How do I explain to friends that I don't want to be touched because of my disfigurement?
Q. It's me again. I have people who are pressuring me to be in a relationship, but there's just one problem...I'm permanently disfigured. I used to have tits, and then I had surgery. It still doesn't look normal and the Doctors don't care. But the ...
A. 30 January 2011: Sorry to contradict but no - God has not given up on you - YOU have given up on you. You're bitter, you can't change that, you say. But you CAN change how you look. Seek out that corrective surgery and please - stop feeling sorry for yourself... (read in full...)
How do I explain to friends that I don't want to be touched because of my disfigurement?
Q. It's me again. I have people who are pressuring me to be in a relationship, but there's just one problem...I'm permanently disfigured. I used to have tits, and then I had surgery. It still doesn't look normal and the Doctors don't care. But the ...
A. 29 January 2011: Yes, I think I can understand that. I think you should exhaust all avenues of possible medical treatment before you resign yourself to a life as you described. Surely there's some medical person who will not only listen but be prepared to point you ... (read in full...)
Why did she say I was the first but then tell the doctor differently?
Q. hey , well I am in a great relationship with my girlfriend had ups and downs but we talk about our problems which I thin maes us strong. I am the kind of guy who believes in plain speain and no lies as I hate liars. Anyways my girlfriend and I have ...
A. 29 January 2011: I agree with CaringGuy up to a point but as I read it, it's not that you're NOT the first she's had unprotected sex with - it's the fact that she LIED about it. As such, I can fully understand your concern.
If she lied about that, what else has she/... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 18 months tied me up in my sleep -- I was petrified. What do I do moving forward?
Q. My girlfriend of 18 months tied me up in my sleep as a "birthday gift." It was 7 days ago now, and I woke up with my arms and legs handcuffed to the bed posts; I had also been stripped, gagged and blindfolded. I had no idea where I was, my heart ...
A. 23 January 2011: If this post is real - which is debateable - then I would say you are far too young and immature to realise just what a lucky guy you are, to have a young woman who is so adventurous and so resourceful to go to all that trouble for your mutual ... (read in full...)
Do guys like flowers?
Q. I'm thinking of sending my boyfriend flowers for valentines day because he's at the United States Air Force Academy and I'm stuck in Vermont. Would he like that? Do guys like that? why or why not?...
A. 23 January 2011: 100% with the first answer!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend treats his daughter like an adult friend
Q. I have been dating a great guy for a few years. He's been divorced for almost a decade and has a 13 years old daughter. He gets his daughter every weekend and cherishes the time he has with her. Since I've known him, I've felt like he treats h...
A. 23 January 2011: WHATTTT??? Be very careful what you reply, female reader anonymous. It's people like you that get innocent people a bad rep for no reason. Sorry, but you just come over as being a hard-bitten, cynical man-hater who's had a bad experience and wants ... (read in full...)
Why was he holding his daughter's hand like he was?
Q. Is this weird or not?? Whilst driving my partner of 18 months reached across to the back of the car to hold his 12 year old daughters hand. He held it for 10 minutes. She has not been upset or anything -just sitting there.I felt uncomfortable as I ...
A. 17 January 2011: Na, not weird at all. When I meet my grown-up daughter she holds on tightly to my arm and snuggles up to me when we are walking down the street. We've always been like that and I love the fact that she's not ashamed of her dear old Dad!... (read in full...)
Can I have some positive advice from people who've had experience with getting back together with someone after a break-up...
Q. I'm not going to go into details about my past relationship with this guy.... right now, we are just friends, we 'broke up' this past summer... we ended on good terms... but he felt that we needed to be separate from each other to 'move on' fro...
A. 15 January 2011: Never forget, you broke up for a reason. You broke up once, it will happen again. The relationship simply is not strong enough.
I've done it, my friends have done it. Never successfully.... (read in full...)
He asked me out but didn't pay for the date?
Q. A guy that I know is interested in me (we've kissed) asked me to hang out (alone for the first time, also this is the beginning of our "friendship"), but he never paid for me even though he treated it as a date (kissed me again)...is that normal? I ...
A. 15 January 2011: Sorry - are you unemployed? Are you struggling to make ends meet? Do your outgoings exceed your income?
21st century babe - deal with it.... (read in full...)
I'm scared I might have hurt her when I chickened out of going further. I don't know what to do
Q. Ok, so i'm 15 and my girlfriend and I are talking about sex. But i'm scared to because i might hurt her. we've reached really close to having sex, but i chickened out. I told her this reason and she keeps saying it'll be ok... i don't know what to ...
A. 12 January 2011: I think the clue is in your last line... "I don't know what to do."
Your problem is your answer - your answer is your problem.
