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Do women like intelligent men?

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Question - (26 December 2009) 38 Answers - (Newest, 2 January 2010)
A male El Salvador age 18-21, *lexES writes:

Hello, i was wondering, does women like intelligent men?

I really love to become a mathematician or a physicist, i mean not the wrong social stereotype of the geek who cant socialize, i mean a guy that is fit + personality + mathematician or physicist, does women find it attractive or is a no no?

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A female reader, Share Bear United Kingdom +, writes (2 January 2010):

Share Bear agony auntAww- Happy New Year to you too, Alex- and Gina too! :)

Do keep us posted on how things work out for you- both courses and young ladies-wise!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010):

No, well yes, it ll depends on the girl. But remember she dosnt want to hear about what you have to say. A ll girls are attention whores so shift all conversation on her unless she asks you something or you want to relate to her. No she dosn't want to hear the difference between Darwinian Evolution and Huxley Evolution(that's if you even believe evolution at all, which I don't)! But unless she asks about what you think then she dosn't really care. I'm a smart guy too and if there's anything iv'e learned is that if she's your average girl then thinking gives her a headache and intimidates her.

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (31 December 2009):

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Happy new year people =)

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (30 December 2009):

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Share Bear Thanks a lot =)

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A female reader, Share Bear United Kingdom +, writes (29 December 2009):

Share Bear agony auntI'd assume that the additional fees are partly government subsidised to encourage growth and development. Or if not, there may be sponsorships available. It’s definitely worth investigating.

The way student loans are calculated in the UK, is based upon the household income. I honestly don't know how fees are calculated for international students, but for UK based residents it would mean that the lower the household income, the greater the financial help you could be entitled to. –Albeit loans rather than grants.

I hope that you can find a way to make it work!

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (29 December 2009):

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when you say fees you mean more expensive?. Dude i don't have money in my country, that meas i even have less money compared to a UK people.

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A female reader, Share Bear United Kingdom +, writes (29 December 2009):

Share Bear agony auntCan you apply for universities abroad? -It can't be that long before you'd start?

I know that some universities in the UK love accepting international students since they somehow manage to wrangle more fees!

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (29 December 2009):

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OK marriedlady ill do =). Maybe i put a new interesting trade this days xD.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009):

Education is the best route out of there. Keep us posted, ok hon? mal

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (29 December 2009):

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Thanks friends for the advices, especially celiaaletta =). Well this has nothing to do with girls, but i would love to get away of my country, which is one of the most violent in the world ever heard about the gangs(maras) MS and 18th street?? Well i know if i don't get out of this place i will get killed.

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A female reader, Share Bear United Kingdom +, writes (29 December 2009):

Share Bear agony auntIch verstehe nicht!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009):

yes, thank you friends for the good advice? (kind of guessing)

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (29 December 2009):

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Si XD, gracias compañera te deseo lo mejor =).

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (29 December 2009):

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Hhhahaha keep it coming love xD

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A female reader, Share Bear United Kingdom +, writes (29 December 2009):

Share Bear agony auntAhh- the irony- I love it, Mal!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009):

ok there you guys this is getting very uncool...i no habla espanol....sigh i feel stupid with all of this intellingence. mal haha

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A female reader, Share Bear United Kingdom +, writes (28 December 2009):

Share Bear agony auntI'd have to turn this question on its head. Would YOU be interested in a girl that actively DIDN'T want an intelligent man?

Hopefully not!

Make the life decisions that you respect, rather than those that someone else might.

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (28 December 2009):

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hahaha puede ser una posibilidad si no ayo a una que valga la pena xd. En mi locura estoy pensando en irme a rusia, corea del norte o algo asi para salir de mi pais, porque este es el mas vilento de latinoamerica han oido hablar de las maras (gangs) MS o 18th street? Aqui corro el peligro que me maten, secuestren o extorcionen, asi que espero salirme de aqui y talvez uno de esos paises les interese un fisco xD. La verdad es aqui las cosas van de peor en peor + el cambio climatico, estos paises van a sufrir mas.

