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Today, I threw up... is this a sign of pregnancy? Could I be pregnant?!!???$!
Q. My boyfriend and i were fooling around the other day and i made him cum, a few hours later we had protected sex (used a condom) it did NOT break and everything was fine, he didnt cum inside of me. Its now 4 days later and i just got my period this ...
A. 21 February 2007: Take a test just to be sure. It's almost definitely nothing but sometimes when ur pregnant you have a light bleed at the beginning which people mistake for a period even though it's actually not.
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Today, I threw up... is this a sign of pregnancy? Could I be pregnant?!!???$!
Q. My boyfriend and i were fooling around the other day and i made him cum, a few hours later we had protected sex (used a condom) it did NOT break and everything was fine, he didnt cum inside of me. Its now 4 days later and i just got my period this ...
A. 21 February 2007: It depends whats normal to you. Some people have a brownish bleed. For other people it's bright red. If it's always brown don't worry. The main thing you need to look for in this situation is whether it was heavier or lighter than normal and check ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is working abroad at the moment and I kind of resent it. Am I being selfish here?
Q. I'm a 20 year old student and I've been in a relationship for over a year and a half. I've been living with my girlfriend for 9 months. She has recently gone away for 5 months to work. I didn't want her to go. I understand why she wanted to work ...
A. 20 February 2007: In a word... yes. Sorry. This is your girlfriend's dream. Her decision to go abroad was formed in her head before she even met you. I'm sure it's hard for you and I'm sure you miss her. I had to study abroad last year for my degree (obligatory ... (read in full...)
Is his moodiness a way of pushing me away?
Q. I am glad this site is around and I appreciate any answers to my questions. I am in the beginning stages of a friendship which I hope may lead to more. The problems seem to be happening with the email part of the relationship. The man involved ...
A. 20 February 2007: Without a hypothetical situation it's kind of hard to tell. Maybe he's pushing you away, maybe he's just a hyper sensitive individual. I'm not sure anyone on this site will be able to give you a halfway decent answer without a little more background ... (read in full...)
My fiance told me he had sex with a prostitute just before he met me. It really bothers me that he did this. Should I forget about it?
Q. My fiance told me he had sex twice with a prostitute just before he met me. This makes me sick to my stomach - but it was before we met. I believe he would not ever cheat on me but it still bothers me that he did this. Should I let it ruin our ...
A. 20 February 2007: It depends. I'm sure your past isn't totally blemishless either although perhaps there's nothing as inherently offputting as sleeping with a prostitute in it. If you love him then letting go of this shouldn't be an issue. Maybe you're questioning ... (read in full...)
My partner can't get over the fact I slept with his friend before I ever knew him.
Q. I'm confused, my partner of 2.5 years finished our relationship. he has always been aware of the fact that I slept with one of his friends before I ever knew him. This was a long time ago and although I have tried to reassure him that this is ...
A. 20 February 2007: So he's managed to be in a sexual relationship with you for the best part of 2.5 years without this event from your past acting as a turn off? I think your "he's lying" bells are ringing for a reason here. Maybe he's just using it as an excuse to ... (read in full...)
Today, I threw up... is this a sign of pregnancy? Could I be pregnant?!!???$!
Q. My boyfriend and i were fooling around the other day and i made him cum, a few hours later we had protected sex (used a condom) it did NOT break and everything was fine, he didnt cum inside of me. Its now 4 days later and i just got my period this ...
A. 20 February 2007: Some people do get nausea and vomiting with their periods but that tends to be girls a lot younger than you who have just started their periods and whose bodies are adjusting to the fluctuating hormone levels. The truth is that if you've had a ... (read in full...)
My wife has just lost a very close family member in death and I don't know what to say to her? Help appreciated here.
Q. hi i need help on how to help my wife who is grieving over the loss of a very close family member. I know i shouldn't but i feel abit uncomfortable being around her at times when shes upset because i don't know what to do or say. I don't know how i ...
A. 19 February 2007: There's nothing you can say that will make her feel better. All you can do is be there for her when she needs you. Give her a cuddle when she's upset and tell her she can talk to you if she wants. Sometimes the best thing you can do is just sit in ... (read in full...)
