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writes:hi people!ok so here's my problem.I'm currently going out with my boyfriend and I love him to bits! He says he loves me the same, more than anything he says.We mess about you know talking about sex and what have you and some days he's like "I love you enough to have sex with you" and things like that, but please don't tell me i'm too young to have sex and stuff because that's not the problem and I won't any ways!But then like the next day (we talk on the phone every day) he just seems to not want to know.He talks to me but he just won't do the sort of stuff we would normally do you know making out and stuff.For example we always see each other at speedway because we both go,the other day we were talking about it on the phone and he said "what do u want to do at speedway?" and I said "I don't know what do you want to do?" and we were talking about that sort of stuff (kissing mainly) and what would happen at speedway. Then today he rung me and he just said "Oh i'm just going to stand there and watch it tonight" I was kind of shocked but i just said "ok!"I don't know what's going on with him, why one moment is he saying he loves me and we act like a couple, and the next he doesn't want to know?please helpxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (20 March 2008):
 I soppose he may be just seeing if you'll go running back to him saying you'll do things, but i would do what he said and just stand there then he will eventually come round and he should respect you more. If he seriously did love you then he shouldn't put any pressure on you at all. Don't worry about it, this is probably just a game to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): Okay I know how you feel i missed around with this kid that says he loves me...... then he goes the other way we use to talk every night and all he wanted to talk about is sex and if i wanted to hang out with him i had to wen he could then he started to make rules and all that stuff... it sucked but watch your self wacth what you do he might be just using you and all that..... just tell him how you feel then he will spill most of it out
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (20 March 2008):
 As you stated, "I won't do it anyway," and he's thinking about 'doing it' so plan on having some pressure from him on that subject. He's testing the waters right now and not sure what he wants...most boys ya'lls age look for the girl to make the first move--but, remember what YOU said earlier in your post AND know that girls mature faster than boys, so he's most likely looking for you to make the moves. If you don't, (and that's the pressure)then don't be surprised if he moves on to another fish in the sea. You have to have enough respect for yourself to hold to your beliefs/morals before doing what they want you to do.
Hope this helps. gena
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