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writes:If your guy friend wants you to meet his sister(after 9 months) is my relationship with my guy friend platonic or not? Why am I confused? It's because he has been saying that she wants to meet me, and now he's actually putting something together. If we are friends, then why meet the sister? I was perfectly fine just meeting his friends and joking around with them. Do my guy friend and I joke around? Yes. Do we send text messages and calls? Yes. Has he asked me out before? Yes, but he says he was joking. He says he's a player. I believe him.He says he likes older women. I believe him too. He's 33, I'm 28. I'm asking because I don't know what to think. I don't know what question to ask if the meeting actually happens. I don't know if I should even ask and just go with it. It's platonic right?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 February 2013):
 ... Is there a rule against friends meeting siblings? I wasn't aware such things were reserved for romantic relationships? I've introduced all my friends to my brother, sure hope they didn't think I was in love with them because of it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2013): Wouldn't read too much into it.Just as well you know him for what he is. Make it plain that you like it platonic.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 February 2013):
 maybe you and his sister will hit it off.
stop reading things into it...
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reader, CMMP +, writes (25 February 2013):
Labels are there to keep you from having to think. It's Rock? Oh, I like rock music. It's Healthy? Great I'm trying to eat healthy.
But the reality is they can be a problem. For music it makes the label more important than the music (instead of being artistic and innovative, musicians force themselves to fit into a label), and healthy food could mean anything. That's why you read the ingredients.
In a relationship it's the same thing. Your relationship with this guy is whatever it is and a label wont change that. If you want more from him (it sounds like you do) then talk with him about it. Meeting his sister doesn't mean he wants to be with you, but if you want to be with him and are unhappy just being friends then it's up to you to try and make that happen.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (25 February 2013):
Well, do you have any hobbies or interests which might be the reason the sister would like to meet you?Or maybe she's just a very social person who likes to meet people.Why don't you just ask your guy friend *why* she wants to meet you.
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