I always kiss using my tongue, how can I learn NOT to kiss with my tongue?
Q. This might sound weird to people, but i haven't actually kissed a girl without using my tongue! every girl i have have kissed i have always used my tongue so i don't think i no how to not use it, im sorry if this is a stupid question but how do you ...
A. 19 February 2007: Keep that tongue behind your teeth and kiss using just your lips. It's easy and infinitely more pleasurable... (read in full...)
We get on so well but he keeps going out with other girls, what do I do?
Q. hiya my names becky and and i really really really like this lad infact i think im in love with him and he feels the same but i can and cant see a relationship forming between us but we have bin out with each other before and my problem is that on ...
A. 19 February 2007: If he can go after other girls then he doesn't love you, not even close. He's just using you when you're convenient. Don't put up with this. Your friends are right, you can do better.
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I have a yeast infection and I think I may have passed it on to my boyfriend.
Q. I had a yeast infection last week right before my period. My boyfriend and I used condoms during my period which came right in the middle of treating my yeast infection. I think at one point we took the condom off though. So last night I was...
A. 19 February 2007: It's totally possible that you could have passed on your yeast infection to your boyfriend. Take a trip to your local chemist and get treatment for both of you to be used simultaneously, otherwise you'll just keep passing it back and forth between ... (read in full...)
Would it matter to a guy if my vagina area was strange?
Q. basically, there's a guy, and its possible stuff might happen but im sorta worried. like, ive never been past first base before and im worried about my vagina area not being right? like my clits always seem really odd to me, big and sorta shrive...
A. 19 February 2007: Every vagina is different just like every penis is different. I REALLY wouldn't worry. I doubt you're anything other than totally normal. Regarding hand jobs the best thing to do is let the guy guide you so you learn how he likes it. And if you're ... (read in full...)
He is much bigger than my ex... will sex with him hurt?
Q. hello, I have only had sex with one other man and have masturbated with my dildo. The dildo I bought is 5.25" long and 4" around as I measured it. My ex-boyfriend was the same size pretty much, which is why I bought it. My problem now is I'...
A. 19 February 2007: It will hurt a tiny bit at first probably but you'll get used to it surprisingly quickly. Remember when you lost your virginity? It hurt the first few times but then you were fine right? Well it'll probably be a lot like that this time. Same advice ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be hurt again, should I text him or just leave it?
Q. Theres a lad I fancy loads and I dont know how he feels for me. I slept with him 6 months ago, just as a one night stand, and every time I have seen him since then we have both been drunk and end up kissing. We get on really well when we see each ...
A. 19 February 2007: Well... there's no reason why he should be the first person to text and it's only Monday! Not many days have gone since last weekend. Try texting him and if he doesn't reply by say, Thursday, think again whether you want to be in a relationship ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend of 5 years but am very attracted to this other guy. What should I do?
Q. i have a boyfriend of 5 years. i met this guy a couple of weeks ago and i really like him and he likes me. i get feelings for him that i never get with my current boyfriend. he makes me laugh what shall i do or is this just lust? help...
A. 19 February 2007: It could just be that you've got so comfortable with your boyfriend that you've forgotten what the spark when you're first with someone feels like, meaning that this is just about feelings of lust and nothing more. Or maybe you've felt yourself ... (read in full...)
My childhood friend and I kissed, but he has a girlfriend!
Q. I have a really close friends who I have known all my life because our parents are friends and we always used to go on holiday together, me and my friend dont go anymore as we are old enough to go with our own mates. Ive always thought of him as my ...
A. 18 February 2007: I think if he wanted it to go anywhere he would break up with his girlfriend to be perfectly honest with you.
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How do I know if I have had an orgasm?
Q. How do you know if you have orgasmed? I've had sex a good few times but i dont think i have ever properly orgasamed. How do you know? What's supposed to happen and how long is it supposed to last? xxx...
A. 18 February 2007: The thing is with an orgasm is that when you've had one you just know. I know that's probably the most frustrating thing I could say to you- I'm aware that when people used to say it to me that I thought they were talking rubbish but it's true. When ... (read in full...)
My partner of 10 years has chosen alcohol over me and our daughter!
