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16 May 2007: I am more experienced on the receiving end of blowjobs then the giving end, but perhaps I can give a few pointers to those who are setting out to try this for the first time. First of all, keep in mind that fellatio (giving blowjobs) is an ...
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Guys, do you find it really unattractive when girls have a gap between the front teeth?
Q. Hi, I'm a teenager with a gap between my teeth. I was wondering if guys find it really unattractive when girls have a gap between the front teeth. Does it make even pretty girls look ugly in a guy's opinion??...
A. 16 April 2007: I can't answer for all guys, but no, I do not find that a gap makes a girl look unattractive. There are many factors that determine the degree of physical attractiveness (is that a word?). I know she's kind of passe now, but when Madonna was very ... (read in full...)
My husband is a drunk! I dread coming home and I cant bare him touching me, Do I stay and get him help or leave ?
Q. my husband has a drink problem, we have been together for 8 years and married for 4, at first i never noticed how much he was drinking. my husband is a jekel amd hyde, when he is sober its like we have jsut met, he is kind funny and great to be ...
A. 16 April 2007: You need to get out as quickly as you can. Leave when he isn't home, and get somewhere safe. You can never change a person, and the best thing for him right now, is to know that you are strong enough to take this step. He may get himself help, ... (read in full...)
Is it unusual for a couple to not be holding hands or kissing or anything after our first 2 dates?
Q. Hi, i'm 14 years old and recently asked a girl if she'd go out with me via msn, she said yes. I'd known this girl from my last street i lived in and we were good friends but hadnt seen her in about a year and a half. We went out to the cinema at the ...
A. 16 April 2007: No, it's not unusual. If you really like her, try "accidently" brushing your hand beside her hand. Don't make it too obvious though. If she pulls it away, then she's not ready to hold your hand. Sit beside her on a bench at the pier, and sit ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a guy at work, I'm 21 hes 40! I cant read the signs, but could he like me too!?
Q. Please Please Help Me!! I have a major crush on a 40 year old bloke at my work place! I dont know if hes married,divorced or single. I know he has a daughter the same age as me (21) but i dont want to say anything incase he says im too young or...
A. 16 April 2007: Why don't you just ask him outright if he's married? You can also ask someone else at work who has known him a long time if he is currently married. This is the first step. After that, if he is single or divorced, just take it easy, and if it's ... (read in full...)
Why does it take so long to find out someones cheating, and does it happen more in LD relationships ?
Q. When a man cheats (or the other way round) why does it take ages, sometimes, for the other personn to find out that they are having an affair. And when they do find out why may they give them another chance, possibly for them to cheat all over ...
A. 16 April 2007: Ususally the affair is suspected long before it is found out. The other spouse sees the signs, and sometimes her friends point them out. But she doesn't want to believe it. Often, the first step in any grieving process is denial. When someone ... (read in full...)
I'm male and 19 and I masturbate 2 times a day. Is this too much?
Q. I'm a 19 year old boy who is single. I masturbate once or twice a day (sometimes I don't) but is that too much especially at 19?...
A. 16 April 2007: An orgasm a day is very good for you! Keep it up, and don't stop when you get to middle and old age!... (read in full...)
Our first time together he couldn't stay erect! Now I haven't heard from him! What gives?
Q. Dated a man for couple of months, finally had sex with him, while having sex he could not stay erect, believe me I tried everything, I had to finish him off orally, and that was 5 days ago have not heard from him since?? ...
A. 16 April 2007: I bet you any money that he feels embarrassed and humiliated. It's not you. He was obviously very nervous, and the moment he thought, "I wonder if I'll be able to perfom?", well, that can be it...
I think you should call him, and tell him you ... (read in full...)
Have you ever heard of sex feeling better with an unshaved girl vs. a shaved girl?
Q. Ive been with my girlfriend for 5 years now and she was totally shaved for the first 4. Last year she asked me if I would be alright with her to stop shaving her vagina. At first I was hesitant but I agreed because it is a fetish of hers to be ...
