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Does a mouth ulcer indicate pregnancy?

Q.   Hiya i have one question does having a Mouth ulcer mean a sign of being pregnent my friends just found out shes pregnent and she said she had a mouth ulcer just before she found out, I actually said to her that shes being stupid and thats not one ...

A.   27 November 2008: mouth ulcers are a sign of low immunity, not pregnancy! otherwise why would men get mouth ulcers? ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend's parents found out that we've been having sex and want us to stop...

Q.   My girlfriend's parents found out that we've been having sex and want us to stop, neither me or her want to stop and it's not like we have sex like crazy, it's just like once a week. Should we follow them? or continue to do it behind their backs? ...

A.   26 November 2008: you know i could be like everyone else and give you reasons for not having sex. but the reality is, is that you are both teens and whether someone tells you to stop or not, you are still going to have sex. if you do decide to carry on having a ... (read in full...)

Does my fantasy seem normal? Anyone else fantasise about this or similar?

Q.   I'm a 22-year old male, and I often fantasize about having unprotected sex. I find the thought that there's a possibility of of fertilizing a woman with my seed and creating a new life inside her extremely arousing. Often when my ex-girlfriend and ...

A.   26 November 2008: there is nothing wrong with having a fantasy like that. as long as it remains a fantasy, unless of course you are trying for a baby. enjoy it as a fantasy, but please god use protection!... (read in full...)

Too much pre-cum !

Q.   I'm having trouble with producing lots of pre-cum when I get really horny! I'm not ejaculating just getting really wet (my boxers look like snails have been racing around in them) Is this a medical problem? Is there anything I can do to stop it? ...

A.   26 November 2008: from experience with ex's, you sound normal to me. i remember my ex's used to have "snail" marks on their boxers. if you are really worried maybe call a sex health line or see your doctor? dont be shy and embarrassed, remember they hear and see it ... (read in full...)

The day before I begin my period I have brown discharge... is this normal?

Q.   the day before i begin my period i have brown discharge... is this normal?...

A.   26 November 2008: it's the very beginning of your period. the brown colour is blood. it's normal. plus at your age, your body is still getting used to periods, so they probably are not full blown periods. i remember when i first started, i simply had a tiny bit of ... (read in full...)

Is my ex upset that I got into another relationship so quickly?

Q.   I was with my ex boyfriend for a year. We were very very much in love. None of us had ever been this in love before. There was a lot of physical attraction there. He was very romantic and did lots for me and vice versa. I thought we were going to ...

A.   26 November 2008: i'm going to tell you the same thing someone told me. An ex is an ex, forget about them and concentrate on you current bf. your ex just has to deal with you moving on, after all he broke it off with you. forget him, enjoy your new bf.... (read in full...)

Is kissing considered cheating?

Q.   Is kissing cheating? Just how bad is it to kiss (make out with) someone else when in a VERY serious relationship?...

A.   26 November 2008: it's bad...very bad. i would be heart broken if i found out my bf had made out with another girl... (read in full...)

Am I just being too anxious here?

Q.   Well, I have been dating this girl for a month now, we hang out a lot, and we have a great time together. We are at the point where we will greet each other with a kiss and leave with a kiss, we give each other massages and fool around a little ...

A.   26 November 2008: it's like us girls can not get it right, we are either too clingly or don't pay you guys enough attention. it's all to do with not knowing if we are coming across too clingly and needy. maybe also she has had a bad break up and got hurt in the p... (read in full...)

I want to get a bikini wax, but I'm scared that I'll smell!

Q.   A question for the girls, I am thinking of going for a bikini wax because I don't know what to do with it, but I think I smell, I was just wondering if you are suppose to have an odour, and I am a little worried in case I leak when they start ...

A.   26 November 2008: i think when she says she leaks she means gets wet? all you can do is make sure that you are clean, maybe freshen up with a fem fresh wipe or something. if the smell is really bad go to your doctor. smells can indicate infections and even can... (read in full...)

