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I really like him and he says he doesnt. Should I kiss him anyways?

Q.   I like this guy and I sent him a note asking if he liked me....but he cheked no.....and i still really like him and so does my friend but he said he doesnt like her either......and I still realllly reaaaaaly like him....should i just go up to him ...

A.   25 October 2007: No, don't kiss him. You're not ready to kiss anyone if you're sending boys notes saying, "Do you like me? Circle 'Yes" or 'No'." Wait until you are older, like 16 before you go kissing boys. ... (read in full...)

I feel that my bloke is not attracted to me sexually since I gained weight.

Q.   So I've gained 20 lbs since I got engaged, I'm now married to the same man, but I feel that he is not attracted to me sexually any more. It has been months since we have been truely physical with eachother. ...

A.   25 October 2007: There may be other reasons. He may be under a lot of stress at work or something else could be bothering him. If you have been steadily gaining the weight since your engagement and all you have gained is 20 pounds, I'm sure he hasn't really noti... (read in full...)

Does he think I'm easy?

Q.   Hi i'm 20 and i met this guy at uni...for the whole year we've been doing the whole eye contact, showing up at the usual places, small wave and a smile sort of thing and only at the end of the year we actually got together. We hung out and had a ...

A.   25 October 2007: What happened between you two is completely normal and healthy, and no, he doesn't think you're easy because you kissed him. It was a good time and a good place for it to happen. He's been checking you out for a year, and obviously he held some kind ... (read in full...)

The next day he played with my hair and didn't mention the gifts.

Q.   there's this guy in my class. we've been ok friends. all of a sudden he starts ignoring me. then i asked him what went wrong. he said that this other guy i'm talking to is his enemy and we looked like good friends, so he didn't want to come between ...

A.   25 October 2007: He's a teenager and very confused. All boys at that age are like that. ... (read in full...)

My ex is deluded how can I get rid of him

Q.   My ex called and left a message to tell me he was mailing me my stuff (we used to live together). Anyway, a few days ago I told him to stop calling me because he just kept it up. He agreed to leave me alone unless I contacted him. Well, I contacted ...

A.   25 October 2007: I think it's called the 3 month rule. You stop all communication with someone for 3 months after the break up, and by that, it means no phone calls, no saying hi when you pass on the street, no contact whatsoever. It may be a little more difficult ... (read in full...)

My brother would do stuff to me while I would sleep.

Q.   So I'm 16 and a few years ago my brother would do....stuff to me at night when he thought I was sleep, and it kept going on because I didn't know what to do. He would make me give him handjobs and blowjobs and he would finger me and stuff. during ...

A.   25 October 2007: You are taking the advice provided to you as criticism. If there's no more problem, then why are you asking how to handle something that has happened in the past? He no longer lives with you; does that mean it doesn't occur anymore? If it has affe... (read in full...)

Should I read too much into this?

Q.   I was eating in a restaurant with my guy who can't say he loves me (A question from last week. He tells me to drive carefully - out of the blue - or something similar all the time.) the other night and we were discussing our daughters whose ...

A.   24 October 2007: He might have been just curious. I wouldn't get my hopes up, not until you see a ring. ... (read in full...)

Do you think we'll get back together?

Q.   My ex boyfriend and i are good friends but we dated and we were in this beautiful realationship but then my best friend betrayed me by saying she say him with another girl and it wasn't true i found out...then his mom died 3 years ago and i said to ...

A.   24 October 2007: Don't hold your breath. And by that, I mean you need to let go and get over it. ... (read in full...)

My brother would do stuff to me while I would sleep.

Q.   So I'm 16 and a few years ago my brother would do....stuff to me at night when he thought I was sleep, and it kept going on because I didn't know what to do. He would make me give him handjobs and blowjobs and he would finger me and stuff. during ...

A.   24 October 2007: You don't seem like a bright girl, if you allowed this to go on like it did. Whatever it is, it's disgusting and perverted. Both of you need to go into therapy. And how can you have slept though your brother forcing you to give him oral? I thin... (read in full...)

Two different words who are forced to meet but can't

Q.   hey.i am a christian girl,who has everything she wishes for ...that is a lie ,i love a muslim guy(love him more than i ever loved anyone)he is my boyfreind but people just want me to leave him (i have 19 boys chasing after me sendin me cards they r ...

A.   24 October 2007: Get away, fast. The fact that you always argue should be a big enough hint. Muslim men are a lot different than Christians. Go watch that movie, "Not Without My Daughter", with Sally Field in it. That should give a wake up call into what you have to ... (read in full...)

Can someone tell me how to prevent leaking during my period?

Q.   Hey Ive had my period before But I sometimes leak at school! Its happened 4 times already. And my school has a strict dress code so if I want to tie my jacket around my waist its dress code and i get a refrel!-.- I need some advice.How can i...

A.   24 October 2007: Start using tampons. I know, they're scary to look at, especially if you're a virgin, but trust me, you'll be so thankful. And make sure you read the directions properly. Even better instruction can come from your mother. ... (read in full...)

I'm 13 like a boy the same age, but I don't know whether he likes me.

Q.   Hi, I’m 13 and I like this guy a lot, I’m not even sure if I like him sometimes because he annoys me a lot he really honestly confuses my mind and messes with it. I’ve liked him for 4 years it’s like it’s impossible to forget him every time I try I ...

A.   24 October 2007: You are going through something all girls your age go through. It's pointless for me tell you this is no big deal because to you, it's the biggest deal of your life. But really, it's no big deal. You know who you should talk to? Your mom. Beli... (read in full...)

Ideas for making new friends?