A. 16 April 2007: This is totally cultural, and attitudes change from time to time. Go to your library and look at an early copy of the Joy of Sex. The sketches in there show women and men with lots of body hair, including arm pit hair. Times may change again and ... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh to tell my gf to stop doing this thing that makes me very unhappy?
Q. My girlfriend is doing something that is making her happy and while im not happy and she wont quit because she loves doing it but it takes a lot of time out of being together but then she says she loves me more than anything... am i being to harsh ...
A. 16 April 2007: If you don't mind my two cents worth....
If what she is doing does not physically hurt another person, and does not involve taking property that does not belong to her, then she is her own boss. You cannot control another person, you have onl... (read in full...)
How do I give my boyfriend a great blowjob?
Q. hey me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while and i want 2 give him a blowjob but i have no idea how to do it and i dont know wot guys like wot do i do???...
A. 16 April 2007: It's been a few days since you posted your question, and I don't know if you have tried your first attempt or not. I am more experienced on the receiving end then the giving end, but perhaps I can give you a few pointers.
First of all, keep in ... (read in full...)
I'm still worried about the blood clots...what should I do?
Q. This goes with the blood clots did he tear me question. I wrote that. It's still bleeding after two days after fingering how long can I expect it to bleed for and if it doesnt stop could it be my period because i should be getting it in a week or ...
A. 16 April 2007: In Canada, most large centers have a sexual health clinic. Call your local hospital and find out if there is one where you live. Check your yellow pages. They are very discrete, and you won't have to give out any information about yourself. I ... (read in full...)
I'm a female, lately I've had mixed up feelings for a female friend
Q. I'm a female, lately I've had mixed up feelings for a female friend, but the thing is that I've always liked guys. I've known her for few months and we became good friends, but I'm not sure why I'm having this feelings for her. I really don't want ...
A. 13 April 2007: Penta is right. There is no black and white. Just take your time and think of it as an adventure. You might learn more about yourself. Be patient with your friend, because if it is not mutual, you do not want to ruin your friendship. Women ... (read in full...)
Do I continue to have 3-somes to please HIM or say something to him about it.
Q. Nothing is ever simple.. We are a male couple of 45 and 37, we have been together for 10 years. We are your non- scene couple who have little/few friends, ironically mostly straight. We both work long hard hours and find spare time a premium, h...
A. 13 April 2007: You know what, you can't predict the future, and abstaining or consenting can both lead to divorce. If you enjoy the fun occassionally, then that is the compromise: Do it occassionally. If you don't want to do it, and it makes you uncomfortable, ... (read in full...)
I dreamt I was holding a guy's hand and in bed with him! Am I gay??
Q. I am a 17 year old male, and i was in a great relationship with the one girl i ever loved and then she broke up with me and i felt so alone. then last night i had a dream about a guy that one of my best girlfriends was dating who i dont know much ...
A. 13 April 2007: It is common for straight men to occassionally fantasize or dream about other men. It doesn't make you gay, or even bisexual. It could mean you are bi-curious. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Gay/Straight is not a Black/White issue. There ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my shy wife to try a threesome?
Q. I am trying to get my wife to try a threesome. She is a little shy. How can i convince my wife to try it?...
A. 13 April 2007: How long have you been talking about it for? How long have you known her for? How long have you been married? How long do you want to stay married? These are all questions that need to be known before a complete answer can be given.
One t... (read in full...)
When is the best time to perform oral on my new g/f? Before or after pentrative sex?
Q. When is the best time to perform oral on my new g/f? Before or after pentrative sex? If this makes her come will she then want sex? If I do this before sex then shouldn't climaxing for her happen at the end of our love making, not the beginning? ...
A. 13 April 2007: There is obviously no right or wrong answer to this. But here are some things to think about.
If you enjoy going down on a woman, then you can score points with your girlfriend by doing it as early on in the relationship. What it shows is that ... (read in full...)
Guys! Does it matter to men if a woman has stretch marks on her body??
Q. Dear cupid, i know you dont have to be perfect to be found attractive but how important are stretch marks to men? and does it effect them being physically attracted to you?( a males opinion as well please) Thanks x...
