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writes:So I've been with my boyfriend for quite a while, I'd say 3 years now. I've never done anything wrong to him I do everything and anything. I've gone out of my way sometimes to do things for him because I love him so much. I just recently found out that he cheated on me with my bestfriend. She claims on being naive to doing so with him, and he says there's no feelings involved. I've also caught him doing other things he shouldn't be doing but he somehow tries to turn it around on me and make me seem like the bad guy. He also talks to a lot of girls and flirts with them but he doesn't notice, as if its just natural. He's also judgemental about my body shape and I've confronted him numerous times but he just can't seem to admit it. It's not like I'm a super chunky girl but it seems he likes the girls that look like minors ... What do I do?
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reader, iargwath  +, writes (15 October 2012):
 I feel as though you know you deserve better than this. This guy doesn't know what he has in you, and due to his own personal insecurities is unfaithful and unfair to you. I think its time to acknowledge you are worth more and leave this guy behind. Good luck!
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (14 October 2012):
Looks like he has a chronic problem of not being honest with you. Is that really acceptable to you? What makes you love him? Take a critical look at him and then decide.
Many girls would have dumped him by now.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (14 October 2012):
 Even though you love him, you have to ask yourself what it is that you actually love about him.
Is it how he made you feel when you first met?
Is it th routine and how he is part of your day?
Is it the small amount of attention he gives you amongst all the cheating, flirting and derogatory comment?
People change over time and I am assuming your boyfriend is young like you? A lot of younger guys are not happy to be involved in a serious relationship so early in their life because the think they are missing out elsewhere and this can and does lead to bad behaviour which is entirely unfair on you (because you have been a decent person)
I bet he was the one to iniiate the relationship, men often lose their head at the start whereas girls are more suspicious and cautious.
Your relationship has run it's course...he's behaving badly and rather than just coming out and saying 'It's over' he is happy to string you along and say nasty things to you and cheat on you because he knows you love him and he can use that love for as long as he wants so he never has to be bored or alone.
You didn't do anything wrong...nothing at all!! He just changed and showed his true nature nd you got to ask yourself if clinging on for the last dregs is worth the pain?
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