Do I need to shave??????

Q.   Ok so I have a bit of a personal question.. I'm concerned about whether or not I'm supposed to shave my vaginal area? My bf and I have been getting close, and he's tried several times to put his hand down/take off my pants and I haven't let him ...

A.   26 November 2008: i think alot of guys prefer a little hair. it seems that older guys prefer shaven. god knows why. but you do whatever you feel comfortable with. i say keep it! i've tried shaven before and it just itches alot. cold too. lol maybe just tidy your... (read in full...)

How can you tell when you chest is growing?

Q.   How can you tell when your chest is growing?...

A.   26 November 2008: you can't really tell, i mean it does not happen over night. it's all part of puberty and you wont have fully developed your breasts untill you are in your late teens/early 20's. you may notice small changes, but it is a slow process. dont worr... (read in full...)

I just curse myself for being gay.

Q.   Hey guys and guyesses! Well I've recently told people that I'm gay and I have a boyfriend. I've told 2 really close mates before now but I've "come out" as it were. People are treating me so different! I mean most guy mates are just acting so ...

A.   26 November 2008: hun don't put yourself down about who you are! i think it's fab that you have come out the closet. forget about what other people think! but i think maybe you should just talk to your friends about it and say look this is who i am, who i have alw... (read in full...)

I'm circumsized, will I be able to give a woman pleasure eventhough?

Q.   well im 19 and im still a virgin and im scared if ill give a woman pleasure she desreves.and ive been readin that a circumsized male can give a woman pleasure than alot say that isnt true.so i go a big penis and that wont help even if its big its ...

A.   25 November 2008: don't make a difference at all. both feel the same. ... (read in full...)

I keep hearing my parents having sex and it puts me off! What to do?

Q.   I need some advice, I keep hearing my parents having sex and it's driving me mad, I know it's natural and all that but it is freaking me out. It's actually putting me of sex. And why do they always go to the toilet once they have finished???...

A.   25 November 2008: actually uncle phil prob is a little wrong. sometimes after having an orgasm some girls feel like they need to pee. i sometimes do, so it has nothing to do with " flushing tissue away after wiping a dripping pussy" bloody men, they have no idea... (read in full...)

Will it hurt the first time even he were to be really gentle?

Q.   Would it hurt the first time if he went gentle on me?...

A.   25 November 2008: yes... (read in full...)

How do I know if I'm ready for sex?? And why is he acting like this??

Q.   i am 13 and i have a boy friend who is 13 to. i dont no wat to do we have been going out sence we were ten and havent broke up once our relation ship has been the best thing that has ever happend to me in the world. well my boyfriend asked me one ...

A.   24 November 2008: are you serious? you are both 13 and thinking about sex? my god, what is happening to kids these days!!!! dont have sex, you are far too young for it also i think a serious relationship at your age is a little ott too. you should be having f... (read in full...)

He stripped down to a candy g-string and I burst out laughing. Now he's not talking to me!

Q.   Ok, my boyfriend come home last night stripped down to a candy g-string, I was so shocked I burst out laughing, now he isn't talking to me. What are you suppose to do? HELP !!!!...

A.   24 November 2008: i'm confused..isn't the whole point of candy g-strings to make your partner laugh and make sex fun? he needs to lighten up abit and realise that candy g-strings are not a serious thing, they are fun and you and him should of been able to really l... (read in full...)

A little blood and slight pinching after masturbation...

Q.   Hello! I was just looking for some advice/ information. My boyfriend and I live together and have been dating for sometime. He left for work and school today, its my day off. Anyways I was missing him and was a bit horny so i masturbated, shortly ...

A.   24 November 2008: the best thing you can do is see a doctor or even call a health line. ... (read in full...)

Does anyone have a good cure for getting rid of spots?

