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writes:I have a few things i've been wondering for a while and that...When me and my Boyfriend have sex, i don't really feel a lot, and we've tried other ways but i still don't feel that much, i always thought it would be this great feeling, but i feel more if he fingers me or licks me out, is there any way i could change this?And also, when we're doing, Stuff, i don't make any noise...is this normal? i have an orgasm and it feels good...but i never make any noise...?
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reader, Silentwisher +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Don't worry. It is perfectly normal. It is easier for a man to climax than it is a woman. My advice to you is this, plenty of foreplay and teasing. There is such a thing as the female orgasm it's just harder to achieve. The key is for him to hold back the climax when he is fingering or performing oral sex and tease you until you are completely ready then after you have climaxed go in for the real thing. I assure you you will find it more pleasureable.
As for noises, not everyone makes them, mostly it's to assure the men that they're doing a good job, because they need that little boost of confidence sometimes.
I hope I've helped you a little and not embarressed you.
Good luck
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (18 March 2008):
 The whole thing is a learning process; some things just have to come natural, that's all. You're young and experimenting is part of the excitement of it all. Don't stress over it, although for you it seems aggravating.
If he's not too upset about your not moaning and groaning, then don't you be either. Sometimes relaxing and just concentrating on what he's doing helps you feel the excitement building up. When he rubs your clit or maybe when he's humping you, rub your own clit at the same time.
Remember, it takes females 20 minutes on average to cum than it does a male.So, foreplay is really important. Notice I said, on average...there are some who get hot just at sight or a slight touch. We're all different. Take your time and you'll find your nitch--or he will ! teehee!
Gena
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reader, Skeez +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Its perfectly normal lovey. And you can get an orgasm through actual sex so I dont know what the person below me was saying, but...its normal.
I thought the exact same thing at some points. I thought the fingering and oral felt better than the sex, and other times It was the other way round.
Theres nothing to worry about also if you dont make any mouns or noises. Some people just dont do it.
Dont worry yourself sweety.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Orgasm is achieved by oral and manual stimulations of the clitoris.
There is no other way.
Not everyone is the same. Some are silent and some will let out some moans.
You are perfectly normal.
Some men may derive more pleasure when they hear the woman moan with pleasure.
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