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writes:Hey, i have never really used one of these things but it doesn't seem like a bad idea. i am a gay lad and i'm quite open about it but my problem is that i think i'm falling for my best friend, but his sexuality is some what questionable. he denies being gay and i also deny it for him as i get alot of people asking me weither he is gay. he comes out of a weekend with me and we always go to gay bars and he would rather go there.he has issues with people touching him or getting too close to him and he doesnt really have any realtionship with his father. he gets down sometimes and i wish i could just hug him and stuff but i dont want to loose him as a friend tho. Also him being drop dead gorgous doesn't help!! lol. and another thing that makes me feel he could b gay is that he just isn't interested in girls.if any one could help me it'd be a propa big help.
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 First of all, if you're OUT THERE then why are you telling folks you aren't gay??? Be true to yourself and then talk to your friend openly about the situation. Don't just 'wonder' about it anymore. Communicate the issue.
IT's the best way to handle a relationship--COMMUNICATION.
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (19 March 2008):
 If he says he's not gay then take him at his word. His sexuality may be questionable in your mind, but in his there is no doubt. If you want to stay as friends you have no option other than to accept things as they are at the moment. If he changes his attitude he'll let you know. You can't change it for him. It has to be voluntary! If he feels he's not gay, he probably isn't.
It pisses me off that homosexuals have hijacked the word 'Gay'. It used to mean happy. It was even a girl's name. Not any more, sadly. This world is going down the sewer.
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reader, obsessive_couple  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Aww ^_^ That's cute!I personally think you should just straight out ask him. Like, if a girl liked you, wouldn't you rather her ask you if you were straight (or at least bi) and let her end her crush or whatever?I think just asking is the only way to go, and I wish you all the luck!
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (19 March 2008):
 One of my guy best friends was in this dilemna with another guy who we were both friends with. Jeff, my gay best friend, fell in love with "Mike" but Mike denied being gay even though Jeff was convinced he had some "sugar" in him. They ended up having oral sex one night and then Mike completely turned it on him saying Jeff took advantage of him while he was half asleep, Jeff was in complete shock and it ruined their friendship. Jeff was heartbroken and he really loved this guy and it was so painful for him to be accused and then ignored by Mike. If your friend is so openly denying that he is gay, even if something did happen, it probably would be devastating at the least, to have him possibly reject you for something he can't even accept in himself. You sound so much more accepting and sure of your sexuality than he does, so I think the odds are you will be hurt.
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