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writes:I met this lovely 20 year old girl through her sister, a co-worker. I took her out to the movies just once, and then did not see her for a month. We kept in touch.When we met again we went to a secluded place where we talked about her dreams and stuff. I did not try to kiss or cuddle her, but did tickle her tummy. She allowed me to loosen her jeans to make it easier.A few weeks later we met again and we found ourselves alone at her home. She lives on a farm. Again we talked ordinary stuff. This time I felt horny and I touched her thigh. She was wearing shorts. She did not object. I then slid my finger into her panty from underneath. She was just so wet.I asked her to go to the bedroom with me and she did. I was so horny that she let me undress her and myself and we had sex. It felt so good that I came right inside of her. She is fortunately not pregnant.She is a decent girl who had just come from a serious relationship. I think she was sexually active with him. My question is why would she have allowed me to go to third base so easily? This was not what we had planned.I need some input before I would feel free to ask about this.
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reader, MoonLux  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 Pot calling the kettle black there my friend.
Alarmingly, you are concerned about her "easy-ness" however, no mention or concern about how easy it was for both of you to have unprotected sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): You wanted to sleep with her as much as she wanted to sleep with you.
Newsflash, women like sex too, get over yourself.
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reader, Maria-consuela  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 As most have answered this question is pretty sexist and the background story does nothing to improve that assessment.So, let me get this straight:You met a girl through a friend, you spent some time with her, talked about her dreams, tickled her stomach, you had a connection and liked each other - and then slept together. And now, it is her fault for not angrily denying your advances because she shouldn't have wanted to sleep with you so "easily" and should have had to prove to you that she isn't by waiting on YOUR terms.You can't blame a girl for going along with actions that in your own words were initiated by you. Perhaps the poor girl likes you, and she wanted in (in a low self-esteem kind of way) to show it to you. Maybe she wanted to prove she wasn't holding out, or felt she was obligated.Either way, unless you are a child you are completely responsible for your own actions - and I'm pretty sure she didn't penetrate herself. Try to see things from her perspective, and perhaps be a tad bit more understanding. Nobody is perfect, and stereotyping never works to anyone's advantage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): She may be asking the same questions; Why was he so easy?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 November 2010):
 If you felt it was too soon, why did you sleep with her? She was obviously horny, just like yourself, and attracted to you. She probably thinks you are a good guy as well, and that it would be okay because you respect her and have feelings for her, and are not just looking to get with her for sex. She felt comfortable with you, like others mentioned.
What made you want to have sex with her? Do you think you went too fast? In that case, tell her that as much as you loved the sex, it is best that you hold back and develop the relationship before you have sex again, you also don't want to run the risk of her getting pregnant.
Use protection.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (4 November 2010):
 Wait, so you're thinking of asking her why she slept with you after a certain amount of time? What would the point in that be? She did it because she wanted to, it's as simple as that. Just as the other answers have said, men aren't the only ones that get to enjoy sex whenever they want. You should be flattered she liked you enough to sleep with you, not wondering why it was 'so easy' to get there.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 November 2010):
 To make it clear, a woman can go after sex just like a guy can..It may be all she wanted you from too. But when women do that we're called easy, or a slut. Come on now..
She just got out of a relationship, and was missing the sex part. You came on to her and she jumped at the chance. It's very possible that she doesn't want to get into anything serious and is just looking for fun or a fling. I think you're appalled that you potentially got used for sex. Were you trying to test her? If you didn't want to go all the way, then you shouldn't have came on to her.
She's still a good girl, she just needed to get her kicks because it's probably been awhile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): You sound so surprized OP, you were feeling horny, she was feeling horny too. You calling her easy means you're easy too.
Are women not allowed to be horny and want sex?
Let me make this clear to you OP, she didn't "allow" you to do anything, she wanted you to do it. She wanted to have sex and she got what she wanted.
This is after about 2 months you got to do this, what makes you think that's easy? It's not like you just met, asked her her name and ended up shagging her.
No offence OP but you need to wake up, girls get just as horny as we do, they want sex just as much as us, they always have. The only difference is nowadays they can do that when they want to without being looked down upon, because we're more open to women's sexuality.
Welcome to the world OP, this is how it works. Get over it, you got laid, so did she. Nothing bad happened so what's the problem?
I think you'll find OP most women want sex, some won't act on it but they have the exact same urges as we do. If you end up in bed with a girl then most of the time she wants to get her rocks off, she might not let herself or let you but she'll be just as aroused as you and have the same sexual tension.
I guess the big question is OP, do you think she did something wrong by sleeping with you?
FYI: If a girl wants sex, then they "easily" "allow" you to do it to them. Just as easily as we'll go ahead and do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): Sorry pal...but she just seems like she wants the attention. usually that is what easy women want and the base u reached? I had to pay to get there lol. Be careful. Be smart. Get rid of this woman and ohh try to keep ur snake in its cage bud to avoid issues like this. Good luck :)
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather  +, writes (4 November 2010):
 No, sorry other aunts but I believe it is a natural emotion in a guy, to query why it was so 'easy'.
I would be wondering how many other guys are having a piece of the same pie, as it was dished out to me so easily.
Sure, we guys get easily aroused and wants become needs but we do appreciate a bit of resistance, you know? And, I believe it takes one. Most guys will always be up for it - it takes the girl to say Yes or No. Or maybe I'm just old-fashioned.
Anyway fellow, if this bothers you that much, then look around for someone who is better suited.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): You initiated it, she liked it and she was in on it. Why are women not allowed to WANT to have sex????? Sorry those days are gone! Give the girl a break... you should have told her you are putting ehr on some stupid test not gone along and banged her and running here to say she failed the test. I think she is better off without you to be honest..who knows how many other sick tests will she have from you. She has a right to be aroused and have sex ehnever she wants, get that into your head.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (4 November 2010):
Depending on how recently she split up from her ex and they reasons behind the split, she might be on the rebound.
It would be helpful to know if you have spoken to her since you slept with her or have seen her and have continued to have sex.
On the other hand, it may have been a situation where she felt comfortable with you and wanted it. You are asking why she allowed you to go to third base so easily. It takes two to tango so why did you allow it?
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