I'm in love with my guy friend who has been brought up in one religion and me in another religion. I have started to question my beliefs about 2 years ago... now I identify as agnostic. A few months ago I told my parents about my love for my frie...
A. 28 July 2012: Your mom needs to tighten her grip on you? Shame on her! She should do the opposite.
She should respect it that you are an adult, that you have your own opinion and that you're not afraid to change an opinion (which basicly has been indo... (read in full...)
I'm confused by the way he's acting, please help!
Q. Hey everyone, I'll give you a basic run down of my situation, I'm 18 and the guy im going out with is about 30 or so. I know some people would find an issue there, but that's not the problem. We've been seeing each other for about 6 months now but ...
A. 27 July 2012: OK, this guy is acting possessive and inconsequential. You probably should stop dating him. Not because of the age difference. Age difference is *not* a problem in itself, it's the *possible* consequences that do.
There's something weird going on... (read in full...)
This girl DOES want me. However, she has a catch....
Q. I have a good female friend that has a lot of things in common with me, and while I'm flattered that she DOES want to date me, she has a "Little" catch.... I asked her what she would want to do with me, if I got together with her. Her ONLY answe...
A. 26 July 2012: Easy answer: you'll have to tell her that you are not interested in just sex.... (read in full...)
How to entertain introverted and quiet guys if you're introverted and quiet as well?
Q. I have a big crush on this boy.We're both members of a performing organization in our university. He plays the violin and I play the piano. Because of our common interest in the same music genre, we get along well. We're good friends and we're ...
A. 26 July 2012: Well, denying you like him wasn't smart.
You'll have to do something now. Just tell him you like him more than just a friend and ask him if he feels the same way.... (read in full...)
I'm confused by the way he's acting, please help!
Q. Hey everyone, I'll give you a basic run down of my situation, I'm 18 and the guy im going out with is about 30 or so. I know some people would find an issue there, but that's not the problem. We've been seeing each other for about 6 months now but ...
A. 26 July 2012: He seems afraid of commitment. Are you guys seeing each other like every day? Maybe he needs a few days 'off' regularly?
Ask him if this would help the situation.... (read in full...)
How do I know he's genuine? And, also, how can I regain the trust of my mom?
Q. I've been really close friends with this guy and we just started going out about a fortnight ago. I was kind of accidentally suggestive last week, meaning just to be playful, but things got slightly too physical and I regret them. My mom knew som...
A. 24 July 2012: I'd say it's too soon for conclusions. You'll have to remember that he was possibly trying out a bit how far you want to go with him and/or he possibly got carried away a bit. This doesn't necessarily mean he only wants you for sex. Just be cl... (read in full...)
Romantic night romantic enough?
Q. I need advice, im planning a romantic night for my boyfriend tomorrow night so i need answers asap! i planned on lighting 2 candles "the room is small) and getting some rose peddels putting some on the floor and bed, buting a 12 pack of his fav. ...
A. 22 July 2012: sounds pretty romantic already. Perhaps you could add some appropriate music in the background?
You could have some (romantic) subjects to talk about ready.... (read in full...)
Is is possible to find only one person beautiful?
Q. My friend told me that he only finds his wife beautiful.Is it possible? I've searched on the net a bit about it and found 7 men and 10 women who says they only find their gfs or bfs beautiful. Are there these kind of people?...
A. 21 July 2012: People who are making such claims are responding emotionally really.... (read in full...)
We aren't dating even though I said we hold hands
Q. Dear Cupid, I've known one of my best guy friends for a long time. We've always done everything together; we hang out 24/7 and we have a good time with each other. But this summer I have been feeling like he's more than a best friend now. He is su...
A. 21 July 2012: Congrats! :-)... (read in full...)
I felt a strong connection the minute we met and touched. What is this?
Q. I met this guy and I felt an strong instant connection when he looked at me and I shook his hand it was strange but warm, I have never felt this way before. I feek overwhelmed inside when I think of him as well he have a similar nationality and our ...
A. 19 July 2012: Oh yes, definitely chemistry. You like each other's pheromones.
I have experienced this multiple times. The last 'victim' almost started drooling lol.... (read in full...)
My parents are superstituous and want me to wear a necklace, but I don't share their views and I don't want to wear it! What should I do?
