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I currently live in London and work in a marketing job, although I do still escort occasionally for fun and excitement
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I'm 13 and a porn addict
Q. I really need help. I'm a porn adict and i cant steam to stop watching it. I'm 13 and i was exposed to it as a young girl. My mom has been suspecting it but i really want to stop do you people have any suggestions?...
A. 13 January 2008: I've watched porn since I was about 14 and I still look at it, but I have to agree the real thing is far better. I still enjoy a good porn DVD with my boyfriend and it can spice things up.
Porn is not bad in itself, like alchohol it's good in ... (read in full...)
Could my boyfriend be a paedophile (or an ephebophile)?
Q. I'm afraid I might be dating a peadophile. My boyfriend (nealry 20) is attracted Hannah Monatna who is 15, and I am so grossed out I can't even kiss him let alone make love to him. He makes jokes about him being an ebophile to his friends online (he ...
A. 13 January 2008: I hardly think him being interested in a 15 yr old makes him a paedophile. In the UK the age of consent is 16, in most of Europe it's 14. The legal position in each country comkes into this, however just because he looks at her pics should be no ... (read in full...)
I am becoming interested in him as he is nice and respectful, but is he too old for me?
Q. Hello, I'm 15 years old, and a 19 years old guy likes me. He's really nice and respectful. I'm becoming interested in him, But I'm thinking it's not right of me. Is this guy too old? [Added] Hello, I've posted a question here recently, But another ...
A. 13 January 2008: It's no age gap at all really, so take it carefully and see how it goes.... (read in full...)
My younger sister makes me horny, please help.
Q. hi. I am 15 and i get really horny when i am around my younger sister who is 13. I really want to see her naked but never have. What should i do?...
A. 13 January 2008: Some of the answers above are not very helpful. There's nothing wrong with you and thank goodness you asked the question! It's perfectly natural to be aroused sexually by any naked body, male or female, at your age. The important thing is to ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and he's 20...is this ok??
Q. Hi, Im 15 atm and I met a fantastic guy in the summer. He is 20. We have both had feelings for each other for about 10 months now and he wants us to have a relationship. He is a good person and he wont do anything with me until im 16 in feb 08 but ...
A. 13 January 2008: It seems you'll be 16 very soon so the legal position is really not an issue. The main thing is that you have a genuine relationship and you are not pressured into sex by your fella.
It's a relatively small age gap by modern standards. I've alw... (read in full...)
Is his porn use turning him into a pervert?
Q. i have noticed my husband of 14 years is watching porn and it`s making me feel inadaquate and that he`s not satified with me he is 50 and i`m 48. is he turning into a pervert i`m worried...
A. 5 November 2007: you should encourage him to share the porn with you. True, some girls are not turned on by porn and some think (wrongly) the guy is comparing you to the girls on the videos. None of this is so, it's the way a guy's brain works and it's fine. ... (read in full...)
He's on porn sites 5-6 times a week yet we make love on 2 or three... what's going on?
Q. My husband is on porn sights 5-6 days per week, but we only make love 2-3 times per week. Is this something I should be worried about?...
A. 5 November 2007: If at 50 you are still enjoying sex several times a week it may well be the porn that's helping! I agree with the idea that you should encourage him to share it with you. True, some girls are not turned on by porn and some think (wrongly) the guy ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to this older guy?
Q. Heya.For about a year now ive been seeing this guy and we get on really well and both really like each other. The only problem is he's 28 and im only 16. The age dosen't matter to me that much its just a few of my friends know and are really teasing ...
A. 5 November 2007: Personally, I lost mine to a much older man and I'm glad I did, because he was understanding, careful, considerate and experienced. This made the whole experience very special, and 4 years later my younger sister followed the same advice, with ... (read in full...)
Is there a psychological impotency?
Q. is there a psychological impotency?...
A. 29 October 2007: In more than 2/3rds of cases it's psychological. Possibly stress at work, things unconnected with your relationship. It's almost certainly NOT YOU!... (read in full...)
My self-consciousness in interfering with my life
Q. Im 15, and i know pretty much all i should know about sex before i have sex. i am in a serious relationship, he has fingered me and i have given him a hand job. We do that every few times we see eachother and im fine with it, and want to have sex...
A. 29 October 2007: When I started my sex life I was like that. Now, some of the guys I meet tell me they dream of girls who look like you do, so please understand there are all shapes and sizes of body, and it's how you feel mental;ly more than how you look ... (read in full...)
We have been having sex for 3 months but she is still tight. How can we loosen her up?
