He knew I had feelings for him and I"m the only one he's told that he's gay. It hurts being friends with him!
Q. I have been in a very difficult situation lately. I met this guy almost two years ago and almost immediately we were in contact every day. It wasnt long before I developed really strong feelings for him, to be honest I thought I had finally met the ...
A. 22 July 2012: The guy's obviously a selfish, unthinking user. Dump him and when he asks why, tell him to work it out for himself, if he can be bothered.
Reflection is a good way to learn. In time, when feelings hopefully subside, you both may well end up being... (read in full...)
Guys what size do you like your women?
Q. I know all men are different but guys what size do you like your women? Im just curious....
A. 20 July 2012: Sweet and Petite. So, living in China, I'm in Heaven!!!... (read in full...)
How can I get people to stay out my business?
Q. anyway i just finished my high school working and i had never dated before. at family functions i always get asked about my dating life getting married having kids etc. i'm in the shawdows of people who want/have kids and started all these things ...
A. 20 July 2012: Oh - that's an easy one. You simply say, "Why don't you mind your own fucking business!"
Oh sorry, you're a lady and ladies don't speak that way. In which case, you simply say, "At the moment, I have a life and I'd like to keep it that way for ... (read in full...)
Where can I go to get the paint job on my car fixed?
Q. My sister scratched my car today and wrecked the paint job without sayin a word while it was parked beside my house today. she was too lazy to drive down the back and turn and instead turns at the side which is a very tight squeeze. She didnt say ...
A. 18 July 2012: You sure you're in the right website???!!!... (read in full...)
Why do middle aged men expect all women to be slim and perfect looking, when they are not?
Q. So, I need some love and support tonight, friends. I am 54 and been on my own for over 3 years since my last break up. Last November, I made a promise to myself to really give online dating a chance, and to put myself out there and take risks. And I ...
A. 17 July 2012: Well it seems to me that YOU are the one hung up on looks - your own.
The guy who took you to dinner was stating his PREFERENCE, which is quite normal and in order, but being non-shallow, decided to give you a chance. As far as he was concerne... (read in full...)
Can you lose your virginity without sex?
Q. hi,my question is,m not married yet,,but i m in relationship,my boyfriend put his hand finger inside my virgin and rub inside me many time,i also smooch his penis many time,,,but sometimes i feel i lose my virginity,,,,without sex..is in it ...
A. 15 July 2012: In order to lose your virginity, you need to be entered vaginally by a real penis. In other words, by having sexual intercourse.
So, you're still a virgin!... (read in full...)
Does this married older woman want to sleep with me?
Q. Ok im 21 and i work in an office with only one other male, all the rest are female. There is one woman in the office who is constantly flirting with me and complimenting me--and i mean outrageously. At a recent night out too she stayed with me all ...
A. 14 July 2012: Hey - the guy's up for some serious advice - not moral judgement.
Anyway, it's up to her if she wishes to disregard her marriage vows and she's the one who has the final say on if sex takes place or not. And it certainly does sound like she's up... (read in full...)
should I just bite the bullet and tell my parents that I’m gay
Q. A few months ago I took a huge step by telling one of my friends that I’m gay. She was the first person I told. The risk paid off as she confessed that she was also gay, which I had previously suspected, and we talked about it. I recently had my ...
A. 10 July 2012: Why do people like you have to make this grand "Coming out" statement to everyone?
Why the need to proclaim the fact you fancy other women? I can't imagine a guy coming home to his parents shouting "I've just shagged my first girl!"
Just do... (read in full...)
Is it ok to only want sex?
Q. Is it ok to only want sex? I mean I see that women are often irritated because the new guy they just met only seems to be interested in sex. What's wrong with that? ...
A. 27 June 2012: It's a 'woman' thing.... (read in full...)
Does sex really matter all that much?
Q. Hey everyone. Lots of magazines and articles talk about "sexual compatibility" and paramount on sexual pleasure with your partner. I haven't had an orgasm yet with my boyfriend (still testing things out and finding what I like), so I wonder does sex ...
A. 27 June 2012: Hello poster, I very much like your refreshing, if slightly naive take on what constitutes a loving relationship. In spite of the somewhat cynical answers here so far, I would say that the "still-testing-things-out-and finding-what-I-l... (read in full...)
Dating an older man, I don't want to stop but what's the point if it won't progress?
Q. Dear Cupid I am 21years old and I am currently dating a 33 year old man.I know that is a big age difference but age is nothing but a number right? We have been dating for almost two months and I really like him. I have never met a man like him ...