Q. hi i am living with my partner for the last 5 yrs. We are in a relationship for nearly 10 years we have one girl who is 6. Our relationship has hit rock bottom cause he has choosen drink before me too many times. What i would like to know is the h...
A. 18 February 2007: Technically if your name is not on the ownership deeds to the house then he can throw you out but he still has a duty to support your daughter. That is, assuming Irish law is the same as English law. However youwill not end up on the street. I'm ... (read in full...)
We aren't actually together but he lied to me! Should I confront him?
Q. Hi, Well im "seeing" this boy from school. Well, I'm not actually seeing him but i meet up with him sometimes and we have a cuddle and that but he has a gf! I feel really bad and a total fool. I met him today and he told me he had 2 go home earl...
A. 18 February 2007: I think he would probably see you interrogating him as slightly obsessive. Maybe he had something to do in that time, maybe he just needed to be by himself but even if you were his girlfriend you couldn't really call him on it. Try to relax and put ... (read in full...)
Should I try and make the first move.... again??
Q. hey i have been going out with my boyfriend for about a month and a half. and im 16. one day when we met up he asked if he could kiss me and i said yes. so we kissed. then we kissed about 4 times in that day. now that was about a month ago and now ...
A. 18 February 2007: You know what? The second time you kiss (as in second day rather than second kiss) is so much harder than the first one. There's so many more expectations. If you want to kiss him just do it! He'll probably be relieved you made the first move.
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I'll be staying at his parents house for 2 weeks! I'm nervous about it...any tips to help me?
Q. I've made plans to go see my LD boyfriend, and I'm going to be staying with him for 2 weeks. Here's the thing. His plans to buy a new apartment fell through, so he's had to move back in with his parents for a short while. Nothing permanent, but h...
A. 18 February 2007: His parents sound lovely! I wish I was accepted by my ex boyfriend's parents as you are by these people who don't even know you! Make an effort to be smiley and chatty and maybe take them a present to show how much you appreciate them letting you ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can help her relax??
Q. Me and my gf have been going out for 4 months now offically but we've liked each other for years. We've been best friends most of our lives and are completely comfortable with each other and talking about personal thing. We are both virgins and ...
A. 18 February 2007: The best things you can do is talk to her openly and find out if it's only the pain that worries her or if there's something else. Make sure you both have plans regarding contraception and to make sure she's relaxed before you penetrate her make ... (read in full...)
How can I persuade him to go out with me and that my ex (his best friend) is not a problem?
Q. Hi, I dated a guy for 6months and unfortunately that finished, but now I feel I'm ready to start dating again. Typically for me, I have started liking his best friend and his best friend likes me alot too. There's just one thing standin...
A. 18 February 2007: Simply put, you can't. The only thing you can do is talk to your ex and tell him how much you like his friend. Maybe he'll give you his blessing to have a relationship with his friend or maybe he won't. A lot depends on who broke up with who and ... (read in full...)
He said a kiss doesnt always mean a relationship...but does he like me??
Q. I am really confused.. i've known this guys since i was in middle school.. he's one of my seniors' brother. We didn't really know each other, but i heard a lot about him (he was sorta popular). These last couple weeks, we talked a lot online, he ...
A. 18 February 2007: He's told you he doesn't want a relationship and I'm a little confused by your question whether you're asking if he wants a relationship with you or if he is attracted to you (ie does he like you) My guess is that he doesn't want a relationship with ... (read in full...)
Can i make her like me?
Q. Hi, I just wanted to know what I should do, before we get started I'm 14 ok? Well I recently been on a school trip to Spain, I met this girl and we've become good friends, I know she doesn't fancy me (for want of a better term) but I think I've ...
A. 18 February 2007: Again I will ask if she actually said that to you or if it's just a feeling you get but either way my advice would be the same. She might not feel like that about you now but she might in the future. So much changes at your age so stay close to her, ... (read in full...)
It hurts like being stabbed when I orgasm... !
Q. For about 3 or 4 years, when I have an orgasm, its extremely painful and I don't know why. I've talked to my gynecologist but she says nothing is wrong with me. This still bothers me because I want to be able to understand why I have this pain. ...