A. 13 April 2007: It shouldn't matter at all.... (read in full...)
Bf wants to do some strange things. Not sure I approve. Any advice?
Q. I have a very physical relationship with my boyfriend which I love. He is highly sexed and masturbates usually a couple of times a day as well. I don't mind this, as sometimes I do it for him. Recently, however, he's asked me if he can ejaculate all ...
A. 13 April 2007: You are young, so it's a good time to learn these two very important things:
#1. Your body is your own. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Any man who does not respect this, is not one you want to spend your life with (or any ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be this obsessed with masturbating ? I do it at home, at work.. anywhere when I get the urge!
Q. I know that satisfying ones self is completely natural, but I have the urge to do it almost all the time. Is that normall? The urge wil just come on suddenly for no appearant reason. I get this constant tingeling feeling in my vagina and it won't ...
A. 13 April 2007: I don't know if it's "normal" or not. What's normal? If you are not letting it get in the way of your productivity at work, then I don't see a problem with it.
There's nothing wrong with having a difficult time climaxing with a partner.... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and still a virgin, but feel as though I'm the only one!
Q. hey im just after alittle advice, im 15 i have always been quite popular at school and i have had many boyfriends(not to be big headed) but all my friends have rushed into bed with guys and many of them have slept with 4,5,and 6 boys. they call me ...
A. 13 April 2007: You have lots of time. You have made a very good decision, because it is YOUR decision. Just don't be overy judgemental of them. Your decision is your own, but you don't need to broadcast it either. Continue to be yourself, and follow your own ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my new GF what she likes in bed, or just experiment and see what happens ?
Q. Is it ok to 'ask' my new g/f what she likes in bed, where she likes to be touched, get her to show where to be touched and how ? IE clitoris etc etc or should I just experiment and see what happens and how she reacts? any help welcome...
A. 13 April 2007: You need to start by making love to her very slowly. Don't rush in to touch any body part. Start by gently kissing her, and when you sense that she is ready, begin to kiss her breasts. If you don't have a lot of time the first time, then don't ... (read in full...)
Im just naturally thin, and no matter what I do I cant gain weight! Is there anything I can do ?
Q. hey all. i am a 16yr old 5'4 girl who wears a UK size 6 or 4 (i have been thin all my life) and am finding it extremly hard to find clothes to fit me. i eat everything so i dont understand why i am so thin. when i was younger it wasn't such a big ...
A. 13 April 2007: Yes, you should go to the doctor, for your own peace of mind. The most important thing is to have a healthy balance of fat and lean muscle tissue. Your doctor should be able to help with this. Don't try to eat to gain weight, unless you are doing ... (read in full...)
Can anyone help with this depression and this sinking feeling, its taking over!!
Q. i still need advice,i used to be the most cheerful person youd ever meet but ive been battling depression for quite a while now,almost 5 months,it started out severe, i couldnt eat i couldt sleep couldnt concentrate i was just very negative. Its not ...
A. 13 April 2007: First thing to do is go to your family doctor and tell her/him how you are feeling. Be sure to let her know that it's been going on a long time. Your family cannot help you. I think you should let them know how you are feeling though, but tell ... (read in full...)
Am I justified in getting angry that my bf looks at porn on the internet ?
Q. my boyfriend likes watching porn on the internet.this upsets me.Am i justified in getting angry or is he just a pervert.?...
A. 13 April 2007: This is difficult to answer without knowing more details. Is this an obsession with him? Does he spend money on it? Every guy looks at porn. Anyone who claims not to is lying. But if he is obsessed with it, it could be a problem.
I suggest ... (read in full...)
I had an affair, I really regret it, Im so riddled with guilt and so scared my family will found out!!!!
Q. i need help! i am a married woman and i had an affair with a married man, i just hate myself, and i dont want my husband to find out, it would ruin him, and our kids also the guy i had an affair with has two kids, i would do anything if i could take ...
A. 13 April 2007: Do NOT tell your husband. I know a couple of people here have given you that advise, but don't do it. Break it off with this guy, and don't even tell your closest friend. If you need to talk, you should go and see a professional counselor. Like ... (read in full...)
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