A. 27 June 2012: Sounds like you just answered your own question, Miss. But then do you think about everyone you date as a possible long-term relationship?
Accept it for what it is, an intimate friendship that will naturally expire sooner rather than later. O... (read in full...)
My mom breastfeeds my brother in public and I hate it!
Q. I hate it when my mom breastfeeds my baby brother in public. What should I do? She has done it several times. Why the hell would she wanna do it in public? She's crazy. It embarrasses the hell out of me. It's also disgusting. Is there a way I ca...
A. 26 June 2012: I can understand you perfectly. These days, there is no need for blatantly breastfeeding in public and those that do it, I am sure do it as some kind of show-off gesture - "I'm doing this because I CAN!".
It should be a private time between ... (read in full...)
Slept with my best friend, now what?
Q. I have had a male best friend for 6 years. There has always been a sexual tension and we both have always been attracted to each other but have kept it platonic/ PG13 because I think we both knew we were scared and not ready to explore that side of ...
A. 26 June 2012: Shouldn't you be having this conversation with him? The only way you're going to really know is through discussion - with eachother.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I've had 3 kids and b/f says I'm tight. Is he just saying that? I don't quite believe him
Q. I have 3 kids and I'm engaged to be married. I've been with my fiance for almost a year now and one thing he says really bother me when we have sex. He always says my vagina is really tight and how he loves having sex with me. His average size down ...
A. 8 June 2012: Hmm, if he says it EVERY time, then I can understand your misgivings.
Anyway, if you have any doubts, then why haven't you done anything about it? I'm assuming that you're aware of the various exercises you can do to correct the problem?... (read in full...)
Does my son need to see a doctor?
Q. my son 18 years old. when he was 15-16 he secretly used to wear his mom's panties and masturbate frequently with it. sometimes he wear her skirts as well. we warn him many times not to do so , but seems he hasn't stop yet. is this his mental problem ...
A. 1 June 2012: I can certainly understand your worry but I doubt that seeing a doctor would resolve anything, except give clues as to why your son seems to be so sexually fixated on his own mother. This may not be the case of course. It could be that he just get... (read in full...)
Can I get my medical records changed/updated?
Q. I went to the doctor's office for an Ingrown toe nail. This is my forth or fifth time there. The problem is when I look at the computer screen, I notice they listed "mild retardation" under my "ongoing medical problem". I am not retarded in ...
A. 28 May 2012: So you're saying that your own self-prognosis is superior to and to be regarded as better informed than that of a medical practitioner?
What makes you think that the term "mild retardation" refers to your apraxia of speech - which is indeed c... (read in full...)
I want to give my b/f a bj for his birthday. Need advice
Q. hey, i'll try to keep this short so as not to take up your time. me and my boyfriend are quite intimate already, the only problem is, is that it's always my boyfriend doing everything, he's always pleasuring me (i say it's a problem!) But a...
A. 10 May 2012: Under the circumstances, I think he may prefer an X-Box 360.... (read in full...)
Have you ever got in a relationship with someone, knowing beforehand it probably wasn't going to workout, just so you could have sex with that person?
Q. Have you ever started a relationship with someone, knowing all-well that it probably wouldn't workout anyways, just so you could have sex with that person? I'm curious because from what I've observed among friends and acquaintances - ...
A. 28 January 2012: Sounds to me like you're learning the complexities and paradoxes of relationships.
I've been in a situation years ago where I went on a blind date, met the woman, thought she was a little rough-looking but had a drink and a chat anyway and we e... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family I'm dating a woman 28 years older than me?
Q. Hope someone can help, I got talking to someone on a internet chatroom and we have a lot in common. After chatting for a while we both wanted to meet each other and we did and got on really well together, only thing is that she's 55 and i...
A. 28 January 2012: Oh - I'm sure you'll get all the advice you can handle - and some - when your folks find out!
Listen mate, enjoy it while you can, I'm sure she is! I wouldn't bother about telling my folks as it MAY not last.
See how things pan out over a perio... (read in full...)
What's wrong with sexting someone else while in a committed relationship?
Q. why is sexting (sending racy/sexually suggestive texts and FB messages) wrong? I can't see a problem with it and have been sexting an ex-colleague who i have no intention of seeing in reality. My gf of 6 months (who i love and am serious about) ...
A. 25 January 2012: Why bother doing it at all if you are in a happy relationship?
From my point of view, it's wrong. And so immature. If you can't see why your gf is so upset, you need to grow up and quit your childish games before you lose her.
Sorry if all ... (read in full...)
1st time about anal sex and I'm worried about it being messy!