"If in doubt - leave it out" is my strong advice. You clearly are not ready for sex and may be feeling pressured by your ... (read in full...)
I just want him to kiss me ...
Q. I've written here before about this guy. We've been seeing each other for about 3 months. During that time he's been recovering from a surgery. We talk 24/7 via phone calls, text, and get together about once a week. Last night, New Year's Eve, we ...
A. 8 January 2011: I'm glad for you that it seems to be heading in the right direction.
Yea, being jobless for most guys is like a real confidence deflator. With this new info, it makes even more sense that he feels reticent to make a move on you. I admire your pati... (read in full...)
Should I forge ahead with my psychologist career, and ignore my heart? Or chase my dream of being an actress?
Q. Hi. I don't have a relationship question, it's more of a life question. But I read this site everyday, and people seem to be very helpful. I need some advice. I am 18 and in my first year of college. This is normally when people figure out what the...
A. 5 January 2011: Psychologist - schmycologist - they're two-a-penny. Ah - the prosenium arch(did I spell that wrong?)the boards - GO FOR ITTTT!!!!!
You'll always regret it if you don't.
As someone else here pointed out, time is on your side. If - after a few year... (read in full...)
I just want him to kiss me ...
Q. I've written here before about this guy. We've been seeing each other for about 3 months. During that time he's been recovering from a surgery. We talk 24/7 via phone calls, text, and get together about once a week. Last night, New Year's Eve, we ...
A. 2 January 2011: Yes, the age difference could be putting him off inasmuch as he maybe has too much respect for you, if you know what I mean.
He obviously seems to like you so, as you are the older one, YOU should initiate the kissing-and-what-ever-follows. As one ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friends little sister
Q. Okay so here's the deal.. I'm a 16 year old guy who happened to fall for a 13 year old girl. 1st Question: Is this very wrong and pediphiliac behaviour? I can honestly say that I'm not your quintessential teenage guy: I don't crave sex in relat...
A. 2 January 2011: No, nothing wrong here that I can see. You're both teenagers. You have no intentions of initiating a physical relationship. So, having a younger girlfriend shouldn't be a problem, all things being equal. But, as we all know, all things are rarely ... (read in full...)
I want to initiate an affair with a married friend of my wife and mine
Q. I am a married man,38. I have strong feelings for an older woman who is also married and is a friend of us. I can tell from her looks that she has the same feeling. Nothing has happened up to this moment, not a word expressed, nothing at all. Ca...
A. 2 January 2011: Are you seriously expecting people here to advise you on infidelity???
The politest advice I personally can give is - don't.... (read in full...)
Why does everyone let the cheater off so easily?
Q. Ugg! I am tired of reading posts that blame the cheatee rather than the cheater. That's ridiculous! The cheater is in charge of their actions. I keep reading people cheat because they are lacking something in their relationship....that is an excuse. ...
A. 1 January 2011: I think it's all down to personal opinion and there's nothing more inflammatory, guaranteed to divide opinion than personal relationships that have gone bad.
My personal, firm belief is that both parties are generally to blame, usually due to a... (read in full...)
Can someone tell me what is wrong with me?
Q. Okay, so I have massive boobs, sized 34F, and I have had a few boyfriends, I've been felt up many times, I enjoy it, I do get slot of attention off boys for my boobs, and I do wear low cut tops, but I've been single for months now, and every so ...
A. 28 December 2010: ...then just accept that you're highly sexed. Nothing weird at all.... (read in full...)
Can someone tell me what is wrong with me?
Q. Okay, so I have massive boobs, sized 34F, and I have had a few boyfriends, I've been felt up many times, I enjoy it, I do get slot of attention off boys for my boobs, and I do wear low cut tops, but I've been single for months now, and every so ...
A. 28 December 2010: You're simply missing having a male companion so resorting to masturbation and enjoying your own, sexy body - nothing wrong with that - quite normal.... (read in full...)
Should I tell dad that his new fiancee is the same girl I had sex with at a drunken frat party?
Q. i met this really hot girl at a frat party and we got drunk and had sex. she was a year older and graduated a few months later so nothing after that happened. my parents got divorced a year later and when my dad started dating he got engaged with ...
A. 28 December 2010: I think you owe it to your father to tell him the truth. How much more painful would it be for him if he were to find out when it's too late, that she's a woman of loose morals, the type who has drunken sex with anyone?... (read in full...)
Did she have an orgasm?
Q. A few months ago, I met a beautiful girl and we started dating sporadically. We started seeing eachother more frequently until she got comfortable with me and confessed she was on meds because she had panic attacks following a street rape that ...