Q. Hi me and my girlfreind have been going out for 5 months now and we started having sex three months ago and for sum reason she is as tight as the first time we did it any advice on how to 'loosen her up' cheers...
A. 29 October 2007: I've never heard that question! Most guys want to know how to get their girl to be tighter! Seriously, use some lube. That's all it usually takes. Then enjoy her tightness. You'll never find anything as good again!... (read in full...)
Does this age difference matter?
Q. Hello Iam 28 years old and my boyfriend is 51 years old. Will this age difference create problems down the road if we want to get married?...
A. 29 October 2007: My current guy is 56, and I'm in my 20's too. It's absolutely fine, but marriage and kids are not on the agenda. You have to know were it's going long-term. I'm not interested in kids either at the moment, but then nor do I see this lasting more ... (read in full...)
He has a low sex drive. What can I do?
Q. I am 23 years old and have been with my boyfrined for 3 months, he is 28. We had sex a few times a month or so after we got together (3 to be precise) but since then we haven't had any, not even any foreplay. It is a struggle just to get him to give ...
A. 29 October 2007: I'm no doctor so I'll not attempt to offer advice on the psychological/medical side. What I will say is that a high sex drive and a low sex drive don't mix very well. I'm very fortunate in having an open relationship where I am free to meet ... (read in full...)
Why should I give him a BJ? I don't get anything out of it!
Q. ok it seems my man wants a bj all the time but he wants me to finish it without my getting any pleasure what should i do about this ...
A. 9 October 2007: If you give him a BJ he should give you oral too, or stimulate you in whatever way you prefer.... (read in full...)
Is sex REALLY like this?
Q. Hi, I am a 14 year old girl and have just began high school a few months ago. I have viewed porn a few times and now that I have seen people engage in sex, I wonder... is this what sex is really like? Because I think it seems way too extreme for ...
A. 9 October 2007: Porn is designed to be visual, which means the actors (and they are actors) have to adopt postions which favour the camera. None of those positions is good for real sex. Also, they exaggerate their orgasms and so on.
Porn is designed to stimu... (read in full...)
Do you think it's wrong to look at porn and masturbate at age 13?
Q. I am 13 and I look at porn and masturbate. I have this urge to have sex, but know I shouldn't in case I regret it later. Do you think it's wrong to look at porn and masturbate?...
A. 9 October 2007: Porn is fantastic at your age. No harm can come to you and you learn about your own body and how to give yourself pleasure. This will hbe invaluable when you start relationships in the future.
Just remmeber that all those contortions they do ... (read in full...)
My Husband has rented pornos - should I be worried?
Q. I just found out my husband has rented several porns that imply that the actresses are teens even though they are not. They are depicted as teens and the title includes the word teen in them. Should I be worried?...
A. 9 October 2007: I disagree totally with the last answer. As long as he fantasises with porn he's not chasing the real thing. well over 50% of porn and many shops like Ann Summers supply things which enable people to play out the age-gap fantasy, and fantasy it ... (read in full...)
Will I ever find love again?
Q. will i ever find love again? will someone ever make me feel really special and want to stay with me forever? At the moment i feel like these things will never happen to me again and that i am destined to be alone, never to be married or to have kid...
A. 9 October 2007: Yes you will! It seems like it will never happen but believe me it will! Cherish the memory of a past love and never regret it, however there will be more and better things to come.... (read in full...)
What's the furthest you should go with a boy?
Q. Whats the furthest you shuld go with a boy? I mean, i like to make out with them but they always want me to go further, and im not even 15 yet. I dnt wanna giv them BJ or or toss them up, but this makje sme seem like a total virgin! Wat shuld I do? ...
A. 9 October 2007: Go carefully and as Kenny says, never feel pushed. In all the relationships I had when I was your age I was the one who initiated things, when I felt ready. 99% of guys understand that NO means NO, so be confident and use the NO word!
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Do I tell my teacher how I feel?
Q. I'm a legal adult now. I really like him and want to buy him presents or do something else nice for him *blush*. Unfortunately there's still a large age gap between my teacher and myself (He's actually around my dad's age *ugh*). I was ...
A. 9 October 2007: If he were not your teacher I doubt you would feel this way. Men who help you, show leadership and appear emotionally strong tend to stimulate the feelings we would normally have for a father, or an older brother.
Would you feel this way if h... (read in full...)
Do I move back in with my ex, or will it just make things worse?
Q. I am in financial dire straits. Going throu a divorce. Ex Boyfriend has offered my kids and I a place to stay. I don't want to exchange one problem for another. I am currenlty temping. Not making enough to see to my basics. Debts are piling ...