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (28 December 2009):

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Well this got nothing to do with girls, but if i become a physicist in my country, which is a 3rd world country and the most violent in Latin America, you ever heard about the maras , MS??. Well so the USSR is gone, is there any chance to go to North Korea. China, Cuba or even Iran before i get killed here. Dude im not a materialistic person so it maybe be an adventure xD

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (28 December 2009):

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celiaaletta thanks =). Gracias compañera, la verdad es que uno debe de ser independiente, pero seria bueno compartir con una persona que lo valga =) y si no pues solo sexo.

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A female reader, ChantillyMarie Australia +, writes (28 December 2009):

First off...

Why're you deciding what you want to be, because you're wanting chicks?

Grow up. That's silly, well rather stupid. A girl will love you no matter who/what you are, as long as you find the "RIGHT" girl.

But someone is always going to be out there waiting for you, just need to find her. To me, I find intelligence rather sexy, but some girls don't. It's all about preference.

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (27 December 2009):

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Well thanks for the answers people =). hahahaha hey loco deberias probar hormonas talvez mejore tus resultados xD. No pense que hubiera tanta gente que hablara español =).

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A female reader, meg2989 United States +, writes (27 December 2009):

meg2989 agony auntTo your comment I would say absolutly! Infact its what most girls want. I know I do, and I know many other people that do as well.

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (27 December 2009):

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celiaaletta i think you speak Spanish right? Well actually i never had a girlfriend, i think i have been closer to having sex that having a girlfriend, maybe its because Ive never been looking a lot into getting one + only boy school xD. And for what my friend added about the bad boy looking that get all the girls, well is kinda true my friends who only think in sex, they get it, my friends who think in love, well they kinda fail, but i don't know why Ive always have this feeling/thought that i want a girl which i can love, have fun and be there for each other, but sometimes is like my socialist ideals xD, becouse in history socialism have ended in dictatorship or state capitalism, which makes me conclude that is just ideals xD. Well so what you say girls, are there girls that like love + profound relationship + fun or is just sex(i think sex is important in a relationship but is far from being all) and capitalist love for money. Well post you answers what do you think =)?. Gracias compañera por las respuestas

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (27 December 2009):

Fatherly Advice agony auntNice topic, I appreciate that sweetheart mentioned the "little on the bad side" part. Most younger girls will spend some time with a bad boy, usually they grow out of it, and are embarrassed by the aftermath. In the meantime they add fuel to the insecurities that guys like Alex have. My Brother in law is a network tech and physicist. His success with women can be attributed in large part to his long hair and beard. He has the appearance of being dangerous, which is a turn on, along with some very real intelligence. So knowing to play to that image can help you out.

Don't go all the way though, remember girls may play with the bad boys but they take the nice guys home.

FA

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (27 December 2009):

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Hello =). I actually love physics and math so I'm going for it. Ive heard that when you think in the quality's that your special person should have, you should try to make them in your life. So if i like a honest and loving girl, i should be honest and loving, and if i am attracted to a good looking girl, i should make exercise and not be in front of the TV eating snacks all day becoming obese. I think you get my point. At the end the point is being happy with you to =). By the way my English is not so good, so ,sorry for my writing mistakes.

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (26 December 2009):

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Thanks for the answers people keep it coming =).

