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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Our sex life is great.. Maybe a little too great. We have sex everyday. Sometines more than once. T first it was great but now sometimes I can't wait till it's over. We've even stopped doing it so often and now I love it more so when there isn't any sex than if there is sex. It's always the same style of sex. I've tried buying/doing things that would spice up our sex life but it only helps a little. I love him to death and I don't want our sex life to end. What can I do? I've talked to him about it but that's not doing the trick.
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (20 March 2013):
Try different positions, different settings, try role play, etc. Make it fun. A previous poster has asked if you orgasm. I agree its necessary to focus on this. He should make you cum and not using one way all the time. If you can cum using intercourse only then lucky you. But he should also make you cum using other ways like fingers, tongue, toys, evn just rubbing himself on you. The variety keeps things exciting. Maybe you're cooking you could get naughty and end up having him make you grab the sink while he enters you from behind. You could be watching tv and you can sit on top of him. It could be something thorough in the bedroom; you can do lots of foreplay then make nice unhurried love. Be openminded. He's your lover; enjoy him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2013): There is no reason for you to have sex when you are not enjoying it....he will not go away just because you say no once or twice a week, in fact it will have the opposite affect on him, he will stick closer to make sure he doesn't miss an opportunity when you are good and ready.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 March 2013):
 The key here is that you've TALKED to him..... but he doesn't seem to have LISTENED.....
Try the "talking" again... but ask him to LISTEN.....
If you can get the talking and listening to BOTH take place, then you (and he) should have an improved sex life....
Please note... that it's difficult for us (men) to LISTEN when, and if, we know we are going to continue to get nik-nik, regardless of whether or not we listen... So, make those terms very clear to him!!!!
Good luck...
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (20 March 2013):
I'm surprised he's not eager to try any position you want with you. At least he's horny enough to bang you every day is he.
Why don't you explicitly ask him to try new positions. Maybe he wants you to the take the initiative at first.
It doesn't have to be athletic. Have you tried climbing on top and basicly insisting you're gone stay there until things are done?
What about a doggy style quicky? Maybe talk a little bit dirty to him that you want him? Is he perhaps a bit shy?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (20 March 2013):
 Your sex life isn't great if you don't like sex. Generally speaking, "spicing things up" is almost never the answer to a sex life that is struggling.
It's interesting that you don't mention your pleasure in your post. I'm wondering if you orgasm easily every time? It doesn't have to be a result of the actual intercourse, just that you do finish. If you don't, you should focus on making that a priority for now. Even if it's you using your own hands or a vibrator, focus on making sure your orgasm is a priority during sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2013): Have you been blunt with him? Men usually need blunt.
My bf and I had sex all the time, hours on end when we first got together, to the point of where it made me extremely sore and I was in pain.
I talked to him, told him I love him and that I really enjoy sex, but it hurts because we are doing it so often. We cut down to three times a week ish. He knows a million positions so I didn't have that problem.
Perhaps buy a book on positions and tell him you would like to try some.
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