Q.   Well does anyone have a good cure for getting rid of spots. I tried alot from freederm to clearisal, its like sometimes my skin its really clear and I barely have any spots. Then like a week later i have loads and just can't get rid of them. ...

A.   24 November 2008: anything by Lush is amazing. i used to work there and there is a face mask called cupcake. it's ideal for teenage skin. it helps with spots. also the old method is to put some toothpaste on the spot over night. my friend still does this if she g... (read in full...)

My BF says if we do it while I'm on my period and he pulls out, I won't get pregnant. Is this true?

Q.   My boyfriend and I always have sex using condoms. But he often tries to put it in without one. He's usually on top of me and starts to rub the tip of his penis on the outside of my vagina, but doesn't put it in without a condom. He has been ...

A.   24 November 2008: your bf needs to go back to school and do sex ed. thats all i am saying. the rest is obvious! use a condom..there are too many STD's around.... (read in full...)

What position should I do for the first time I have sex?

Q.   me and my b0yfriend have been dating fer about month and 3 weeks and i think im ready for sex. We were talking about sex and about doing it last night. We were planing it where and when. His not a virgin but i am so i dont know what position is ...

A.   24 November 2008: well the missionary one is a good one to start with, as hate to tell you this but first time sex hurts. so with him on top and you laying flat means you dont have to do much. also missionary on the side is a good one, as it's very intimate... (read in full...)

Is it wrong for a 13 yr old to date a 19 yr old?

Q.   Is it wrong for a 13yo girl to be dating a 19yo guy that lives over seas? I love him to death, but i want other peoples point of view. No my parents dont know about him-im not supposed to date. I have been with some one that was 14....it didnt work ...

A.   24 November 2008: it's not like you are probably ever going to meet him anyway. you need to realise that he is taking you for a ride and probably just using you to pass his time. sorry to say that, but normally randoms you meet over the net have no intention to be ... (read in full...)

How can I break them up?...

Q.   hi, i have a best friend thats a boy and he has a gf. does anyone know how i can break them up? i dont care if i hurt her feelings because she already has a big ego. he thinks its just she's so happy she's not on a bad path in her life. ive told him ...

A.   24 November 2008: it's not your place to end their relationship. what sort of friend would you be?!? it's up to him if he wants to end it with her and he obviously is ok with being with her. you need to keep your nose out and stop trying to control their relation... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin, we attempted sex but he is too big for me?

Q.   hi im 18 and ima virgin,me and my fiance have tried to have sex,but hes too big for me,i have relaxed as much as i can,but he is still too big for me! what can i do? i really want to have sex with him but its not possible at the moment! any t...

A.   23 November 2008: it's probably not his penis size that is effecting your first time, it;s just the fact that first time sex for a girl is bloody painful and uncomfortable, even if the guy has a small penis it hurts as much. you just need to relax and maybe ask him ... (read in full...)

I told him I want to wait but he carries on asking me. Is he desperate for sex?

Q.   Well av bin with my boyfriend a few months now. He is a virgin and so am I, he is always asking me if I wanna trade v's with him, I mean I do but I want to wait so its special i have already told him this but he carries on asking me. Is he desperat...

A.   23 November 2008: you need to set him straight and tell him that he needs to wait, as you are not ready! don't ever just have sex to please him, because you will regret it, especially if you are not ready for a sexual relationship. if he does not like the fact tha... (read in full...)

Is it illegal to get fellatio from an underage girl?

Q.   my neighbor is 16 yrs old and im 21, and shes really into me and wants to have sex but i told her that i wouldnt cuz of i didnt wanna go to jail... so she said that she would give me a blowjob but idk if thats consider illegal???...

A.   23 November 2008: that would be pretty illegal. anything sexual with a minor is called as sexual assault or even rape. don't do it, a 16 year old girl next door is not worth you loosing your freedom and ending up on the sex offenders list. stick to girls your own ... (read in full...)

After our first date he said he'd text me - should I wait for his call or initiate it myself?