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A female reader, meg2989 United States +, writes (26 December 2009):

meg2989 agony auntIf its what you enjoy doing, then do it. Any woman that really wants to be with you for you as a person would accept it 100%. Personality is what attracts women, but for the most part I would say that women do like intelligent men. Then again that, too is a matter of personal opinion.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009):

ambition is a good thing but personality is the most important thing that attracts a female initially. :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009):

Depends on the woman. Intelligent women who value mind over matter probably do like intelligent men. Women who themselves aren't that bright might not find it that important cause they place higher value on other qualities. Furthermore, intelligence isn't just a thing limited to your degree or level of education in science. Brilliance and intelligence can show in a lot of ways. How you view the world, how well you interact with people, it can take many forms. I personally like men who are well rounded and I do tend to gravitate toward men with a high education and from good families. The more knowledgable he is about music, literature, the world, food, drink, travel, socializing with others then the more attracted I am to him. But I myself am educated, and have a way of viewing the world that I would like the person I date to have that in common with me. So like I said it all depends.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009):

Intelligence is definately not a turn-off! Your sterotypical geek isn't the most attractive guy out there, fair enough. But personality is what's most important at the end of the day. A compatible personality, kindness and someone that will make you happy are the most important traits in a partner. Looks, intelligence, job - they're all part of a person but not the crucial things that necessarily make you fall for them.

I'm 17 and I'm glad to say I'm not shallow. I'm not attracted to people by the way they look, it's the whole person for me. But if I was describing my ideal guy, intelligence would definately be a factor. I'd rather someone who I can have a decent conversation with rather than someone who's nice to look at. Brains can only be a turn-off if two people are at different intelligence levels, as in the opposite ends of the scale.

So be yourself, do what you want to do because someone will be attracted to you without you having to do anything but that. If you're fit and have a good personality then being a mathematician or a physicist will only impress people more!

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A male reader, AlexES El Salvador +, writes (26 December 2009):

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Code Warrior what a wise words men =), thanks a lot, you are totally right dude and I'm happy for you. Cuidate compañero.

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A female reader, Sweetheart =) United States +, writes (26 December 2009):

Sweetheart =) agony auntumm it depends if talk that way when your with a women.. women like guys that are smart sweet and a littel on the bad side.. hope this helped ;)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009):

Every woman is different.Some may like geeks.Others may not.The right woman is not someone who likes you for what you do but for who you are.You are not defined by the money you earn or the profession you studied for.You are defined by your attitude towards life and others.If your attitude is right,women are going to find you attractive.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009):

if you are

1-) handosme

2-) rich

3-) humourus

4-) kind and caring.. all woman will fall inlove with you some how

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A male reader, Code Warrior United States +, writes (26 December 2009):

Code Warrior agony auntCoolio, don't choose what you want to do with your life based on what you think women will find attractive. Do what you love and be proud of it and women will like you for being you.

I am into writing software, physics, mathematics, and I am an Electrical Engineer. I didn't choose those things because of any consideration about what women would think. I could care less. I love that stuff and that's why I do it. If a woman rejects me because of that part of my personality who gives a rat's ass? Such a woman isn't worth being with anyway.

Most women will not care that you like that stuff. They may tease you about it though. My wife teases me all the time. Hey, teasing is just another form of love. If they didn't love you, they wouldn't care enough to tease you.

Do what makes you happy and let the women love you for it!

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A female reader, Brooklyngirl United States +, writes (26 December 2009):

Brooklyngirl agony auntAbsolutely! And the older you get the more you will realize this! Follow your dreams! You will find your woman out there...maybe in the same field you desire!

Good Luck!

XXBGXX

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009):

Your question is too broad, Many very good looking and nice women will be attracted to a smart man who is going places. Others will be attracted to good looking rough (and not so smart) guys who probably are going to have blue collar jobs their entire lives. This is life... people are attracted to people for different reasons.

Your selection of a career should NOT be based on if you think you can pick up chicks, but based on the passion that you have for a specific field. If your fit with a good personality, can hold a conversation- women may not care what you do.

Beware of the women who solely are attracted to you based on their assessment for your earning potential, or what kind of car you drive. Their fantasy's will certainly fail, and if you fall into the 'gold digger' trap, you'll end up divorced and they'll get a lot of what you worked for... find a woman that loves you because you're a great guy!

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