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writes:I am glad this site is around and I appreciate any answers to my questions. I am in the beginning stages of a friendship which I hope may lead to more. The problems seem to be happening with the email part of the relationship. The man involved recently was ill and I am wondering if there may be connection. Most of the time his emails are friendly and conversational but every now and then he responds in a less than polite way....in fact he seems angry...not necessarily at me but seems to take offence at something I have said and I meant nothing by it. I met him through an organization to which we both belong and he is dynamic there too but I have seen him lose his temper there too. I am not some misguided teenager....he is a decent person but I am puzzled and thinking of pulling back from this relationship...could his moodiness be a way of pushing me away??? Any replies appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, Psyche  +, writes (20 February 2007):
I recommend moving on. You deserve to be with someone who has a handle on thier moods and who is responsible for how they make you feel. He is probably wonderful, but he may be up and down... I say, seek balance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to the different people who took the time to answer my question.....much appreciated.
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (20 February 2007):
 Have just recieved your update, Thank you. Yes of course there`s a connection. As I said previously, when we`re ill and in discomfort/pain, sometimes we can be tetchy. And having a stroke can take a lot of getting over. I think this man has done very well overall, and if some of his emails sound grumpy, it`s understandable, and I`m just glad that this man can type emails at all! Often with strokes you have to re-learn things that would come naturally before; and sometimes it`s too much of a battle. This man deserves a meddle for his attempts! I take my hat off to him. Help & Support him all you can, but this strong willed man may end up supporting YOU!! With Love, Heather.
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reader, luvme247 +, writes (20 February 2007):
 It is kind of hard to tell someones mood by an email because you are not able to hear the tone of their voice, facial expressions... also emails can sometimes be interpreted different ways. You are better off just talking to him about it. Ask him what he meant. Good Luck.
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (20 February 2007):
I agree with CD, I don`t think any of us can give you much of an answer without any more details. On what little you`ve given us, you`ve said this man has been ill; and when we`re ill and/or in pain, we can sometimes be "tetchy". Perhaps this is the case? When you say you`ve seen him lose his temper, can I ask what this was over?, and how quickly did he calm down? If you`d like to fill the picture in for us a bit more, then we will all do all we can to help & advise! Kind Regards, Heather.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAs an update he had a stroke about three months ago..could there be a connection.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (20 February 2007):
 Without a hypothetical situation it's kind of hard to tell. Maybe he's pushing you away, maybe he's just a hyper sensitive individual. I'm not sure anyone on this site will be able to give you a halfway decent answer without a little more background knowledge. Anyone with a short temper or someone who is oversensitive does make for a troublesome relationship but even total psychopaths find people to love them so his temper need not be a big deal. I guess what it comes down to is how much you like him and how much you're willing to put up with these mood swings.
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