Q. I have a strange situation on my hands and I'm not sure how to deal with it. My parents are... very, very supersitious for lack of a better way to put it. My dad has ordered this pendant for me to wear around my neck; he has his reasons for beli...
A. 19 July 2012: They have to accept that you're an adult who has her own values and opinions. They should be ashamed of themselves if they force you into this.
Let's hope they accept your opinion. If not then show them this.... (read in full...)
I want to have sex at night but can rarely get husband to!
Q. Please help! I am a married woman, I'm 25 years old, and I've been married for 5 years. My husband and I rarely have sex. I'm the only one even trying to instigate anything. I don't think I'm that picky when it comes to sex, I like my husband to be ...
A. 19 July 2012: do you seriously have a happy marriage? Do you love him and does he tell you he loves you? If not, then ask him if he loves you.
It's not a good sign he doesn't care about the problems.
Also the fact that he doesn't care that you rarely get off ... (read in full...)
Why won't guys ask me out???
Q. I have had one real boyfriend in my life (who treated me horrible) but he is the only guy who had ever asked me out. We were on and off for three years, but he cheated constantly while lying to me about it. I dont understand - im a pretty woman, ...
A. 19 July 2012: If you're pretty, confident and all the positive things then it's possible that you scare men off a bit.
If there's someone at work you might fancy then take the initiative and strike up a conversation.
Else you'll have to go out there and st... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont give me oral sex anymore
Q. my girlfriend and i have nearly broke up over a debate we had . i asked why she will not give me oral sex anymore and she said it was because my penis is wet from precum so its disgusting . in te past she has given me oral sex alot but now its been ...
A. 19 July 2012: Have you checked out yourself how your precum smells or tastes?
If you don't find anything odd then I'd say it's all in the head of your gf.
You might want to try it under the shower with her.
You do seem to be very lucky with this girl and yo... (read in full...)
Should I contact a long lost love?
Q. I am thinking about messageing a guy I went out with a long time ago through one of the social networking sites. I think of him often and would love to reconnect with him, the only thing stopping me is the fear that he will reject me or not respond. ...
A. 16 July 2012: Why did you guys loose contact? If not because of lack of interest in you then I would contact him. What have you got to loose?
I would just ask him how he is doing. Tell him you liked going out with him and ask him if he is seeing anyone.
A pos... (read in full...)
I am supposed to kiss but I don't know how!
Q. In ireland there is a type of kiss called a meet and I have been asked to meet this boy I like . The only problem is I don't no how to meet . So I'm asking how to meet do u open ur mouth before u lean in ? And do u move your lips ? ...
A. 16 July 2012: you have been asked to meet this boy? Are you sure it isn't a real meet like in getting together? :-)
About kissing, there are plenty of pages on the internet which help you out, for instance http://www.wikihow.com/Kiss... (read in full...)
We aren't dating even though I said we hold hands
Q. Dear Cupid, I've known one of my best guy friends for a long time. We've always done everything together; we hang out 24/7 and we have a good time with each other. But this summer I have been feeling like he's more than a best friend now. He is su...
A. 16 July 2012: We would really appreciate it if you inform us of the outcome...... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont give me oral sex anymore
Q. my girlfriend and i have nearly broke up over a debate we had . i asked why she will not give me oral sex anymore and she said it was because my penis is wet from precum so its disgusting . in te past she has given me oral sex alot but now its been ...
A. 16 July 2012: she is okay with cum but not precum??
This is getting really strange...... (read in full...)
We aren't dating even though I said we hold hands
Q. Dear Cupid, I've known one of my best guy friends for a long time. We've always done everything together; we hang out 24/7 and we have a good time with each other. But this summer I have been feeling like he's more than a best friend now. He is su...
A. 16 July 2012: Well, if he likes holding your hands then I'd say he likes you more than just a friend.
Just tell him that you like him more than just a friend and ask him if he feels the same way.
If he's not sure then give him some time. Good chance he wi... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont give me oral sex anymore
Q. my girlfriend and i have nearly broke up over a debate we had . i asked why she will not give me oral sex anymore and she said it was because my penis is wet from precum so its disgusting . in te past she has given me oral sex alot but now its been ...