A. 18 February 2007: It's natural to have a slight stabbing sensation when you orgasm and if there's nothing physically wrong with you you're probably just getting what all us girls get a little.
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Have I scared him off already??
Q. Ok...last night n this club i met this amazing and great lookin guy (im 18 hes 25) i very rarely feel a connection with someone but with him i did. We instantly clicked. He was sayin that he could imagine himself with someone like me. I was kind...
A. 18 February 2007: Give him time!! You know what boys are like, he's probably watching football or got caught up doing his weekend drinking thing with the boys. Give it til Wednesday and if he hasn't texted by then ask him to let you know since you've got a chance of ... (read in full...)
Would it be bad if i started something with my teacher??
Q. Alright so I'm 17 and I have a HUGE crush on my teacher at school...he was my bio teacher when i was a sophomore, and now I'm a senior. He always talks to me still and he makes it obvious that he goes out of his way to do it. When we walk down the...
A. 18 February 2007: There would be a lot wrong with starting something after you're graduated. If he were single it would be something else entirely but he's married! How do you think you'd feel if one day you were married to him and he was sleeping with one of his ex ... (read in full...)
I think I 'nearly' had an orgasm but am not sure! Did I or didn't I?
Q. I was masterbating and I have never had one before but I think I NEARLY had an orgasm it felt like it was going to happen then i coudnt be botherd anymore it was too much effort did i nearly have one?... but i went weak at the knees after it . Was I ...
A. 17 February 2007: Trust me, when you have one or even nearly have one you'll know. It's unmistakeable.
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He asked me out to dinner and spent half the night talking about his ex gf! What's up with this guy?
Q. I went out to dinner with an ex boyfriend last night after he asked me out. He split from his girlfriend over 4 months ago but he spent possibly half the night talking about her - he even showed me a picture of her. I found this to be extremely ...
A. 16 February 2007: You know what? I think he was nervous. The last guy I dated went on and on and on about his exes on the first date. Yes it's odd but it's not hurtful. It shows that he cares for her (not still in love but still cares) and by keeping bringing her up ... (read in full...)
I found an old dating site profile of my gf - Is it inappropriate to bring up? I found it funny!
Q. Going through my old email messages I was searching for email my girlfriend once sent me with a phrase she uses for herself. I accidently hit the search web tab in Gmail and it came up with an old profile she had on a matchmaking site. At first I ...
A. 15 February 2007: I would forget it. I believe you when you say you didn't intend to snoop but I doubt she'll see it like that. There's no reason to tell her and every reason not to so I would stick with the latter!
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If it is wrong to view women as sex objects then why is there things like pornography and prostitution?
Q. If it is wrong to view women as sex objects then why is there things like pornography and prostitution? It’s seems kind off contradictory doesn’t it? I mean how are people suppose to learn that viewing women as sex objects is wrong when things like ...
A. 15 February 2007: Prostitution is the most ancient occupation in the world. It's not going to die out any time soon. Lots of things are wrong yet they still happen. There are old men raping little kids and young people killing the elderly to rob their pernsion. Not ... (read in full...)
I want to kiss this girl badly but she doesn't want to, I'm only 12 so what will I do?
Q. Im 12 and i have already hit puberty ( it runs in the family ) and i am dating a girl but we dont really kiss or do anything but i want to kiss her so bad, but she dosnt want to and now i have started hitting on other girls what should i do? ...
A. 15 February 2007: You have to decide what's more important to you, your girlfriend or getting that kiss. Your girlfriend has made it quite clear that she's not ready to kiss yet and she's right, you're both so young that there's no rush. However you can't have it ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a gay man to feel anything other than friendship with a straight female?
Q. Hi Everyone, I'm a straight female, 47, 3 adult children, single. I have experienced a lot where relationships are concerned but recently I find that I am falling in love with a gay man - we have everything but the sex. Its the most amazing ...
A. 15 February 2007: It's not possible unless they're not actually gay. All gay best friends are like this. You get everything you would get from a straight guy except the sex and it's all so much less complicated because of that fact so that you can enjoy the little ... (read in full...)
I've split up from my boyfriend and don't know if I've done the right thing.
