Do I have to wait for the right man or should I get out there and search for him?
Q. hi cupid im mely single 22 years old!!!ever since i dont have any serious relationship and i just have 1 boyfriend!!! I also dont have my first kiss, Do i have to wait for the man I love or should i find him and search for him!!! And the problem is ...
A. 7 April 2010: Hello Mehly, nihao ma? Be careful that you find the right guy because you seem very vulnerable at the moment. If you don't mind me saying, you're in love with the idea of being in love - tread carefully. Have you tried the dating sites? They are ... (read in full...)
He loves another girl! But I can't leave him!
Q. I am loving my cousin brother and he is also in love with me.for the past one and half years, we enjoyed as like other lovers. Trust me, he truly loved me. But now he says that he is loving another girl. I couldnt leave him. what can i do?...
A. 29 March 2010: Sounds like you have no choice but to get over him - he's made the decision. Anyway, what do you mean by 'cousin brother'? You really should be dating outside of the family - or is that the accepted way in your culture?... (read in full...)
Who do I choose, my husband or my lover?
Q. I'm married but start loving to anish my boyfriend.My husband also love me but i never like his attitude and arguments ? I can't divorced with my husband because our family not permitted this they try to solve the problem between me and my husband ...
A. 29 March 2010: You just can't chop and change husbands just because things get a little bothersome. You must have loved him once, find out what's going wrong and try to fix it. Drop the boyfriend immediately. ... (read in full...)
Sex drive help!
Q. my other half is telling me my sex drive is too high and i need to find a way to slow it down. can anyone give me advice?...
A. 8 March 2010: Yea, find a sexier guy who can keep up!
Seriously, it's not your fault - it's not his, you're just mis-matched when it comes to being sexually satisfied. Don't let him browbeat you into thinking YOU have a problem. It's his way of dealing with bein... (read in full...)
I slept with my ex and now he is blackmailing me claiming he will tell my boyfriend!
Q. i was in a relationship with a physco he got angry a lot, and destroyed me emotionally as well. he stopped me seeing my friends and told me who i was and wasnt allowed to see. and got rid of all my friends. i found a new guy hes amazing, i left my ...
A. 2 March 2010: You love your current boyfriend so much? So much that you had sex with the ex?
You deserve all you get Miss.... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for loving him? It was only supposed to be fun, but I fell for him before I knew he had another girl
Q. hi all,i just have no idea how i am feeling now, i just broke up with a German guy(who lives in Beijing),i am a Chinese girl~and he was my colleague last year,and we were just friends,we did not meet up often when we were just friends,but since he ...
A. 1 March 2010: ....oh yes - there is a much better guy. Just gotta be patient.... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for loving him? It was only supposed to be fun, but I fell for him before I knew he had another girl
Q. hi all,i just have no idea how i am feeling now, i just broke up with a German guy(who lives in Beijing),i am a Chinese girl~and he was my colleague last year,and we were just friends,we did not meet up often when we were just friends,but since he ...
A. 1 March 2010: No Miss, you are not stupid. Just in love. Unfortunately, there is no known cure for a broken heart. He should, however, have kept some distance between you instead of taking you back to his and having sex. Just think to yourself: Can you trust a ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a Indian man to date/marry a white woman?
Q. I have met a nice Indian man. I am a white female and have heard some rumours that Indians can not date/marry white woman. I am not actually looking towards marriage yet as im only 20 yrs old. He has sent me love songs and he seems real into ...
A. 25 February 2010: Well I know for a fact, and this is just a generalisation, that Indian women - that is, mothers - are very manipulative and controlling. Be prepared.... (read in full...)
Followup to my question about my girlfriend's trip to Thailand
Q. This is a follow up question to the one asked previously. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/she-is-away-in-a-foreign-country-and.html So my gf came back from Thailand and openly admitted to having a couple of Canadian guys (apparently couples...
A. 23 February 2010: Based upon both your letters here, I'd be strongly inclined to drop her like a hot brick. Sorry mate, good luck.... (read in full...)
Followup to my question about my girlfriend's trip to Thailand
Q. This is a follow up question to the one asked previously. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/she-is-away-in-a-foreign-country-and.html So my gf came back from Thailand and openly admitted to having a couple of Canadian guys (apparently couples...
A. 22 February 2010: Something is obviously causing you to mistrust her. Actually, it sounds strange to me that two couples would ask a single girl to tag along with them.