Q.   How can i make friends? Im 23 years old and moved to greater manchester nearly 3 years ago now. I still haven't met any girls i can get on with and talk to, i miss going out clubbing and shopping just general girly stuff. I feel very alone as most ...

A.   23 October 2007: There is no one way to make friends that has been written down and been successful every time someone has followed the steps. You meet friends in an atmosphere where everyone has something in common. You can meet them at work, at a book club, at a ... (read in full...)

Have I got something unsavoury?

Q.   Hi, have a really embarrising thing to ask. I've just starting seeing a guy and things have got really heated between us and he wants to make me cum. However I noticed that when i was wet there was some white discharge. Is this normal? We're not ...

A.   23 October 2007: White discharge is completely normal and healthy. The only times you should worry is if it has a thick, cottage cheese texture, yellowish in color with a fishy odor, or none at all. Those could be signs of an infection. Discharge takes on a whit... (read in full...)

How do I go about marrying a Turk?

Q.   hi i have a turkish bf and he says he loves me everyday and i love him and he has asked me several times to marry him i am suppose to be going over there in november to be with him and he wants us to get married then but i have not got a clue how to ...

A.   23 October 2007: Think of the reason he won't come to the UK. Does he have one other than he just doesn't like it there or he can't afford to come there? If he doesn't, then you need to move on. The people in that area of the world look at women and marriage a lot ... (read in full...)

He's got a great personality, but not great looks. Should I give him a chance?

Q.   Hi i have a big problem as this guy likes me i told him that i liked him too, but i dont i was drunk when i said it now he never stops ringing or texting or IM me. I want to give it a try with him hes got the best personality ever but his looks are ...

A.   23 October 2007: Well, no, it's not all about looks, but there does need to be some physical attraction. And people will chastise you for saying that you want someone that looks good, but really, who doesn't want an attractive mate? If this guy is constantly tryi... (read in full...)

Girls, would you find it insulting for a boy to ask you out by text?

Q.   this is a question for girls, would you find it insulting if a boy was to ask you out, say to go to the cinema using a text message? and would you be more likely to reject them?...

A.   23 October 2007: What ever happened to traditional courting? Are we such a media focused generation that we can't even ask someone out on a date without the aid of a text message? Texting someone is cheesy and immature. If you can't even face someone and ask them... (read in full...)

What are the chances of my being pregnent?

Q.   ok,well im 16 but one week b4 my 16th bday i lost my virginity with my then boyfriend we had sex twice once on a friday and then on the following monday,im on the pill but he didnt use a condom about 2 weeks later we broke up but 1 week ago i did a ...

A.   23 October 2007: I'm not going to sooth you by saying it's not likely that you got pregnant. I myself was on birth control and I became pregnant. If you don't take the pill everyday at the exact same time, the birth control is not effective. Get another preg... (read in full...)

This isn't really a relationship question, but please help me... My daughter is hearing voices at night...

Q.   Im sorry this isnt a relationship question....its about my 9 year old daughter.......each night when she goes to sleep she is hearing voices and she cannot quieten them....i believe but am not sure that they are spirit but this is distressing her ...

A.   23 October 2007: This seems like a pretty common occurrence. GO to this website: http://www.clarity-of-being.org/night-terrors-voices.htm I'm sure it'll have some explanations on what's going on. And she probably does need some therapy and medication. ... (read in full...)

He's been looking at busty women. Should I be worried?

Q.   I know I shouldn't have done it, but because of past relationships I looked into my boyfriend's history on his computer and found that he looked at a couple of youtube clips featuring very busty ladies. He told me he was just curious when the clips ...

A.   22 October 2007: When I was a teenager, I made my boyfriend at the time throw all his porn out. It really bothered me. But now that I'm older and much more mature, I've caught on to a few things. Men like porn. They always will. There are some out there that aren... (read in full...)

He's got a car - should I go and meet him?

Q.   Moderator's note: This is the same young lady who asked a few posts ago about having sex with her 16 year-old boyfriend!! (or at least - it's from the same computer) well. theres this guy and i like him right hes ok n hes fit n stuff but ive on...

A.   20 October 2007: Don't go, simple as that. You should never put yourself in a situation when you are scared of meeting someone. I met my boyfriend online, and we talked for a long time over the phone, and when we decided to meet for the first time, we went to a ... (read in full...)

My boyfriends friends don't like me

Q.   my bf's mates are not the nicest of people, they're immature and dont have any faith in mine and my bf's relationship at all and its the fact that they express that towards me thats annoying. When i tell them to stop, they say im reading to much int...

A.   20 October 2007: If you're looking for universal approval, you're going to be looking for it the rest of your life. You also need to grow up a little. Don't stoop to their level and whine about them the way they whine about you. Don't ever tell your boyfriend that's ... (read in full...)

Is it ok for your boyfriend to be smaller than you?

Q.   is it ok for your boyfriend to be smaller than you?...

A.   19 October 2007: My last boyfriend was about 3 inches shorter than me, and I weighed about 40 more pounds than he did. We got some odd looks, but we loved each other and it didn't matter what anyone else thought. We were happy. Sometimes I thought it would be nice... (read in full...)

How to make sex last longer.

Q.   I want my sexual experience to last longer. Unfortunately, I last for only about 5 minutes. I could handle oral sex okay for quite a long time but when I am inside my girlfrind, I cum within minutes. Please help me by advising me what to do. Can i ...

A.   19 October 2007: You could try just slowing down before you peak. Another thing you might want to try, which I know works with men who orgasm too fast during oral, is stop altogether, and have your girlfriend gently tug (GENTLY!) on your testicles and wrap her ... (read in full...)

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