A. 15 July 2012: Unless you didn't have precum when she still happily blew you, I'd say there's something else going on.
Is she less interested in sex in general? Is your relationship in decline?... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of rushing into things but am afraid to do nothing
Q. I have somewhat of a problem. I haven't been in any real relationships and I recently met this new guy, he tells me how much he likes me and how he thinks I'm nice looking, but I mean we've literally only known each other for days. I don't want to ...
A. 15 July 2012: You might want to ask him what he likes about you.
It shouldn't be about your good looks only; there must be something more or else he's just being shallow.
If he's shallow you run a risk of getting hurt again.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to have sex with me!
Q. I've been engaged for almost a year, getting married September 1st, my fiance and I have a great relationship. We fight like all couples do, but there is something wrong. I'm the female in the relationship, and I'm the one complaining about not ...
A. 7 June 2012: He doesn't want to have sex because he thinks you are better looking than him? So then it would be his insecurity which is the problem?
I don't consider myself good looking but it surely won't hold me back to rock the world of a pretty woman.
You... (read in full...)
In the six months since we have been dating he has never held my hand, let alone kissed me!
Q. Hi I really need advice. I have been dating a guy for 6 months and we haven't held hands or kissed or anything romantic yet. I am beginning to have doubts. He is 42 and I am a little bit younger. When I try to ask him about his previous jobs, ...
A. 7 June 2012: I'd say it's high time you ask him if he has any romantic feelings for you. Either he sees you as friend or he's too shy to initiate something.... (read in full...)
I really like two women. One is available. The other isn't ready for a relationship right now. What do I do?
Q. I need some help! I am a single male. I was divorced ten years ago. I got out of a long term relationship two years ago. I have had time on my own and I am ready to date again. This is my problem. I have two lady friends. Both are attractive a...
A. 29 May 2012: Take your time to assess both women and also include their not so positive trades. Once you make a choice then go for her exclusively.
DON'T choose lady #1 with the intention to dump her once lady #2 is available. You'll probably end up loosing both... (read in full...)
Is our relationship a chore to him?
Q. Hello, im a little confused about my feelings for my boyfriend, we've been together for a year and a half, I absolutely adore him, and I know he feels the same. But sometimes I get the feeling our relationship is a chore to him. We're only 17,...
A. 27 May 2012: First, I'd say you explained the problem well to us. Now, did you already talk with him about these issues?
You really deserve a lot more attention than what you're currently getting.
If he doesn't change I would quit with him.... (read in full...)
Should I ask if we are exclusive? Will he run for the hills?
Q. Hi everyone, I hope someone out there can give me some advice on a lil problem i have. Ok here it goes. I met a guy at Halloween 2011 at a house party. We hit it off by talking for a few hours and he asked for my number. I didnt expect him to co...
A. 24 May 2012: I would ask tactical questions like if he's dating anyone.
Since you guys talk so much I'm sure you can ask him personal questions like that.... (read in full...)
What should I do? I was too afraid to kiss her!
Q. Hey there! I'd like to ask for some advice against unforgivingly stupid cowardice. I am 18 years old and I don't have any problems sozializing or talking to people. In contrary, I call myself strong in character and self-confident. ...
A. 23 May 2012: Did she look at your lips? If so, then she was likely interested.
Next time, you could make some intimate moves like stroking her hair or kissing her on the side of her head and slowly down to her mouth.... (read in full...)
His lack of kissing skills mean I lack .... well, read the rest, people!
Q. My bf's never really been a good kisser. I like real french kisses with a lot of tongue action and that's what really gets me going down there (meaning i get wet with a long passionate french kiss.). When he kisses me, it's a lot of kisses on the ...
A. 23 May 2012: I don't agree he's necessarily not a good kisser.
You just like it different then him.
At least tell him how you like it. Maybe you guys can meet in the middle.
... (read in full...)
How do I tell this depressed man that the relationship is over and has been over?
Q. I happen to be in a happy, committed relationship with a really nice man. No problems there. The problem is that I used to be in an LDR with a man about two years ago. After we met, I realised that we weren't compatible and that there was no way it ...
A. 20 May 2012: You have two options:
1) write him in a final letter that you're no longer available
2) don't respond (ignore him)
You don't have any responsibility for him. There has never been a real relationship between him and you.
The safe way would be to... (read in full...)
What do I do because I still have a crush on her?
Q. There's this girl who i knew for a while and never talked to. a year later i started talking to her and we would hangout with friends together and such. i had various chances to kiss her and stuff and i could tell she liked me but i never made a mo...