Anyway, my point is, personally, I would go with my first instincts, they've never let me down... (read in full...)
I am bisexual and I do not know how to tell my parents! Any advice?
Q. Hey, I'm bisexual and I dont know how to tell my parents. There's a part of me telling me not to tell them in case they don't agree with that type of thing. As far as I know most of my family are homophobics so I think if I told my parents, ...
A. 20 February 2010: Why would you feel the need to tell them? If you had sexual feelings for a boy, would you feel the need to tell them that? Give it a year or two 'til you properly sort your true feelings out. Then, if you still feel the same, just lead your life ... (read in full...)
I want to travel and work overseas
Q. I apologize for the fact that this isn't about a romantic relationship but I hope you'll help me because I really need some advice, and I'm so lost. I have a TEFL certificate and I'm DYING to go overseas and start a new life and a new career. ...
A. 18 February 2010: If you can forget Spain for a bit and concentrate on Asia, you should have no problem. Tefl teaching is in high demand and some educational bodies actually pay your fare and provide(basic) accommodation. You'll certainly be paid enough to live on ... (read in full...)
It creeps me out that he keeps trying things when he thinks I'm asleep!
Q. I really don't know where to begin but my boyfriend does things to me in my sleep, for example last night he wrapped my hair around his penis and started masterbating. He also puts his hand down my pj's and feels around but I don't let him achieve ...
A. 6 February 2010: Maybe you make him feel ill at ease about doing things when you're awake, so he resorts to doing things while he thinks you're asleep. Let him know that it's alright to discuss and do things - together.... (read in full...)
I really want to squirt. PLEASE help me out!
Q. Hello. When my boyfriend and I first started messing around he was fingering me and rubbing my Gspot. I've rubbed it before while masterbating but never got to far with it because it had always been a bit uncomfortable. Well, while he was down there ...
A. 3 February 2010: Understand this: You either can or you can't. So much misconception about this subject. It is not something you can learn. Only about 2% of the female population can do this. I was lucky enough to have dated a 'squirter' a few years ago and we did ... (read in full...)
He is going clubbing in Greece and I'm scared he will cheat on me
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and i feel like we're good at the moment. There's just one problem- he's turning 18 soon (he's a year older than me) and going on holiday to a clubbing island in Greece with all his mates. I'm very worried ...
A. 3 February 2010: Wakey-wakey - of COURSE he's gonna have sex - with any and everything that moves - that's the whole point of a blokes' holiday in Greece!
If you're in such a committed relationship, then why the hell is he going away without you?
Think about it... (read in full...)
I so much WANT to believe in God!
Q. Hello there! Im going thru some rough patches.... I really feel I want to believe in God, and build faith. But I'm not sure how to. Those who believe... do they have answered prayers, or some sort of a sign, what proves that someone really listens? ...
A. 3 February 2010: Religious following is called a faith or a belief for a reason. There is no actual 'proof'. You assess the world, history, your own and others' circumstances and work out for yourself if there is a supreme being. You then, if you feel the need, have ... (read in full...)
My g/f sometimes sleeps in the same bed as her mum
Q. My gf (she's 22 years old) some times she still sleeps with her mother when her father is at work on the night shift. She is not the only daughter but she only does sleep with her mum, I find it kinda weird ?How do you view it? Thanks ...
A. 27 January 2010: It's not so much weird as there could be problems for you further down the line, inasmuch as, she's possibly never gonna let go the apron strings - especially if you have a notion about making things permanent with her. Best avoided, in my ... (read in full...)
Do condoms clog up the plumbing?
Q. I flushed a condom down the toilet and im worried it will clog up the pipes, its only the one time ive done this and would hate to block the pipes and then have my parents discover it. I wrapped it in toilet paper first but im just worried that ive ...
A. 26 January 2010: They do advise not to flush them but to wrap and bin them but I've been flushing them on and off for years with no ill-effect to the plumbing!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a body fluid fetishes
Q. My boyfriend is into all fluids that are produced by the body and his "fetish" has now gotten out of control. He wants me to take a laxative before anal sex so that i can s!%t on him during sex. If he's in my anus will the poop come out?.... and ...
A. 19 January 2010: Well done, New2itall, baby, you really made me laugh with that one! Glad things are going YOUR way.
Best wishes, Lance.... (read in full...)
To cum or not?
Q. Well Iv started going out with this girl. We'v started going to the next step rather than kissing. Really I was just asking when the girl goes to give me a "handjob" say in my car or the room or something does the guy "cum" or what? I just thought ...