A. 20 December 2010: No. She was obviously sexually excited but excessive wetness definitely doesn't guarantee she had an orgasm. I'm figuring you're old and experienced enough to know that women don't 'ejaculate' like we do as a result of orgasm. Also, they don't ... (read in full...)
Why all the fighting over Facebook??
Q. Here's my situation... I met a man online, through a dating site and we hit it off from the first date. Mutual attraction and chemistry, and it just felt so good at the beginning. We decided to get off of the dating site, but he wanted to be fri...
A. 11 December 2010: Personally, I think Facebook is extremely childish. I really don't see the point of it for adult, mature people. Just look at the childish behaviour it has caused in your case! I think you're both as bad as eachother, really. "I'll delete mine if ... (read in full...)
Scent of a woman?
Q. There's a young woman at work, who I always know when she is near because... I can smell her. She smells amazing and the weird thing is, I don't think it's her moisturizer or perfume. I want to approach her and introduce myself, but I think I'll...
A. 11 December 2010: Ah - so it's not just me then? I think I know just what you mean, Fionnlagh.
Several years ago, I had a relationship with this woman who had an aroma of newly cut hay, mixed with a hint of spiciness. Mmmmmmm..... I can still recall that amaz... (read in full...)
I can't always tell if my boyfriend has orgasmed/ejaculated when we have sex
Q. Hey, I'd love some opinions on this, especially from any guys...basically, I can't always tell if my boyfriend has orgasmed/ejaculated when we have sex. Once or twice I knew he had 'cos his legs were shaky and there was an obvious wet patch! But ...
A. 9 December 2010: Personally, I think it's a lot to do with age, experience and confidence. I know when I was much, much younger, I was quite self-conscious when it came to my orgasm - kept a tight control on my breathing, wouldn't make a sound - you'd never know if ... (read in full...)
How can I lengthen my penis?
Q. My penis is 5 inches long when erect,how can i lengthen it?...
A. 9 December 2010: Ah - two great minds eh Nime? !!!... (read in full...)
How can I lengthen my penis?
Q. My penis is 5 inches long when erect,how can i lengthen it?...
A. 8 December 2010: Tie a ten foot length of thick cord tightly behind the glans (knob)of your penis. Tie the other end firmly to the towbar of a friend's Land Cruiser. Ask your friend to tie your wrists together behind a tree, then tell your friend to drive away at a ... (read in full...)
Do men think about other women whilst having sex with their partners?
Q. Ok i am curious..i myself when i am having Sex with my fiance he is all i think about, not any other men or nothing like that, i have been like that with all guys i have had Sex with..i only get off on what is in front of me and what i am feeling, ...
A. 8 December 2010: So if you hear the answer from us instead of your man, the result will still be the same!
So long as you love him and trust him, that's all you need to know.
Sometimes, ignorance is bliss!... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin?
Q. pls help me out, am a 17 years pld virgin and my boyfriend put his hand inside me which really hurt me and later i saw blood coming out. my question is ,am i still a virgin? pls i need answer urgently.thanks...
A. 8 December 2010: Yes, you are definitely still a virgin. You only lose that status when having had penetrative sex.(Penis enters vagina) Also, may I suggest that you be a little more assertive with your boyfriend inasmuch as telling him what he should and should not ... (read in full...)
My friend gave me oral sex but I'm not sure if it was cheating
Q. Hey agony aunts. I've been feeling really guilty lately because i don't know if i've cheated on my girlfriend or not. last week i was staying over at a friend's house. This is the first time i've ever dated a girl so i was worried about how to give ...
A. 7 December 2010: Sorry, I just don't believe this. I don't believe anybody could be that naive.
Yet another fake post to stir the controversy pot, methinks.... (read in full...)
He called me a prostitute! I'm his mistress!
Q. I'm having an affair with a married man. Well today his wife caught us in a hotel and called me a prostitute? Then she started fighting my man and in the midst he told her I didn't mean nothhing to him but a prostitute! Wtf?! I'm a mistress! Will ...
A. 6 December 2010: Very well said, Dear Jilly.... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and never done it!
Q. What is masterbating i'm 18 and i have never done it before and all my friends talk about it....
A. 28 November 2010: I don't believe you. I think you are yet another one here for a cheap thrill.... (read in full...)
Am I gay? or os it just a phase in my life?
Q. Am i gay? or os it just a phase in my life? I have not had a girlfriend, But i had no interest in boys untill i had gay sex with my friend. When i see a girl naked now i dont get turned on but when i see a guy naked i get a full on erection. I have ...
A. 28 November 2010: Well actually petina1, the vast majority of guys do NOT go through these feelings.
It's patently obvious that you sir, are completely homosexual.... (read in full...)