Q.   hi i went out on a date with this guy it was our first date, but i've been left with a confused feeling i don't know how he feels maybe you could help! during the date he kept asking questions getting to know me better, he even said its abou...

A.   23 November 2008: personally i wouldn't text him. guys don't text/call back as quick as us girls. i've never known a guy to text back straight away. i think they think it makes us want them more, but really it;s just a pain in the ass. lol. if you dont hear from him ... (read in full...)

I feel mature and comfortable with sex, but now I want to do a striptease for my bf and I get all nervous and selfconscious, why??

Q.   Hiya!Well,I feel I am a full grown woman,very confortable with sex,masturbation,and getting naked.I like my body,and feel very nice when naked. I have this boyfriend for almost a year,and sex is well...explosive.Just love to do it all the time. I...

A.   23 November 2008: you know what helps, a glass of wine. it will relax you and let you do all the sexy moves. maybe you are nervous because for the whole of the strip all the attention is on you. just relax and have fun with it, after all if it is your boyfriend then ... (read in full...)

It hurts so much when being fingered, what's wrong??

Q.   I've been fingered a few times and each time it hurts and thats only with one finger! Trying two fingers hurt too much and one doesn't even feel good, i can't tell that its in or not. is something wrong?...

A.   23 November 2008: it sounds like you just have not had much experience with being fingered. it could be just that your vagina is not stretched due to being a virgin. so therefore it is tight and a little painful if fingered. have you never touched yourself? it helps ... (read in full...)

It itches and burns,(down there). What is it ?

Q.   kinda personal but need help figureing this out. so for the past week or so my vagina has been very itchy and burns. it has got to where when i go to the bath room it burns and hurts to even wipe. and after sex it burns twice as bad. i was wondering ...

A.   23 November 2008: all you can do it see your doctor and not worry about it. after all the doctor is the best person to ask.... (read in full...)

I'm pressuring myself to have sex with him, how do I stop?

Q.   my boyfriend wants to have sex or at least do sexual stuff. But I'm not ready. He said he will wait and not pressure me to do anything, but I'm pressuring myself for him. I just don't know what to do. I do want sex but not right now....

A.   23 November 2008: it's simple. just dont do it you are obviously not ready for sex and if he does not back off you need to just say i dont want to do it. if he does not like that, then tough on his part. dont do it to please him. if you feel like you are pressuri... (read in full...)

I said the only reason I danced with her was because I felt sorry for her... how do I fix this?

Q.   My friends and me went to a fancy school dance. One of my girl best friend (I think she likes me) she looked a disco ball. She ask me to dance (I did and she was awful). Long story short I talking to my friend and I said. Friend: So you...

A.   23 November 2008: you need to stop being such an immature little dick. sorry that is harsh but she is suppose to be your friend and yet you are treating her like rubbish. i dont think you even deserve her friendship after you created a false impression and then ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to want to be pregnant at 15?

Q.   Is it normal to want to be pregnant at 15?...

A.   23 November 2008: no!! are you crazy? sorry that seems harsh. but my friend has a baby boy and she is 23 and find it really hard. loves him, but it;s still hard going. you have to give up so much. plus at 15 i think school is more important. you have years ahead of... (read in full...)

Is it wrong for a 13 yr old to date a 19 yr old?

Q.   Is it wrong for a 13yo girl to be dating a 19yo guy that lives over seas? I love him to death, but i want other peoples point of view. No my parents dont know about him-im not supposed to date. I have been with some one that was 14....it didnt work ...

A.   23 November 2008: when you say over the internet do you mean like you met them in a chat room? if so they could be anyone. you need to be careful about internet dating. especially at your age, there are so many nasty people out there.... (read in full...)

Is it wrong for a 13 yr old to date a 19 yr old?

Q.   Is it wrong for a 13yo girl to be dating a 19yo guy that lives over seas? I love him to death, but i want other peoples point of view. No my parents dont know about him-im not supposed to date. I have been with some one that was 14....it didnt work ...