Q. hello all, i am going to be embarking into the world of anal sex starting in a few days and i'm really excited, but also worried! to be blunt i am worried about poo and that i will poo myself! i am also worried about the hygiene of it and any do...
A. 8 January 2012: In response to male anonymous and anyone in need of some facts, kindly refer to this link:
http://dherbs.com/articles/anal-sex-59.html
for a full and factual illustration of what I mean.... (read in full...)
Why is it that when men play around they are champs and women are called names???
Q. I just want to know why is it when men play around with 3 or more women its ok. Hes looked up to as the CHAMP. BUT if a female plays around with 3 men or more. She gets called a "HOE" : "SLUT" : A "WHORE". JUST about every name in the book. why is ...
A. 5 January 2012: Ultimately, discounting rape or any forced sex, it is the woman who says "yes" or "no" to sex.
Most men find it difficult to say "no" when it is "handed on a plate" but - it is always the woman's choice wether it takes place at all. ... (read in full...)
1st time about anal sex and I'm worried about it being messy!
Q. hello all, i am going to be embarking into the world of anal sex starting in a few days and i'm really excited, but also worried! to be blunt i am worried about poo and that i will poo myself! i am also worried about the hygiene of it and any do...
A. 5 January 2012: As ever, good advice from eyeswideopen.
Further, your bumhole is designed to discharge - not to receive. If continuing with anal intercourse on a regular basis, your 'ring of confidence' will eventually become slack and unable to naturall... (read in full...)
Leave a condom inside?
Q. Why would a guy leave the condom he used inside the girl?...
A. 15 August 2011: Yes, we are only guessing here.
For what its worth, my guess is that after ejaculation, he went limp (naturally) and when withdrawing, the condom slipped off and stayed put.
Possibly a situation where a guy would feel too embarrassed to d... (read in full...)
Is she committed to me? She keeps nude photos of herself - taken by other men
Q. My girlfriend and I have (as far as I know) an exclusive, long-term, "committed" relationship. I would, of course, be concerned if my girlfriend kept nude photos of other men on her computer. That's not quite the situation here. In this case she ...
A. 8 July 2011: I think that must be like a big smack in the eye to you. Has the woman no sense of sensitivity?
I'm sorry, but after that revelation I would say she has scant regard for your feelings and for your relationship. I'd give her a damn good talking-... (read in full...)
Is she committed to me? She keeps nude photos of herself - taken by other men
Q. My girlfriend and I have (as far as I know) an exclusive, long-term, "committed" relationship. I would, of course, be concerned if my girlfriend kept nude photos of other men on her computer. That's not quite the situation here. In this case she ...
A. 7 July 2011: I'm sure you've nothing to be worried about but she is being highly insensitive - bearing in mind other guys took those pix.
Just explain to her that the thought hurts you just a little, as those pix represent what she looked like through other me... (read in full...)
My beauty therapist is upset I don't buy all my products from her so now she doesn't treat me well!
Q. I suffer from spotty skin so for the past 2 years I've been seeing this beauty therapist who gives me specialised facials. I have noticed a great improvement with them. Now she also reccomends certain products which she sells. For the past 2 years ...
A. 29 May 2011: Well, people are only human. While her attitude towards you is an unprofessional one, you were very hurtful and disloyal so her attitude isn't altogether surprising. The internet has a lot to answer for, helping to cause the demise of many a... (read in full...)
Taking a one-month long holiday and leaving my daughter with my mother, is it ok for me to do this?
Q. Dear Agony aunts, Thanks for taking the time to read my post. I have an inner conflicts that is troubling me. Me and my husband are planning a one-month trip to the USA, and i have a two year old which i will leave back home with my mother. Is it ri...
A. 16 May 2011: Sorry to sound so blunt but you really should have got this travelling bug out of your system before you started a family. Why on earth a mother would wish to be separated from her 2 year old daughter for so long is beyond me.
I guess you're n... (read in full...)
How can I speed things up and make my period start?
Q. I am 13 years old and I have all the signs for my period but i havent gotten it yet and i want it to come faster... Is there any way that I could speed it up just that little bit without pain or pills? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!...
A. 9 May 2011: No - sorry babe, you just gotta let nature take its course.
Why the hurry? Make the most of your period-free life while you can!... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on what this could be?
Q. My boyfriend and I had doggy style sex for the first time Friday night, that day I had walked 12 miles at our local park plus put in a 1hr 1/2 work out that morning. Saturday I was starving at work, so I tried to eat a bite of something to keep me ...
A. 18 April 2011: You're quite possibly pregnant.... (read in full...)
What would you think of this age difference?
