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writes:I am 19 and my boyfriend is 20. We have been together for a month and a half. Every time we try to get together something happens in his family. Like one time we were going to celebrate winning our basketball games by getting shrimp because it's our favorite but his little girl caught the flu, then we plan on going on a skating date the next week but his dad fell off a ladder, then the next week we plan on going out but his brother got into a fight on campus which resulted in shots. As a result, they were kicked out the dorms. I was really worried about the last incident, as far as the other dates, he always told me that he would make it up to me and that he is really sorry. Anyway, the last time I saw him was last Thursday before spring break. I have been texting him and he hasn't replied back to any of them. do you think he still cares about me? I'm not really smothering him because we really don't spend much time together. I just want to know why he hasn't responded to any of my messages and if y'all think the relationship is over.
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reader, salinew +, writes (23 March 2008):
 i know how it feels. what you can to do is try to find out if it is a reality. i'm kind of in teh same boat as you right now month and a half excuses patience the whole bit. let him know how you feel then just give him his space for now, or if you did try talking to him see what he says maybe he is just unsure of what to do right now. perhaps these events really did trasnpire and that's wat you need to find out.
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reader, Miss C  + ♥, writes (19 March 2008):
 I know how impatient you must feel and you must really like this guy to have given him so many chances. I say give him the benefit of the doubt once more. Try calling him up and say you understand he must have alot going on right now but that you feel he is neglecting you in the process. He may not be aware of how this is affecting you. If nothing improves and he comes up with more excuses then I think it's time to end it and move on. After all, the beginning of relationships should be about having fun and getting to know one another. It's the couples that have been together a long time that should he those most likely to be concerned about the little time they spend with their partners and if this is happening just fter a month then it does sound quite worrying. Best of luck in whaetver you decide. Miss C xx
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Sorry, but these are too many excuses, what next, his grandmother is on fire? I would tend to think either he isn't as serious as you are, at the very least, or has other interests. If you are not spending time together, it's not a good sign. It's also only been a month, how serious can this be?
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reader, Gena Bullock +, writes (19 March 2008):
 It sounds like just episode after episode of 'tests' going on in your lives. Not him testing you, but God testing your patience/both of you.
If he hasn't blown you off, why don't you call and ask to meet again--try once more. Who knows, it could be the right time now?
Gena Bullock
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