Any computer whizzs out there who can help?
Q. I know this has nothing to do with relationships but im really desperate. I emailed my coursework home to myself and so i opened it and started doing work on it. I spent all yesterday working at it saving it but not by save as. Today there has been ...
A. 28 November 2010: Sorry, I couldn't help but laugh out loud at the irony of your problem - ICT coursework, indeed!
Depending on your computer and system you're running, I would start by looking in 'Documents'. Failing that, try going into 'Recent Items'. Still noth... (read in full...)
I'm in love with the cashier at my local grocery store.
Q. I'm in love with the cashier at my local grocery store. The first time I saw her I was so thunderstruck and giddy, as soon as I got home I blurted out to my wife about the beautiful the girl I just saw. I usually think before I speak. A little ...
A. 27 November 2010: What you need to do, my man, is grow up. You're a late starter in the game of relationships and therefore your attitude on this situation is a very adolescent one. You made your choice of partner for whatever reason, and you have to stand by that ... (read in full...)
What kind of dirty talk do guys like during sex?
Q. So this is gonna sound kind of dumb, buttt when you're talking dirty during a blow job or sex or whatever, what exactly do guys like to hear?...
A. 24 November 2010: A word of advice: When administering a blow job, a guy doesn't want to hear anything but slurping ;-)
Gentle, passive sighing and moaning does it for me, by the way.... (read in full...)
How does a guy lose is virginity?
Q. what are the ways by which a boy loses his virginity?...
A. 23 November 2010: No such thing as a Male Virgin.... (read in full...)
Been together a year but he doesn't call me his girlfriend.
Q. Is there any love after a year of knowing each other ?spend time together ? I really confused of my self if something wrong on me why the man i own as my boyfriend .. never claim me as his girlfriend or never say anything about ..our situation is ...
A. 23 November 2010: Why do you need a label?... (read in full...)
How do you deal with someone who is scared of commitment?
Q. Hi all, I have been in an on/ off relationship with a commitment phobe.I have read up all about his symptoms and he matches exactly and his actions are that of a commtiment phobe. Please can you advise on how to deal with such a person, as I am ...
A. 23 November 2010: I hate saying this Madam, but I believe he doesn't have sufficient feeling for you - plain and simple. If he did, there wouldn't be all this 'on-off' business. You both have become a habit to eachother and as a result, firm friends. Unfortunately, a ... (read in full...)
I caught my sister masturbating
Q. I walked into my younger sisters room to get her downstairs for lunch nd i saw her in her bed nude masturbaiting with a gel bottle and i dont know if i should tell mum and dad?...
A. 23 November 2010: All of the aforementioned advice plus - BLOODY-WELL KNOCK NEXT TIME!... (read in full...)
He has a restraining order against me yet he waves at me when we pass on the street!
Q. My ex has a restraining order against me, and is now waving when we pass on the road. what's up? This is a person that told me at the end of our relationship that he never loved me and he wanted nothing to do with me again....
A. 15 November 2010: I wouldn't read anything into it other than he seems to be a bit of a gentleman - he's known you for quite a while and it would seem churlish to just totally ignore you - in spite of what may have gone on before. Seems like he's just being polite. ... (read in full...)
Why did a good girl allow sex so easily?
Q. I met this lovely 20 year old girl through her sister, a co-worker. I took her out to the movies just once, and then did not see her for a month. We kept in touch. When we met again we went to a secluded place where we talked about her dreams...
A. 4 November 2010: No, sorry other aunts but I believe it is a natural emotion in a guy, to query why it was so 'easy'.
I would be wondering how many other guys are having a piece of the same pie, as it was dished out to me so easily.
Sure, we guys get easily a... (read in full...)
If we don't have sex every day there is hell to pay!
Q. Hi, we are married from last 7 yrs and have a 6 yrs daughter. I have to manage house and work, infact everything so i get exausted by the end of the day. my husband wants to make love almost everyday and when i refuse he overreacts and m...
A. 19 October 2010: So what's wrong with just laying there and taking it? It involves no effort on your part and he gets what he wants. I'm sure that, under the circumstances, he'll accept your passive, non-participant role. Talk about it to him.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
My wife just wants oral!
Q. My wife does not want intercourse or me to touch her, she only wants to do oral to me? she used to never want to do that at all? It has went on for months. I dont know what to think?...
A. 13 September 2010: I'd personally be very suspicious. In fact, I would say she may be having an affair and to keep both of you sweet, she's not allowing you to have her vagina, thereby attempting to alleviate some guilt, but keeping you satisfied with oral, which she ... (read in full...)
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