A. 29 September 2007: Normally I would say you should NEVER jump straight into another relationship. However as you refer to him as your boyfriend it seems you've already done that. So, why not accept his hospitality. It would take away some of the stress and ... (read in full...)
I can't stop flirting with the girl at work, but I'm happily married! What do I do?
Q. Ive been working in my new place for about 18 months now. My department is great and we all seem to get on. Im happily married and there is a younger girl in our department and things have gone where they shouldnt have. I like her and get on ...
A. 27 September 2007: Of course you can stop! You don't want to stop which is why you're telling us about it!
If you love your wife and don't want to hurt her, or wreck your marriage, stop it!... (read in full...)
What tips can you give me about making sex better for my boyfriend and I?
Q. Please help. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly six months and we have started to try and have sex. I can make him come by blow jobs but so far he has only given me handjobs. These used to be very intense for me but recently I just haven't got ...
A. 27 September 2007: I agree you don't wanna be drunk! a drink to relax yes, but drunk is not cool! Also, get some lube, there's lots of it in the supermarkets these days and it makes things a lot easir for both of you. By the way, if you give him oral, he could do ... (read in full...)
I have issues with self-confidence, and I get jealous when my girlfriend and her friends talk about hot guys. What should I do?
Q. Hey - I'm a schoolkid and I think I have serious self confidence issues about the way I look etc. I have a girlfriend who I really love, its just... She talks to her friends and stuff about who in our year is fit/hot etc, and I kind of get the ...
A. 26 September 2007: Heah, Phil is right. As a girl I can safely say that we fancy guys but that doesn't mean we want to jump them! Also, don't work so hard to get people to like you. If you do, you become someone else and that's not cool. Be yourself. Belive it or ... (read in full...)
Joined a guitar class, does this guy like me?
Q. recently, i joined a guitar class. there is this guy i think i like. he is 4 years older than me (17 yrs old this yr) and in polytecnic. he likes the clerk at the centre. i dont want to tell him i like him because i am scared he will not like me and ...
A. 26 September 2007: I agre with both Leanne and Jamer. Smile at him and be friends, but don't confuse this with anything more than friendahip. He probably claps because you are better at the guitar! ... (read in full...)
My husband will never give me any kind of foreplay! Most times I wish I could just go back to sleep instead. Help!
Q. Hi there, i think i need some sexual advice for someone! Thing is me and my husband have sex quite often but i can never get arroused! He will never give ma any kind of foreplay and even if he does it's for about 5 mins, i have spoke to him abo...
A. 26 September 2007: He does need to learn that we girls need a bit of a build-up. Have you tried foreplay on him? Seriously, if you just massaged him, stroked him (avoiding his genitals) and whispered "sweet nothings" to him for 15-20 minutes he might start to get ... (read in full...)
Sex with my current boyfriend does nothing for me! Any suggestions?
Q. im with my lovely boyfrend 10months and i lovehim to bits and love when we do stuff like fingering,wanking etc.... but sex does nothing for me( he is very very small,my ex was very very big and he was great in bed)but with my new boyfrend i just ...
A. 26 September 2007: Size isn't everything. I suggest if you really like him and want to be with him you look at other ways to enjoy each other too, like oral sex, which when a guy does it well, can be better than penetration. Also, there are some positions where ... (read in full...)
Should we have a baby? I'm 19, he's 28
Q. I think I want a baby, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. we get on well some of the time and we have discussed it before. how do I know if its right or not? Im nearly 19 and he is 28. ...
A. 26 September 2007: Get on well SOME of the time? You THINK you want a baby? Honey, you've a load of time ahead to have babies. At present you need to concentrate on enjoying life and certainly you need to wait till you have a permanent relationship based on love, as ... (read in full...)
I have a large 'hanging' labia lip... Will this put him off oral which he says he's up for?
Q. Hi!, me n my boyfrined were talking n he mentioned that he's always like to go down on me and im totally up for it, and tbh i'd like to too! only problem is, that i have large 'hanging' labia lips n im worried he will find this wierd! is this a...
A. 26 September 2007: Hey, just hang loose! seriously, you've nothing at all to be worried about. We all have a part of our body we think is weired and he's probably the same. Oral sex is one of the greatest things to experience, giving and receiving. Enjoy!... (read in full...)
How can I seem a little more convincing this weekend when she said we'll talk again?
Q. my gf just broke up with me the other day and said she needed some time along for a while, she says im not convincing when i tell her i trust her, so how can i seem a little more convincing this weekend when she said we'll talk again?...
A. 26 September 2007: You know, trust is something that can be communicated mentally. If you genuinely trust her she'll know. More importantly, you can't fake trust. If you don't trust her nothing you say will convince her.
