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writes:Is it ok to 'ask' my new g/f what she likes in bed, where she likes to be touched, get her to show where to be touched and how ? IE clitoris etc etc or should I just experiment and see what happens and how she reacts?any help welcome
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reader, Dr. Mark  +, writes (13 April 2007):
You need to start by making love to her very slowly. Don't rush in to touch any body part. Start by gently kissing her, and when you sense that she is ready, begin to kiss her breasts. If you don't have a lot of time the first time, then don't bother. Leave it off, and wait until you can give her a couple of hours of your time (at least). Take your time, and look into her eyes from time to time. You will get to know what she likes. Whisper to her. Don't use "dirty" words (unless she does with you). Be very very gentle with her clitoris, and make sure your fingers are moist first. Don't rub it hard, but practice tickling the palm of your own hand with your finger tip before you are with her. Barely touch your hand while you do this. That's what she will likely want on her clitoris.
After you have made love to her this way, and you get to know her better... start asking her what she really likes. Tell her to put her hands on your head and guide you. And DO let her guide you. Don't rush. If she holds your head between her breasts, then you know that's what she likes. If you want to feel the best sex you've ever had, then concentrate on giving her the best love making you can.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (13 April 2007):
 Either idea is good, just depends on what kind of girl she is really. If she's open about sex and stuff and you think she'd appreciate talking things over first, then do that. If she prefers to keep things from the bedroom in the bedroom then just try and see what happens!
There's no reason you can't join these two approaches: you start trying new things and let her guide you as you do it. Communication is the key to a good sex life for both partners so open up, be confident and start experimenting!
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2007): interesting question dude! experimenting is probably best but do the safe reliable stuff first, stuff she WILL like.
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