Q. I'm jst going through a break having been together for two years. At the begginning of the relationship everything was great.But as the second year past i found that it felt as though things were missing,i loved and still love my boyfriend but am ...
A. 15 February 2007: Of course! It's natural to doubt yourself and feel sad. I'm guessing that even though you remember all the negatives about your relationship you can't really connect with how they made you feel anymore. When we break up with someone all the bad ... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship with a lovely man but I don't really think I can be with him.
Q. Can you help me? I am in a relationship with a man I think is lovely but I don't really think I can be with?! Does that make any sense? I think we ought to break up but I can't bring myself to do it as I think he is going to hate me and that he i...
A. 15 February 2007: Sometimes someone can be totally perfect but if theyre not perfect for us then we start to push them away. To be honest I think you're both too old to let a break up come between you in the long term. Yes it might be a little awkward at he beginning ... (read in full...)
My long distance fiancee of 3 years dropped a bombshell - he killed someone 8 years ago!
Q. I'm getting married in July to a man I love so much and have been with for over three years long distance. We met when his job brought him overseas and we have been inseperable ever since. We speak on the phone everyday, sometimes up to 8 hours at a ...
A. 15 February 2007: Well.... even some murderers end up happy and married in the end despite their pasts but I must admit I don't know if I could. I think it would take a very strong woman to be there and that it's not an extra pressure you need when you're already ... (read in full...)
My BF isn't very well endowed, is that why the only 3 times I've had sex I haven't orgasmed?
Q. my boyfriend and i have had sex three times and all of the times the only way i have reached an orgasm is by him giving me oral. I did have one the first time but it was very brief and quick. Is there a reason behind this? He isnt all that big, ...
A. 15 February 2007: That's probably not the reason at all. A lot of women 7/10 can't orgasm through sex and need clitoral stimulation so if this is the case with you you'd be in the majority.
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Sweet 13 and never been kissed....
Q. hey, i am 13 years old an ill be 14 in june and i haven`t kissed a guy yet!!! help!!!...
A. 15 February 2007: Take your time! It'll happen when you're ready! Right now your attitude of being so desperate to be kissed is probably scaring guys off. The more you relax, the more likely itll be to happen.
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My own insecurites are causing me to think he is judging me when I'm on top during sex!
Q. my boyfriend says he gets tired of being on top when we're having sex. But me being on top just feels awkward. I feel so vulnerable and judged. I know I probably shouldnt feel this way with someone I love and its not a question of can we be open to ...
A. 15 February 2007: Yes! Relax! Your boyfriend has told you he doesn't want to be on top which means two things. One... he wants you to be on top so he doesn't have to do all the hard work Two... so he can look at you! It's a compliment. If you're feeling really ... (read in full...)
I care about both men in different ways and don't know what to do for the best...?
Q. I broke up with this guy that I was dating for 2 and a half years because I didn't feel compatible with him at the time. He was my first everything. He was the sweetest most gentle guy and I knew he loved me but I wasn't quite ready for love. We ...
A. 15 February 2007: Nobody will ever make you feel quite like your first boyfriend because yu'll never feel that level of excitement or passion again just because you never get that first time back. It's natural to feel nostalgia for those feelings and for your ... (read in full...)
Is the lube on a condom enough lubricant for anal intercourse?
Q. Is the lube on a condom enough lubricant for anal intercourse? My boyfriend and I have used one before, and it was okay. That was my first time, and I knew it would hurt like hell anyway. This last time, the second time, we had vaginal intercourse ...
A. 15 February 2007: If it feels okay with just the lube from a condom then it's probably fine. Pain is our body's natural way of telling us that something is wrong so if you're not feeling pain chances are everything is fine.
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I have really fallen for my friend but am scared to tell her in case it ruins our friendship. Any advice?
Q. i have fallen for a friend that i have known for ages. we grew up together and recently my feelings for her have grown to the point where i can't stop thinking about her. we are really close, even our families think we are seeing each other. i want ...
A. 15 February 2007: I think you're too old now to ruin a friendship just if the object of your affection doesn't feel the same way. Yes it will be embarassing for a few seconds if she rejects you but then it will be over and things will go back to normal. My guess is ... (read in full...)
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