A.   23 November 2008: i'm sorry but why would a 19 year old guy want to hook up with a 13 year old girl, who is still a child in way? you may say you are all grown up, but at 13 believe me you aren't. seriously hun forget about the older guy and find someone your own... (read in full...)

Are there any good websites for sexy positions that aren't completely trashy?

Q.   I was wondering if anyone could suggest a good website that teaches different sex positions. I want to read something sort of informational, and all I keep finding is kind of nasty websites. Thanks for the information!...

A.   22 November 2008: the only thing with alot of the posistions in sexinfo101 is that you have to be physically fit to pull some of them off. but if you are adventurous then go for it and have some sexy fun... (read in full...)

Male/Female Masturbation: Double Standards

Q.   This isn't really a question, but a comment that I'm interested in seeing people's thoughts on. This is about male/female masturbation. My girlfriend woke up in the middle of the night and couldn't sleep. She tried to wake me up but apparent...

A.   22 November 2008: my ex bf used to jerk off all the time when i was with him. i think he kinda liked doing it when i was there or asleep. must of turned him on. it never bothered me, sure i liked giving him handjobs more then watching him do it himself, but sometimes ... (read in full...)

Unprotected sex at the end of her period. Could I have caught something from doing this?

Q.   Hi, something troubles me. Earlier this week me and the girl I recently started dating had sex. We'd used a condom the first few times we had sex, but we've been together for a month now, and so have recently started doing it without protecti...

A.   22 November 2008: if she did have an STD then you would catch something whether she was on her period or not. just simply use a condom as the pill is not 100% safe. my friend was on the pill, took it the same time every day and still ended up pregnant all because ... (read in full...)

Sex sex sex... yet he still jerks off and sends nude pictures???

Q.   Something is wrong with this picture, we have sex every night and some mornings, on weekends sometimes 2-3 times a day, yet he jacks off to porn daily and he has just sent a girl he doesn't know nude pics and videos of him jerking it. ...

A.   22 November 2008: also if he is sending nude photos to younger girls this is against the law. so make sure he is being careful with who he is sending these pics too. he obviously has a little sex obsession and may need to get some help for that, just to calm dow... (read in full...)

I want to be in love with him so that sex won't be for the wrong reason.

Q.   I'm 15, it's been 3 months with the boyfriend and we have had sex once and I know we're going to do it again. I know I have strong feelings for him, I tell myself I'm in love but how do I truly know? Because if I didn't love him I wouldn't have sex ...

A.   22 November 2008: no1 can really tell you if you are in love or not. it;s only you who can tell. sometimes we confuse love with lust. also you are very young, so it probably is not love right now as 3 months is not a long time to be completely in love with someone. ... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and cannot relax for my first time ! I don't know what to do..=(

Q.   well..hum me and my boyfriend actually didn't have sex..The thing is that i cannot relax and i contract...=/ I don't know what to do..=(...

A.   22 November 2008: you are way too young for sex! and the fact that your body is not letting you have sex just shows that you are not ready for sex!!!!! if you were you would be relaxed and ready. don't just have sex because your bf wants to. do it when u r ready, w... (read in full...)

It itches and burns,(down there). What is it ?

Q.   kinda personal but need help figureing this out. so for the past week or so my vagina has been very itchy and burns. it has got to where when i go to the bath room it burns and hurts to even wipe. and after sex it burns twice as bad. i was wondering ...

A.   22 November 2008: could be thrush or some urine infection. the only thing you can do is go and see your doctor. ... (read in full...)

Are there any good websites for sexy positions that aren't completely trashy?

Q.   I was wondering if anyone could suggest a good website that teaches different sex positions. I want to read something sort of informational, and all I keep finding is kind of nasty websites. Thanks for the information!...

A.   20 November 2008: check out www.sexinfo101.com... (read in full...)

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