Trusting someone, and allowing them to ... (read in full...)
Having sex and not losing virginity?
Q. is there a way to have sex and not losing virginity? What does sex from the back means? is oral sex dangerous? ...
A. 25 September 2007: I also wonder if you are really this old. You lose your virginity physically, by penetration of the vagina. Oral sex is safer than penetrative sex and it can be just as much fun, especially for the girl if the guy is good at it.
Sex from the... (read in full...)
I'm turned off from my boryfriend because of his porn habits. How can I get it out of our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend keeps downloading the filthiest porn behind my back and it makes me so sick I donn't even want him to touch me. I've just found one were a woman is practically being abused by 3 men. He says he's not into anal sex but it's in all of ...
A. 25 September 2007: I have to disagree with the others. Porn is fantasy, not reality and is designed to titilate and arouse people. More men than women like porn, however many women do like it (I like it) and I'd rather my man watched porn than played around for real ... (read in full...)
My friends don't approve of my older boyfriend
Q. ok so im 15 and going out with a 21 year old. everythings fine except my friends are being really annoying about how its wrong. what bothers me the most is my best friend is getting pissed off and hes always like dont even mention your bf anymore ...
A. 25 September 2007: It's strange, because I spend a lot of time and grew up in Italy where the age of consent is 14, as it is in most of Europe. These days it's very hard for people to hide their feelings when they grow up so quickly. When I was your age I had 19 and ... (read in full...)
My bf has had a vasectomy and I want a baby, what should I do?
Q. my boyfriend has had a vasectomy and i want a baby we've been together 3 years and have talked about marriage, etc, what should i do? he is 41 i am 31...
A. 25 September 2007: Vasectomy's at his age can often be reversed ... (read in full...)
I really like him... but am I wasting my time?
Q. Ok so Ive like this guy for about two and a half months now who I have slept with prolly six or seven times now. When we first started hanging out he was really sweet and wanted to hang out all the time but then after about a month he told me he ...
A. 25 September 2007: I tend to agree with the others. If you want more than just sex with him you'll probably be disappointed. He's a guy, and if you give it to him on a plate he'll take it, however his comments seems to suggest he feels he wants a girl to be more ... (read in full...)
Everyone and their mothers know that I like him, but does he like me back?
Q. Ok. Here it goes. I have a bit of a problem here that has been over cliched and has been around since the beginning of time. There's this boy I like; I don't use the other term because... it seems a bit,ah,serious. Anyway, I wonder if he like me ...
A. 25 September 2007: I think you're just discovering the feelings that go on between men and women, and at the moment it means nothing at all other than that you are aware of him. You'll find that if he does like you (I'm sure he does) he'll say something to that ... (read in full...)
I can't understand why he won't give me a chance if he loves me!
Q. can anyone help? me and my bf broke up over a month ago we where fighting a lot and i was very insecure and didnt trust him i have begged him back but he said no that he loves me but cant be with me hes not the same coz of all the fightin. he has ...
A. 25 September 2007: I think you have to examine why you wee fighting a lot. What can you say or do to show him that your insecurities have gone? In fact, I wonder whether they have, in just one month. He probably thinks the fighting will happen again and he can't ... (read in full...)
He feels nothing during sex with me and sees it as a chore... He says I'm too loose!
Q. Hi everyone, I only had 2 sexual partners so far, one is my current boyfriend. My first boyfriend had a small penis however i had many orgasims and had sex many times a week. But my new or 2nd boyfriend who has a large penis says i am loose an...
A. 25 September 2007: He's a prize dork! First of all, how tight you are has a lot to do with how you react to being with them. Mostly the vagina contracts to hold the penis, however small or large. If he's such an oaf I guess he turns you off, which is not likely to ... (read in full...)
Went to Oktoberfest and slept with a co-worker (even though I have a girlfriend)... I'm disgusted with myself!
Q. Dear All, I am in a world of pain. Never have I felt like this before. I went to Oktoberfest on the weekend and I slept with a girlf from work even though I have a girlfriend of 4 years. I am disgusted with my actions. This is the first time I...
A. 25 September 2007: Hm, if it was a one-off you have to decide whether telling her will ruin your relationship. Obviously you feel bad about it. I do think she should know, but timing the revelation will be tricky. Telling others was a real dumb thing to do. I ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend placed an ad seeking a bi couple for sex. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend placed a personals ad seeking a bi couple for sex. What should I do? ...
A. 25 September 2007: Really strange doing that without discussing it with you. I've met people this way, but only when my partner and I agreed it. He's way out of order... (read in full...)
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