A. 18 January 2010: Not much point if you're not gonna come! Welcome to the real world, where sex IS messy! She can just catch it in her other hand but be sure to keep some tissues handy.
Have fun!... (read in full...)
I feel violated by his video antics!!!
Q. Last night I found video on my boyfriend computer, about a week old, of him filming up the skirts of women. I found 5 videos, i dont know if there are more. The video clearly shows his face, and him on escalators, putting his camera phone up girls ...
A. 18 January 2010: Give the guy a break, willya? Hes just got carried away a little. His behaviour is more immature than perverted. Schoolboy stuff. After all he's the same guy you've always known.
I reckon, you finding him out has made him grow up big time. Give hime... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a body fluid fetishes
Q. My boyfriend is into all fluids that are produced by the body and his "fetish" has now gotten out of control. He wants me to take a laxative before anal sex so that i can s!%t on him during sex. If he's in my anus will the poop come out?.... and ...
A. 18 January 2010: Yea, go along with it but make absolutely sure you shit right in his face. He may then change his mind.... (read in full...)
Are his dreams normal?
Q. so ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years and every night i wake up beacuse the bed is shaking. its shaking because my boyfriend is having a sex dream, hes fully erect, and he is acting exactly like we are having sex i mean hes ...
A. 8 January 2010: Why not just join in? Be the girl of his dreams! Shame to waste a good hard-on!... (read in full...)
It hurts my girlfriend when we have sex in the missionary position, what other positions can we try?
Q. my girlfriend told me I hurt her when we missionary what shall I do, different position?...
A. 6 January 2010: Be wary of aunts' suggestions of some of these crackpot sites - they are a person's opinion and NOT fact. (no such thing as vaginal orgasms? hah! - total bollocks)
In answer to your question, is she relaxing enough? By her age, may I suppose inex... (read in full...)
A married man has been pressuring me for sex. What do you think he meant by his last comment?
Q. I have been friends with a married man who is 29 years older than I. I met him at my work place 3 years ago. I am a nurse married and he is a physician. Anyway, we started to become really close. We started going out, texting, and sending pics ...
A. 5 January 2010: Posts like this make me die laughing! Can't you really see that you've led him on totally, with what you've done so far? If you can't play grown-ups games, don't tease and then get upset with the result.
In short - grow up.... (read in full...)
Condom Help!
Q. Recently I have been having some trouble with condoms. Luckily this is just me experimenting with the different sizes, etc. I do not think I will have a problem with premature ejaculation (or at least hope not) I take my time when I masturbate, i ...
A. 3 January 2010: I'd say that at your age, you should be looking for the real thing. There's no substitute for hands-on experience so the more you do it for real, the better lover you will become.
And buy some bigger johnnies!
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Help... am I gay?
Q. im 17 year old male. i perfer watching gay porn thinking of boys and penis and using anal toys. i think that this makes me gay so i decided to watch straight porn and i didnt get erect or feel anything, but when i watch gay porn it really turns me ...
A. 3 January 2010: You're definitely as queer as a ten-pound note.
By the way, how on earth did you get into college with such atrocious spelling?... (read in full...)
Do a lot of men not like oral sex?
Q. Hi!I am asking for help with something that has been bothering me. My boyfriend does not like to give oral sex-at all. I just want to know if he is one of the rare few that do not enjoy this. . .or are there more than I realize? I would really ...
A. 3 January 2010: Double-check your personal hygiene - just a thought.... (read in full...)
I gave some gifts to my professor, but apart from sying thankyou I havent heard further from him
Q. I gave a gift to my ex- professor, actually there were 3 gifts, a box of brownies, a box of caramel sticks and a gift wrapped, which contained a Parker pen and a note written ''remembering you this season... thanks for being nice'' my name, and my ...
A. 24 December 2009: See??? Told you so, you cynical, pessimistic aunts, you!
Seems like it's going really well and I'm very pleased for you. Bit by bit, this is going from strength to strength - all the makings of a great love story, in my humble opinion. Long may it l... (read in full...)
Virginity as a Christmas present?
Q. Well, basicaly I do not have such a crazy ideas, but last two weeks I am thinking of something like giving virginity as a Christmas present. I am in a relationship with my boyfriend about two months and I know it is too soon to even think about ...
A. 21 December 2009: What a great idea! It costs no money at all, saves traipsing round crowded shops - you don't even have to wrap it!
