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writes:my dad has just passed out recently and my boyfriend has been supportive and all that but I just feel like I d0nt need him in my life anymore.i wanna be alone not being involve with anyone is the way I feel normal or not coz I have been moody around him and he surely doesnot derseve the kind of treatment im giving him.should I break up with him so that he can a person who can treat him right or tell him to give a break for a while or leave and see where it take us
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reader, adviceneeded01  +, writes (6 April 2013):
My girlfriend, well not any more actually, is in a similar position to you, we have the most amazing relationship, but her dad has been in a serious accident and is now so ill, he cant move for months.. she loves me, but has had to let me go, it kills me inside, but she needstime to heal, im not sure if you are feeling the same, it seems to bring certain people to want to push away those closest, rather than use them for their love.. do you still love your bf? can you see you guys getting back together when you feel better? I cant imagine how you are feeling, but i know as me, as a partner, i feel so hopless and lost not knowing if we will ever get bck together
Im sorry for your loss, and hope you heal soon
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (6 April 2013):
 Rather than an "official" break-up.... how about you take B/F aside and say to him:
"Hunchy-bunchy, I have so much on my plate, at the moment... and I just don't know how to deal with it all. YOU have been a rock-solid support for me... and I covet how terrific you have been. Yet, in spite of that, I think I need some "alone" time.... I couldn't tell you for how long..... and, I wouldn't hold you to it to believe that you need to endure it..... So.... can we just cool things for a while? .... and, if and when I am feeling that my life is a little more "back on the ground".... I'd like to reserve the option of contacting you... IF you are receptive.. then, perhaps, we will continue this great relationship we've been having. If you have gone on to other things... and would prefer not to hear from me... then that will be "how it is"... and I will have to live with that.... Are you OK with that?"
You don't REALLY have to make a conclusive decision now... so why do so????
Good luck...
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (6 April 2013):
Simple question: do you love him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2013): Its very natural to feel like this after a loss of a loved one. I felt the same as you when my mom died and wanted to live alone, but I m married so for me it was impossible to do. At these moments people feel so depressed sometimes and withdrawn that all they want to do is isolate themselves with anybody familiar, including significant others.
Is this something you felt for him before, or it's just happened? If you wanted to leave him before then tell him you call it quits, but if it's something you started feeling after your dad passed away, wait, and may be it is a good idea to give each other some space.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (6 April 2013):
What you're feeling doesn't need to be judged by what's normal or not (in this circumstance at least). You are feeling this way for a good reason as something major has just happened to you.
If you don't want your boyfriend around anymore simply tell him what you said here. Be sensitive since he was there for you when your dad passed away (not out), but don't be afraid to do what you want, that's your right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2013): I suggest just telling him u wanna be alone for awhile. Also give him a resin why u r breaking up with him do he doesn't think u hate him and don't like him. Tell him u wanna catch up with ur family and you wanna be with your dad for a while. I'm sure he'll understand also tell him in a nice way not all mean saying u wanna break up so Yea. You can tell him that he doesn't have to worry that it's just that you feel that u need to be with your dad for a while. Ok hope I helped :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2013): Be honest about how you feel. tell him exactly what made you feel that way and that you hope the best for both of you..
Just be careful on how u say it. Practice, so u wont hurt his feelings too much.
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