A. 14 May 2012: If she doesn't respond then I guess your only chance would be to try to meet her in person again. Maybe via a friend of hers?... (read in full...)
Erection when hugging/kissing my girlfriend
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 months now, and the last couple times we've taken the time to say goodbye on her front porch before I leave her house we've spend a lot of time hugging and kissing goodbye and even just talking ...
A. 13 May 2012: This isn't a problem. It's perfectly normal.
It's likely she gets aroused too. So do you really think it would be a problem for her? I don't think so. More like a compliment.
Next time it happens I would ask her if she gets aroused too.
If she... (read in full...)
Is either event an indication of attraction? If so, how come?
Q. Hello. I have a question, about a couple of wonderful events that happened. These involve different girls. First event: I had to go home. I was at the college I attend. Now, the area I was at had very limited navigational space. And, there was a ...
A. 12 May 2012: Do you wear a fragrance? This could explain the new 'incident' and possibly the others if they smelled you coming.
It has been a while I used an after shave but recently started again with it. I quickly noticed more female attention, like this gir... (read in full...)
He gets his kicks from sex but I don't get mine! How can I get him to pay more attention to my needs?
Q. Hi everyone. I have been posted a question but I found no response. I am trying to know that what is missing in our love relation. My hubby is very hot for sex. He likes sex, and lots of it. I found him sexualy hot but not emotionaly.he cares ...
A. 10 May 2012: Tell him you need more satisfaction.
Here's an easy solution: let him go down on you first.... (read in full...)
How on earth did she find me on Facebook?! Should I accept her friend request?
Q. Be honest men i'd rather your opinion on this from a guys perspective. Or if a girl answers, flip the role around so it's you in my situation with a guy..... I met this girl out one night near the beginning of university, so were looking at nearl...
A. 10 May 2012: Well, you guys did some serious kissing on your first date so it's obvious you like each other.
Why wouldn't you accept her? I'd date her again.... (read in full...)
Is either event an indication of attraction? If so, how come?
Q. Hello. I have a question, about a couple of wonderful events that happened. These involve different girls. First event: I had to go home. I was at the college I attend. Now, the area I was at had very limited navigational space. And, there was a ...
A. 10 May 2012: They both could have been flirting a bit, but it's not that hard to make things up which aren't actually true (wishful thinking).
If you meet one of them again, you could try to chat. See what happens.... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me or am I just reading him wrong?
Q. As a 24-year-old woman, I should probably be able to figure these things out by now. I’m guessing most people got over asking this type of question in grade school. Problem is, I have some sort of undiagnosed social disorder (most likely Asperger’s) ...
A. 10 May 2012: Looking at what he's already done + he would like to go to the secret place with you, I'd say he's definitely interested in you.
If you like him too then I'd say go hang out with him.... (read in full...)
Did I scare him off? Read him wrong? What do I do?
Q. Ok there is this guy I think he's shy but how do I really know?? Ok we are roommates and I always could feel a connection when he was around he would make eye contact the body language made me think he was interested. So after a while of all that I ...
A. 10 May 2012: You guys are roommates but don't really talk? Interesting.
I'd start asking him some personal questions so he knows you're interested in him.
Does he have any hobbies he might want to talk about?
Since you already told him you like him, you co... (read in full...)
Does it sound like he wanted to kiss me?
Q. I am the second shyest and awkwardest person on the planet. The most shy and awkward person is the guy I'm into. We are both 19 and college students, and we've become pretty good friends over the last few months. I've been into him for a while; ...
A. 10 May 2012: agneeman, you're not the only one monitoring this question. :-)
This one is so sweet. Too bad she posted anonymously so we can't push her to respond.
Let's hope they are busy enjoying each other. ;-)... (read in full...)
Does it sound like he wanted to kiss me?
Q. I am the second shyest and awkwardest person on the planet. The most shy and awkward person is the guy I'm into. We are both 19 and college students, and we've become pretty good friends over the last few months. I've been into him for a while; ...
A. 25 March 2012: You may want to sit down with him, hold his hand, maybe stroke his hair a bit if you dare and tell him that you really like him more than just a friend.
Ask him if your feelings are mutual if he doesn't respond.
Good chance he will confess he reall... (read in full...)
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