Q. Please be as brutally honest as your thoughts might be. If you saw an 18yr old girl walking down the street holding hands with a grey haired 49yr old man what would you think? Thank you for your time xxx...
A. 18 April 2011: I would think - "Lucky old bastard!" Then I might wonder if it's a money thing.... (read in full...)
B/f thinks if I have sex with another girl it will help our relationship
Q. Hello DC aunts and uncles. I'm in need of advice, I will make this short. My boyfriend honestly believes that if I have sex with another girl it would "help" our relationship. Personally thats a load of bull. I know it won't I know things will only ...
A. 16 March 2011: I agree with him - it would spice up your relationship no end - FROM HIS POINT OF VIEW!!!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't like my nude pictures?
Q. Every time I send my boyfriend naughty or nude pictures he doesn't say anything, how do I know if he actually likes them? I am embarrassed, every other guy I have sent them too seems to drive them crazy haha We have been dating for 5 months and he ...
A. 16 March 2011: "...every other guy I have sent them too seems to drive them crazy haha"
With the knowledge that "every other guy" in the neighbourhood knows what you look like naked, it's hardly going to turn him on now, is it? Quite the opposite.
You're lu... (read in full...)
I want to see my husband with another woman!
Q. i want to see my husband making out with another girl, the thought turns me on so much.Is it normal to feel that way?...
A. 7 March 2011: Normal or not - lucky old husband, I'd say!
Seriously, in my experience no, it is not normal. However, there was an instance a little while ago where I was seeing a young lady strictly for sex (her rule)and she was desperate to see me perform ... (read in full...)
Explain the phrase
Q. can plz anyone explain this phrase to me in simple eng. catholic up-bringing...
A. 6 March 2011: A person who has been brought up in a family who subscribe to the Roman Catholic faith. It is a Christian religion. For example: "She won't have sex before marriage because of her Catholic upbringing." In other words, she is following the te... (read in full...)
Now that we've broken up, should I ask her to return the expensive gift that I had given her?
Q. i gave my girlfriend a very expensive computer. after a month she broke up with me with an excuse that "she is very busy with all other stuff and she has no time for a relationship" is it ok if i tell her to give that computer back.? i gave her as a ...
A. 5 March 2011: No, most definitely DO ask for it back. It was a love gift - the love has gone, as she so callously has informed you - so everything reverts to the status quo. ... (read in full...)
He told my uncle he wants sex with me?
Q. What are your views on men who want sex from you ?. I'd like to get different opinions on this. I met a guy tonight who my uncle knows. I was out with my uncle. He came over to say hello to my uncle , and obviously he saw me. When my uncle went to ...
A. 27 February 2011: You're in your late twenties and need to ask this??? You must have led a really sheltered life.... (read in full...)
I am so beautiful. Are my friends all just jealous of me?
Q. I am so beautiful. I have a really nice body and i have double D's. Flirting comes naturally to me. I can honestly say that a lot of people like me and just want to be me. I'm really popular and i have a lot of experience. All my close friends are ...
A. 27 February 2011: They're jealous.... (read in full...)
Should I marry a non virgin woman?
Q. Should i marry a non virgin woman? I am a virgin guy, i dont want to deal with the retro what what jealousy i found out my fiancee has slept with 30 men....
A. 21 February 2011: Are you seeing someone at the moment who is not a virgin? If not, then avoid women of 'experience' as by the sound of you, it will only tear you apart, knowing that others have been there before.
If however you ARE seeing a non-virgin, then why woul... (read in full...)
How do I explain to friends that I don't want to be touched because of my disfigurement?
Q. It's me again. I have people who are pressuring me to be in a relationship, but there's just one problem...I'm permanently disfigured. I used to have tits, and then I had surgery. It still doesn't look normal and the Doctors don't care. But the ...
A. 30 January 2011: Sorry to contradict but no - God has not given up on you - YOU have given up on you. You're bitter, you can't change that, you say. But you CAN change how you look. Seek out that corrective surgery and please - stop feeling sorry for yourself... (read in full...)
How do I explain to friends that I don't want to be touched because of my disfigurement?
Q. It's me again. I have people who are pressuring me to be in a relationship, but there's just one problem...I'm permanently disfigured. I used to have tits, and then I had surgery. It still doesn't look normal and the Doctors don't care. But the ...
A. 29 January 2011: Yes, I think I can understand that. I think you should exhaust all avenues of possible medical treatment before you resign yourself to a life as you described. Surely there's some medical person who will not only listen but be prepared to point you ... (read in full...)
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