Only problem - you can't return it if he doesn't like it.... (read in full...)
My Breasts are hurting!
Q. Why are my breast hurting, I'm on a really and I mean REALLY heavy period and I'm felling up a tampon and a pad like crazy and I've been more than a few times a day. I was on a pill that would get my harmonies going again, (it's not a BC pill if you ...
A. 21 December 2009: For God's sake go to your own doctor, and soon. No-one online can give you the help and treatment you need.... (read in full...)
Professor giving us dating and courtship suggestions
Q. Hello,Guys~~ one of my professors is always telling us not to touch g girl even though she probably is you girl friend to protect her and make sure she is clean. Telling this, he also aften do some disgusting actions... The problem is that I ...
A. 17 December 2009: What the hell has it got to do with your professor how you conduct yourself in your private life? Your private life is just that - private. If you and your girl are happy doing what you do - carry on.
It sounds like your professor has severe hang... (read in full...)
Is this a sexual addiction?
Q. I think I have a serious problem. I want to have sex with every woman that I get close to. Each time I am alone with a woman, however older than me, I will find a way of having sex with them. Especially if they are welcoming. Is this normal? Ple...
A. 17 December 2009: Ahh - it is indeed a crazy world Evans, as you are finding out.... (read in full...)
Is this a sexual addiction?
Q. I think I have a serious problem. I want to have sex with every woman that I get close to. Each time I am alone with a woman, however older than me, I will find a way of having sex with them. Especially if they are welcoming. Is this normal? Ple...
A. 16 December 2009: Of course it's normal! You're relatively young still and full of 'it' - so give it to 'em! (Try keeping to the single ones though) Good luck!... (read in full...)
I gave some gifts to my professor, but apart from sying thankyou I havent heard further from him
Q. I gave a gift to my ex- professor, actually there were 3 gifts, a box of brownies, a box of caramel sticks and a gift wrapped, which contained a Parker pen and a note written ''remembering you this season... thanks for being nice'' my name, and my ...
A. 16 December 2009: Forget what the others here said - they did not read your question carefully enough to see you said "ex-professor".
So, no problem with ethics. He sounds like he could be very shy, possibly embarrassed to receive the attentions of a young lady. Try ... (read in full...)
Who shall I ask to walk me down the aisle?
Q. Im getting married in christmas eve (my birthday) and not many of my family will be attending my dad died when i was 14 and me and some of my family arent really on speaking terms, who shall i ask to walk me down the aisle and will it be a happy day ...
A. 7 December 2009: Hello Miss. Well, first of all - congratulations!
Now, is there any male member of your family who you are close to at all - brother/ uncle/ cousin/ grandpa? If not, what about a good male friend on either your or your husband-to-be's side? Or even... (read in full...)
I am again pregnant with my nephew's child and don't know if I can keep this a secret this time!
Q. My shameful secret had eaten away at me for years. But I always knew the truth had to come out eventually. Everyone knows secrets have a horrible way of coming back to haunt you. Usually, when you least expect it. Certainly, the sordid secret in my ...
A. 5 December 2009: Code Warrior - you took the words from my mouth but said it far more eloquently than I could have.... (read in full...)
How can I get back my virginity?
Q. i lost my virginity with my wex bf... i need to get back my lost virginity ...
A. 3 December 2009: You need to grow up, that's what you need. Are you serious?... (read in full...)
Where are the best places to meet guys who want a relationship?
Q. Hi... I have been on this site for a couple months i think, used it before and have given advice. I just want to ask where are the best places to meet guys who want a relationship? I'm 28, with an Asian background and rarely meet guys, and dont ...
A. 30 November 2009: Hi Rosy, it occurs that I may have some information for you. Message me.... (read in full...)
Houston, I think I have a "space" problem
Q. what does it mean when my wife says 'i need my own space'?...
A. 29 November 2009: It means it's over. Plain and simple. Sorry to sound so harsh and blunt but this has been my experience. No matter how your wife or anyone else here dresses it up - that is what it means. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Do men like to kiss as much as women?
Q. Do men like to kiss as much as women? For me, I think kissing somone passionately is a true sign of showing somebody your feelings - but currently my guy only kisses me as and when. So does this mean he doesn't enjoy kissing or do men just like to ...
A. 27 November 2009: Obviously, I can only speak personally but I LOVE kissing - oohh yesss!... (read in full...)
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